Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
I'm nowhere near perfect. I'm a busy girl,so I don't have much time to get on as I used to. I'll hit you up immediately if you inbox me.
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What is the diffrents between pantyliners and pads? (I wouldnt know because I don't where either one but I've seen them and they look exactly alike) (link)
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Pantyliners are thinner than pads. They can be used when one is ending their period or before when they think its going to start. Pads are thicker, better for overnights, typically have nicer wings.
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well im a freshman and i tried out for football and basketball cheerleading but didnt make it.....we arent required to do any tumbling or anything but everyone says u need to know the coach! she is a history teacher and i dont have her so what can i do....u can not understand how much i want this i actually going to dance class that i have been doing for over 10 years HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please i really want to make it!!!!! (link)
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So I'm the captain of my team, so I think this should help.
Smile with teeth, and your eyes. have attitude and dont hold back at all.
hit your motions sharply, not fluidly like dancing. Make sure the right part of you're fist shows with each motion- high v for example, the big part of your thumb and index finger shows, you can see your arms out of the corners of your eyes, placed slightly in front, and keep your elbows locked all the time. Make sure your wrists arent bent, make sure your thumbs arent sticking out, they reach toward your ring fingers. This fist should be tight. Keep these in mind for every motion in the dance and cheer portion. Your arms should hurt because your being so tight but keep them in control. Every motion is slightly in front of you, except for touchdowns and the vertical arm of right L's and collegiants, which are by your ears. Dont tilt your head while doing the motions, and keep your legs shoulder width apart. Yell loud and clear, by annunciating, your consonants must stand out so people can understand you. Try to sound like everyone else- if everybodys voice goes up or down on a particular word, follow that. Never stop or freeze up, recover fast if you mess up. Practice ridiculously hard in front of a mirror until you get everything. Strech to be real flexible if u arent already, go to some of your schools games, and dont give up. Skill ultimately gets people in, not connections.
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I've never understood the whole emo cutting wrists thing at ALL. But when I think about it, I get sick and almost throw up. LIke right now. So don't think I'm trying to learn how. I just don't understand how and why. Do they do long cut marks or what? No idea.. please inform me. (link)
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I totally relate to your confusion! A former cutter friend of mine told me;
They cut so that the physical pain can outweigh the emotional pain they feel, and that emotional pain will bleed out.
Attention
Various mental illness
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Hello. My name is Bobby, I`m 32 and from London. I no longer want to live. I am not in an irrational state of mind and niether do I suffer from a debilitating mental illness. I obviously have issues but I have a fire in my heart and I strongly believe death is the only solution for me in order to exorcise this pain. Yes I am sad and lonely and have no friends and have debts and have little money and no prospects but I do not want anything anymore. Death has become a beautiful dream for me and all I want from the almighty is death. If people in physical pain are sometimes allowed to die (euthanasia) then why can someone in extreme emotional pain not be allowed to do the same. My pain is too great and too deep to be simply diagnosed and treated via therapy or drugs or a combination of the 2. My pain has paralysed me emotionally and has left me a pathetic and useless wreck. I must have the same rights to die as someone in physical pain. I don`t want attention and niether do I want to be celebrated (I`m a nobody after all) so this is not a plea for help or some pathetic attention seeking rant. I genuinely want to die. If society can accept the self-death of someone in physical pain then why can it not accept the death of someone in emotional pain. Who`s to say my pain is not equal or greater than that someone? (link)
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If a person has ever smiled, been smiled at or laughed their life is worth living, so death isnt an acceptable path to end pain. I even believes it increases the pain, because of what happens next. If one thinks their life on earth is hell, hell must be wayy worse. God gave you life and it's His to take, not yours, so I believe euthanasia is completely wrong. Please at least TRY to consider medication or therapy. After all, you claim to be a nobody *which you are not* so how would you know? Somebody loves you, and when you find happiness, which I pray you will, you'll be thankful your alive, because so many people wish others were. You are a lucky man. Find something to believe in, and you can always talk to me. God has you here for a reason, you have a purpose, so focus on doing things that make you happy and don't worry about letting anybody down. Write your feelings down, cry, eat, sing, read, exersize ANYTHING that takes your mind away from the momentary pain of living, because all earthly pain is temporary. Be thankful for any good thing that happens and everything you're capable of doing that some others can't and when pain does come, don't let it break you down. Nobody can say your emotional pain isnt that of physical pain, but society won't accept the emotional pain of one person because peoples minds are different but when one gets hit by a truck it will probably hurt nomatter who you are. I could go on all day because your question touches me, and I don't sign on often, but message me back if I'm lacking anything
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is it ok to have sex with more then 3 poeole at the same time? (link)
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No, it's not okay to have sex with more than 3 people at the same time.
