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Is it possible to change certain characteristics that you don't like about yourself? Recently there have been things that I've done that I normally wouldn't do that have made me and my bf get into fights. They're little fights, and we always end up resolving them, but in the end I feel like a complete idiot for making such a big deal out of certain things. I want to change the way I react to things, and the way I think about certain things. Do you think that's possible?? Any suggestions?
The only way for you to change something is to understand what's wrong first. First concider if there may be a physical reason. Especially if you just started this. Anytime your body is off balance so are your emotions and thinking. Next, get some couceling. I'm not talking about major psyc couch trip or anything. These people are trained to help you think through problems and lend an ear without dragging your personal dirt all over town. If you choose to go that route, make sure you find a kind of coucelor or therapist that will work for you. There are lots of thought schools about therapy. If you want to talk to someone and just have their acceptance and a few guiding questions to help YOU find your way, see someone in the Jung school. I don't personally think anyone is really screwed up enough to see a Fruedian therapist. Certainly not you, you just need to work through a few things. A Freud coucelor I think would just screw you up. Good luck!
Can birth control give you really really bad mood swings? I started on Ortho tricyclen about three months ago (I'm 19), and recently I've been having really bad mood swings. Could birth control be causing that? Or could it just be outside stress? (which I do have a lot of right now) Any help will be appreciated...I'll rate a 5!
Yes! Talk to your doctor about other brands. I've never had a problem with Triphasal(Plus it has a generic now so it's even cheap.) Different brands have different levels of hormones and other stuff that just aren't right for everyone. Only your doctor can give you a full list of what's available to you and what may work best from your medical history. Good Luck!
my best friend is a guy that i have always kinda had feeelings for. i want to get him a christmas present that shows him i care but doesnt drive him away. he is really important to me and my family, and i want to show him that. if i ruin it ill never live it down, he is truly one of a kind. any suggestions?
Get him something that represents a common interest you two have. Is there a band you both like? The thing is, make it something that will remind him of you without being expensive or super personal. 20-25 dollars should about your limit. Hell, I did it one year for 4 bucks and ended up marrying the guy a few years down the road. (SOO, we're divorced now, but don't let that scare you.) Good Luck!
So, i've been thinking about but not really knowing if... I mean it's not that I want to commit suicide... I guess i'm just depressed and no I don't want to go on medication cause it's not like my brain is screwed up... it's just that I dunno I feel ugly I feel bad and whenever I tell anyone it doesn't seem to be relevant to them... and yes I know by posting this there will be people (stupid) saying that "YA U SHOULD U WORTHLESS PEICE OF ****" and I really don't care cause I probably should... I know that you guys probably don't care whether I live or not cause I mean it'll just mean one less mouth to feed and one more room to fill...
Basically the reason why I am depressed is that cause I'm gay and i've told people but not everyone... and I just want to have someone to be able to love me back and someone to be able to cuddle with on winter's cold... I've tried online chatting (no not AIM) but actual sites that are serious and no respons... I guess it's cause I'm ugly... but I just feel... *sigh*
Oh Sweetheart! First, how your feeling doesn't have anything to do with being straight or gay. Just throw that worry out of your head! I'm straight. I've felt ugly, alone, and occationaly suicidal most of my life, and I know there are people who care about me. Knowing, and being told doesn't really help though. I was never more lonely in my life than when I was married. It's beleiving you're worth being cared about that is important. I still have a problem with it, but I came to my greatest crisis point in college. I found myself driving around after midnight, crying and looking for a place to crash my truck where I knew I'd die. I felt if my parent's thought it was an accident that they wouldn't blame themselves. The only reason I didn't crash that night? My truck. My parents had helped me buy a GMC full size '85 pickup. The thing was an 8 cylinder tank. I couldn't be sure of killing myself in it, and I refused to burden my family with my recovery and medical bills. The next day I called a couceling service. I've taken all the pych tests, all the character indexes, and you know what I found out? That I'm not alone at all. There are soo many of us out there, loney and wanting a friend. Needing someone. And after all the work and selfhatred and feeling worthless and accepting that Prozac truely can be benificial, I have accepted the most important fact of all. I am my friend. I can accept myself. So can you, Sweetie. I've fought depression and lonelyness longer than I can remember, but I'm still here. I will not be broken, and I look forward to tomorrow. You can too, but you must help yourself make the first step. Call someone and make an appointment, keep the appointment. I have never regretted my call. Big Hug, Sweetheart! Stay with us!
