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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

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So I had a miscairage 3months ago and I want to get pregnant!!! Im 15 and need tips on how to conceive. Thnx (:

i'm sorry to hear that you had a miscarraige, but think about this .. you're ONLY 15 and you have your whole life ahead of you. a baby is going to ruin that .. and im not saying that you should never have a baby, im just saying that you need to wait until your older. no one here on this site is going to help a 15 year old with ways to concieve, because we want you to live your life to the fullest.
I really hope you choose to not go through with this and REALLY think about this decison. at 15, your body isnt mature enough to handle a pregnancy, and complications with giving birth to a child may occur. You also are so young, that the baby may have complications when it comes out.. or it may not even survive.. so please, think about this.
i hope you wait. good luck ! i knwo this wasnt what you wanted to hear. xxo.

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ok so i met this girl this past summer she was in a two year relationship with a guy and he cheated on her and she found out and she was completely crushed and heartbroken she loved him so much he was her first and everything but anyway i met her on myspace she friend requested me and i looked at her photos and commented one saying she was pretty and she commented me back saying awww thanks and that's where it all started we were just friends for a while she was talking to my best friend and they dated for about a week and things started to fade for them and i started to like her during all this because we talked pretty much every day and so then one day i told her and she said she was nothing special but i told her you're very special to me and so then we started talking and then i told my best friend we were and he got really mad and we got in this huge fight that lasted for about 2 months but it settled down and we became friends again but back to this... she would thank me every day for helping her and being there for her after her ex and she told me she never wanted to lose me and i definitely didn't want to either that whole summer we talked i sent her goodmorning texts every morning and still do she loves it but that whole summer we never got to see each other which was rough on us she lives 35 minutes away from me but after 4 months of waiting to finally meet her it happened she cheerleads and i showed up to one of her games as a surprise it took me a while to find her she texted me telling me that they won and i replied by telling her i was there she didn't believe but i told her where i was and she found me i don't think i ever smiled so much in my life she was so beautiful even they she disagrees with me on that but she was we did more hugging than talking it was just awesome and from there on out i went to every home game she had everything was just perfect i hadn't been that happy in 2 years as months passed things changed the week before christmas i got to see her and i gave her, her present i got her titanic her favorite movie and we just chilled for a while and then as i had to go we hugged and i went in for a kiss and she turned away so i just kissed her on the cheek later i texted her asking why she wouldn't kiss me and she said she had a lot going on so i just left it alone a couple of days later i asked what was going on and she told me she was thinking about a lot and she said she didn't wanna talk about it so i again i just left it alone and then finally 2 days after christmas i asked her if she still liked me and she told that she thinks its better that we're just friends i didn't know what to do or what to say i had been through this many times before but this time it was different it hit me hard i cried in the shower that night for about 20 minutes eventually i settled down two days later she texts me asking me if i was alright and then she told me that she was sorry and that i was the most amazing boy she had ever met and to stay that way and she said she couldn't imagine life without me so things got a little better but i still feel a little pain i still really like her and have feelings for her and here lately from what i sense and see i think she still has feelings for me or at least i like to think that but she doesn't seem the same ever since she just wanted to be friends we never dated we just talked for a really long time because she wasn't ready for a relationship yet and i told her i'd wait for until she was ready but i just wanna know if she still has feelings i just can't stop thinking about her i wanna know

i once was that girl.. and i had the same reason as her "alot on my mind.. and alot going on"
.. she wasnt lying when she told you that, I know that for certain and I know that she didnt want to hurt your feelings by telling you that she thought it would be best to be just friends right now. in my situation, it had been less than a month after my ex boyfriend and I broke up, we were friends for 5 years and I just wasnt ready. I had alot on my mind, and family stuff going on and when my guy friend asked me out.. i said itd be better if we stayed friends for a little. but now, me and my "guy friend" have been in a relationship for 7 months :] like, you have to wait it out. just be there for her and keep talking to her. I think there is a very good chance that she DOES have feelings for you, she just donesnt want to drag you into a relationship with her when she has a lot going on.
From what you've told me, she likes you. and she needs you as a friend right now, more than anything. like the saying goes.. "love is friendship set on fire" if you stay her friend, i can guarentee you that later on, things will work out in your favor. just be there for her. listen to her. and follow her lead, then when you think she might be ready, start hanging out with her more and bring up being in a relationship with her. see her reaction, but be PATIENT. patience is key.
just be you :] and giver her time. good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. itll work outt. dont worry.

