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well, I've been seeing questions concerning online relationships here...and so I wanted to ask mine.

I'm 15/f and a lot of friends that I have, I have indeed, met online. Other than them, of course, I do have real friends. A couple good ones, actually. But for some reason, the people that I know from online, I can kind of relate to more, and it's fun chatting with them and stuff. Most of them I've known on and off for about a year now. I have about 10 of them. I met all of them through forums.
So, I was just wondering. Should I be ashamed of having so many online friends? Also - if we are very good friends and we both have intentions on meeting....what's the best way to go about meeting them? Like if I were to travel out of state with my parents. Where should we meet up? (I might only meet 4 or 3 of them for real). Because I know my dad would think it weird if we're in another state, and I come up to a weird stranger that he's never seen. Haha.

Thank you! (link)
No you shouldn't be ashamed. I have a few online friends as well. =)

Take one of your friends with you out of state [to be safe, people online CAN lie] and you guys could meet up with one of your online buddies at a mall, or movie theater. Suggest to you're parents that you'd like to go on a vacation for a couple days, ask if one of your friends can come.

I hope this helps you =)


I had unprotected sex, which is probably a given considering the subject, but it was kind of close to when my period was supposed to start. If it is close, is it possible for my period to go ahead and start, and go through, but me still be pregnant? I really need help :/ (link)
Yes it is possible. I suggest you get a pregnancy test. Never have unprotected sex, not only is pregnancy a risk, but STDs as well. I also suggest you get on birth control, just in case you have unprotected sex again. =)


ok well im 15 and i have had a lot of tragic things in my life. but i finally stoped dwelling on the past when i realized that there r other people who have it way worse.all the things that have happened to me just made me appreciate life more. i am a very strong, caring, and determined person. so my for my question.... well when i turn on the t.v. theres allways charitys going on for cancer and make a wish foundations and people all around the world who are barley surviving and how we as a generation are destoring the world...ect. well all these things touch my heart and i just wanna have the power to change the world for the good... but being that im not evan old enough to have a job i am unfortunitly unable of evan donating... well i finally came up with an idea... i want to creat a.. an organizatoin were people can donate to what ever charity that touches them the most.. were 100% of all money is donated to the cause. i want to make something that is huge that every one knows about. like websites and marathons and t.v. broadcasting. i know that it will take a great deal of time before it reaches that point but i am willing to dedicate my life to this. Two of my most favorite things about life is helping and persuading people to do good. so i figure why not put these together. im not wanting to do this for any profit except to see the world around me a better place. the only thing is i dont have a clue where to start. i was thinking of starting with a petion. no money just names at first. once i reach a certian amount i want to give it to someone who can help... but i dont know who. i'm stuck in a box and i need advise from someone with more knowledge. i dont care how many people who tell me i cant do it because if there is a will there is a way and i have so much determination that i am ready for what ever it takes. can you give me advice on how to get started? all i need is a nudge in the right direction. if you think there is somthing wrong can you give my some insight of how to fix it? love
?rhonda?

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Good for you for wanting to make the world a better place. I would start by asking your family and friends if they would think of donating to such a thing. Then I would maybe start a website and fliers and such to get the word out. Talk to other charities and see how they came about and ask them for tips and such.

Heres more about it
http://www.google.com/search?q=How+to+start+a+charity&sourceid=navclient-ff&ie=UTF-8&rls=GGGL,GGGL:2006-29,GGGL:en


Sorry, had no idea how to describe my quesiton at all!

Anyway, if you look at this screen shot:

://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r155/wind_miko/line.jpg

See that line under the caculator?

Well before it used to be above photoshop =S I don't know why I'm asking this but it's been really annoying me now! (link)
hey

ok, do you care about the calculator or not? cause the only way to move it is to delete calculator.

right click "calculator" & hit "unpin from start menu."

that should fix it.

if you still want calculator to be anywhere on that list (below or above the line - you can drag & drop it) then just open the program by going to "start" - "all programs" - "accessories" - "calculator".



I have a Windows XP computer and right now it seems slower, websites load slower, slow searching, etc. Anyone know what the problem is? Is the problem(s) from downloading/having many programs/games, putting it in hibernation mode instead of turning it off, and/or using it a lot? If it's one or more than any of these problems or one you might possibly know how can I fix it? I'm thinking of giving it a another system recovery which to me helps fix my computer up a bit but I just wanna know another way without having to do it that way. (link)
hey

try running the disk defragmenter. it moves files around on your hard drive, making your computer run faster.

go to "start"
- "all programs"
- "accessories"
- "system tools"
- "disk defragmentor"

also try the disk clean-up.

if those don't work (which they probably will), then try deleting unnecessary pictures off your computer. pictures take up a LOT of memory space.

