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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i hate my dad and sisters a lot.
what should i do?

Talk to a counselor about it & try to stay with a close friend or family member.

i'm at school does any onr know any good proxies my school seems to have blocked all of them help bored and need something to do!

I use www.pretty-inside.org.

hey all, i'm 22 and lately i've been having a bit of discomfort in my down blow regions, mostly after sex but it can last for up to a week after, at first i thought it was thrush but now i'm not so sure, i inspected it and my bits are sore and look a bit red, but its like i have tiny little cuts around my vagina, almost like papr cuts? i wasn't sure what this meant or what i could do get rid of it, it's very painful, esp when i go to the toilet, i know this is quite gross but i do need advice :-) thankyou

Go see a doctor.

How do you "do the dew" ???

By drinking Moutain Dew.

okay so the band HIM.
how do you say it?
is it like all one word like him
or is it each letter?
thanks!

You say it just like you're saying "Oh, that's him."

They're an amazing band. Ville Valo is so hot. =)

go to www. myspace.com/brandicyrus

when you go there scroll down to the 3rd pic, where miley and brandi are holding those computer thingies. Can anyone tell me what those are called and what you can do with them, they're price range, and where you can get them? And if you can go on internet can u go on the internet anywhere in the world, and do you have to pay for the internet?

but what do they do, what they're called, price ranges, and where to buy?

btw: thats not brandi's REALY myspace.

That's a T Mobile Sidekick. It's a cell phone. You get them at the T Mobile Cell Phone Store, and they're quite pricy depending on the plan you'd like.

hey . well im fourteen years old and my man is 18 . i like him alot and he keeps trying to have sex wiht me . but i say no. im fixing to move to another city and so is he. i really like him but i dont know if i should stay with him. i mean this is the first boyfriend my mom has let me keep. he doesnt pressure me to do anything . if i say no he understands. but yet my older cuzin always tells me that hes not good enough for him. but shes always going out with guys who are not even good for her either. What should i do about my boyfriend? should i stay with him or jux give us some time? byu the way we have been together for three months. but we have known eachother for a year.

You said your boyfriend keeps asking you to have sex YET he DOESN'T pressure you. What sense does that make? None.

I would definitely break up with him. If he loved you, he wouldn't keep asking you for sex even after you said no. He would back off about it & leave you alone. And him having sex with you anyways would be RAPE because he is an ADULT & you are a MINOR. Basically, you're a child.

well boys in my grade (8th) are still really immature and were making Uranus jokes when we were assigned a planets project. My science teacher eventually got fed up with it and said she'd give a detention if there was one more crack. Then in my math class next period, those guys were still laughing with eachother and then my math teacher actually joined them! He said, "Maybe you'd do better on your tests if you stopped looking up Uranus!" and the boys went wild. I was sitting there in shock, like omg did my TEACHER really just say that? Am I overreacting or was that really inappropreate for my teacher to say? I mean shouldn't he be setting a better example? Thanks.

Why would that upset you? Teachers that joke around are cool & you know that it's okay to joke around with them.

Ok Im 13/f. I am not sure about something and it is bugging me alot. I have liked a guy for over 6 months and we used to flirt alot and stuff but now he likes my bff and she likes him and they are going to grad together and I have slowly gotten over him completly. Sometimes I think I still like him though. Theres another guy (lets call him Jasen) that I think I like. We didnt really know eachother until this year but he is a really great guy. He is very nice and sweet and he is very trustworthy. I think I am beginning to like him. He stands up for me when people are racists and hes just a phone call away whenever I fight with my parents or are really upset. He is alot of fun and he has helped me in many ways. There is one problem. He is not a virgin. In my school people do not to anything intimate with eachother so people look down on him as a terrible person. It also makes me somewhat scared of him. I dont know what to do and if I should like him. Any ideas?

If you like him, then like him. Who gives a damn if he's a virgin or not? Boys will be boys. He's not a terrible person. He's normal. Stop being so shallow.

Today at a school-sponsored activity, my friends and I saw a girl sitting alone. I went to talk to her to see if she was alone; she said she was waiting for someone. So I sat down and started chatting with her. I noticed that her eyes were pure blue, not sky blue, but REALLY blue, and I told her that they were beautiful (I'm kind of friendly).

About a minute later, a guy came up and she introduced him as her boyfriend. He is in my math class, but we don't talk. Basically I came up with an excuse to leave and went back to my friends.

She probably told him that I was flirting with her, and now my whole math class might find out, but I was only trying to befriend a lonely girl. How do I handle the situation?

Who cares what people think. If you know the truth, why does it matter? Just tell the truth if people ask you.

who sings this????: fifteen there's still time for you, time to......

theres never a wish better than this when youve ony got a hundred years to live

Copy & paste those lyrics into Google.

My mom ordered me a pair of shoes on eBay:

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&ih=014&sspagename=STRK%3AMEWN%3AIT&viewitem=&item=330111463706&rd=1&rd=1

She made a mistake in the size. She bought size 5.5 Womens, even though I am only size 5 womens.

Does that mean that the shoes won't fit? It's been a month since I paid for the shoes to be shipped from the UK and I only realized that I was a size 5 when I tried on a pair of size 5 heels at the store.

They might be a little big on you, or they might fit perfectly. It depends on the shoe. Some shoes fit bigger than they're supposed to [although they're your size] & some might not fit at all.

i wear the sexbands the game way lol. but which way to wear them was virgin but taken and virgin and single and virgin in love virgin in tears. and whats red mean.

