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Okay me and this guy have been "together" for about 8 months now...well were not technically going out but were kinda friends with benefits i guess...he said that he wants to not have a commitment bc he is going through alot right now but he doesn't want either of us to hook up with anybody else...just eachother...so should i take that as were going out or as were just friends with benefits? and also should i say we can hook up with other people or no? thanx ill rate a 5 to nebody who answers
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i think you should talk to him, but i think it depends on how "hooked up" you are. if its kinda serious then i think you should take it as really goin out. maybe u shouldnt see other ppl yet.
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i think that your just friends with benefits. he probably does like you but he just needs some time if he is going through alot. Maybe you should wait until he feels alot better and gets his emotions together.
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You could take this as you two are going out but he is probably just telling you that he isn't ready to be committed and that he wants you to stay with him until he is and that's basically what you told us. If you two are "together" but you aren't going out, then consider that as you teo are just friends with benefits but that will change, once this guy is ready to be committed. If he told you that both of you aren't going to hook up with other people, then it's true and you don't need to say that you should.
-Karen
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go ahead and consider yourself as boyfriend and girlfriend. thats what two people that are "together" without hooking up with anyone else are. he probibly just has some aversion to the terminology. its just like people who wont say "i love you" even though they do, they think its something really special and it will take time for him. so, in your own head, yes you are boyfriend and girlfriend. just dont use those words because it makes him feel uncomfortable. hope i helped, just sounded like you needed a guys opinion.
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Well in a way i would say that you are going out and if you really like him i would just wait till he's ready to hook up. But if you do wanna hook up with other ppl then tell or ask him if it's ok.
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Take it as he likes you, but he doesnt wanna jump into anything right now -- Being loyal to one person and only doing stuff with them is kinda "if-y" when your not going out...it all depends if YOU wanna do stuff with other people, not if you "should" -- Think about it ask yourself, "What do i really want?" and when you figure it out -- Talk to him about it, im sure you guys can figure something out
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