please feel free to ask me any more questions :]



favorite columnist.
i'm adding you to my thing now.
(:
keep up the good work.
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hey

aww thanks so much =)
i'll add you back, sweetie.

i really appreciate it!

much lovee,



i love music that makes you dance but i dont want rap.
i like bands like rediscover and family force 5.
can someone name more bands like that?

but its like good music.
i don't really like playradioplay! (link)
hey

"put your hands up for detroit" - fedde le grand
"satisfaction" - benny benassi
"call on me" - eric prydz
"find a new way" - young love
"discotech" - young love

other bands / artists:
- beastie boys
- limp bizkit
- danko jones
- linkin park
- alien ant farm
- daft punk
- young love

http://www.artistdirect.com/nad/music/artist/card/0,,3520865,00.html

feel free to ask me any more questions :]



so im going to this cottage for 11 day theres a lake there which you could say it is a beach type thing um ill be staying with my cousin (15) and like 10 adults i keep thinking its going to be boring and im going to get homesick and what not but my question is what are some things to do there. im assuming that we wont leave that area i mean like to go shopping, seeing movies ect. so if anyone has any ideas that would help me out BIG time.

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Read magazines.
Read a book.
Play cards.
Make a scrapbook.
Take pictures.
Go swimming.
Play catch.
Play board games.
Maybe a portable DVD player.
Listen to music.
Go exploring around the campsite.

Just be creative with it. You'll find things to do.


please help likw when you click the thing and brings down what you were recently on it doesnt show what i wnat to delete but like if you type in www. then the letter that come next it shows it help how do i get rid of my history (link)
At the top of you bar you go to "Tools" and then "Delete Browsing History."
and then do "delete History"
Its as easy at that =]


there are two songs that i cant think of the name of

1. it goes like "i like girls that wear abercrombie and fitch..."

2. the other one goes like "they paved paradise put up a parking lot"

names && artists please

THANX =) (link)
hey

the first one is "summer girl" by LFO.
the second one is "big yellow taxi" by big country.



im listening to it right now, its drivin me crazy i had it all vacation and no computer to find it on now i got one AND I STILL CANT FIND IT. umm.
its around 4 min long. haha the beginning music sounds like christmas music...but not?. ok and it sounds like a boy band like hollistar stuff i guess...i hate that kind but i love this song.
-beginning lyrics that i can tell the words-
so deep that it didnt even bleed and catch me off gard red handed now and far from lonely asleep i justdon see you lying next to me so deep that it didnt even catch me ahahahahahah i need something else will someone please just give me hit me nock me out and let me go back to sleep
-whats that song name and band or either? and whats a site i can type in lyrics and find the song?! (link)
hey

aww sweetie! it's "all that i've got" by the used.



Okay I started using tampons like last week and now -below- hurts when I go to the bathroom and cough sneeze stuff like that. I dont wanna start using pads again they suck so am i using to pig of tampons or something? Im a virgin if thats important to anyone.. and i dont do anything to myself down there either.
And at the moment im feeling a sort of numbness..
this cannot be normal. (link)
hey

yeah, you're probably using tampons that might be a shade too big, or you didn't stick it in far enough.

http://www.tampax.eu/en_UK/howtouse.php?topic=1&step=10

stick it in farther than you think you need to. you should NOT be able to feel the tampon inside of you.

because youre a virgin, your vagina is probably very tight & you were scared to put the tampon in too far.

try again :] tampons are really easy but take practice. i got it on my second try.

please don't hesitate to inbox me if you have any other questions.



I have a boyfriend(sorta). He's a great guy, and my best friend used to like him(I think she still does), but she doesn't mind that I'm with him. I think about him a lot, and I like to be with him, but the problem is, not in public. He's not "cute" I guess. People say he's decent looking, but not really to me. I am afraid of what people will think because of my better reputation. I guess I'm shallow, but I want to keep my reputation(which keeps getting better), and I don't want a guy to ruin it. He is super sweet, and I know he cares about me(my friends can see it too), but he is kinda weird, and not cute. Help me out please. (link)
hey

sweetie, i totally understand. it's like you're almost embarassed of him, right? don't listen to anyone who says you're shallow & a bitch. cause you're not. everyone cares about what everyone else thinks about them. it's FINE.

so, if you guys are officiailly dating, i'd dump him. just cause you don't actually like him! and it'd be impossible to explain to him that you don't want to tell anyone you're going out. he might take it the wrong way.

so, tell your friend that he's all hers! seriously. cause if you don't like him, then don't say he's yours. hotter guys will come along, really.

i can be shallow too, so i completely understand where you are coming from. if he likes you then don't be mean to him. keep your space with him. if he says hey, say hey back.

all in all, don't TELL him that you don't want to be friends anymore or anything cause he'll be really hurt cause he may think you're super gorgeous.