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Next month, our school is having its version of a Sadie Hawkins dance, where the girls ask the guys.

The guy I'm planning on asking is one of my good friends and I like him, and I think there's a pretty good chance that he also likes me back. I'm a year ahead of him in school but that's not really important.

Anyway, this is the way I might ask him and I was just looking for some opinions before I go ahead and do it.

I have a small jar/bowl about the size of a bowl you would use for a beta fish. I tied ribbon around the rim and inside, I filled it with origami lucky stars.

I'm going to put a note with it saying:
"These are origami lucky stars; a jar of them is supposed to bring good luck.
They've already done this for you: you're getting asked to Winter Karnival. I was hoping that maybe they'd bring me some next and that you would say yes to going with me."

I might also put stickers on the outside of the bowl that spell out the name of our dance.

If I don't do the note, I would put the stickers on some of the stars and have him find the ones with stickers and unscramble them, but I personally like the note idea better.

Anyway, any opinions on this would be helpful. (: My plan isn't set in stone yet, so chances can be made.

Thanks in advance!

thats SUCH a good idea ! really creative. and you'll have the courage to do it, so don't even worry about that. he'll think it was so cool of you to put that much thought into it.. any guy would appreciate it :] im sure he'll say yes !
good luck ! have fun ! xxo.

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i am in depression and i feel hopeless. i've tried to fix myself but can anyone tell me optimistic or positive or happy quotes or things to do, anything like that??

i have alot of quotes :] and i think i may have some that will help you..

- Though you may be under a dark tree, always look for the light shining through the branches.

- Fall seven times, stand up eight. : Japanese proverb

- Remember sadness is always temporary. This, too, shall pass. : Chuck T. Falcon

- The purpose of life is not to be happy but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to have it make some difference that you have lived at all. : Leo Rosten

- It is never too late to be who you might have been. : George Eliot

- Come to the edge. We might fall. Come to the edge. It's too high! Come to the edge! And they came, and he pushed, and they flew. : Christopher Logue

- Life is a big canvas, throw all the paint on it you can. : Danny Kaye

- what lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. : walt emerson

- the steeper the mountain, the harder the climb, the better the view from the finishing line.

- you were not born a winner and you were not born a loser. you are what you make yourself be. : Lou Holtz

- when you come to the edge of the light you know, and are able to step off into the darkness of the unkown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: there will be something solid to stand on or you will learn how to fly. [barbara j winter]

- you dont drown by falling in water. you drown by staying there.

- if you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging. : will rogers

but my advice for you is to start writing.. write in a journal about how you feel.. or write a story. maybe even start drawing or do something you like to do ? maybe running with some music on to clear your head. or blast your music.. but only happy music, no depressing music. force yourself to go out and hang with friends and youll start to feel better as you include yourself more. talk to people about how you feel.. maybe see a counselor, because seeing on doesnt make you crazy or "sick" it makes you brave and strong. paint. cry. scream. let it out. but you WILL be happy. you just have to want to be badly enough.
if you need anything else, even to talk, just inbox me, im always here. good luck ! and smile :] xxo.

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15/f

hi, i was just wondering: is it weird to be still "spooning" with my 25 year old brother every once in a while?

not that it's sexual in anyway but ever since he left college when i was younger, i've tried sleeping with him and being as close as i possibly could because i missed him so much.

i'm not a little girl anymore and he's DEFINITELY not a kid either...but it's ok...right?

i'm just wondering what most peoples opinions are on this since most of my friends think it's weird. :P

it's just like spooning with your parents.. a form of cuddling. i dont think there is anything wrong with it. if you and your brother have been doing this since you were younger or not that young at all and you both have no problem with it, then it's totally fine. you love him and miss him and its okay to want to feel close to your family members. its also cool that you have such a strong bond with your brother :]
but dont worry about other peoples opinions, i mean, i think its fine.. nothing wrong with it.. unless it was sexual, then there would be a problem, but its not :] so you're good to go.
good luck ! hope i helped :] xxo.

