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Re-doing it soon..

Sorry everyone for falling off the face of the earth.

I was living in Vegas for a while, without a computer.

But i am back now and i hope to be helping people soon.

advice

Is it okay to date several guys at once. i am 14 and i dont want to be serious with just ONE guy...i just like to hang out with them all!!!

If you dont want to be tied down and you want to just look around for guys thats fine. But if you are DATING a guy as in "going out" with them, then that is considered cheating and you will be VERY wrong for that. If you want to go on dates with different guys. And just dates.. (no kissing, sex, etc...) then thats fine. Just dont cheat. You wouldnt want that to happen to you. Good luck.

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I'm making sponge cake this afternoon and I ran out of baking powder!!! Will baking soda substitute?! And will rum extract substitute for vanilla extract?

If you are up for expierimenting i would say yes... but if you are making it as a gift or for a party, etc.. then i wouldnt do it. They both are very differentm total opposties actually (or so i've heard). So if you want to try it go ahead, but i wouldnt recommend it. Good luck.

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The other day I did about 25 situps and now my stomach in the abdomen area is sore. Is this normal??

Thanks ahead of time.

Yep, its actually good. It means those muscles are getting worked & tightened. You should get a 6-pack in no time!! Hehe.

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Hey.
I was wondering..
i wear thongs with skirts. lIke sorta short skirts. lIke jean ones from abercrombie. Do you think thats slutty? If it is ill just wear like boy shorts. Because I dont want to be a slut or give off the wrong message. Any opinions? Thanks!

I wouldnt wear a thong, just because its a shorter skirt. It would be horribly imbaressing if your skirt was lifted for some reason just to reveal your behind. If your skirt will show underwear lines & it really bugs you then i would say okay but otherwise id just stick with boy shorts. Just a personal opinion though! Good luck.

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what are some ways to foreplay with you guy other than hand jobs or blow jobs

Kissing, licking and nibbling are very good foreplay activities. Guys love when a girl plays rough. Also, let him do stuff to you, that turns guys on just as much. I suggest laying him on his back & holding his arms above his own head so he cant move them, and just kiss him on his neck with a little nibbling... he will LOVE it!
Good luck, have fun & use protection.

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I have this gown (for my bat mitzvah) and it is salmon pink and very see through. I can't wear regualr underwear because it shows through. I could wear no underwear because its pretty long. I could wear a thong, but of course i have to buy one. Which option should I go for?

A thong, because you never know when the dress could rip or do something to reveal your lower half. If you really dont want to wear full underwear then a thong is the next best thing. I would rather be half-covered than not covered at all.

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MY under arm hair is a pain. I keep shaving it but it comes back with in one day.how do i get it to stay a longer.(I am Allergic to nair). What do i do. it is so embarrassing.

HELP PLz.

~shannen*

It seems that underarm hair grows back quicker than hair in other places. Ask anyone... maybe because girls are more sensitive about people seeing their underarm hair. Your best bet is to just shave it everyday if it needs to be done. You can try to get it waxed if you want but it would probably be easier to just shave 'em everyday when you shower. If you want; expieriment with all different kinds of razors. Everyone prefers a different kind.. so see what works best for you. Good luck.

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I've told 3 guys that i would have sex with them sometime in high shcool, and i feel like kind of a whore. I know that a lot of people have sex and everything but i feel like it would kind of be a slutty thing to do. What do you think?

If you dont like these guys, you just told them that then yes, it is a bit slutty. Why would you want to lose your virginity, or just have plain sex with a guy just because? I dont know about you but where i came from i learned that sex was supposed to wait until you find that special person that you are in love with. What i think about the whole situation is that you should let the guys know that you really dont want to do it. That you were just kidding. Do you really want to chance getting pregnant or getting an STD just because you promised someone something stupid?... None of us can change your mind... but think about it.

