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I'm Kelly. I'm 15. And I have experienced a lot in life. I love helping people, so i decided to get one of these a while back. I don't come on a lot, but maybe I will start more often. I also answer questions with honesty, and how i would work things out. I have delt with a lot, and i probably have had a problem similar to yours. So, why not give me a try, and hit me up with a question?! If you want to actually talk to me - feel free to IM me, to ask me a question or just to chat- I'm pretty much always on.

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13/f

ok i havent gotten my first period yet, and lately, like the past 2 days, my underwear have been really brown, like around the part my vagina touches. Its almost looks like, i pooped in my underwear, like that color(sorry lol), but I know thats not it becuase I clean "over there" very thoroughly. Is it discharge? Will i be getting my period soon? Should I start wearing pads? (and how do you properly put on pads becuase i tried and it didnt work) THanks so much. ♥

you got your period. yes, you should start wearing pads soon. i dont really understand how it didnt really work.. but all you have to do is put the sticky part on your underwear, underneath your vagina. you are supposed to change this whenever you feel the need, or get uncomfortable. there is not set time - like the tampon. if you need more help, ask your mom

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Okay, I'm 16 years old and I've been getting my period for a really long time. Ever since I started getting my period, I've had a really, really heavy discharge between periods. It's really uncomfortable and I feel like it's abnormal. I literally have to wear a pad between periods because my discharge is so frequent. Is this normal, at my age, or is it something I should tell my gyno?

Thank you in advance.

its not that its unusual, but for most people its not like this. i suggest deffinitally going and seeing a gyno. also, you may want to try pantiliners - they are designed to make the wetness pulled from your body, and they arent as big&bulky. if you take birthcontrol then it could be a cause of that too, but it would also be semi-fish smelling. it could be also a simple infection or bacteria overgrowth, but you need to get it treated. whatever you do, dont just leave it. get it checked out.

hope this helps!! :] ♥

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Heyya! okay well see, me and my friends were joking around and saying i have a bun in the oven (i am pregnat) BUT I AM NOT i am a virgin. Then my friend joked around to my guy friend saying that i wanted to have a sleep over with him (jokiing wise) and he is like "well if you sleep over, you will have TWO buns in your over"

Is he tring to tell me somthing on how he feels about it and when i told all my friend in front of him he just shurgged it off like no big deal!!
(Me and him have went out and broke up but we are best friends)

i doubt it. as long as you were joking - it shouldnt be a big deal. if you think he actually took it seriously then talk to him and tell him you were joking around.

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i want to loose some weight in my thighs, waist, and butt what are some things i could do to do that?
thanks for the help..

much love*

everyone has unwanted flab in these areas. heres some ideas to help you with that.. you can always take up pilates or kickboxing. those are fun ways to get in shape and who knows- maybe even make some great new friends! i foudn you two sites that will help with what you want to change and tone.. visit them and try what these say, i know for a fact they work =)
[ http://onhealth.webmd.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=52449 ] < 2 pages.
[ http://toneteen.com/exercises/legs.htm ]

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Could someone explain to me who David Phelps is? Someone told me he is a singer but i've never heard of him so could someone please explain who this is? Thanks

that someone is correct. he is a singer but hes a christian singer. hes a grammy and dove award winner. his newest album is Life Is A Church. for more information go here [ http://www.wordrecords.com/davidphelps/ ]

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Does anyone have any good fruit smoothie recipies? I want one that has strawberries in it. I am doing it for a demonstration speech in one of my classes and I need a good recipe to use.

Thank you!

there are 5 yummie smoothie recipes on this site. and they all include strawberries. they are all really simple too. and sound delicious! ohh, and they are healthy too! BONUS ! [ http://www.healthrecipes.com/fruit_smoothies.htm ] yum, make me some too !

