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Q: well there is this boy n i rele like him n his mom always invites me over if im homealone n she is all nicce to me but when iget to there house i never no what to say to him i lose my breath rele easy if im talkin to him n i have to take rell rele deep breaths n well he is kinda a butt hole to me n i think i have a crush on him but he always picks on me like if he dosnt agree w. some thing i say he is like shut up ur stupid is that a sign he likes me or is he jsut being stupid??

i rate rele good!!

That is kind of hard. I know people always say, if someone picks on you, they may like you. That happened to me before. You would KNOW if you had a crush on him. If he is rude and mean when he says your stupid and stuff, he may not like you. But if he is just joking,it's a start of a new adventure! Rate me please! Good Luck!
xoxo, Maris

Q: ok i have this problem and it stinks i cant FIND A CHEEP DIRTBIKE!!!!

well, i think yo'll have to work for $2000. I know you can't find a cheap one, but that's okay. Rate me!
xoxo, Maris

Q: a dirtbike

Well, work for it hunn......

Q: and body have 2000$ i can have

Why do you need $2000?
xoxo, Maris

Q: wut up with the realashonship problems can no1 keep a boyfriend or girlfriend

Yes you can keep a b/f or g/f. Just make sure you are going with the right person. I hope I answered ur question... I was a lil confused. Ask me anything else... Rate me please!
xoxo, Maris

Q: For the past few months, I have had a very uncomfortable pain around my tailbone.

It's mostly when I'm sitting a certain way. And I'm not entirely sure why and when it started but it bothers me.

I'm afraid this could mean something awful. My uncle told me that it could be cancer and, although he was 'joking', I was scared. What if it is?

Anyways. I'm afraid to go to a Doctor because I'm very uncomfortable with people touching me and, of course, he'll have to see my...butt. (Yes, I said butt...XD) Anyways...It makes me really uncomfortable to have someone, even a professional, touch me. But I'm afraid that if I don't go to the doctor, and it's something serious, I'll end up getting really sick and/or dying.

Thank you, in advance, for your help. This may seem silly, I know. I understand that I will get a lot of 'Just go to the freaken doctor, dumbass' but...it's really not quite that simple.

Thanks, again.

Ok, I know what's up. I had a boy doctor until I was in 5th grade. I was grossed out it was a man!! Anyway, you have to get checked out! You don't have a choice! Ask your parent/guardian to maybe change (if u have a man doctor) to a girl. I hope you're okay! Rate me please!
xoxo, Maris

Q: wut kind of dirtbike should i get?

Joe, shut up about dirt bikes!!!!!!!! I don't answer that stuff!!!!

Q: I have a long time friend who has turned.....slutty. She doesn't think anything that she is doing is wrong at all. How do I get her back to well.....her? What do I say or do?

Tell her what she as turned into. If she gets mad, her loss. I know what you are feeling right now. You need to tell her the truth. Hope I helped! PLease rate me!
xoxo, Maris

Q: Is it considered "dorky" to roll jeans that are a little short into capris? or should I just cut them? Thanks

I don't think so. Or cut them a bit. Then role them... once! Sew um up and u got soem really kewl capris! Rate me ! Hope I helped!!
xoxo, Maris

Q: Ok im 13 and ive never made out wit a guy (ima gurl) and my best friend always does things b4 meh and she just made out wit sum1 and now i feel like a loner. wat do i do

Don't go with her! That's too young. Unless you really really really like that guy. Or, figure out something that your friend hasn't done yet and do that. Hope I helped! Rate me please!
xoxo, Maris

Q: I just broke up with a longtime boyfriend. He didn't seem to care at all. How do I deal? What do I do to keep my mind from straying his way?

That's a tuffy... if it's possible try getting back with him. If that doesn't help try getting another b/f. Hope I helped! Rate me!
xoxo, Maris

Q: xoMarisox - I got in a fight w/ my boyfriend ... we borke up! :( Well.. I got so D**N mad @ him i bet him $50 that he cud neva get anotha girl --- well on Saturday... a saw him @ da mall ... w/ the cheerleadin captain .. the most butiful, sexi, and not to mention frikkin rude girl in the skool!!!!!!!!!!! How do i get him bak... and avoid havin 2 pay up? I rate high... so gimmie a good answer! PLEEEZ ... I NEED HELP!!

go find another b/f. i real sexi b/f who is really popular. shove it bac in his face. make him jelious. dont go bac wit him he just wants a g/f... i mean he already has another when u guys just broke up!!!! hope i heliped... sry i didnt get bac 2 u sooner... i was away!!!! hope i helped, good luck!
xoxo, maris

Q: iight...i'm dateing this guy that i love more than anything...but now i feel like he doesn't want me! well i wanna break up...but then i don't bC i love him....and then i wanna get back w/ my ex but my mom told me that i couldn't..i'm jst stuck and confused and things are going right and i jst don't know wat to do!?

