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[14/f]
I like one of my friends [who is a qirl by the way] as more than just friends. She knows I'm bi, and we joke all the time about hooking up. She also said that after she gets her first boyfriend that she'll go out with me because she hasn't figured out if she's straight or not. Should I wait for her to make up her mind while she's totally crushing on one of her guy friends, or should I get over her and find someone new? Help please! xox (link)
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You can go find someone else for the time being -- And after she dates this boy, go for it with her...you dont have to just drop her -- Just dont miss out on anything while waiting
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[13/f] everyone at my school sees me as a shy person who always follows the rules and everything and thats not at all how i am! i got detention today and this kid saw me in the office [iv'e had detentions before, but i dont brag about it to look "cool" like all the other kids] and he was like "whoa! YOUR in DETENTION??" I feel like everyone knows me for someone i'm not and it's really starting to bug me. i'm not at all how anyone sees me, not even my own friends.. does anyone know how to like idk, show everyone "who i really am"? i know that sounds gay but i don't know how else to say it (link)
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Dont hide yourself -- Dont hold back, speak your mind when you have something to say -- Be the real you, and do what you feel, theyll eventually see you
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i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared (link)
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Talk to your mom, or someone at skool..they can help you alot, you need to get it out there -- You dont deserve to be treated that way, nobody does -- If you let it go too far things can get alot worse, and itll be even harder to get away from him
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Okay me and this guy have been "together" for about 8 months now...well were not technically going out but were kinda friends with benefits i guess...he said that he wants to not have a commitment bc he is going through alot right now but he doesn't want either of us to hook up with anybody else...just eachother...so should i take that as were going out or as were just friends with benefits? and also should i say we can hook up with other people or no? thanx ill rate a 5 to nebody who answers (link)
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Take it as he likes you, but he doesnt wanna jump into anything right now -- Being loyal to one person and only doing stuff with them is kinda "if-y" when your not going out...it all depends if YOU wanna do stuff with other people, not if you "should" -- Think about it ask yourself, "What do i really want?" and when you figure it out -- Talk to him about it, im sure you guys can figure something out
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I'm 14 and I've never made out with a guy, but I think something might happen with this kid this weekend. I don't really know what I'm doing so does anyone have advice? Is it weird that I've never made out with anyone? (link)
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Its not weird that you havent made-out with anyone everyone goes at thier own speed some are faster than others:
a kiss is only cool if you want to pucker up. Never feel obliged to kiss a boy whatever the circumstances. When you force yourself, you’re inviting all kinds of kissing disasters into play.
Try not to be too nervous kissing is natural. When you’re ready to kiss for the first time, you’ll be amazed how your instincts take over.
When you’re ready to kiss, lean your head towards his ‘til you’re about a centimetre apart. Tilt your head (so you don’t squish noses) and pout your lips like you would for a normal peck, parting them slightly as you press against his lips.
Purse and release your lips, without breaking contact with his, occasionally shifting position so it doesn’t get boring. The first time you kiss him keep it short less than a minute. Slow down the motion of your lips and finish with a light peck.