um hi. my ex-boyfriend and i broke up last year around june. he lied to me and stuff lik that, so i said dude i dont deserve this, and i walked away. but now that a new skool year has started, he keeps hanging around me and at dances he keeps telling his friends he wants to dance wit me. i dont know what to do because i really liked him and he rilly hurt me and i dont want to be hurt again. he says hes changed and hes sorry, but i still dont know. should i keep my distance? or should i try again?
I hate to set you up for disappointment by telling you to give him another try. There is an old saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." I can say I wouldn't give him another chance. In my experience people do not change, because even if they could they'd just change right back once they didn't need to be different anymore.
I have a project for History Latin America which is due Wednesday this week. I basically have no idea how to start writing it or how even to write a draft.
I've tried everything from using my brain to think of possible ways to do this assignment but I just couldn't do it.
Here's the question pertaining to the Latin America project....
Should we or shouldn't we have a lieutenant governor in New Jersey? Present both sides. Also, the pros and cons of lieutenant governor.
Please reply soon and any help from all of you will be great. Thanks!
consortofvenus is absolutely right, but I can help you make the planning and writing easier. Once you have all your notes together, create an outline of your paper. If you need help getting that off the ground just ask me, I can whip up a few examples. That would take up way to much space here. The basic idea is to organize your thoughts and arguments in a way you won't lose track of as you write. Sentence outlines are easiest for this kind of thing. Start with an overall theme, what point you want to make clear through out your paper. First organize your opening paragraph by listing the points you want to stress in your paper. If there are secondary point you feel need stressing in this portion put them under the and indented below the main point.
Follow the order you set out in your opening paragraph for the rest of the outline and the paper and use your notes to flesh out each section. I hope this helps you. I know it's sketchy, but you can find info on line to help with your outline. I've found this to be the ONLY way for me to create a coherent research paper. Luck! If you need more information I'll be happy to try and help.
I have a party to attend in december, it has a new romantic/early 80s theme, i think its cool but i have a problem, where do i start, what clothes should i go for, for maximum effect, and most importantly, how do i do my make up and hair. Thanks for you help in advance.
FUN! OK. 80's are back in style, but for true 80's stuff go to a thrift store. Plus it's soo much cheaper than a mall. Think Guess sweatshirts, mesh fingerless gloves, big hoop style plasic neon glow earrings, jelly bracelets, pink based eye shadows and lips stick and blush and gold glitter gel. Multi stripe slouch leggings, Oh so much stuff. Watch some VH-1. The 80's was built on cheezy pop music and Aqua-net hairspray. Some good old videos to see for ideas are Madonna's - Like a Virgin, Tiffany (I've forgotten the names of her stuff) I Think We're Alone Now, maybe?, Debbie Gibson - Electric Youth (Plus the purfume by that name is also great, but hard to find). If you can find a video of the series Square Pegs, you'll be set. Have a great time!! I think looking for the stuff will be as fun if not more so than the party!
Ive been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now. The last few months have been a bit rocky, but things were really starting to get alot better, atleast on my end. Not on hers though. She wants to take a break, because shes starting to fall out of love with me. I don't think there is really anything that I can do to change her mind...its all up to her..She says there is a possibility that things will get better, and that she may fall back in love with me, but I dont really know....Is it possible to fall out of love with someone, then fall back in love with them?
Sometimes a relationship can just suffecate a person. She may just need space, she may just need out, and she may just need to run from her own feelings if she thinks things are getting too serious for her. But as for falling out of love... Lots of factors can dim your sight to the love you have for someone. Time and thought and talking out issues can clear those factors and rebuild a flame brighter than before. But if someone has truely fallen out of love you can never get them to love you again. Hopefully your lady just needs some time. Luck and Love!