just keep it low-key but steady. he'll back off your case eventually. don't tell ANYONE exactly what you posted on this site.. things will end up messy. keep to yourself & don't tell your best friend anything. create space between you and the guy while still being friends to experience the swet, caring part of him.

please don't hesitate to inbox me regarding this situation!



ok im 15/f

what can i use to masturbate with and where cuz my parents r home all the time and i dont have anything that vibrates what should i use i try doing this kind of stuff at ngiht after my parents go to bed but yeah what to use? (link)
hey

check out this site-
http://www.solotouch.com/contri.php?t=t&mo=200707&cat=13

and archive-
http://www.solotouch.com/contri.php?t=a

(just click techniques next to each month).

you can try in the shower! turn the water on so there's no sound that can be heard other than the shower running and masturbate then.



i dont understand bjs. im immature i guess but why put your mouth where the other person pees? its kind of weird. (link)
To pleasure their partner. It's actually not that gross as long as they didn't just go to the bathroom and you do it.


is there a distinction between cheesy and corny? (link)
hey

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cheesy

apparently not. they're synonyms, so you can use them interchangeably :]



i dont understand bjs. im immature i guess but why put your mouth where the other person pees? its kind of weird. (link)
it's to please their partner simple as that. and honestly most girls as they get older enjoy it and don't mind doing it just so long as their partner shows the same consideration for them and pleases her too. people who refuse to do it i think it's pretty inconsiderate, especially since straight sex between two people would get old after a while.


alright. so i am in love with this makeup. i can never do it like this, so can someone please explain to me step-by-step on how to do this? thanksss. (link)
hey

it's really easy!

what you'll need:
- black eyeliner pencil / stick
- black mascara
- [optional] eyelash curler


1.) wash & dry your face

2.) prime your face with moisturizer

3.) [optional] curl your eyelashes 30 seconds on each eye - just skip this step if you are unfamiliar with an eyelash curler or don't want to buy one.

4.) lightly line your bottom lids. now i have a trick for this. i know it may seem really confusing to put eyeliner on your bottom lids, but look at your eyes in the mirror (without make-up). you see RIGHT under your eyeball, you have this pink space right before your bottom lashes start? it's like the width of your skin. you apply the eyeliner along that crease.

http://tyrashow.warnerbros.com/tips/images/1096_6.jpg

you see where she's applying the white eyeliner? that's where you should put the black eyeliner :]

5.) take the black mascara and apply it on your upper & lower lashes! open your eye, place the wand right under your lashes & close your eyes.

she doesn't seem to have on any eyeshadow, blush, lipgloss or concealer. also, if you are pale & have eyelashes different colors than dark brown or black, i strongly suggest you put black eyeliner on your upper lids as well.

http://www.divabeautyproducts.com/images/eyelinerapply3.jpg
http://www.ehow.com/how_157_apply-eyeliner.html

how to apply liner to your upper lids:
if you're righty, prop your elbows up on a table. take your left hand & pull the outer corners of your left eye and slide the pencil / stick along the top of your eyelashes (make sure they touch! you don't want white skin peaking through). it's harder on the right eye, but same thing, except your arms cross. use your left hand to pull the outer corner of your right eye stretching out the skin for a smooth application and slide the pencil / stick tip along the top of your eyelashes.

please don't hesitate to ask me any more questions :]

in response to feedback:
aww you are suchh a sweetie ♥ :] thanks so much babe. it really means a lot to me!



when i was young (4 years old?) i fell down and hit my head. can my skull be deformed from that? (link)
hey

how hard did you fall? was it on concrete? wood floor? carpet?

depending on all those, it can vary whether your skull can be deformed from that or not.

if you fell on carpet, no, it's probably not deformed. when you are 4 years old, your bones have already strengthened (so it's not soft like a baby's head). if you fell on concrete, it wouldn't be DEFORMED but you may have trouble areas regarding like math or practical thinking (depending again the angle at which you fell, etc.)

if you're worried, you can go to the doctor & get an x-ray. that's the only accurate way unless you feel a bump in your head.



What is clitorial stimulation and how do you get it? (link)
hey

first off, thanks for the inbox question :]

the clitoris is an organ in the female vagina.

location:
http://www.know-library.net/images/thumb/1/1f/199px-20030520015715!Clitoris.jpg

clitoral stimulation is when something is placed on the clitoris & rubbed against it, making a wave of pleasure sweep over a female. females do something called "masturbate" when they touch themselves on their clitoris and experience a contraction of the muscles in the vaginal area called an orgasm.

some females are lucky enough to have boyfriends who they feel comfortable being sexually involved with, and the male touches the clitoral gland & rubs it. some females while masturbating, place a vibrator on the clitoris to experience a faster orgasm.

please don't hestitate to ask me any more questions.





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