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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



Feel free to drop one by in my inbox and I'll tell you what to do to the of my best ability in any situation. But remember, if it doesn't seem right, then don't do it. It's only my advice, not me telling you what to do.


PLEASE don't repeat questions. I appreciate all ratings and feedback, so please do it. It really gives me a good feel for how my advice is. Also, if you don't rate, and my advice is crap, I'd like to know so that I don't run the risk of telling someone to do that again.


Thanks.. and.. I hope I helped. =) ♥

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I don't know what to wear tomorrow!!! help please!!!

Who are you seeing? What is the mood of the day/evening? When will the event be occuring (what time)? Where will you be going? Why are you going? How will you get there?

Once you answer those questions for me, then I'll be able to help you. TRY AND BE SPECIFIC FOR ME!

If you're going on a casual date, just wear jeans and a neutral colored shirt. If you're very curvy, try a V neck and some hip huggers. If not, then get a boatneck and any jeans.

If you're going on a semi-fancy date, then wear a short, white, flowy skirt with little red flowers on it and a red cami.

If you're going on a fancy date, then wear something...fancy.

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Im Bisexual 14 year old and i wonna...well...have sex..with the same sex...i also wonna tell my parents that im bi..but i dont know how they will react...

Signed...14 year old bi guy

Well, I am going to start off by saying that you're desire is a bit odd at you're age. By that, I don't mean your bisexuality. I mean that you want to have sex at such a young age. I mean, yeah, we all think about, but don't pull through with it because it's just stupid and what if you got diseases or something?

Anyhow, feel free to be bisexual, but it doesn't have to be the center of your life. As you introduce yourself you don't have to say things like, "Hi my name is John Doe and I'm bisexual." It can be a very casual thing and there are sooooo many people who are very accepting of homosexuals and bisexuals. So for now, just chill and be yourself and if you find a guy that's great for you, than feel free to go out with him or whatever.

About coming out to your parents. It's a very VERY tough thing to do it seems. I wouldn't know, but thinking of it makes me shutter. And you probably feel that. But, the sooner, the better. I know what you're thinking, "The horror!" But it doesn't have to be that way. You can be sitting at dinner and maybe you just feel like it's your moment to say it. And maybe you want to do it as you're all playing a board game.

But you have to decide when the time is right. Nobody can do that for you. But, don't blurt out, "I'M BISEXUAL!" because that will frighten them and get them in a deep shock state. Lead up to it, tell them a little about how you've been feeling lately.

Don't wait too long, the sooner THE BETTER.

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OMG i need help. See, my bf just broke up with me but always tries to get me into bed. what should i do?

First of all, I'm sorry about your break-up.

If you're boyfriend broke up with you, than you two are done. It's over. The sexual relationship too. You might want to meantion that to him.

If he doesn't want the emotions attached to a sexual relationship, then he needs to find a hooker. Because he has NO right to be pushing you around trying to get you to get you in bed. NO RIGHT!!

Also, you shouldn't hang around him if at all possible. Because if you're around him and he brings up the subject of sleeping with you, than that's no good because it'll make you uncomfortable.

Might I add that this is sexual harassment?

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My sister thinks shes so depressed all the time. I just dont understand her. I thinks she is stupid. what do u think?

I don't know why you think your sister is "stupid" just because she is feeling down. Remember, it isn't uncommon for teens to feel depressed at times. So, you need to accept your sister's feelings.

Also, it would probably be a good idea to talk to your sister about it. This will do a few things for you, her, and the relationship between the two of you. First of all, it will keep her safe from doing things such as cutting or starting eating disorders-common things that teens might do when they're depressed. Secondly, if you two start talking, she'll view you guys as friends. She probably thinks that it would be really cool to have a brother that you can hang out with, without fighting. You'd just a good time enjoying your her company. Even though you probably see her as your dorky sister, she's probably a lot cooler than you think.

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I was in Intenseive Care in the hospital for about 2 weeks because of something serious. One of my closest guy friends visited me at LEAST once a day, not that I minded or anything. But then, one of my last days in the hospital, he asked me out. Just then, the nurse walked in, and said that I porbibly wasn't thinking straight because of the IV. Well, I don't no if he really likes me, or is afraid that if something like that (me being in the hospital) happeneds again, he might lose me. I'm afraid that if i go out with him, that I'll only be doing it because I would feel guilty if I didn't. But, I don't no if he really likes me or not. What should I do? *Thanks*

Darling.. he LIKES you! And you know that he really cares about you because he visited you very often. I hope you don't think that it was stalkerish because it's not. It's really cute and nice. I think that you should go out with him because if he's you're really good friend and he likes you...

Also, if you say no, the friendship might get damaged. So, seriously..yeah, go out with him.