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When they say are we human or are we dancer? or is it denser? What are they talking about? Can someone break down the whole song for me in a nut shell
thank you,
:)

its not denser.
singer, Brandon Flowers was interviewed by MTV and said this following statement about the "are we human or are we dancer?"..
MTV News asked Flowers about the nonsensical chorus. He replied: "It's taken from a quote by [author Hunter S.] Thompson: 'We're raising a generation of dancers,' and I took it and ran. I guess it bothers people that it's not grammatically correct, but I think I'm allowed to do whatever I want." He added, laughing: "'Denser'? I hadn't heard that one. I don't like 'denser.'"
he also said in an interview to rolling stones..
Flowers told Rolling Stone the story of the song: "I think we were at a weird festival in Germany. I was just trying to have it be a simple tune, with classic chord changes. The way I described it to Stuart was - I remember saying this to him at dinner - "I got this thing, it's like Johnny Cash meets the Pet Shop Boys. Let's go record it."
basically i think the song is about growing up through the changes of life. dancers have to keep moving around in constant motion, but humans just have to adapt and can stay still if we so desire. it choosing if we want to go along with the changes and MAKE the changes or just stand still and watch time go by.
i got most of the quotes and stuff from..
http://www.lyricinterpretations.com/The-Killers/Human
.. scroll down and you can read other people's responses :]
hope i helped ! good luck, xxo.

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so my friend just had her first kiss a few months ago and then she broke up with her bf. now shes like a slut she is hanging out with this new guy and there not dating. they just go to the movies and do stuff and there up to 3rd( in the movies !). i don't know the guy she is with but it seems to me shes being used. she doesnt think so or maybe she does not mind (but she did tell me she thinks he likes her and its not just a random hook up) but i am just worried

well, first of all.. how old is she and how old is the guy she is doing this stuff with ? because that can impact the situation she is in greatly.
but besides that, if you are this concerned and worried, talk to her about it .. face to face, in private. I was in a similar situation with my friend a few weeks ago, and I talked to her about it.
you need to listen to her, but share your concerns too. if she sees that you really do care about her and the decisions she is making, she'll listen to you also.
however, if she chooses not to listen to you, well then you did the best that you could.. its her life and her decisions, bad or good .. she should be VERY thankful to have as good as a friend as you. honestly.
if you need anything else, im always here. good luck ! and keep being a good friend :] xxo.

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Alright so I'm a fourteen year old girl and my boyfriend is sixteen. We've been dating almost three months and my boyfriend has already said he loved me... The first time he said it, I of course, wasn't thinking and I said it back. Unless this has happened to you, you dont understand. When everything goes quiet and he says "I love you" and there is just that looming feeling in the air that its say-it-or-don't its just... hard! Its almost impossible to not say it back. But I'm too young to be in love right? And its too soon? Ive known him for a lot longer than three months but still, its too soon right? I can't actually be in love, and now I'm stuck. Because I can't keep saying it if I don't love him or even if I don't know. And I don't know what to do! How do I bring this up with him? Talk about it? I really need some help on how to handle this...

when you're in love.. you know. its just like, when you say it.. it feels right, you believe it, and you dont regret saying it and you dont want to take it back. you want to keep saying it over and over because its amazing. being in love is amazing :]
but youre 14 .. and age is just a number, but i believe that you arent in love, and i dont think you love him. you care about him alot, but its not love .. yet.
and you're right.. you shouldnt keep saying it if you dont mean it, i mean, if you dont feel it.. its like lying to yourself and to him. and maybe he said it and is now feeling the way you are. so talk to him.
you can bring it up by saying something like, "you know when you said that you love me? well, how do you know you do? because i care about you alot, but i dont think im in love yet." or something along those lines. just be hnest and say what you feel. he wont get mad, he'll understand, i promise. just go from there. it will work out. and you're handling it fine :] you just have to talk to him about it. you were under pressure, and its ok. youre only 14.. you still have your entire life ahead of you.. dont worry about this, it will be solved in a matter of minutes after talking it out with him.
stay calm, take a deep breath and let it out :] you're good to go. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! good luck :] xxo.