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Everyone is always saying "I hate tanlines" blah blah blah. Is it wierd that I actually like them? Like if you wear a tube top after wearing a bathing suit that ties around your neck, or if you had cris cross straps on your back. I think its kind of like a sign that you tan. idk, I think its kind of cool...is that wierd? I don't like tanning lines after you wear shorts, or a farmers tan... (link)
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Its not weird that you liek tanlines, they actually look really good on some people believe it or not lol...if you like it do it -- Dont let other people run your life
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so at my school if you dont live in greystone {The rich part} or wear abercrombi (which i think is pointless to pay 80 bucks for prefaded and pre riped jeans)any way if you arent privledged then ure pretty much the scum of the earth.All the punks have spiked or really long hair and wear black shirts and riped jeans. all the preps wear collerd shirts and north face jakets. any way they label the rich kids preps and the middle class to lower class punks. So punks hang out with punks and preps with preps but, this prep likes me and i like her and every one knows so we are both hated by our own soacial clases. so what should we do
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Ok well it could go two ways, they could see that both types can clash...or they can be bitches and say shit and talk nasty, either way if you both like each other and your happy go for it, shove it in thier faces...its just gunna piss them off that you dont care what the think, and eventually theyll let it go because its pointless to try anymore
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Okay, so i went out with this guy a i really really like him and stuff but when we went out we never saw eachother (diff schools) he acted like he didn't really wanna talk to me, we didnt talk on the phone or anything, and yeah it was weird so i dumped him. We have been friends for a while and when we arent going out we go to movies and stuff n talk on the phone all the time and yeah. I really like him, but i dont want to go out with him unless things can change...but i dont really know what to do. hes always like "i wish you would go out with me" and that he really likes me and stuff. But now hes mad about it and he told me he might just go out with this other girl because it doesn't matter and i was like crying (it was over the internet) because i still really like him! and i guess it seemed like he was trying to make me mad by saying stuff about the other girl or whatever but yeah i dont know what to do..should i go out with him again? or just forget him? or what?? (link)
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My boyfriend was the same way with me...bit he lived in the next couple towns over and i never saw him -- You should tell him you want this to change, that you want him to treat you like his g.f when your his g.f -- Tell him straight up you dont wanan get urt but your feelings are stronge for him, He probably only said things about that other girl so you would get jealous and take him back right away...Talk to him -- See how he feels i bet he still likes you
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ok my mom's b/f's son (lets call him chip) hooked me and his friend (call him dip) up but now chip found out that me and dip want 2 makeout friday and hes telling a bunch of ppl so now dip isnt sure if he wants 2 go out b/c also chip's dad threatned to kill dip if he tried 2 do anything with me.. i like dip and dip likes me should i try 2 end our relationship or try to talk chip into not beliving we are gonna makeout soon? (link)
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If you like the kid, tell "Chip" your not gunna makeout with "Dip", no harm done...dont end it over a kiss, just keep everything on the low from now on and youll be ok
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HELP!im 14/f..here it goes..in like october i started kinda fooling around with an eating disorder but didnt really realize i was. since then ive collapsed twice..im really getting scard somethings really wrong with me bc of this! my sister knows & she thinks i told my mom and that im all good now. i feel guilty that im basicly lying to my sister when she asks me how its going and im scard ive done some kinda permanent damage to my body! i really dont want to be known as that girl with an eating disorder but its hard not to be! (link)
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Go to this site it will help you
Talk to your mom about seeing a doctor for eating habbits, eat small things not big! let your body get used to food
http://www.something-fishy.org/default.php
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Im not yet either but Im scareed I will become. Earlier this night i tried to make myself throw up. Im 14 5'1 and wiegh about 103. Most people think Im crazy because I think Im fatter than most people, but I do. How can I overcome this feeling, and actions. I know that if i become either it will be very hard to stop. please! I need help very bad! Im not afraid to admit it. so please if you read this, answer my question! please!
♥ scared (link)
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Its a hard things to cope with....i foudn a website when i was anorexic and went to it...it helped me learn alot about EVERYTHING i hope it helps you :
http://www.something-fishy.org/default.php
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Sometimes I don't know who I am anymore. For the most part ive become a really sophisticated, goody good with really STRONG morals. I always do homework and go to church. I never -- cheat, steal, drink, cuss, smoke, do drugs, ditch school, party, sneak out, have sex, listen to rap, etc. But sometimes i get sick of being like that. Sometimes i just want to bust out my old dirty, rap collection and live life a little. But then later the goody/serious side of me DESPISES rap because its so degrading and disgusting. The thing is.. it's not about rap music. (That was just an example of how im like two different people within hours or days.) I really dont think i have a split personality or anything to that extreme. I just dont know who I am anymore. One part of me wants to stay moral, and the other part of me wants to break free and live. How do I find out who i truely am when both of these WAY DIFFERENT personalities keep showing? (link)