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So I'm doing an experiment on tropism, and how music affects plants. I'm doing negative vs. positive music. For negitive I'm using "Guarded" by Disturbed. I'm not sure what to use for positive, though. It's got to be something very relaxing, happy, and something I can tolerate listening to at a fairly loud volume for an hour and a half for a week. :P I was thinking something like Jason Mraz, Simplelife, or something like a piano tribute. Any ideas?
Thanks! (link)
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Natasha beddingfield makes tons of happy music, anything from her would be really good. "These words" is a good example. Corin bailey ray with "put your records on" is a mellow happy song your plants may like as well! "Spring" from Antonio Vivaldi is a classic happy song too.
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okay, i have a boyfirnd that is really cool and down to earth. But, he is really shy, gets nervous around me, and most of his answers to my questions are"yeah".Like he cheeses every time he sees me and everything,so i kno he really likes me. Like i metioned, im his first girlfriend so i have to teach him some things.I'm just wondering how to get him to hold a conversation,and break his shyness. Its cute and all and i like him for who he is(video game nerd) and all. I just need him to come out of his shell, b/c i have been goin out with for about 3 weeks now. And i can be talk-a-tive, and i hate the dead silence on the phone. so yea.lol help me..i want to know him more. (link)
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For starters 3 weeks is a pretty short time to get opened up with a guy, or anyone for that matter,so cut him some slack and dont push for things too much, to prevent an uncomfortable situation because boys hate that. Video game nerds aren't particulary spontaneous either. Boys don't take hints well so don't be too subtle either! Try going out somewhere, instead of just hanging out at his house or you're house like most people do. Hang with his friends and try group dates so that when you guys are in private, you'll have a lot to talk about. Ask him questions because everybody likes to talk about themselves. You'll get to know him more and get him to elaborate on his answers by asking "how, when, why" and things like that. Don't be afraid to dissagree with him as well and state your opinion. Watch movies or t.v instead of like, making out or playing videogames all the time, which some couples do to avoid really talking. Comment on things that happen or that you see, and talk to him about your life asking for advice or his opinion on things. Listen to music, dance, and just fool around being silly to bring his personality out more. Dare eachother to do silly things, because embarrasment fun and harmless trouble really bring people together by giving you something to laugh about later. Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We are as different as night and day, physically and mentally (our life views/values are SO off!). When we first met, I did not shave my armpits or legs and had a head full of dreads. I did not wear make-up and wore my own style of clothes. He fell in love with me anyway. Its weird because he really is a hippie-hater and can't stand my friends or random "hippies" on the street. His past girlfriends have been girly girls dressed in pink, make-up, and designer clothes. beautiful girls..but in my opinion fake. Well anyway, in the past few years I have shaved my arm-pits and my vaginal area...wear a tad bit of make-up occasionally, and have been cutting dreads out and combing them out (I'm down to 3 real ones left) By the way, I havent done all this for him...I think I'm just growing up or moving out of that stage in life. My views on life havent changed though, just my appearence. Anyway, my question is, if he has loved me for who I am for this long, do you think he will like it more if I conform fully? or if I stay the way I am which is a combination of what I was then and what I am now (physically). also any feedback on why a "hippie hater" would fall in love with a "hippie" that would be great. thanks (link)
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I doubt he will like you more if you changed, seeing as that his ex girlfriends were girly, and of course, they are no more =D. He shouldn't like you less though, he's been with you for about 3 years, he definetly likes you for you, because trust me, in America, boys aren't so accepting of the hairy kind, and boys talk, so he loves you for you, and you can change or stay the way you were, or be both and it shouldn't make a difference. It may be a pleasant surprise to see you without dreads, he may like it better on you, and maybe he thought he liked your dreads but he likes your natural hair better. He learned to like a hippie despite the differences, so be who you are! That's what you were before, and as time goes on people change, and whatver you are, be it, because I can tell, you're with a great guy, he'll love you all the same. Love grows anyways, so as he changes and you do, he'll love you more.
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I wear lip gloss but i don't over-wear it or anything. But at the end of the day when i'm looking at the mirror, I'll realize that there's white stuff on my lips (and it isn't dry skin). There's just a thin line of it on my inner lip and it's really annoying. How can I get that to not happen when i wear lip gloss? (link)
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If your talking about that weird thin line of white almost slimy stuff, Its most likely your toothpaste actually. After you mouthwash, floss or brush, rinse your mouth a bit more than u usually do, especially on the inside. This white thing happens to pretty much everybody, sometimes even if you dont use lipgloss. Its because there is still a bit of toothpaste residue inside your mouth, and it comes out in a tiny film
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okay i met this guy 10 days ago and hes cute,nice and quiet guy i thought he was cute and he was walking on the hallway so 1st time i tried talk to him by saying i saw him on myspace and after that we started talking and he dropped me off to my class, and after that we keep saying hi to eachother and we began hugging and poking eacother on the stomach and now he hugs me really tight and sometimes when he hugs me he puts my head on his chest when we see eachother and he pokes me on the stomach and stuff and he started hangout with me and my friends and when i sit somewhere else he says"sit here" next to him and he was trying to hold my hand by asking whos hand is bigger. and i like him too but the thing is do you think we're going too fast? because i just met him 10days ago and now we're hugging so tight and stuff am i being easy too? what do you think about this question? and do you think he likes me?
