Question Posted Thursday February 17 2005, 4:02 pm
My best friend in the world asked me to our Junior Prom. I have a HUGE secret crush on him too so I'm really happy he asked me. I have no idea if he likes more than a friend or not, but I guess that's beside the point. Anyway, We've been best friends for abbout 6 months now. He asked this other girl about 2 months ago who he liked and at the time they were kind of "together." She said yes but then about 2 weeks later they broke it off and she got another bf and then she nvm about going to Prom with him.. Then about a month later he asked me.. I dont know I guess I feel like his "back up" or his "second choice" because the first girl who he liked said no... i told him how i felt and he said that it's not even like that.. He said that ofcourse his first choice would be like his gf or a girl that he's "intimite" with. He said that if that didn't work out he'd only want to take his best friend, which is me.. What do u think.. I guess I feel like this only because i really like him.. If i didn't like him more than a friend then I probably wouldn't feel this way.. What do you guys think? (please don't say that I should tell him how i feel because I would never. In his eyes, we are like brother and sister.) Thanks!
Additional info, added Thursday February 17 2005, 4:04 pm: (please don't say that I shoult tell him that I like him more than a friend because i never would. in his eyes we are like brother and sister ) **. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? mizzthang91 answered Thursday February 17 2005, 11:35 pm: hmm okay well this guy obvioulsy loves you...as a friend.. and trsut me he definatly doesnt think of u as his "back-up"...he obviouslt enjoys your company otherwise he wouldnt have asked you to go... all i can say is take your time and see how things work out.. u nvr kno maybe soon you guys will be more than just friends!!! good luck!
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kittyluvr1826 answered Thursday February 17 2005, 8:06 pm: I would go to this prom with him, and see how he acts there. If it seems like he really likes you as more than a friend, he will probably seem a little different. the prom is a pretty romantic place! I would act a little more affectionate towards him, but not so much that you seem desperate. Just be sweet. And, make sure you look really cute for the dance. Guys allways like good looking girls the best... But if he doesn't seem to like your "extra affection" at the prom, then he probably isn't really into you!! sorry! Well i hope this helped you!! LYL ~ lexi [ kittyluvr1826's advice column | Ask kittyluvr1826 A Question ]
Hellheart answered Thursday February 17 2005, 5:29 pm: *nods* Hmmm...well, here's my thinking. Suppose, for a minute, that he had no girlfriend when he started thinking of who to ask for prom. Unless there's something that I don't know changing things, he would have undoubtedly asked you.
Therefore, he's speaking the truth when he said that she took precedence since she was his girlfriend. There's simply no choice when you have a girlfriend, and he might have actually preferred to go with you, but you won't know that because you won't ask ;x
Just go with him, enjoy yourself, and know that you two are so close at that moment in time. It's your first Prom, you should have a wonderful time, and maybe his being your date may even make it kinda magical ;) [ Hellheart's advice column | Ask Hellheart A Question ]
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