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Does anyone know a site where i can take an online permit "practice" test?

i found you two sites. hope they are good. and help you !
[ http://www.drivingdirectory.com/test.htm ]
[ http://www.vicroads.vic.gov.au/vrne/VRLPQ.NSF/start?OpenForm ] good luckk =)

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hi im 13/f. i was wondering if anyone knew a good deodorant or antiperspirent. i sweat under my arms all the time even when its cold and its embarrasing in school can someone give me tips on what to do about it? ill rate high thanks in advance

okay, this site is amazing. i was just gonna get soem tips from it - but i decided to just give you the whole thing because it was soo helpful. it says what causes body odor and the persperation and it says how to treat it. i really think you should check it out. here you go ! [ http://www.health911.com/remedies/rem_bodyo.htm ]. good luckk hun - i know it sucks. but this will pass.. its just a cycle.

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i'm so loney i love this guy but hes in 6th year im upsessed with him please help im also over weight! i will score high if this is answerd asap...X

dont be scared to tell him how you feel. if he cant see the real you, behind the weight issue, he isnt worth it or worth any of your time. find someone who loves you for you. for being you. for every single part of you. the guy should be lucky to have you. not you lucky to have him. be happy with yourself and be proud to be you. confidence attracts guys more than you'd know.

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Well I pulled my quad about 2 months ago and its been getting better until I pulled it again. Then it finally got better until a few days ago when it repulled. Now it feels like the muscle is displaced when I move my leg even though its not.

I have put ice on it, heat on it, but nothing seems to be helping. I also put icyhot on it.

I have a soccer game tomorrow and Its not bad enough to not play but its bad enough for it to hurt so I don't do as well.

Any advice on how to fix it?

Thanks. 5's for helpful info. =)

i dont think that you should be playing tommorrow. you can even make it worse if you pretend liek nothings wrong. you may irritate it. depending on how bad it is, quad injuries can effect your running and physical activities for 1-4 weeks. a quad injury usually results from a muscular imbalance between the quads and the hamstrings. the hamstrings over power the weaker quads which result in a strain or tear of the muscle.
i dont think you should be putting heat on it. ice is best. if thats too cold, put a wet/damp towel in the fridge and leave it in for a little. but for the best focused pain relief, do ice packs.
if there is any swelling try taking ibuprofen or motrin. but only take it with meals and not before running and such.
ofcorse, stretching will help. stand straight with your injured leg bent. grab the foot of your injured leg with your hand and slowly pull your heel to your butt. you should feel the stretch in the front of your thigh. Hold the stretch for 10 to 15 seconds. Repeat the stretch 6 to 8 times.
you can also try retro-running. it helps strengthen and stretch, and muscle in hamstring and quads. retro-running is walking or running backwards. it is important to start slowly with a slow walk and work your way to a gentle jog. choose a smooth, flat road or you can use a treadmill with handrails (for support). change your neck position often to help prevent strains and limit your retro running to two sessions per week- starting from 50 meters and progressing to 500 meters. strengthening the quads by doing biking and leg extensions will help to prevent future occurrences of the condition.

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i keep seeing people with these tan braided bracelets. why does everyone have them? do they mean something or something like that? thanks.

they are called hemp bracelets. or friendship bracelets. they can be worn on like anyone. guys and girls. for guys they are usually just plain for your neck or wrists. but for girls, you can have beaded ones with different colors for your wrists, neck or ankles. some people make them and some people buy. they dont really mean anything unless for like a friendship kinda thing. they are like a summer look, and since summers coming soon - they are coming back. they are really fun to make. you should try it.. go here [http://www.expage.com/page/makingjewelry] and click the kind you want to make,. all the ones have pics and detailed instructions on how to.

hope this helps!! :] ♥

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do you find yourself and do you think that other women are attracted to guys that have big feet, big hands, deep voices, six pack, hairy legs, and you have heard rumors that he is packin downstairs. do you think women like these men more and why?

i think all of these things you named are personal preferences for the girl. one girl may like a semi-"chuncky" man, while another may like a buff macho man. all depends on the girl i guess.

