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Mixed Feelings
Ok Im 13/f. I am not sure about something and it is bugging me alot. I have liked a guy for over 6 months and we used to flirt alot and stuff but now he likes my bff and she likes him and they are going to grad together and I have slowly gotten over him completly. Sometimes I think I still like him though. Theres another guy (lets call him Jasen) that I think I like. We didnt really know eachother until this year but he is a really great guy. He is very nice and sweet and he is very trustworthy. I think I am beginning to like him. He stands up for me when people are racists and hes just a phone call away whenever I fight with my parents or are really upset. He is alot of fun and he has helped me in many ways. There is one problem. He is not a virgin. In my school people do not to anything intimate with eachother so people look down on him as a terrible person. It also makes me somewhat scared of him. I dont know what to do and if I should like him. Any ideas?
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If you like him, then like him. Who gives a damn if he's a virgin or not? Boys will be boys. He's not a terrible person. He's normal. Stop being so shallow.
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You continue to use "I think I like him" and then end your post with the question "if I should like him".........
Sounds to me like the chemistry and attraction IS NOT there naturally, not love at first sight, no pitter-patter heart beats...
So he's a great and good, maybe soon, best friend (best male friend) and not the boyfriend material.
Stop fretting and obsessing over that aspect of your relationship with him and let it be what it is naturally and it could "evolve."
Why be scared of him? Because he's had sex? Most boys have. No big deal. Let it go, it's normal and natural for boys.
That DOES NOT make him or anyone else a "terrible person!"
If you like him, and he's as great as you claim he is, and a good person and stands up for you-- then stand up for him when people talk him down.
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