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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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heyy.
ok. here it goes.
theres this guy at work..angus..who i like and he apparently likes me. well he liked this girl at work Jose for ages and she had a boyfriend of 11 months. then he met me and he started liking me and jose dumped her boyfriend to go out with angus but angus was like 'I waited too long for you its too late i like ana now.'
and basically he just left her for me
and he did that to another girl before jose.
and now he likes me and hes full like Ana i love you blah blah and he hardly even talks to me.
and he wants to ask me out but all the girls at work are like Dont go out with him he is gonna screw you over and do what he did to jose he will just go off with another girl when he meets one and that he is a player etc etc and i told him about it and hes like Dont listen to them why would i do that to you etc etc
and the day before yesterday i went to visit him at work and he finished at 9 and so i went and came back at like 8:50 and then i asked the people where he was and the manager was like He left like half an hour ago and so i texted him and im like Yeah thanks .. full ditched mee. and so i told him to come yesterday at 3 before i start work and he was like okay and that morning i asked him if hes coming and he didnt reply so i just went at 3:40ish (i started at 4) and he was there with his mates. so i just went right past him.
then when i came out he was like Hey ana! and im like Hi thanks for telling me you were gonna come and hes like Im sorry ana please ana whats wrong .. ana i care about you. why are you angry at me..then hes like i promise i will come at 8 when you finish i promise blah blah. then he went away and then after i finished work i was waiting for my mum and he runs to me and goes to me ana im sorry for always dogging you ana please im sorry i really like you..you can think i dont like you but i really do. i love you ana i love you!
and then hes like i have to go somewhere with my mates
so basically i just saw him for like 2 seconds
how does he expect me to have a relationship with him when he NEVER has time for me? i basically only see him like 1 hour a week..
so i dont know what to do :(
xx

It sounds as if he is not really wanting to tie himself down at this time. If he truly wanted to work this out with you, he'd find time with you. I'm sorry but I have to agree with your friends on this one. Maybe, this just isn't meant to be. I'd think about going on with our life without him.

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Ok this is the strangest things to me and it's embarassing to ask but my boobs like smell weird i dont know what to do it's incredibly disgusting i also get this weird skin discoloration on them too help please

There are a few things that you can do.
~1~ Put deodarant underneath them. This helps with the sweating and smell that occurs with that.
~2~ You can use a powder underneath them as well. It will keep them dry.
~3~ Wash them at least three times a day.

If it becomes to bothersome, I would suggest going to your doctor. There may be a prescription deodarant that he can prescribe in order to control your problem.

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Literally. I can eat anything for as long as I want. Now, it's not that I'm gaining weight, i'm not. It's just that I really stuff my self until I have an aweful stomache ache and feel like puking. How can I control these terrible cravings? I hate the feeling of being so full you just feel like sleeping, it makes me feel terrible! Please help!

One of the things that could possibly work for you would be to eat a few times more a day. You are suppose to eat at least 3 times a day. However, when you have a high metabolism it helps to eat 5 times a day. If you eat more healthy foods, it will be easier on your stomach. Try eating fresh fruits and vegetables and lean meats, like tuna, fish or chicken. Also, make sure you chew each bite as throughly as possible (20-30 seconds each bite). By the time you get done chewing a little more than usual, your jaw gets tired and you do not want to eat anymore.

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what, and when is the best way to off yourself, like the fastest and easiest (without a gun cuz i don't have one) i've tried almost everyway (but a gun obviously) but i always get caught in the act please help me. even just telling me household items to mix for instantaineous death (sorry can't spell) and don't try to talk me out of it my whole life people had tried to talk me out of it and it makes no sense i have nothing going for me everything sucks my family hates and abuses me, i have no friends, my soccer team sucks, i suck, please help

I'm sorry, but noone on this site will give you directions on how to kill yourself. Not only is it illegal to help someone, but morally wrong as well.

I would like to suggest getting help. You need to talk to your parents and have them get you help as soon as possible. Everything can be worked out. If you feel as if you cannot get help from your family, then you need to talk to a counselor at school. That is if you are a teenager. If you are not, then you need to go and check yourself in somewhere. You are a threat to yourself and that needs to be dealt with immediately.

You could be just in a rut and need to figure out what you can do to improve your life quality. If your family does abuse you, you need to contact the local authorities. I am assuming you are under the age of 18 with the given information that you have provided. If you were to get taken away from your parents, then maybe that is the best thing for you.

Maybe it is time for you to become spiritual. There is always a plan for us, and sometimes we have to stick out the bad to find the good. You have not met your reason yet, or else you would be contempt or already taken from us. Go to a church or some spiritual meeting area that you can find a peace in your life. If you are already spiritual, you may be in the wrong path. Find a different religion.