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ok well this is something that i have already told my mom, and she said that she gets that to sometimes, but there is nothing that she can say that will stop it... but i really think there is something i can do! ok so here is the problem: i know that you get a little bit of white stuff that comes out "down there" but i always get ALOT of white "gunk" down there, it is always al over my underwear, were i have to wipe it out, because it smells, and i also get this irritation almost irritated pain down there to! is there any thing that i can do to treat it? i dont think it is a yeast infection though... but any help...thanks in advance!

What you have to do is:

#1- Go to a doctor.. NOW!
#2- Get those pads that deoderize the smell before it even comes. (not sure if it works, but it's worth a shot)
#3- Stop wearing thongs for a little while, it makes it MUCH worse! So messy, and gross, trust me.

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ok sam i use to be an anorexiic..know one would of known since it was during the summer and people didint see me as much (i lost a good bit of weight and muscle and i am pretty much back to normal but its hard for me to eat now and do the same strenuous work on a regular basis but im at a healthy weight) now that i am back in school and with my friends i feel like i am always hiding somthing. i feel like they should know at times but i dont want there pity or anything i just want them to be aware(that what friends do) i told two of my close friends one kind of understood but one wasshocked and the other was too wrapped up in hearself and her little problems that i think she could of cared less...whats your advice>(i wouldnt now be telling my grade just a couple of close friends but at times i dont think it's the best thing to-i think it could turni into bad gossip and i just have a weird feeling i should just drop and leave it in my pass but its hard somthimes whats YOUR opinion)

Anorexia is one of the most common eating disorders among teens. Remember ALWAYS: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! But back to you're issue..

First of all, if you feel like you're hiding something, you shouldn't. It's over, you're DONE! (Congratulations anyway, for stopping! You're a REALLY STRONG PERSON!) You shouldn't feel that way at all, you should be happy with yourself because you are beautiful, loving, and fun.

Don't be afraid to tell your friends, but at the same time, don't feel free to tell everyone. If the time is right, and the topic comes up, or if you just feel like the time is right, then go ahead and tell your CLOSE FRIEND(s) what you've been up to last summer. They should understand completely, and if not, well.. that tells you how good of a friend that they are. And if you feel like they are too pitiful, then tell them it's not the way you want to be treated. Tell them that IT'S OVER and you'll never go down that path again. And you can always tell me too; at school, call me up, online.. because I'm always here for you and I can keep a secret.

Gossip is stupid.. and if anyone shares you're personal business, then that's HORRIBLE. Just tell people that you TRUST to keep to themselves.

Don't drop it, always remember the pain you went through so that you NEVER have to go through it again! But for now, be happy with yourself because no matter what it may seem like at the time, you are loved.

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hey you... did you know that this whole advice thing is just for freaks.. hunn... its only gonna lead to trouble.. so really.. stop pretending to be so happy.. we all know you are depressed.. baby.. just look at your screen names.. alldaysarebad.. uhh helllo?!?!?! not your type
You always seem to be happpy and everything.. but you always act like your so d a m n depressed online! god it is so annoying... either get a life sam... or learn how to live it for the best.
[fyi] this advice thing is f u c k ed up.. and its only gonna lead to trouble!

When I give advice, I feel like I'm saving people from what I have to live with every day. If it's going to lead to trouble, I'm sorry, but I can't take the responsibilty for someone else taking my advice. I told everyone in advanced, "if my advice doesn't seem right for your situation, don't use it!" "and I'm not always right." Right there! See, now I just cleared myself from any trouble, I'm not responsible for everything that someone ELSE does.

Do you want me to be depressed? Really, do you want me to be depressed? Because, yes, I'm not the happiest person in the world, But I'm trying to cover it up a little so that I won't have to be constantly asked, "What's wrong?" I'm NOT a liar, I'm just saving you and me some time.

"either get a life sam... or learn how to live it for the best. " Erhm.. excuse me? I have a life. I have friends. I have things to do in my spare time that I'm good at. Sounds like a life to me. And... "learn how to live it for the best." ...Uh, ok. I am living my life trying to make it the best I can. I'm not screwing my life in any way, but thanks for YOUR advice.

This thing is NOT, by any means, f u c k ed up at all, it really helps people, as everyone has been saying. No trouble yet, and when I get there, I'll fix it. And I'll give my advice.

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I seem to be expieriencing

Completely normal.. trust me. I go through it every day. Just, don't worry about it. Move on and hang out with your friends because it's WAY easier to hang out than to hang in [there]. Just do things that make you happy. And don't forget.. if this is because a guy, he's stupid. Ok!? STUPID!

You can always IM me at ilumorethanlife if you're feelin down.. ok?

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14 female (sry if its confusing)

1)ex boyfriend now after 9 months
2)has a new girlfriend who i hate (not the issue)
3)somtimes we talk now.. he said that he misses me.. but he's like a lunitic and isnt good for me
4)i still love him, but he's not right for me at all.. all my friends hate him
5)today he told me to stop talking to him..(but i dno if he really means it cuz he still mite have feelings for me)
6) but he blocked me, and won't talk to me

Should i try to move on ?what do i do(i rate high)

You've been broken up, you're friends don't approve of him, he hangs out with people you don't like, he doesn't want to talk to you...