I am a 16 yr. old female and I have a question to ask you.What sould i do if my best friend has told a total private secert about my childhood and private life that she wasn't suppose to tell anybody?
Well, you can't take the secret back. Ask her why she did it. People do stupid things. I've done a stupid thing like that a time or two and I'd had NO intention of opening my mouth. I still feel rotten even years later when I knew I had no mean thought, or thought period, in my head when the thing slipped out. Like a great friend of mine always says, "Two people can only keep a secret if one of them is dead." I learned that lesson almost 20 years ago, but you two are still young.
Of course if she did it just to hurt you... Drop that b--ch like a hot coal and don't look back.
Im 13 and i don't tihnk im overweight i just have like a little extra "flubber" and i just want to know how to lose it cause then my stomach would be completely flat and i can get my belly button ring.. thanks!
You just need toning exercises. Find an ab video or something that suits your activity level and stay with it. That'll take care of the flubber and make your tummy sexy enough to show off a ring.
There is this guy who i really like and he says that he really likes me to but the weekend he was flirting with my cousin and she told me that he was suppose to get a girl on the go this weekend. After all the shit i have been through with him i am really confused on what to do.What should i do?
He's just not ready for a serious relationship. That's probably not a bad thing for either of you. Relationships like that can be fun and relaxing when you know there is no stress for commitment. Date, be friends, and keep looking around. Don't settle your heart on him, he's not ready for it. In the end you may find someone better. You may end up with a great friendship. Remember, "really like" doesn't mean "I love you madly." It means "I really like you." This could mean you'll just be friends or maybe something more will come of it. Pushing the issue isn't going to solve anything, and could hurt what you do have. Relax. Don't get posessive, and have some fun!
Well here's my situation. My mother was seeing a man for awhile that seemed totally normal, well as time passed he began to become controlling and totally weirded out. He was suppose to be this guy living "the good life" with money ect. ect. Well things started to get weird whenever everytime we were suppose to visit his house the meetings would get "cancelled." After awhile he started to turn my mother against me. He convinced her that I was a hell raising child who needed to be locked up, and I needed help because I was "Ill in the head." All of this was far from the truth. Anyways, to make an extremely long story short, we found out he's not who he says he is, and he has a major criminal record, just got off parole for MURDER. He has an obsession over me (For God only knows what reason) and now the police are after him and he dissapeard before they got the oppurtunity to arrest them. This has brought so much strain on our family. My mom is constantly drinking, and I just can't look at her the same after the things she did to me because this psycho told her to. I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas as to what to do in this situation. I want things to be better in our house-hold after this, but I have no idea where to start to mend it back together. Sorry it's so long, thanks for the help.
I agree with the others. You and your mother need serious professional help. To make you feel a little better, probly not but it's worth a try, confidence men(he's a classic) have this weird ability to make perfectly rational people think and do crazy things. They seem to know just where a person is weakest and dig until they can work it to their advantage. His obsession with you is because you didn't buy his line. It's kind of an ego thing, plus it made you dangerous to his plans. (Whatever they were.) The kind of pyscological damage he caused to your mother needs immediate attention to help her heal. Family couceling will help your relationship with her only after she has reached some peace with herself but the couceling should go hand in hand with her treatment. I've felt the power of a true master at the game, but luckily he didn't want anything from me and my parents kept me far from his influence. They know what he is, and the only reason he ever came close to me in the first place was because he's family. Kinda hard to accept your uncle is a creep of the first order, but everyone has a black sheep in the family I guess. Luck!
ok i have 4 dogs:
-Irish Setter
-Golden Retreiver
-Beagel
-Yorkie
And I have 3 cats:
-Siamese
-Sphynx
-Pursian
I need ALL different kinds of toys for these pets! just 1 toy wont be enough they all fight over it! Do any of yall know ne good cat & dog toys??? in need of help b4 pets go boring and sad!