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Try breaking out the old one -- Maybe your meant to stay clean and be good its a better life style to live...if its worked for you this long maybe its supposed to be this way, talk to someone about it -- Itll help to get it off your chest
You could always go ut one night and try the "different" more edgy you and see if you like it, but if you do like it then you might get hooked but everything happenes for a reason -- follow how you feel
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i have just broken up with my boyfriend who i had been going out with for 8 months. it was the first time i loved someone, he came over nearly everyday. we broke up because he was taking me for granted and always ditching me and saying nasty things to me.. and then sometimes he was awesome. we have broken up and got back together in the past and but i dont want that to happen again. i miss him so so so much and i do still like him but i cant take any more abuse. wats the best way to get over someone.. im trying sooo hard not to call him please help! (link)
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ng time consuming something YOU like -- Its gunna take time, but think of how he hurt you, you dont want that again its not fair...hang with the girls -- Let them know whats goign on theyll help you through it
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so me and this guy i really like decided to be friends. he said i was the coolest person ever and it made his day talkin to me but lately he will IM me and talk but hes weird like is like g2g bye. he stopped callin me like he did before and doesnt text me should I tellh im how im feeling or what? i rate high (link)
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Of course -- Tell him your worried your friendship is going down the drain -- Tell him you miss the way you guys used to talk....Maybe hes caught up with some stuff let him know how you feel
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alrigty then im hearing all these stories at school {not that i belive them} about how every one is having sex i personally dont belive it. god says not to have premarital relations plus you should want to wait until u are married to have sex. anyway every one talks about how all the popular kids are doing it im almost 15 i personallyam appaled and am wonering where all the desensy went in the world some one tell me. (link)
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Most kids arent too into religion anymore -- Drugs take over thier life early -- Sex sells its all over t.v. its mostley everybwhere you turn...Some kids want to do it, some kids do it to fit in so they wont be left out...it happenes you cant really stop it you just have to hope there doing it the right way...its life...humans
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ok, well there's this friend that i have, and her name is . i dont know what to do becuz she always lies to me. she always lies to me. when she says that she is coming over my house, she doesnt, she always goes to some other guys house. the last time she did this, she was missing for a day. i was really worried and so was her mom. i felt guilty, because what if something happened?? she was sposed to come to my house right?i just dont really know what to think. the last time she didnt show up, she was missing for 2 1/2 days, she doesnt even call me to tell me she's ok or even her mom. i know that i should just forget about her becuase she's using me to go to guys houses(her mom wont let her go to guys houses)and then i end up feeling bad, but the thing is she always tells me that she was sad and her da was drunk and hit her or something, she makes me feel bad for her and then i just cant stay mad. to add to all this, her boyfriend is thinkin of breakin up with her becuz he wants to go out with me. i just dont know what to think, if you cant help, thats ok i know it doesnt seem like much, but it is to me. by the way im a 14/f.....help pleez if u can!!!!!!! (link)
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You need to tell her straight out that its not only hurting you its hurting her, tell her she needs to talk to her mom and if she doesnt then youll tell her -- Yea she might "HATE" you but in the end shell thank you..she could get raped out there! or worse..tell someone she deff. needs help if her dads hitting her ad she runs away..she needs to see someone to talk to
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I'm pretty sure that I have at least borderline obsessive-compulsive disorder, but where symptoms are listed, the requirements are kind of vague. If anyone who knows more about it could give me a hint as to my own state(severity, etc.), I'd appreciate it. I'll list some symptoms. Note that this if going to be rather long, even though I've cut out a lot of detail and examples.
Hand washing - I'm... fairly obsessed... with dirty-ness... if I touch something that I think might be dirty, then I wash my hands before touching anything clean and/or at the first opportunity. A year or so ago I counted myself as washing my hands ninety times in one day, and I'm sure that it's gotten significantly worse since then.
Arrangement - I like to arrange things that I'm looking at neatly. For example, yesterday I had six bittorrent windows open, and I arranged them in a perfect grid; the top left one's top left corner was exactly on the top left corner of the screen, and all the others were exactly aligned with it(no overlap or space whatsoever between edges, corners touching).
Counting - I'll count repetitive noises. Not all of them (not keystrokes, walking footsteps, etc.), but I'll always count stairs-steps and some other noises.
Perfectionism - but only in things I care about. Not really significant, but I've been known to spend hours on a minor detail of a bad drawing.