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I think hes definetly interested in you. Your not being easy at all in my opinion. Being easy is like if you met him 10 days ago and you guys are having sex but your not even dating. If things keep going the way they are I think your relationship will be great and you'll have a ton of fun together.
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My guy bestfriends Girlfriend (Well ex now) cheated on him and his upset and crying alot and now he smokes i need to give him some advice any at all please ! :( (link)
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This is some true advice that works in this situation.
"Dont do something you'll regret later over some stupid girl whos not even thinking about you"
"Shes simply not worth it, dont waste you're time"
Since this girl cheated, she obviously has no respect or regrets. Shes probably out having fun and hes crying, messing up his life over some girl who wont matter in the future. Shes not beating herself up and she probably doesnt care that she hurt him, so why should he care about someone who doesnt care about him?
You could tell him that too.
"You'll find a great girl whos good enough for you who likes only you, and you'll forget about ____. You wont find her bawling youre eyes out smoking a cig. Thats not you at all"
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I am a 16 year old female. I like a guy who is 21. What do I do? I've been told he likes me too. But thats a big age difference. (link)
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Right now its a big age difference. Later it wont be. My aunt and uncle are 12 years apart! See how things go with this guy if he likes you. Dont do anything real serious tho, if he respects boudaries, hes a keeper. If things last untill your 18, knock urself out and have fun!
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If you are like 13 or 14, isn't it kind of hard to actually fall in love? It kind of gets me annoyed when my friends say like "i would die without ____" or something like that. Very rarely do people get married to the person they went out with when they were that age. Do you think guys at this age just go out with girls for sex and things like that? Or are there some guys who will wait till your older and feel ready and really love you? (link)
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Yeah, boys want sex at that age. Since the girls mature faster theyre getting boobs and boys just love that, so they want to get in theyre pants. Im just at the age you're talking about, and im a good girl... ;) I dont want to have sex untill i'm married and once I told sum guy this and he was astonished. He's like, "save self respect untill you're 30" Lots of girls this age just do what the boy wants because they want to make him happy, or they think the boy actually loves the girl as much as they love the boy. Rarely does that happen. Notice GIRLS are the ones who say, "ohh I love him so much I dunno wut I would do without him" Many boys dont think or talk like that. Pretty much, at this age, most boys are looking to be cool, and having a gf that will put out helps. Not to say there isnt a deecent one out there, im just saying im still lookin 4 that 1.
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i want to gain muscle=eat more calories
i want to lose fat=eat less calories
i want to gain muscle=exercise
i want to gain muscle while not losing my bulk and not going skinny=???
bottomline,how do i gain muscle,while losing fat and exercising but not too much till i lose my bulk at the same time? (link)
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When you exersize you'll build muscle and loose fat because muscle helps you burn fat. Muscle weighs more than fat, but takes up less space. If you get buff, you'll loose fat but you wont look skinny. You might even gain weight, but you'll look better.
This is what you should do in terms of calories.
whatever your weight is, add a zero to the end. For example, im 140 pounds. Now its 1400. Eat that many calories a day. Any more and you'll gain fat, any less and you'll loose muscle. Its okay to miss target a couple times tho. Exercize for 30-60 minutes every weekday.
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is hookah bad for you? I smoke it every week. (link)
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Yes.
Smoking-bad for you.
It's as simple as it gets.
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what is a water proof mascara
that lasts a long time?
thank you very muchhhh. (: (link)
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Water-proof mascara is mascara that even if it gets wet or u cry it wont smear. Regular mascara will smear or run when it gets wet. Water-proof mascara lasts long because it is waxier than regular mascara.
Mascara in general is a kind of makeup you apply to your eyelashes with a wand. It can make your eyelashes different colors, look longer, and thicker.
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The guy I like is hated by so many people at our school. Like he dresses extremely preppy (but I LIKE that stylleee). So I heard he's gonna ask me out, but I don't want to say yea, because then my reputation would go bad. Basically, he acts exactly like a girl, which is why so many people hate him. But we get along GREAAATT!
But I really don't want to go out with him beacuse I'm kinda popular and my reputation would die.
Please don't say "do whatever makes you happy," because its much more complicated than that, and I'm really confused... =[
THANKS FOR ANY HELP!!! (link)
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Everything everybody here said is right but immma make my imput fairly short.