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ok sorry...weird question...but if you have sex while youre on ur period, like the last few days or w/e...what are the chances that you'll get pregnant? sorry if thats kinda weird/gross

The chances are the same as anytime you have sex. Every girl ovulates (which is when you would be able to get pregnant) at a different time of the month. Some girls ovulate during their period and some dont. Your period has nothing to do with an egg being fertilaized. If you have your period you are obviously NOT pregnant but if you have your period it doesnt mean you CANT get pregnant.


Have you ever tried www.coolnurse.com or www.gurl.com ? They both have a lot of information on sexual education. Take a look.

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What's the best kinds of women's deordorant that smells good? And don't say Lady Speed Stick, because I hateee that. Thanks.

Just regular Dove. Thats ALL i use. =)

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okay .. so i feel of my scooter when i was in like the 5th grade and i have a scar from that. and i cracked my head open when i was like in kindergarden. and i've just gotten another scar on my head, and other knee. so i need help getting them off. does coco butter work? is there anything that YOU have used and it works. my doctor said i could go into plastics to get the ones off my head.. but im more worried about my leggs. some one please help me!

Cocoa butter will help them fade a little but that mostly helps acne scars or just little scratches. If you are talking HUGE scars like thick & deep, then nothing will really fade them, you just have to let time do its job. Try cocoa butter... but i cant make any promises. Good luck.

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I was just wondering if any has any suggestions for a really good foundation - preferably something with full-coverage and with a flawless look?

I suggest that you use powder foundation. Everyone has a different opinion so yours may not be the same as mine. But i find that liquid foundation makes the face appear very blotchy and uneven. If you use liquid, i would use powder on top of it just for the simple fact of it looking a little discolored. Find someone who sells AVON. If you have never heard of it, its just like Mary Kay. They sell liquid & powder, and have many different kinds & colors. ((i.e. oil control, acne control, uneven skin tone, etc, etc...))

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I'm starting out as a freshman in high school. I have no idea what eyeliner color is great on caramel tan skin or what brand name I should get for any eye liner thats noticable.. but not too visable. Just right for nice face but not over done. any ideas?

You could use a tan eyeliner, one a little darker than your skin. That way its not too noticable but can still bring out the shape of your eyes. If not, then use a dark brown or black... but apply it VERY lightly. That way it will bring out your eyes even more, and you will be happy that it isnt such a drastic change. You can use AVON eyeliner. If you know anyone that sells that. If not then really any brand name would be good. I would just recommend that you use waterproof. Especially in the winter, because you will get snow & stuff in your face.
Good luck!!
Congrats on your first year in high school.

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whats your favorite song??

this question is so we can all learn new and different songs just for the fun of it.

My new favorite one is Helena by My Chemical Romance. =)




long ago
just like the hearse you die to get in again
we are so far from you
burning on just like the match you strike to incinerate
the lives of everyone you know
and what's the worst you take
from every heart you break
and like the blade you stain
well i've been holding on tonight

what's the worst that i can say?
things are better if i stay
so long and goodnight
so long and goodnight

came a time when every star falls
brought you to tears again
we are the very hurt you sold
and what's the worst you take
from every heart you break
and like the blade you stain
well i've been holding on tonight

whats the worst that i can say
things are better if i stay
so long and goodnight
so long and goodnight
and if you carry on this way
things are better if i stay
so long and goodnight
so long and goodnight

can you hear me?
are you near me?
can we pretend to leave and then
we'll meet again when both our cars collide

what's the worst that i can
things are better if i stay
so long and goodnight
so long and goodnight
and if you carry on this way
things are better if i stay
so long and goodnight
so long and goodnight

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Okay well im going to be 16 in sept. and on the 9th im having a party ( i wanna big party with alotta ppl there all jus having fun) I told bunches of my friends and i kno most of them are coming- im juss scared like no one is gonna show up! That and my mom wants to do games.. how gay i keep telling her no but she says the DJ has to get a break and i said NO GAMES.. b/c m friends are like all 9th-12th .. they aint gonna wanna do games.. so how can i stop being nervous about the party- and what to do about my mom... should i do while the DJ takes a break PLZ help! i Rate High!