Blue_Fusion
Hell, my dogs like the cat toys. Of course I have Pomeranians and they are more cat than dog anyway. The only Irish Setter I knew was dumb as dirt and only wanted to chase cars, even parked ones. (I hope Sunny was an exception and other IrS are smart. Boy she was dumb.) Goldens are easy...dumbells for retrieving training. My aunt's girls tote them around everywhere. And a baby pool. They love splashing around. Beagel, balls also the Yorkie. Put a tennis ball in an old tube sock and they'll be happy for hours. Plus the Yorkie will enjoy stealing eveyone else's toys and putting them in her/his bed. Also you can plant a flower garden. Your terrier will love pulling up every bulb and plant and strowing them through the yard.(I've had many terriers, my parents currently have a Yorkie.)
Cats...love cats. Siamese love anything shiny, and plastic screw-on bottle caps. My 16lb Siamese boy steals any bottle cap he can get a paw on. I don't know any special thing for a Sphynx, but Persians love the rubber plastic material used on portable phones antenne. Something about that makes them nuts. General cat toys: There is a thing called a honeysuckle, it's a piece of flannel like material that's been treated with something that cats love. You can get them at a pet store. Also, sticks. You know the plastic sticks that have feathers on the ends. Forget the feather end, just use the stick part. They love that. THen there is the wire, it's a piece of wire that has raffia twisted into the ends. When you wiggle it the cats go crazy trying to catch the thing. Last but not least, moths. Let in a moth every once in a while. Cheap and keeps the critters and you entertained. Have fun!
well i weigh like 230 and im only 14 and i want to lose weight b4 high school cause of the formal plus i want to lose weight b4 my prom and prom is probably gonna b n may..well i need sum tips and stuff on how i can lose weight and how to eat right cause i have a eatn disorder to..i want to get over it..It Is driving me crazy. i want to get my belly button periced and stuff and wear a 2 peice during the summer and wear lil clothes not be fat
Sweetheart, at your age you need to see a doctor about your weight. You are still growing and any fad diet crap will ruin your health. Only hard work and a lifestyle change will actually work for any long term weight loss, but at your age it is crucial that you loss weight under medical supervision. Talk to your parents and tell them you need help. I've been in your shoes. It only gets harder as the years pass. Hugs! Good Luck!
okay, i dont like my friend that much any more and she is really sensitive... i dont want to be friends with her any more and she ALWAYS hangs around me. What do i do? Signed rebekah.
Well, at least you care enough about her not to want to hurt her feelings. Fact is though, you're being suffacated. Much as you don't want to do it, you need to tell the girl the truth. I watched a friend of mine go through your situation. She didn't know what to do, so instead of talking to the girl and telling her... J ended up sneaking out of the dorm and not returning messages and having me lie and say she wasn't in my room when our friend called looking for her. I lost a good friend by helping (E was suffacating J not me). What you are is tired. This could turn out soo ugly if you aren't just upfront and honest. It's not going to pretty anyway. Luck!
In june i got in a car accident where my friend rear-ended some1...and i ended up with a spranged knee and a neck brace..well now whenever some1 gets like close to a car i start to freak out and like lose my breath...is that ok? because it was in june and its now november
It's perfectly normal, and everyone has a different time frame to heal from such traumas. However, if this is causing you to avoid things that mean you need to get in a car, you should seek some counceling services. Some people have a tougher time getting over certain things than others. There is nothing wrong with asking for a little help. If you let the problem go on too long you could develop a serious phobia that rules your life. Luck!
Hey.. ok I got a lil problem! See.. there's this guy & I really like him but he's already told me that he dont want a g/f right now. Ok.. I was cool with that.. then 1 day he asks me if i would fuck him. I'm like huh? (I'm 14 btw.. he's 16) He's like let's fuck.. ok well I was like umm.. I dont really wanna do that right now but I was really flirty with it like I was playing hard 2 get.. which I kinda was but see.. now EVERYBODY knows that we might do something & he keeps bugging me about it but I still kinda like him.. what should I do?