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Not actually 'with' this guy, we just hang out/ text and stuff, only when we do, it;s never really great or good conversation, it's mostly just physical stuff..He only really texts when he wants something, and seems uninterested, I'm not dumb, I'm thinking to ditch this guy.
Opinions?

ditch him.
play the player.
honestly, you deserve better and you'll get better. hes not worth your time girl.
good luck, xxo.

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This isn't a cry for advice, I just wanted all y'all to have a Happy New Year!

:] i love this.
happy 2010 to you too ! hope yours will be fantastic and full of acts of random kindness like this post :] !
xxo.
stay awesome.

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I am going to be hanging out with a friend this weekend who I really like and who turns me on. We're both attracted to each other but I want to make a move on him. How do I cross the line without being cheesy and how do I deal with it if he turns me down?

aww :] thats cute !
okay, heres my idea..
if you both are sitting down, and just chilling out, move a little closer to him and look into his eyes. the move your eyes from his, to his lips, and look at them for a few seconds, then go back up to his eyes, and then back down to his lips, but make sure you concetrate on his lips alot. he'll get the hint, and may even make a move first :] but if he doesnt, then look away from his lips quickly and laugh [like a cute giggle] he'll probably say, "ooh whats so funny?" and you can just be like nothing and then look at him again, then be like, "i think im losing my mind haha, i need a hug." then youll give eachother a hug, and kiss him on the cheek. he may be like what was that for? and smile, just say, "because i wanted to :]" then go closer to his face and continue and say, "is that a problemm :] ?" [make sure you smile] then kiss his cheek, right by the corners of his mouth, and if he backs away, just smile, play it cool and sit back, and look straight ahead of you, but if he doesnt move away, then kiss him again, but this time on his lips and see how it goes from there :]
if he rejects you, dont worry about it.. he might have just been nervous but if hes not ino you like that, its okay. there are other giys :]
good luck ! have fun, and dont sweat it, just act on your impulses. if you need anything else, fell free to inbox me, xxo.

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hey there im a 15 year old girl and im afraid that any time now ill start my period, ive been watching videos on how to use a tampon for when it comes and im still confused. how do you use it? where do you put it in? how do you put it in? how do you take it out? sorry im so akward about this and i hope you have started because if you didnt lol no help but if you have please help its akward for me to ask my friends and im the eldest of four girls.

awww no worries girl, im here to help :] it took me a long time to start using tampons, but remember, if you want to start out using pads, thats totally okay.
anyways, im 17 and i didnt use a tampon until i was 16.. i tried and tried but it would hurt [because i wasnt doing it correctly, although i didnt know] but i suggest using the smallest sized tampon you can buy, to start off or a regular sized one then start moving up as you keep doing it. also, i suggest you take a tampon and see how it works [without putting it inside you] first. just take one out, and press the bottom of it so you can see how it comes out of the tube and stuff. its a good guide :]
where the hole is: right at the bottom of your vagina, kind of middle-ish. its a little bit before your but cheeks are seen. you cant miss it :]
steps:
1. get confortable: go into your bathroom and sit down on the toilet [with the seat up] and relax. or stand up with your right or left leg [whichever is more comfrtable for you] up on the toilet, or you can just stand up straight, over your toilet, and spread both your legs apart. just find a position that suits you best and try not to be too tense.
2. dont think about it: i know that seems really hard to do, but inserting a tampon in the first time will be kind of nerve racking, since a foreign object is being put into your vagina. but if you relax, put some music on, and concentrate on your breathing, you'll be fine :]
3. slowly insert: once you are in a comfortable position, take the tampon and slowly insert the tip of it into your vagina. [the hole, it only fits in one hole, so dont worry about not knowing where it goes]
4. too dry: if you think that your tampon is too dry and wont go in [as your first starting to put the tip in your vagina] remove it, and put some warm water on the tip, to help make it more slick so it can glide in easier.
5. i usually look down when im doing it, to see hoe far in the tampon is going, so i suggest you do that until you become a pro at putting in tampons ;] while inserting the tampon, it'll hurt a little bit, because you're tight and you'll probably start to tense up, but dont stop, keep working through the pain, because after the first pain, it wont hurt anymore.
6. insert it at an angle: while your inserting it, dont go straight in, make sure it is tilted. if you are looking down at the tampon while putting it in, it should be tilted a little bit towards yourself [not away] and dont just go straight up.
7. when you are pushing the tampon in, hold it by the string at the bottom with your index finger and your thumb, once your index finger and your thumb hit the opening of your vagina, push the bottom of the tampon up, and the tampon will be released into your vagina.
8. after doing this, get up and walk around, if you cant feel it, you did it right, if you can feel lit and it hurts, you did it wronf [its okay if you did it wrong the first time, practice makes perfect]
9. if done right: yay good for you ! but if done wrong, take it out.
10. taking tampon out: take the tampon out by slowly pulling the string down.. i got really scared the first time i did it because i thought it would hurt so badly, and then i got really tense, and it did kind of hurt. but if you relax your muscles, it wont hurt at all.. so when taking it out, just pull slowly, and flush it down the toilet.
11. done :]

hope i helped ! and dont worry about it, youll do fine, even if you have to do it a couple times before you get it right, youll eventually get the hang of it ! dont be scared, its nothing, you got this :] if you need anything else, im always here. good luck ! xxo.

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i know this may sound dumb but what does spooning mean

spooning: A form of affection between a couple. Where the man lays front to back with the girl. They fit together like spoons.

i got this definition from..
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=spooning

it can either be a sexual gesture, a romantic one, or a friendly one. it's basically cuddling.
well, hope i helped ! good luck ! xxo. :]

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(M, 24)My girlfriend broke up with me recently after a 3 year relationship. She brought up moving in together and engagement regularly, I wanted the same, I loved her very much and wanted to spend my life with her (she knew this). However, I was paying off loans and did not have the money to take that step yet. She knew that I would be done with them in 2 months and could then proceed. We were all set to go on a trip together with friends which had been planned out for a few months and she was really excited about it. She had just started a new job and had been there a week, I noticed her not talking as much as before. We talked and she said she may not want those things anymore. By the end of the weekend everything seemed fine considering it ended with her suggesting more places we could live as well as saying she loved me and acting normal, 5 days later she calls me at 2am after a night out with her co-workers, I had been waiting all night to drive out and see her she tells me that she doesn't have the same feelings for me and it's over and she wasn't going on the trip even though it was days away. She said when she was out a co-worker kissed her and she felt something and a bunch of little issues had built into big things and she was unhappy (I didn't see at all nor did my family and friends especially considering she was one to tell me exactly how she felt). I was crushed and have no idea how it just ended so quickly after everything we shared and seemingly being so in love and excited about the future. Is this a work infatuation? Does she still have feelings but is pursuing other things on impulse? Why would she call me her soul mate and best friend days before and then end things? Was she just giving lip service in saying all this to me even though she appeared to be sincere in her feelings? I apologize for the story but I am really hurt and clueless about the woman I thought I would spend forever with and who appeared to want the same up until now. Thank you

im sorry :[ this must be very hard for you.
But considering I'm a girl, I think I can help you understand a little bit about what she most likely is thinking and what lead to her abrupt decision.
... girls are complicated and we're really emotional and usually, if we're in a relationship, we don't want to hurt our significant others feelings when in love or when in a long relationship [as yours was] when she started becoming distant and not talking as much at one point, it was most likely because she was thinking about the future by herself, without you because she wanted her own thoughts and not the ones of you.. after she was thinking, she became herself again [as you said] and you didnt see anything wrong with her.. this is either the result of her realizing that she would rather stay with you than with anyone else. then.. when the night out with the co-workers came around, and she kissed another man, she noticed she had feelings for him.
thats when her decision to break up with you came about because she most likely knew that you didnt deserve that.. you dont deserve to be with someone who isnt 100% committed to you. so in her mind, she was trying not to hurt you, but being honest enough so that you wouldnt be left wondering why she left you.
and those issues .. could have been her own feelings. like this was all building up and the issue of you not being able to pay for a couple months might have contributed to her unhappiness. but i also think she became unhappy because she knew that you guys were not going to be together, and she didnt want to hurt you, but knew it was inevitable.
I do not think that it is a work infatuation. I think it is her not being able to be committed to you the way she would have liked to been. and if she has been working with this guy she kissed, it may not have been "acting on impulse" the feelings for him could have arised over time.. and thats why she was so distant at one point, thinking about her options.. pros and cons.
The sad thing is, people change and feelings change. I do not, at all, think that your relationship for 3 years was just "lip service" if that was what she intened, she would not have been with you for that long. and she was confused, she needed to sort out her feelings, and she didnt want to hurt you by not acting like herself.. and if calling you her soulmate was the norm for both of you, then that is what she was going to do to save you from hurt or worry for the time being.
I'm sorry you had to go through this.. and i know it must really suck :[ :[ but it will get better. maybe talk to her about it, because my assumptions are just that.. assumptions from the information you gave advicenators. the only way you'll get your answers are if you ask her yourself.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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ok sooo i have a bf and i love him..we have been datin for 1yr..weve beenthrough everything together...but heres the thing...there are to other guys that like me....and i might like them...i get butterflies in my stomach when im around them...and i dont know wat to do??? plz help!?!!?

when youre with your boyfriend or talking to him, are you thinking about the other guys?
if yes.. then you need to re-evaluate your relationship and maybe think about either breaking up with him or just going on a "break" because its what is fair for the both of you. you dont want to lead anyone on or hurt the person you love.
if no.. then you just like the attention and the thrill of something new. a lot of people like being liked and sometimes knowing that guys like you [when you have a boyfriend or when you dont] still gets you excited because its the chase. this will fade once you get older, but if you start flirting with them, then you have a problem.
but before you do anything drastic make a pros and cons list. that always helps me. pros of breaking up with your boyfriend and cons of breaking up with your boyfriend.. then see which side has more pros or cons. after you do this, talk to your boyfriend. let him know whats going on, talking it out helps and honesty is key.
hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo. good luck.

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i was in love...scratch that...i AM in love.. completely head over heels...and i know it wasn't infatuation, it was love. and to top it all it was my first love. this guy was amazing and treated me like a princess...like it sounds corny but i felt like i could fly when i was with him. we dated for over a year then like a couple months before we broke up, he just changed...he would blow me off to do absolutely nothing...then he dumped me because he said it wasn't fair to me, which i agree...but i have this hole in my heart and it won't go away...and its been 3 months since we broke up...

he also tells me he doesn't believe in love lasting forever. his parents are getting divorced so i could see where he's coming from, i think this is a big thing to do with it but i don't want to seem desperate for him back...but its so hard....i've already tried talking to him about it but it seems like he's made up his mind that he doesn't want to be in a relationship...advice? anything will help ...thanks.

:/ been there, done thaat. it IS the worst feeling in the world having to let go of your first love, but the problem is .. you dont really ever let go. they're always going to be with you wherever you go. you cant just erase that person from your life automatically or erase the feelings that person gave you for over a year. its going to hurt like hell.. but not forever. the first 4 months after it happens are the hardest because all you do is think "what if..?" or "what could i have done differently?" or "was it all a lie?" and you're probably stuck on that and stuck on the memories.
but dont try to stop yourself from thinking about it; let it hurt. cry, scream, think, until you cant anymore. then you'll start to get better and thats when youll move on.
and what sucks about a lot of first love break ups is the fact that you cant change a persons mind no matter how hard you try. so dont try. i know thats hard to hear, but youre going to put yourself through a whole lot more pain by trying to get that person to realize what they lost. you are going to find someone who DOES think that love can last forever. you ARE going to be happy again. you are going to be in another relationship and you ARE going to find a person who wont leave you. but it will take time. so leave your past in the past, and stop talking to him for a while.. until your completley ready and wont fall back into the whole "i want you back" scenario.
trust me, just ignore him for a while, if he talks to you, then so be it. but just vent to your friends, talk talk talk and just take your mind off of things by going out and just having fun!
live your life :] hope i helped! if you ever need to talk, im here for you. just send me an inbox. xxo. good luck.