I did the games thing with my twin on our sweet 16. It was fun. Like you, my mom suggested it and we were like oh my goodness mom your so lame, but it ended up being REALLY fun. We just did stupid stuff like truth or dare spin the bottle. Where not only did you need to kiss the person, you had to either ask them a question or dare them to do something. We even got a game of limbo going. But if you and your friends are "too cool" to do that kind of stuff... then when your DJ takes a break- do cake, food & presents then. That way as soon as he comes back you dont have to stop dancing & stuff to eat & sing happy birthday and stuff. Have fun, and happy birthday.

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There is a long story behind this, but basically I had drunken sex that I didnt want to happen so it could be called rape, but its a whole messy story.

But anyway, onto my question. I was on the last day of my period. My period had stopped earlier on in the day. I don't even know whether the boy wrapped it up or not, and just the THOUGHT of him makes me want to vomit, so I'm not asking him. I wasnt on any birth control because I use the ring - and you take that out for the week you're on your period. I've been vomitting and feeling sick to stomach all the time since then (which was Friday night) and I can't eat. How possible do you guys think it is that I'm pregnant? And should I wait to take a pregnancy test or should I just take one now? 17/F

I know that everyone else covered this really good. But i have some other input. You may have alcohol poisioning, or just be nervous from all of this stuff. There is a possiblity that you are pregnant but it could also just be you overcoming that night. I hope that everything works out though. Good luck.

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16/f. Does anyone have any advice for a girl joining the Navy? When I turn 17, I want to join and just be a DEP until I graduate. What was bootcamp like, etc? Thank you.

My best friend just went into boot camp for the Army and we get calls a lot and tons of letters, he really likes it. But you have to be committed. I know that he doesnt get a lot of sleep and ive heard that the Navy is even worse. I think its awesome that you are willing to fight for our country. I've always wanted to but i have athsma. So my advice is that ive heard its rough and you have to be committed, but in the end it pays off. =)

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i think i am going to go trick or treating with my friends so what is a good group costume idea?? or any good individuals if you feel like it too. funny ones, pretty ones, but not like famous ppl or common things-cheerleaders, opposite sex, devil, cat, angel, fairy, etc

thank you

Be m&m's... have each of your friends be a different color. Thats what my boyfriend & i are doing this year with our younger siblings. =)

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I'm 25 and have lived in my own apartment for three years, but I recently met a girl my age who has a house and a spare bedroom and wants a housemate to help with payments, so I'm going to move in with her. She's really cool and we hang out and have gotten to be friends. Here's my question: a few people (my parents, mostly) have told me that any time you're going to live with someone new you should have a set of ground rules that you both work on and agree to... like, what hours it's okay to play loud music, who's going to do dishes when, stuff like that. I told them the idea is silly because we're friends and she's going to think I'm weird and uptight if I propose something like this. If my music is too loud, she can tell me, you know?

So what do you think... should we just go with whatever for a while, or work out an agreement? What sort of stuff should we put on this list of rules if we do it?

I would say that you could work like that for a while, but friends or not, you will have your disagreements and it may be a bit easier to lay a couple ground rules. Like younggrandma said below me, how do you feel about opposite sex's sleeping over. Yea, its cool now because you guys are friends but what happens if you are tired and you dont want any visitors one night. Just think a lot about it. Think about your irritated moods and what would drive you nuts. Better doing the rule thing early... then too late. =) Have fun.

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hi, i'm 15 yrs old..i have had the same boyfriend for about a year, and we recently started having sex. I dont know how to tell my mom that i need birth control...how can i break this to her?

I dont know your mom but chances are that she isnt going to take this very easily. Especially because your only 15. Maybe just say that you feel like you have an irregular period and if she takes you to the gynocologist, then let the dr. know, but that you dont want your mom to know. See how that goes. But if you can tell your mom & you think she will be cool with it, then just tell her. =) Good luck.

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