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me (13 yrs old) and my lil sis (10 years old) share a room and we also share a bathroom. well i was on my period and i use tampons and i threw the used tampon away in the trash can. later when my lil sis went to use the bathroom she saw the bloody tampon in the garbage and shes like maria whats this red thing in the garbage? and im like umm i gotta go ill tell you later. and i was wondering should i give her the talk about periods and puberty and stuff? or should i just let my mom handle it when she's older... i kinda wanna talk to her about it but is she too young? thanks for your help

wow, thats a tough situation. i think you should just tell her that it was blood out of your vagina and if she has anymore questions, that she should go to yuor mom. tell your mom what happened, and im sure she will be mroe than happy to talk to your sister. i dont think she is too young, but i dont think your the right person for her to learn everything from ( no offence ). but your mom may have a different opinion., so leave that up to your mom. next time maybe try wrapping it up in some toilet paper or something =P good luckk

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i don't have my period yet but i should be expecting it soon and since summer is coming up i go swimming a lot so i've been wanting to use tampons. is it okay if i just practice putting the applicator up my vagina? not the whole tampon, just the applicator. thanks! by the way, you give out great advice!

well thanks hun =] .. anyway to your question- i deffinitally wouldnt reccomend it. on the sides of the box, it says specifically not too. plus, its gonna hurt you more because when your on your period, your vagina is wet which makes it easier. but when your not - your vagina is dry. when its dry, it is going to irritate the walls and will hurt A LOT more. if you arent menistrating, it can increase your chance of deleloping Toxic Shock Syndrome. also, for your first period - i wouldnt reccomened using tampons. just for the first one. because you dont know how heavy your flow is going to be, so it could increase the risk of you developing Toxic Shock Syndrome (once again). anymore questions - im always here

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heyy...

so i have a best friend and shes going out with this one guyy and i REALLY like him we went out before and im not over him i dont know what to do
please help mee

girl code. i know the a "girl code" rude is to not go out with your best friends exboyfriend. but there can always be exceptions. i think you should tell your best friend how you feel about him and that your not over him. you should be able to be completely upfront with your best friend. and no boy should EVER come between your relationship. no matter how improtant he is to her or you. i think you shoulda told her that you werent over him before they went out. your friend should have atleast talked to you about them dating before she said yes and went through with it. and if you did tell her, i think she should have atleast waited until you got over him. just talk to her about it, and i suggest just move on, he isnt good enough for you anyway. just remember - hes lucky to have you. not your lucky for him. make him be the lucky one.

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im 12 and im too embarassed 2 ask my mom if i can start shaving my legs idk why but whenever i wanna go ask her i end up not doing it...its just to embarassing for me. any tips? thanks!

just remember that shes been in the same position as you. she was your age once and understood how you feel. tell her your uncomfortable with it because you have hairy legs and that people notice when you wear shirts/shorts/capris [etc]. tell your your embarressed. and that people make fun of you. tell her the reasons you want to start. dont be embarressed to ask her, its your mom! start off by saying something like.. "mom, i want to start shaving my legs." then state the reasons why. be staright to the point. but dont start yelling. or crying. or screaming and slamming doors if you dont get your way. be calm and explain how you feel about it. be honest, too. good luckk

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Okay. I think I am depressed. My one teacher has told me that I am and wants to me talk to my parents. I have cut myself in the past, and my mom flipped out when she knew that i "thought" about it, she never really knows that i did it. she told me that she'd disown me because im already an embarassment to the family that i dont need to be more embarassing. so should i tell my mom, or just try to go through it on my own?

first off, let me start by saying that you are never alone. EVER. but im not so sure you should tell your mom.. or atleast at this stage. if you decide to tell her now, she will prolly be mad that you didnt tell her sooner and she will probably flip out even more than she did before because she knows that you actually did do it and didnt tell her before. if you wait too long though, you can make yourself in serious condition if you dont find yourself some help. if you do though, then she might be a little happy that you tried to go through it without talking to her but she might also take it wrong. teen depression is very common and something that should not be considered as embarressing. because of the fact it is so common, there are becoming more and more ways for you to overcome this disease. no matter what - just remember that your not alone through this.