Killing yourself is never the answer. There are always other alternatives. You will find your calling and when you do, you will be glad that you never fullfilled your wish to die. I hope you get better soon.

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i want the died colour out of my hair, is there any way that I can get it out and keep my natural colour WITHOUT bleaching it?? If there is a product at a drugstore please dont say Walgreens as i live in Canada. Thanks:)

I heard a tip about using dandruff shampoo. You wash it 3 times the first day and let it soak for a while. After that you can use it daily and it will start to fade the color out.

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My dad doesn’t like me…and I know you’ll probably be like he’s your dad he loves you deep down I’m pretty sure he does…but no he doesn’t…..He never says he loves me or will miss me…he’s never given me a hug or anything.. …Like If he ever comes up to me and says I love…I would be weirded out by a lot..and be like umm..okay get a away from me you freak….It’s really awkward being near him…..Like he’s always yelling at me for the most stupid things…and it’s annoying….He’s really annoying….Like for example…every night I take a shower at around 9 and my dad’s like go take a shower and it’s like 8:30…so I’m like no later…it’s to early…he’s like what are you going to do. Wait till 10o clock like everyday…and I’m like WTF!! When do I ever wait till 10 o clock!! And it’s not like he says it every once in a while it’s every effing dayyy!! It’s soo annoying I’m tired of it…and not only that but the littlest things I do….like I cause an accident like accidentally spill my water on the table he’ll be god you need to pay attention..you never pay attetion..and I’m like WTF omg..it was an accident…and my grades aren’t that great rite..but I’m trying my hardest…but my dad’s like good you think everything hard..your not studying all you care about is straightening hair(which I don’t even do everyday), and myspace(which I haven’t gotten on ever since like 7th grade)…and stuff…good I just don’t know what to do..he’s always criticizing me…and it’s not like the good kind where you learn and it helps you..it’s like putting you down criticism…and I don’t want to talk to my mom about it because she’ll just get mad at me for even thinking that. And then she’ll probably go tell my dad..and he’ll deny everything…..Like he used to watch porn(gross I know) and sometimes he’ll forget it’s on history or it’s left on windows media player..and I used to tell my mom..and he would deny it..i’m just like SERIOUSLY!!….are you really going to believe..like it was left on..and he was the only one on the computer....and so ever since then it’s been even more awkward….because I wonder if he ever thinks of me like that….and one thing I especially hate is everyday I close the computer doors so I can do my hmrk….because I hate when it’s open b/c I feel like people are watching me….and every effing day my stupid dad has to come by and hit it open stare at what I’m doing then go to his room….and when I close it he’ll be like why are you closing it…are you on aim, facebook, myspace….and stuff…I tell him it’s because I like it closed…then he starts to yell at me and tells me to leave him open…GOD I don’t know what to do…I don’t want to sit and talk with him…because that’ll be awkward and knowing my dad it’s not like anything will change. He also yells at me for things I didn’t even do…like it’s my sisters fault and tell him it is…he’s like I DON’T CARE..YOU DO IT…and he’ll only believe me if I call my sister and she says it was her…then he’ll go on mumbling about it..and I’m just like OMG shut uppp…pleasee…GODD
All my friends are like I love my dad…and their dad actually cares about themOne time I got so pissed off I ran away…it wasn’t like really running away…i went to the park in my neighborhood…and sat down…my mom was freaking out…and she was a work so she could’nt get in her car and come look for me. My dad was like w/e…and stuff…so an hour passed…two hours…eventually it was 7 and I left at 4…and I was like w/e I’ll walk home cause I was bored…so I start to walk home and I get to the front door..and my dad is JUST getting out of the drive way to look for me…I’m just like wow…you are such an amazing parent..you really care for your kids…and he did’nt come because he was worried…it was because my mom told him to go find me…Yea so that’ my miserable life…I don’t know what to do…I don’t know if it’s me not doing something right or if it’s my dad’s fault..but I just need to know what to do…I can’t take it anymore…

Ok, I may get a 1 rating for this, but whatever. I do not care. Listen, you sound very immature by the way you act. No wonder your dad is always yelling at you. You have shown no respect for your dad or your mom, by the way you are explaining this. I am pretty sure there is more to the story, and you just left it out, because it may show why you get treated the way you do. If you truly want to stop getting yelled at, then stop doing the things you do to get yelled at for. Also, when a parent tells you to do something, you are not suppose to back talk and expect for them to be like "Ok, honey, do what you want." Yeah right. If you were my child and were acting this way, I'd ground you to your room for life. By the way, anything that you can do on the computer for homework, can be done without it, so you would be grounded from that as well.

If you truly want someone to treat you with respect, you need to follow suit. If you do not like the way your dad treats you, find a way to solve your problem by talking it out with him. There is no advice in the world that is going to make your dad change the way he acts, but the actions you do with him.

P.S. I seriously doubt that your dad thinks of you in a sexual way. You are just way to immature to think anything like that. Has he ever shown you any reason to fear that he would? If not, then maybe you are just looking for attention.

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Ok, well I've been hearing some talk about Final Fantasy the game. Well first what is it about? I'm thinking that I should get into it also but I heard that they have a Final Fantasy 12 already, so I really don't want to like waste money by buying the whole series starting from 1. So does anyone care by filling me in on what's it like and recommend which ones from 1-12 that I should get and that can also help me understand the whole story of it? Would Final Fantasy umm Chrisis..something be a good choice? I heard it's 7 years before Final Fantasy 7 so does it mean it's 1-7 combined?

Here is a link that will explain the entire story line of final fantasy. It will give you an idea of what happened. As for game play, it will depend on which type of gaming system you have. This information is also included in site I provided.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Final_Fantasy

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At my school, girls are discouraged to bring money in their clutches or purses because we always leave them at the tables and there are these group of girls who always go through everyone's stuff when they're up dancing and stealing all their money. My friend tried hiding a lot of money under her table and on her chair but her stuff STILL got stolen. Since our dresses don't have pockets, where should we keep our money because we absolutely need money at prom because we're going somewhere after and we can't leave it in the limo. Is there any possible way that I can keep my money with me while I'm dancing, without having to bring my whole clutch with me? A lot of girls are putting them in their bras but I think that's kind of weird.

Thanks! :)

There are a few options.

~1~ If you are taking a date, and if you trust him, ask him to hold your money in his pocket or wallet.

~2~ Putting in your bra is not a bad thing. It is uncomfortable at first but you get used to it.

~3~ Another alternative would be to put it in your shoe.

~4~ Is the Prom at your school? If so, you could use your locker to hold your purse until you were ready to leave.

~5~ See if your school will offer a coat/purse check-in area, where they can have a teacher save all your stuff in a secure room in order to keep everything safe.

~6~ If you are having the event at a reception area, see if they offer holding of personal belongings or a locker.

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i have to write an article and draw a map describing one regin of India (late 19th-20th centruty) detailing its ntural resources and features. i have to draw a picture and write an adveritement getting people to visit

i cant seem to find a websit corresponding to my assighenrmnt??

any ideas??

thanks so much.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/India
http://www.incredibleindia.org/
https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/in.html
http://india.gov.in/
http://www.mapsofindia.com/index.html
http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0107629.html
http://www.tourindia.com/

Unfortunately, you are going to have to read. Find an area from these sites, and go from there.

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well okay i kissed this guy i like yesterday and it was a weird kiss, like i dont know if i did it right or not. but then after we were like playing footsie. haha idk if it means anything but generally what does playing footsie mean?

Playing footsies is a type of flirtation. It means that this person likes you.

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what are the colors for moon rings and what do they mean?

I am assuming that you mean mood rings?

violet blue means happy, romantic
blue means calm and relaxed
green means average or neutral
yellow/amber means tense, excited
brown/gray means nervous, anxious
black means cold temperatures or broken ring

Mood rings work with your body temperature. That is how they work.

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what does the saying, "blood is thicker than water" mean exacly? cheers.

It means that the family bond is stronger than any other bond out there.

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I desperately want a child. I want, my husband wants, we want. However, my husband and I purposely will not conceive a child. The reason is, we feel that what we want is not the most important thing. The most important consideration is toward the person who is most directly affected. The most important consideration is toward the child. Making a life-altering decision without consulting the one most affected seems wrong. Also, there is a chance that once the child is grown, he may look back and feel “I would have preferred non-existence. There, I would have remained safe from all harm." Also, any harm that comes to the child would be my fault and my husband’s fault. If we had not conceived the child the harm would not have occurred. Do many other people think this way?

It is a common fear. Parents want to make sure that the child will have a lifetime of happiness full of love, security, and safety. I think every good parent worries about what will happen to the future of their child. What you have to remember is how much love you can give your child. You can only do the best of your ability. At least you are not a person that wants to not keep a child safe. I do not think that your fears are unfounded. However, you must remember that with all things comes good and bad. It is how you handle the situation that will make your child love you even more. Having children is a risk worth taking. I promise you, you will not regret it.

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ok.. so I'll try to keep this kind of short. there's a guy. Everyone say she likes me and he kind of flirts with me. Well, I'm not sure.. i guess so? Anyways, so last year I kind of started liking him for a little while before I talked myself out of it. I liked him because he was nice and "flirty" w/ me. Anywho, I have a feeling he would never ask me out because he's afraid of doing it. People have asked him out and stuff before as jokes. (hes not really popular @ school.) so my question is, how do i get him to ask me out? i think i would say yes but not tell anybody because ppl make such a big deal when ppl start going out in our grade. And I don't wanna make it sound like I wouldn't be sure of it, I just want to give it a go. I was texting my friend and she said it was because he didnt know that i liked him. what do i do?

We live in a day and age where you can ask him. I know it sounds taboo, but it really isn't. Assertive females are the thing right now. Become one, it may do you good.

Just go up to him and tell him, hey I am going to blank, wanna come? It doesn't have to be a date, but you could get to know each other.

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okay hi there My question is my bf and I had bn friends for like six years when a couple weeks ago we got into this big arguement about her friends who acted real bad towards me you know like ignorin me etc and when I told her about this we got into a big arguement and decided to call it quits I guess what Im askin is how do I get over a friendship which was more like a sister hood???
any help is apreciated!!
lxx

Instead of trying to get over the friendship, why don't you call her and talk to her. Let her know in a mature way how you felt, and see if she can at least understand that. Then, you two need to work out the arguement that occured. You do not leave your friends because of one arguement. You learn from your mistakes and that makes your friendship stronger. Just something to think over. It doesn't have to be inside the box, think outside of the box. There are no absolutes except for death.

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Hey there okay I do events at college and I was wondering if anyone had any ideas as to how I could advertise at like a budget of zero??
I have aalready done posters I need other ideas!!
any help is appreciated!
lxx

I know this may sound lame, but you could do sketches around the campus with your fellow classmates to promote the event that you are putting on.

Another thing that you could do: hold a bake sale or car wash in order to promote the event plus earn money for more advertising.

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I know it sounds crazy, but what would you do if you came across a real UFO in a digital pic u had taken? If the image is real clear do you think it would be worth anything? And how would someone go about finding someone who would be interested in buying such a photo?

The best thing that you can do is send an inquiry to a tabloid magazine because noone else will be interested because there is no "concrete-proof" that this is not altered. If there were key witnesses that are reliable and there was proof, such as a negative, it would be better.

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Me and my group of friends were at a fast food place out side. we were having a blast by doing truth or dare but didnt do the dares because we chickien out. anyways...one of my friends dare me to kiss a guy who walks pass me i laughed and said no and one of my friends Alice shouted out "ha yeah right!" in a serious tone....um okay why she say that?
she knows i am bisexual and that i liked her but she isnt that way.

Well, it sounds as if she was making a sarcastic remark. If she knows that you are bisexual, chances are she believes that you are not interested in guys at all. When someone dared you to kiss a guy, she felt it humorous and didn't think that you would do it. Just a thought.

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I'm 15/f and over the last year or so, I always feel so irritated when my parents talk. Like I find them really annoying, even if they're are asking me something like ''what do you want for dinner''
I'm wondering if this is just a teenage phase or if there's something wrong with me?
I mean my parents are cool and I like them, but I always feel annoyed when I'm talking to them, and I hate it.

Thanks!

Yes, it is definitely a teenage thing. It also stems into adulthood. The thing of it is as you get older three things happen.
~1~ You are starting to be independent and you want to live your life and not be bothered all the time, even if it is by your parents.
~2~ Hormones start to make your mentality change. Hormones causes you to think irrationally and get angry faster. It happens.
~3~ When you are around someone for so long, you tend to get on each others nerves. This is why you get so frustrated and annoyed when you are being talked to by them.

The best thing to do when you are feeling like this is to get away and have some space. Always remember to try and think before you speak. It is the hardest thing in the world to do, but with practice, it can be done. When you start to feel annoyed, think "why did that just piss me off?" Once you think about it, you will find it funny and just shrug it off.

Good luck.

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is there any website that i can go to to see all the makeup products and all the shampoo products and stuff like that that test on animals?

for example, if covergirl tested on animals( in know that it does), it would have covergirl, and the beside it would say " test on animals" or something like that.


sorry if this is confusing haha

thanks for all your help!

I typed this into google: products that test on animals. I got 853,000 hits. Below are just a few. Google is a good place to start when you want to find information about these types of things, in the future.

http://www.thevegetariansite.com/ethics_test.htm
http://www.caringconsumer.com/resources_companies.asp
http://www.astrostar.com/DO-Test.htm
http://environment.about.com/od/greenlivingdesign/a/animal_testing.htm

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