First, calm down. Ask your current b/f if he still loves you. If he says no, dump him. I know it's hard to go back with an ex. I think you should. If you two still truly love eachother go on and do it! Good luck! Rate me! xoxo, Maris

Q: i rly need a boyfriend but i dont have the guts to tell ne one that i like them...please help

I know it's hard. If your too worried you may not be ready yet. Just think if you can't tell anyone just think what it would be like to be in a relationship. Drop 1 in my inbox again for any questions! xoMarisox. good luck! Hope I helped! xoxo, Maris

Q: ok, i think my b/f is cheating on me! the otha day my best friend saw him makin out wit another girl. shoudl i dump him? i really love him though. i dunno if my friend is lyin cuz she dont hav a b/f. wat should i do? please help!

This happens a lot! I have a feeling your friend may be lying but hey, I don't want to jump to conclusions. Tell your b/f that YOU saw him with another girl. See what he says. He won't lie to you if you say you saw him. I'm really sorry about your prob. Hope I helped. Good luck. If you have any more prob. come to me! xoxo, Maris

Q: my foster kitten is a biter! ahh!! he does not know what to do with himself if he is not biting something..including me! What can i do to stop him from doing this?

Try to train him. Cats are harder then dogs but just try. If that doesn't help I would give him up. Or go somepleace where a vet like person could poss. tell you whats wrong!

Q: well i have had many boyfriends in the past but they all have been behind my parents back because if i tell them they r gonna begin with (this is them)"ur gonna get pregnent mess up ur future not get a job!!!" and so on but im not cause i respect myself and know when things go to far and i dont like the idea of being with a boi behind my parents back anymore and i wanna tell them now but i dont know how without them acting all mad and crazy.so any ideas ppl?

Usually with boys I like to bring it up with my mom. I know how you feel so maybe if your parents saw you with a boy or know that you call or IM him they would start to relize that you are growing up and are mature enough for this situation. Or go up to your mom or dad and say: "Hey Joe Shmo wants to know if I could go to the movies with him? I'll be back by ___. See what they say. Hope I helped! Good luck! xoxo,Maris

Q: Hey, I was just ouside sitting in the rain and my brother saw me. He was yelling, "Get the fuck inside Jenny," and getting really mad at me. He thought I was going to kill my self and told everyone to lock the doors so I dont go back out. I feel VERY hurt because my family makes me feel like something is wrong with me. Do you think it is bad to go outside, and just sit in the rain??? Please somone awnser my question. My family makes me feel like I'm crazy, and I'm not sure if I'm not any more.

You should really bring it up with your family. Tell them how you feel and that you don't like being treated this way. Or bring it up with the one person from your family who you are closes to. They can spread the word around. It wasn't nice what your bro. said to you, but you shoudn't be treated that way, Hope I helped! Good luck! xoxo, Maris

Q: Hi everyone...I hope yo all can help me. I am looking for things to do with my Boyfriend that are sweet and romantic, but cost next to nothing. I am up for almost anything, any sugestions would be great. Thanks a Bunch ! xoxoxoxoxox Christin

Go take a nice walk in the park. Bring a blanket to sit on. Talk to him, love him. It's sweet, but very romantic. He'll prob. love it! Hope I helped! Good luck! xoxo, Maris

Q: ive liked this guy for ova a year on and off. He now my best friend and he nos i like him. Ive tried asking him out but he always says no that he doesnt like meh like that and wouldnt want to ruin our realationship. Me and a couple of my girl friends think its bc i wouldnt do much of nethin with him besides makeout. Wat could i do to change his mind?

Hunn, that's simple!!!! Act sexy around him! Try to stael him back. If it doesn't work after about 2-3 weeks, drop him and grab some one else. You should only have a b/f if you LOVE him, not just to make out!!! Hope I helped, good luck! xoxo, Maris

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Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts