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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles.


I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!


I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.

I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.


I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.


I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!




♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥

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hey..i wanted to know if anyone new any cool online games to play..anything at all..thanx byebye

www.slingo.com

www.freearcade.com



www.slingo.com is soooo much fun; i recommend that!!

hope i helped:)

*aSh*

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When I am embarrased or telling a slight fib, (or maybe a bigger fib hehe) I blush! My face turns all red! For example, if someone says "Do you like Josh" and I say "no" (When really I mean yes) I blush, and you can tell I'm lying because I blush! Or when I embarrass myself, like say I fall, but try to make it seem like it didn't bothe me. You can always tell it bothers me b/c I blush! Blushing is soooo embarrasing!! Any tips on how to stop the blushing? (Or is it not possible?)
Signed,
Bashful

To blush is a normal healthy physiological response. The problems seem to occur when this blushing reponse creates feelings of anxiety which in turn fuels the blushing which in turn fuels the anxiety etc. Also, some people blush much more than others, having built, unwittingly, 'conditioned reflexes' over the years. Sometimes the blushing is situational, at times for example, when the person has to speak in front of groups of others, sometimes a person will often blush even with just their immediate family.

Blushing is involuntary and unfortunately not much can be done to control it. It’s embarrassing but you’re not the only one who blushes. All people do, only some of us hide it better than others due to our complexions. Fair skinned people are more likely to overtly display their blushing due to their coloring.

Often blushing is linked with shyness and embarrassment in our minds. Blushing may in fact be due to that and you can try counteracting it by confronting these associations. You may want to try relaxation techniques and visualization techniques of yourself not blushing. If you experience something like raising your hand in class without being self-conscious you can, perhaps stop blushing. If you see yourself blushing in your mind, why can’t you see yourself not blushing? Are there factors that influence your blushing?

It may take time for your blushing to go away. Some individuals grow out of it and others sometimes retain the trait. Since you are truly concerned, FX recommends seeing your doctor and maybe a therapist. A therapist may be able to help you confront emotional situations that trigger blushing and help you realistically assess how others perceive you. If you are able to overcome the anxiety that triggers blushing, its frequency and intensity will decrease and you will be able to function in settings that were previously threatening. If you continue to struggle, a therapist could work with a doctor who could assess whether medication would be beneficial.

Discuss the situation with your mom and explain the extent of your blushing. Let her know that you want to see a doctor and a therapist. Show her this question and answer and maybe that will let her know how serious you take this issue. If you discuss it with her in a calm and logical manner she will see your point of view. Check out Serious Blushing for more info.

If you need a therapist and live in northern New Jersey you can call the Access Center at Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888.247.1400 for an appointment. If you live in northern New Jersey and would like help finding a doctor you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973.971.6475.



hope i helped !!:) good luck!!

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I find myself really attracted to gay guys. They are very cute and a lot of them are so sweet! And they're funny and fun to be around! Is this abnormal? Since they are feminine, does this make me not straight? Can someone please help me??!!?!

No it doesnt mean you're not straight...it looks to me that you like them better bc you can relate to them bc your a girl, and they act feminime, so you feel more comfortable around them and have more fun as if you were with a girlfriend!!

hope i helped/get back to me to talk if you need more help.

*aSh*

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ok well tonight me and a close friend got into a fight. well you see we were talking on the internet and he started saying all this shit. and it was really pissing me off. and he lied to me to about his friends not being at his house. and now i dont want to talk to him cuz of something he said that really made me bad. and now hes all like well im sry its just that i was caught up in the moment and everything. and that hes there if he wants to talk. but i dont want to talk to him. cuz he said somethings that really pissed me off....what should i do?!?!..i have always forgiven him and been friends with him...and now its like...hes always or just wants to piss me off....help....
P.S.i rate good

I think that maybe he really WAS caught up the fight but you have to let him know that he can't keep doing that to you and you're not going to fall for it next time. I think you should forgive him but stay distant from him ..more than you usally have for just a few days or so just so he gets the picture that he hurt you and then he might realize that he shouldn't do it again.

hope i helped:) good luck:)

*aSh*

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My friend is going crazy because she tried to have mad hot lezibian sex with what should i do??? Help...should i do it or not the next time i see her?

If you want to, then do it. If not, then don't. Simple as that. Don't do nething just bc someone else wants you to do it. Do what makes you happy!!

hope i helped/need more help, inbox me.

good luck:)

xashx

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ok... Me and my Ex-boyfriend Drew Broke up a while ago and he said he still liked me kinda and now he is going out with one of my old friends. I really want to still be friends with him and he is going to my school and I have lunch and homerome i think with him. But his girlfriend is going to another school! There is no way I can deal with that pressure... So I guess I am kinda askin 2 ?'s. How do I get my feeling out of the way? and how do I get him to be able to be my friend? Thanks! :( :)

.:*Erika*:.

You cant erase feelings bc if your feeling a certain thing, then theres a reason for it. Also, you need to talk to him and explain to him that you really want to remain friends. If he's any type of guy, he'll understand. hope i helped/get back to me!!:) good luck

*ash*

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Here lately, my boobs have been hurting REALLY bad. Like in skool and volleyball practice when i run they REALLY hurt. I have had unprotected sex before, so could this mean im pregnant or something? I mean, it hasnt even been a month since i had sex last, so would i be able to tell yet or still have to wait. or will ur boobs hurt when u get pregnant?

Please help!! Im only 14 by the way..

Tender nipples can be an early sign of pregnancy, and if you have not yet missed a period, it may be too early for a home pregnancy test to detect the pregnancy hormone. Tender breasts can also occur right before periods, especially if you are on birth control pills or take a lot of caffeine. Your tender nipples could also have a very simple and mundane explanation -- friction from rubbing on your clothing.

Painful breasts could also mean breast cancer, so see your doctor immediately!!

hope i helped!! lemme kno how it workz out!! good luck sweetyy..

*aSh*


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Wow, usually I give advice, not get it. Oh well. Lately, in the mornings, I've been getting really bad charly-horses, in my mid-calves. You know what a charly horse is, right? Yeah, it's like a major muscle cramp, and it hurts RELALY bad. They last for like a minute and a half, and I can rub my leg and it feels better, but I don't know. Is there any excersises or anything I can do to help that?

You need some minerals. eat a couple bananas every day for a few days for Potassium. Drink lots of milk for calcium and Vitamin D. Spend more time in the sun to get more Vitamin D. And, also, when you get these charlie horses, take Ibrubrofen 600ml....you'll have to get em from the doctors office..


hope i helped:)

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okay..i want to get a puppy but ive never had any animal before except a fish and i hated it so i let it die, anyways i have no idea how to take care of a puppy cuz i wanna get it when its little but i dont want it going to the bathroom all in the house but what do i do in the winter? but the real ? here is what type of dog should i get, i want a really cute one, i did want a little weiner dog but i dont know, i know that i want a really little dog but chiwawas are mean and yappers so what should i get? and also what would be some really cute names with that dog? i would get a girl one of whatever help! (and dont tell me ugly dogs and no poodles)

I looked it up online for you and this is what i came up with, these dogs are fairly small and are really cute!!
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Bichon Frise

Dachshund

Jack Russell Terrier

Welsh Corgi

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and here is some information concering this issue also:

Selecting a Dog Name-
They say that the name you choose for your dog says as much about you as it does about your four legged friend.

If you plan to use your dog as a therapy dog, for search & rescue or the with the public be very careful of the name you choose. A seniour or a child might be a bit scared around around a dog called Fang, Brutus or Cujo.

Just in case you were wondering, the most popular puppy name in the USA is Max. This name was also used for the dog in the televsion show "Bionic Woman".

Popular Dog Names -
Amazon, Ambrosia, Apache, Aquarius , Babe, Baccarat, Badger, Banshee, Beethoven, Benji, Bodacious, Brittany, Casey, Clementine

Dakota, Durango, Einstein, Elvis, Felix, Fuzzie, Gatsby,Gizmo, Gumby, Hawkeye, Hershey, Hudson, Indiana, Jasmine, Kibbles, Kosmo, Liberty, Lisbon, Remington

Serendipity, Shenanigans, Snooper, Sparrow, Stetson, Tizzy, Tsunami, Urchin, Valentino, Vixen, Wiggles Wrigley, Xanadu, Yoda, Zeppo



the site is www.thepetprofessor.com


hope this helped!!!:)

get at me if you need anything else .. *aSh*

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this is yet another odd question, but i am very hairy down there, and i dont wanna shave my head and die my scalp green. i mean, its not just you know, the hair in the V - area, i mean like. hair growing outta my buttcrack!! EWW!! Its horrible!!!!!!!! and when i shave a break out, and when i wax, i break out, and when i remove hair with a deliprattieuittrieforty, i break out. help me and i will love you forever.

Maybe you can sees a doctor and he can prescribe you things for it or maybe you can get it lazer removed...or maybe after you shave it, you just need to put a lotion or such on it!! search around for the best lotion and you'll prolly find something that helps the irritation!!

hope i helped!!
need more help?? feel free to ask..

pLz rate mee.

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i have my own advice column on here but how do you get people to respond to it?

my username is "beatlovedown".
and my name is anna. if you can help me. i'd really love that.
thanks.

Yes, people will respond to it if they need your personal help. They can see your name int he Browse Columnists list and they might like how you answered other pplz questions and then ask you a question personally in your inbox.

hope i helped:) get back to me if you need anything else

*aSh*

gOod lUck !!

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my moms boyfriend molested me.. and im really scarred for life!! i told my mom about it.. but she thinks its fine and that it happens to alot of girls.. she doesnt understand how freaked out i was and AM! i think we should go to therapy but i dont no how that would help.. what should i do?

I hate to say this but your mom is WRONG and in NO way right!! this doesnt happen to many girl at all !!! this is something serious and you NEED to tell somebody now!! the cops, another adult, anybody that can help! plz!!

lemme kno how it workz out plz..im worried for you. thnx.

*aSh*

need to talk more, inbox me plz

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if you make-out with someone you like, but you arent dating them, does that make you a slut??

not if your not getting with 5 other guys on the side!! one guy at a time!! no rush!!

plz rate meee

ashh*

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wen i have my period im not really aloud to take a pill but my stomach always hurts alot wut can i do?!?! wif school n everything i dont wunna go wif muh stomach hurtin!!

Are you talking about having cramps??

If so, the ONLY thing that works for me because pills dont really work is a heating pad..lay down with a heating pad on your stomach until the pain goes away..usually works in about 20 mins or so.

It is SOOO relaxing.

and wen yur at school and you get the pain, you can go to the nurses and ask for a heating pad and he/she will let you lay down with a heating pad..i do it ALL the time!!


hope this helped:)
lemme kno how it works:)
get back at me if yu need more help

plz rate me!!

*ash*

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It's allergy season and my nose won't stop running, and I can't stop sneezing! I am thinking of getting a nose spray, but have never used one because I am always scared it might hurt. Can anyone recommend something?

Nose sprays dont hurt ONE bit!! I use one everyday and it just feels like water spraying in your nose!! If anything, it feels relieving and good!!

get back to me if you need more help:)
hope i helped..dont worry..it doesnt hurt ONE bit!!!!!

*aSh*


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im 13 and in 8th grade and im 5'3...but i like someone thats 12 in 7th grade and is 4'7. i think he's gonna ask me out, but idk what to say cuz hes so short and younger than me....help! (i like him too but...)

You like him too but ...what???

If you like him, thats all that matters.

Who cares wut everyone else sayz?? after all, theyre not the ones living yur life for yu...only yu have to make yur decisions, bc yur the only one in yur shoes, living yur life...

need more help? feel free to get back to me..

hope i helped:)

lemme kno how it workz out!!

Plz rate me!!!!

*asH*

gOod lUck hUnniE!!

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i was wondering, can you buy diet pills @ like a cvs or do you have to be 18? thanks i'll rate.

I'm pretty sure you have to be 18 to buy them. Diet pills are very dangerous and if you're under 18, please be careful. There's a reason they are only for ppl 18 and older...because under 18 your body isn't fully developed yet to handle those sort of things.

need more help? feel free to get back to me.

hope i helped:)

pLz rate!! thnx:)

*asH*

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Hey..
I like this guy n i think he likes me too. Im scared to ask him out cuz my friends will maybe b mad at me well i hope it will all work out and im really scared..thank u!

If your friends will be mad at you for asking him out, think about it. He might be a bad guy for you. Maybe they're worried that he'll hurt you and maybe there's good reason behind them getting mad!!

If you cant think of ANY reason for them getting mad, then go for it. If there your friends, they will stick by you.

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Some times my pubic hairs kinda hurt when i pull them, so i yank them out and they have this sort weird sticky white thing on the end. after i pull them out it doesnt hurt there any more. this happens every once in a while and i yank em because if i dont it hurts to touch there. anyone know waht these are? i call them evil hairs.

OWCH!!! DONT PULL THEM EVER !!! That will cause soo much more chance of an infection!! You should try shaving or waxing the hairs. They might be ingrown hairs but look it up online cuz you will find the answer if you search online. Try www.google.com and type it in.

hope i helped :)

lemme kno how it workz out!!

need more help?? feel free to write to me.

*aSh*

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my friend pat just told me my friend jessica hates me. she hates me cuz i told pat something she did while she was sleeping over my house. well pat says she was so mad she was swearing and stuff. i feel really bad and want to call and say sorry but pat says she will probably yell at me and hang up. whenever jessica and i have fights they are usually easily resolved, and im hoping pat is exaggerating, he does a lot. im mad that pat told jessica he knew, but i know im mostly to blame. so what should i do now? please help me, i hate losing friends :(

everything will work out. Just call jessica up and explain to her gently and nicely why you told pat what she did while sleeping at your house. Since it is your fault, if she is mad at you for a few more days or whatever, just deal with it. But, don't start fighting with her on the phone or anything bc she has a rite to be mad at you.

need more help?? write to me.

hope i helped:) good luck..lemme kno how it workz out..

*aSh*

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