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My friend jacklin said i can use her account. This is her friend Jasmine. Is it wrong for a 14 year old girl to go out with a 17 year old guy? I mean i love him really much. I dotn want it to be wrong cause i lvoe him so much. IS it wrong for a 14 year old girl to go with a 17 year old?

I mean, I don't think it is wrong, but you have to be careful because 17 year olds are more experienced.. and definetly more hormonal. But other than that, if he doesn't take advantage of you, it's okay :] but as Mangy Momma said, when he turns 18 it will be illegal to be with him.
good luck ! hope i helped, have fun :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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okay first why do guys go for whores? like there can be pretty girl and they are no whores. and it really matters what is in the inside.. (well thats what i thought until i notice mad dope boys go out wit whores or ugly people lik what are they thinkin lol) well can someone tell me why guys mostly go for whores?

well .. i'm in a relationship right now, and im not a whore .. by any means what-so-ever. it really depends on the guy. I mean, boys tend to be really hormonal, and if they think a girl is easy, which whores tend to be since thats where they get their label, they go for them because they know that they'll get sexual stuff from them. But not EVERY guy wants a whore, i mean, that gives the guy a reputation for going out with them too ... and you cant like bring her home to your family .. ahaa. no offense or anything. But basically, it's just to get secual attention.
hope i helped clarify things ! its pretty self explanatory :] good luck ! xxo.

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Okay, So I'm a senior in high school and he's a sophomore. I know its cradle robbing but we are soo much alike and like each other and to me he's pretty mature. But you know guys always put that show on for girls. My question is Do you think anything is wrong with him being younger than me? I do really like him and we hang out. And all my guy friends love him and want me to say yes.

Don't focus on what other people say, focus on what really matters ... what you think. If you spend your life caring about other people's oppinion of you, you'll never be happy. Do what YOU want and yeah, listen to your friends thoughts, take them into consideration, but in the end, it's your decision and your life, not theirs. You need to follow your heart.
But in my opinion, age is just a number [unless you're like 12 and the guy is 20 .. ew] hahaa. but in your case it's totally fine. If you realy like him and you are both on the same page, then I say go for it :] more power to yuh !
good luck ! have fun and go with the flow :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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Hi i'm a freshman in college and me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two months. We are so good about talking about everything and being open and he would always tell me all these really nice things about how he feels about me and so on. He told me that he loved me a couple weeks ago, but he hasn't said it since then. I know its nothing to be paranoid about because we get along great and everything is going well. I just wonder why he doesn't say it any more??

There could be numerous reasons why he doesn't say it anymore .. or hasn't said it in a while. I mean, you need to understand that guys really don't like to be vulnerable. They get really bruised easily if they are rejected and saying i love you is a HUGE deal, for both people in the relationship. Alot of people think that boys don't take it as seriously as girls do, but in reality, that's not the case.
He might not say it again if you didn't say it back. or he might not say it depending on the way you reacted or how you replied. He may even be scared he said it too early and now doesn't know what to do about it.
There are so many possibilities, if i made a list for you, it would be endless. hahaa. you just really need to talk to him about it. communication is key. He won't mention it first because he is most likely confused and doesn't want to mess anything up. Some boys have a hard time showing their emotions, and even if you don't notice it, they can be just as insecure as the next person about being in love. It's a big step, one that you have to take together, so you need to talk to him or else you'll both be confused and wondering what's going on. don't leave things left unsaid, it'll just come back to torment you, trust me. haha :]
good luck ! have fun, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo :]

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