Apparently, these are the meanings:

Yellow: Hugging.

Purple: Anal sex.

Red: Sex, coital or oral, lap dance, (alternate meaning: with no condom).

Blue: Blow Job.

Black: Sexual intercourse, coital or oral, (alternate meaning: with condom).

Orange: Kissing, necking, bare breasts.

Green: Cunnilingus or outdoor sex.

Clear: Whatever you want.

White: Flashing or gay kiss or french kiss.

Glow in the Dark: with sex toys

Red & Black: 69.

Pink: Licking butt.

Silver: Fisting.

Gold Glitter: Make out.

Brown: Anal.

These are disgusting. Ugh.

is herbal essence hair dye good or bad? im thinking of dying my hair with one of their products.

It's alright.

14/f
well me and my ex broke up along time ago. we always still loved eachother, we were together for about 5 months.we just kinda floated away, now we are talking again. we wanna date again but im scared we are going to "float" apart again. what should i do? holla bac at da snowbunny "kizzaz"

If you wanna date again, then go for it. Life is about risks & taking chances. If you happen to float apart again, accept it. Things happen & you can't change it. Besides, there's other guys out there & you're only 14. He's not gonna be your husband or anything.

Me and my best friend both like this boy who is so cute but yesterday he told me that he likes me and not my friend i dont want to hurt her feelings but she keeps throwing herself at him and he doesn't even like her what should i do(female,14)

Let him tell her. She shouldn't hear it from you, she should hear it from him. If she hears it from you, she's gonna think you did this to her on purpose & she'll get mad. Since he doesn't like her, it needs to come from him.

So i'm a teenage girl, my "best friend" told me about someone who she said she knew through a friend (she hasn't met him in person, but a friend of hers was talking to him on myspace but she didn't know that the other girl hadn't met him either, and then she added him) and well, he gave her his cell phone number, then we called him while 3-waying, but she did *67 her number...

he's seen my myspace with all of my pictures, and all of hers too. He knows my city and state. He lives about 6 hours away from me, and i'm scared to death that he'll come to where i live and rape me and kill me like most online predators. Because he IS an online predator- his myspace profile SCREAMS it.

SO WHAT SHOULD I DO? Call the police and give them the link to his profile? I'm very scared. I don't want to end up like every other teenage girl who's been found by an online predator.

PLEASE do not say "tell your parents" or anything- they wouldn't help- all they would do is block myspace and hover over me whenever I was online and a lot of stuff like that. And I don't need that because i DO NOT TALK TO PEOPLE I DON'T KNOW ONLINE! MY FRIEND WAS THE ONE WHO DID THIS BUT I WAS ON THE LINE AND TALKING TO HIM AT THE TIME!

so help please i'm afraid for my life.

As long as you didn't give him your address & your full name you should be fine. Make sure he doesn't know where you go to school either.

Stop contacting this guy though. Delete him from your MySpaces & then block him. Make your MySpaces private & don't add anyone you don't know. The only people that are okay to add [that you don't know] are bands. Only add friends/family onto your MySpace. Other than that, don't add anyone else.

Your parents will be a huge help to you whether you think they won't be or not. Tell them about this. If you don't, how are they going to feel if something does happen? Horrible. It'd suck for them to know you didn't trust them enough to confide in them when something was wrong. Tell them, & call the police.

In the meantime, make sure you & your friend stay safe & do everything to your MySpace that I suggested. Even if your parents do what you think they're going to, at least you're going to be safe from some 56 year old pervert.

My boyfriend and I recently decided to have sex. I was not a virgin my first time with him, but it was painful and I bled quite a bit during. The blood eventually stopped after 3 days or so. Today we decided to try again. And while not quite the ammount of last time I did bleed and there was a slight bit of pain. Does anyone have any idea what might be going on?

If you haven't had sex in a while, your vag got used to nothing being in it. It obviously didn't expect a penis going inside of it, so you bled & it hurt. If you eventually keep having sex, the pain will go away & it'll eventuallly stop bleeding. Just remember to use protection.

Just a suggestion, but maybe do some foreplay before you have sex. It could easy up the pain.

heres my problem:
My boyfriend got expelled from my school today for a little fighting he didn't touch anyone but was involved and is an inter district transfer so immediately got expelled with no turning back. Well he could appeal it but his parents don't want to. He lives about twenty minutes from me and will be going to school somewhere up in his area. School gets out in 20 days so I don't think it's going to be too much trouble. I still can't imagine school without him because me and him are inseperable at school we are together 24/7 and I love him to death. I cant help but cry a lot because this is not how I imagined my end of my Sophomore year. (hes a junior). Anyway I guess I just need some help as far as ideas on how to keep the relationship going well even with the distance, how I should do to cope, and things I can do to make sure he cares for me and keeps showing he cares. ANYTHING you think would help would be great!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!

Keep talking & keep hanging out. 20 minutes isn't really that far away & it should be very convenient for you guys to hang out together. To cope, just accept the fact you'll see him other times & summer's coming up. Things will be fine.

is there any form of birth control that is only temporary? i'm going to a youth retreat to camp out in june, and i just calculated that i'll be on my period. there isn't electricity, most of the time you use porta-potties, and the showers & toilets are on the whole opposite side of the campground [which is usually a very far way to walk and a long wait for a shower stall.] so i'm wondering, is there anything i can do to either prevent my period from coming that weekend, or any type of birth control i can go on for just that week? anything is helpful.

No, but you can get birth control pills anyways.

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