Paranoia - I worry that people may be watching me, and about hidden cameras and suchlike. I keep all my sensitive(for example, pirated) files in triple-encrypted archives with very long passwords and worry that the government might have a quantum computer, with which such a password could easily be broken.
Random **** - sometimes I'll feel compelled to do something, for example tapping my fingers in a pattern or sequence until I get it exactly right. A minute before I started writing this I selected some icons in an order. Then I worked out on paper how to work the sequence exactly backwards and did so because I needed to balance the select-ing to put my mind to rest. (link)
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I foudn this site...its about OCD and a person going throught it...it shows about OCD also you should take a look at it it might help alot..
http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/ocd/doubt/ocd.html
Hope it helps you :)
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alright. for about two years i have been cutting myself. and at first it was very innocent (little scratches with saftey pins... butter knifes, things like that) then one day i ginaed access to a really sharp razor blade and cut extremely deep. and for a year and a half thats how i have been doing it, because it is so addictive. more than once a day, and so i can go to sleep at night. most of my friends found out, one way or another and eventually my best friend got me to tell the guidance counselor. my dad now knows, and so does my psychiatrist (whom i have been seeing since I was 8 and my mom died). but i know he doesnt want me doing it, and niether do my friends. so latelyt i havent. but things got worse. im always pissed off at everyone, and lash out. also, i have been thinking about suicide more and more. i always considered it before but never like this. but when i talk to my friends, all the do is beg and pleed with me to stop. I CANT. when i was on the bus, i started tasting blood in my mouth, and noticed I had been bitting a chunk of my lip off as a pain reliever involuntarily. last night, I cut again and felt SOOO much better. but im so afraid someone will find out and be angry. im on medicine, and everything, it just sux. snapping rubberbands, and all that doesnt help. I know this is long, but im so upset with myself, I just dont know.
I rate 5s.
Manda. (link)
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Its hard coping with deaths, my grandfather died and thats what got me cutting...i do it very deep now you have to realize there are alot of people out there that feel that way you do, if youre having thoughts about death you need to tell someone SERIOUSLEY i almost jumped off my roof this summer...and here i am in therapy and im doing better and im so glad to be alive. Its hard to stop for people, you have to wanna stop for you not for other people other wise it wont work. You need to feel shity in order to get better believe me. And your blaming yourself which isnt fair because you jsut cant help it, talk to the person your seeing, this is serious! But i promise if you hang in there and give it your all youll get better!
If you need anymore advice im me on AIM PLEASE! your not alone
AIM: LilPeppa18
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my boyfriend is having surgery next week on his knee. he says its no big deal and that hes glad hes having it. im really sad but happy for him at the same time... what if something goes wrong? im scared though is this normal i just dont want anything to happen to him and i hope it doesnt he wont be at school for a week because he will be on cruthes and i dont kno if i will be able to talk to him on the phone much. how do i deal with this. thanks for any advice! (link)
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You can go to his house and see him
He'll be fine, My friends grandfather had sugery on his knee and he came out fine and hes old (a young persons body heals faster then an old person)
Dont stress about it, he needs the faith hes gunna come out all right and you can give that to him
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ok i like this guy at school. he is in my gym class and i always look at him like he is the man of my dreams. he's nice funny cute sweet.anyway i can't seem to get his attention. i see him look at me when i'm looking at himbut i immeditley turn away. i'm shy around him but loud around his best freind. i don't even have the guts to call him. his name is matt and if you know who he is please help me out.when i was in 2nd grade i liked him and i still do now. he invited me over to his house three times in 2nd grade and i even saw a picture of him when he was a baby and when he was naked!
i guess my question is can u please help me to ask him to a dance at the end of the year which is on june 7th. if you know me please don't tell matt that i like him ok
signed please help me!!!!!!!!! (link)
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If he has an AIM name you should ask him, Get one of his firends to mention it to him...like you said you laughw th his best friend so have him mention you are cute and he should ask you to the dance -- Or you can work your way in and start talking to him! No harm done..your a girl have fun with it..youll regret it if you dont -- Theres a first time for everything
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