IF he asks you out, say yes. If you are popular, make it cool to date people like him, and trash anybody who tries to trash him. Your followers will be happy and jealous of you, and your bf will become cool.
If you end up a "loser", which you won't, at least you have a bf whos a "loser" too.
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is it normal to shed a lot of hair? i usually dont, but in the past few weeks i've shed so much hair. does it just have to do with summer or what? (link)
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Most people loose about 100 strands of hair a day. If your losing more, it could be due to
*stress *heat *chemicals *and switching hair products
Also, if you wash your hair too often, like more than 4+ times a week, and you dont put any product in it, your hair can break due to drying. Get a trim if you have split ends.
Combs are better than brushes when it comes to shedding hair, but a boar bristle brush is the best kind you can have.
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I have a problem saying thank you to people older then me..I don't know why it's not like I have a grudge or something it's just that it jsut doesn't come out.
I used to say thank you in school to everyone and the teachers everytime they hand me a peice of paper but now when people give me something the word thank you won't come out. =S
Liek as a treat, the teacher handed us candy and I couldnt' say thank you and it really slipped off the back of my mind
I really wanted to thank my mom for walking all the wya to the drug store to get me cough drops when i was sick but i dunno..the word just won't come out (link)
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You know, if you say a word, any word too many times you forget what it means.
I know this happened to me, and I thought I was being impolite all the time when I really was greatful for things, I just didnt say it, tho I had said it so much in the past for like every little thing.
Its all a matter of remembering to say it, and once you remember, say it even if it really feels fake, or even if you just dont want to. It will become a habit soon enough. Im guessing we're all a little bit past the tying a string around your finger to remember something, so buy a ring that fits, and wear it all the time as a reminder. Once saying it is no problem, you can take the ring off, or if its cute, make a fashion statement and continue to wear it! It will become your signature piece everyone will remember you for.
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Ok. I am going to use real names because I don't feel the need to hide this.
I have a friend Taylor. We have been good friends for a while. I also have a best friend Dave.
Dave and Taylor were together, but not going out. They really liked eachother, understandable right?
Taylor "broke up" with Dave, then hated him for the last 4 months. For no reason at all, just wouldn't talk to him and made fun on him constantly. Dave hurt for a while, but finally got over it.
Dave and I have been extremely close ever since we met. Dave and I now are kind of, as you can say, together.
Ever since Dave and I have been together, Taylor has been trying to talk to Dave again, and asks me ridiculous questions about me and him and what we do. She said that him her and can only be enemies, or lovers. So what does that mean? If she is trying to talk to him, that might mean she wants to be lovers with him.
She insists she is over him and does not want him, but why is she constantly asking me about it? And flipping out on me about him. I think she still has feelings for him, which is understandable. But she has hated him for 4 months, and Dave would try to talk to her, but she was just such a BITCH to him that he got over her.
It's not my fault me and him like eachother, we cannot control feelings. I understand where she is coming from because it is her ex, but still, they are over, and she knows it.
I don't know what to do. I do not what to loose either of them. Taylor is just being very immature about this and said she might as well go hook up with my ex boyfriend Justin, so I would know how it felt.
Dave and I have been through A LOT together. Like, a mad amount of stupid shit we have done and gotten in trouble for. Taylor seems like it is right to bring those mistakes up to make me sound like a bad person.
I tried talking to her so many times.
Now I am thinking I should just end it wtih Dave so this whole thing would stop, no matter how much I don't want to.
Someone please help me, I really don't know what to do. (link)
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DON'T LET THINGS GO WITH DAVE. Don't punish him for his stupid ex-girlfriend. Taylor is very jealous of you two and she wants him back, or else she just wants him to be alone so nobody can have him and he'll be sad and still pining after her. She is a very stupid person and I would give her a piece of my mind if I were you. If you are friends with her, stop being friends with her.Tell dave to do the same. If you both have nothing to do with her shes gotta leave you alone. Pretend shes just another random person or stranger you see if you have to. Tell her its none of her buisness what you and dave do together, and dont tell her nomatter what. Avoid all contact with her after that, and if somehow you guys end up talking and shes making you seem like an evil person, spin it back on her, telling her what a good man shes lost and how she looks pathetic trying to take controll over what isnt hers. Tell her hes yours and she needs to back up. Tell her if she wanted to have him, when he wuz kissin up to her trying to be nice she coulda taken the opportuity but she wuz too stupid. Then leave her be. If she wants to take ur ex boyfriend justin tell him now, that she doesnt really like him, that shes trying to get back at you for going out with dave, but that he can do whatever he likes with her. Its her issue anyways. hes your ex and you like dave so when she realizes you arent jealous she'll leave you alone. If she ends up liking him in the end, or ends up liking some other guy she'll forget all about you and leave you alone.
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