TEll him even if YOU agreed you're parents would nail him for statutory rape. How does he feel about juvy, and a recaord that will keep out of good schools and any non burger sling job for the rest of his life? They may seal juvy records, but he'll still be on some bad lists. For you to think about: A sixteen year old boy doesn't have the experience to make sex good enough to be worth the risks to you. At 14 your body isn't ready, he'd really mess you up. He finds you attractive, but he's too stupid and self-centered to know what he's asking. A selfish lover at your age can cause untold damage and pain (physical and mental). You're instincts on this seem good, but don't be so worried about loosing his interest. From what you've described of the situation, he'd stop talking to you after the deed anyway. Good luck, Sweetie!
Ok I got dumped by my boyfriend and he started being nasty to me then we made friends and we're both over eachother now he's going out with his other ex and It didn't bother me at first but on friday we were swimming at school and they were really flirting with eachother and holding hands I felt a jelious but I thought I was over him so now I'm really confused because I don't know if I still like him but whenever I see him I just keep looking at him and thinking why did he dump me because he never told me why and I still wonder why if you can help me then please tell me what to do?
You aren't necessarily jelouse over him and her. One of the toughest parts of getting over a relationship is missing the closeness and attention of a partner. Being held and petted is awesome and watching someone who used to do that to you with someone else brings back those memories hard. Your body knows what it's missing. This kind of jelousy has nothing to do with feelings of love or being "over" a guy. It is human to miss those things and want them. Don't sweat it. You are over him, but you still have needs. It just means you're normal.
ok there is this boy that i really like and he gave me my first kiss.And when-ever he was in trouble i was there to help him. Also his dad hit him alot and one day he and his dad were fighting real bad. Then his mom and his dad left. so he called around looking for me. i know this because all my friends started calling to to tell me that he is looking for me.we finally got to talk he asked me to come over asap. so i dropped everything and went to his house. i thought it was an emergency so i ran. it usually takes me 25min to get to his house but this time it took me only 15.min. but i got there he answered the door(he had a big mark on his face)(from his dad) and looked at me i helded his face and asked him what happened and he told me.i gave him a really big hug and i kissed his bruse.But my question is now he wont talk to me. But he tells all my friends that im the ONE for him but he continues not to talk to me and he ALSO has a girlfriend Please help me...... i beg you.... thank you!!!!
Ohhhh by the way not only does he tell my friends that im the ONE for him he brages that im a great kisser!please help me!i rate high....(16-FEMALE)
Boy's are weird. From my own experience in this arena, he needs you, but he also wants to protect you. He's in a no win situation, but then so are you. HE needs to get out of his parent's house, and he's probably waiting to go off to college or something to escape them. (Bet he's looking into military.) The girlfriend thing is a neat twist, he probably doesn't want to break up with her and hurt her, but it's you he calls when he needs someone he can trust. I bet that kiss knocked him on his ass. It meant you care about him, much more than a kiss on the lips would have shown him. He's running scared in more ways than three. He won't talk about it, unless I miss my guess, until he has can control his emotions around you. You two are in for a long hard road, but things can get better. If he can get some help with the family situation and serious coucling he may turn out alright. I been in a similar relationship, good luck!!
Hey. Alright, this guy really likes me and no one has ever liked me like that before..people keep telling me to go out with him because he likes me and even if i dont like him, i should just "settle." Well, yea, um, i don't think thats right and im curious what your opinions are on that. Plus i really like this other guy but it would never work out for different reasons, and the guy thats likes me is sort of experienced and im..not..i want to save all my firsts for someone i really like. Should i just settle for the guy who likes me? Is it stupid to wait for someone i really like?
Don't settle. If you do you won't be free for the right person. You'll end up hating yourself and the person you settled for. Bitterness builds up fast in a "settle" relationship. It can really twist your soul in knots. However, this does not mean you can't go out with someone just to have fun and hang out. Could be it is the right one and you just didn't notice it. Love at first sight isn't the only way to find true happiness. Live your life, have fun, but don't settle! Luck and Love!