i suggest talking to a school councelor or a teen help line. (for your help line, click your state and it all pops up on the left side, in the grey. find your problem and dont be scared to call the number) [ http://www.focusas.com/Directory.html ] or just talk to someone you know you can actually completely 100% trust. depression is commonly treated with therapy or with therapy and medication. heres some ideas for you to try and get over this.. cognitive-behavioral therapy, group therapy, family therapy, Physical exercise, Creative expression, voulenteer work, Hospitalization, Special schools, wilderness challenges, or "boot camps", or medication. a combination of two or more is probably the most effective. but just take it step by step.

try doing the things that once made you happy. but, you have to be happy with yourself. have a positive self image. and be proud of who you are. honestly, cutting isnt the way to get rid of problems - infact, it actually creates more. like i said, step by step. good luckk

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in your opinion, what would you do if your best friend loses trust in you suddenly thinks that you don't understand anything she's going through? i mean, is there anyway i could talk to her and try to give advice that she'll actually think about?

obviously you did something that really made her mad/upset at you. and loose her trust in you. honestly, theres like three ways you could do this. first one, find out whats wrong and fix it. gain her trust back and then advise her. second one - talk to her. although it may seem like shes not listening, most likely she is. like send her an IM on AIM or leave a message on her phone. i pretty much guarentee that she will read/listen to it. and for the third option, have someone talk to her for you. have em say that you are sorry for what you did, but you really think you can help her out. but who knows, maybe she actually is going through something you dont understand. maybe she just needs advice from someone else with this certian thing. but i reccommend doing the first or second and having the third as a backup if the other ones dont work. goodd luckk

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so i was walking over to my boyfriends house. his computer room is the window before his front door. so i am walking up and i look into the window and he was sitting at the computer chair staring at the screen masterbating. i assume he was watching porn. i didnt ring the bell or anything i just ran away. he doesnt know that i saw him doing this. what should i do?

i say you should talk to him about it. because you are assuming, you have no idea if he really was (although he doesnt have many excuses). but like i said, talk to him. if he says he was watching porn, then tell him your not comfortable with it, and he will most likely stop doing it. but, you have to remember that every guy has hormones and some have different ways of getting them out.. i guess. honestly, i dont blame you for running away - you were probably shocked/embarressed/nervous[etc.]. i most likely woulda done the same thing. i suggest maybe having him go for a walk with you, and you guys just talk about what happened and what you saw. hopefully he will be upfront about it. after he tells you - you tell him how you feel about it. good luck

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there is this boy at school and before this year, we were never really that close of friends. but this year we have gotten to be almost best friends even though i have never called him over the phone or got together with him out of school before. but lately, it seems as if maybe he likes me. i won't know for sure though. is there anyway to find out if he likes me? the thing is, most of his friends are girls. also, i don't like like him at all. i only like him as a friend and thats it. but i may have feelings for him, but it seems like i'm trying to fight it. as if i'm afraid to like him or something. part of my mind has feelings for him and the other half is trying to stop it because it feels weird. on the other hand, i really like this other boy who i am pretty good friends with the boy who i think likes me. but he doesn't like me at all. just as friends. what do i do?

hey there =) so, first off i think you should follow your heart, no matter what. because, the truth is - its never wrong. and i know maybe you are fighting to not like your friend, but maybe its meant to be. okay anyway - to tell if he likes you [ heres some things to watch out for! ] : you catch him smiling at you from across the room; when you two are talking, hes non-stop smiling; he stares into your eyes for that EXTRA second; look if he focuses on you in a crowd; if he has suddenly taken more interest in your friends; he always teases you or makes fun/jokes; ask yourself if he wants your opinion? cares what you have to say?; he tries to like all the things you do. hope those are some hints that will help you.. i also found you a site you can go to also, if thats not enough things to look for - [ http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/doeshe.html ]. and as for this other boy, you can use those tips/hints too look for on him too, to see if it seems he's interested. but, if the second boy isnt interested - then i say forshure dont hide your feelings and see what happens with the first one. good luckk

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