MOVE ON! I'm sorry darling, but this dude isn't for you.

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okay samm i go out with this boy and he keeps asking me to show him my breast. but the thing is i really dont have any and i wear padded bras but he doesnt no that. he keeps asking me to sho whim over and over again and i cant keep saying no to him . what should i do?

This dude sounds like a pervert. I'm sorry, but we're in 7th grade here people, we shouldn't be doing this sh!t! My advice.. dump him. And if you don't dump him, at least have a `lil chat` about the relationship. He seems to be using you.. big time! And if you don't want to do something with a boy, he should respect that. And he's NOT respecting that.

Also, you might want to gradually loose the padding because it's obviously giving guys the idea that you have big boobs. And I mean, guys have penises.. they think about sex every 15 seconds. So if you don't have huge boobs, maybe the problem won't be so.. wow. But, guys might just love you for who you are.

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Can a person be in love in 8th grade? Or is it just bogus? I do believe I'm in love and I wondering if it really is love. All of my friends alkways say I'm in love with this boy and I have been for a while. Thanks!

OMG! I can't believe that people are saying that you can't be in love! You can be in love TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY! Just, don't be a skank about it.

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Alright well here is the story hehe! I started going out with this boy and at first I didn't like him that much...well for Christmas he bought me a diamond ring! It kinda freaked me out...he kept being like way too clingy and I got kinda scared. I mean I liked him but I didn't think I liked him that much. Well I told him that I got punished and I really like him but I didn't think it would be the best time to have a boyfriend. Well he still wanted me back and I started to like him more and more well randomly out of no where he told me I was acting differently and now he said we are friends. Well you probably guessed...I like him A LOT now!! I don't know what to do...I told him I still liked him alot and he sometimes seems like he likes me like he kissed me on the forhead the other day but I don't understand. I don't know what to do, I really want him back! I asked my brother about it and he told me to just like fall back and don't beg him just kinda avoid him and not seem very clingy or whatever..I don't know if that will work...Does anyone know what I should do it seems I am fresh out of ideas!!...

Ok, DON'T BE CLINGY, IT DOESN'T WORK! But don't ignore him either. Let HIM start the conversations. Maybe suggest going to the mall or movies AS FRIENDS with him or something... and maybe while you're there he'll act forward and get things moving.. who knows..

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Well, let me first tell you that I LOVE your website! Well, back to my problem. I have been dating this guy for 6 years. He is great. Loving, Romantic. Everything that I want. But the thing is...he is gay. I don't know what to do. He has these gay pictures underneath his bed and I pretend not to know these things are there. His parents don't even know. Then there is the second problem. I think I gave him herpes. Please Please help me. What should I do???

Well, if he's gay, I have to be honest with you. IT'S NOT GOING TO WORK OUT. I mean, what can I say, he's a dude who's into other dudes! I'm sorry, I'm not being very polite. But, other than the pictures, how do you know that he is FOR SURE gay?

You might have to have a little one-on-one chat with him (WHEN HE IS BY HIMSELF, PREFERABLY AT HOME(his or yours..either one)) asking him if he's gay. Tell him that you've seen pictures and you kinda jumped to a conclusion. You got worried and exhausted.. totally horrible. Tell him that you just need to know the truth, but YOU'LL BE TOTALLY OK IF HE IS, BECAUSE YOU'D RATHER KNOW THE TRUTH THAN LIVE BY A LIE!

If he is gay, he can't love you the way you need to be loved, even though you seem pretty happy with him. You DESERVE someone who will love you because you're beautiful, funny, smart, and a girl.

If his parents don't know about it, you should deff talk to him and ask him to tell his parents IMMEDIATELY! MAKE SURE YOU TELL HIM THAT YOU WILL STILL LOVE HIM AS A BEST BEST FRIEND DESPITE HIS HOMOSEXUALITY. MAKE SURE YOU SAY IT! Because if you still love him, it'll make him feel more confident into coming out to his parents.

Now about the herpes thing..wow. That's something that you might want to maybe go to the doctor with him.. moral support. That's waaaaaay beyond my advice, REALLY SORRY! But, you should make an appointment with a doctor. (not a pediatrician if you still go to one(hey.. some people go to pediatricians until they're 16.. I'm NOT stupid!!)) Also, does HE know that HE might have herpes? Because if he's totally clueless... then maybe reconsider.

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I have this friend, i luv her to death, i do. *haha as a friend* but sometimes she can really piss me off too. we are in a band, and she will make desicions about it without asking us, and when we find out she acts like we should just automatically differ to her opinion, like we don't have our own. also, when i talk to her, she tends to turn the conversation aroudn to herself a lot. but don't get me wrong, she is a great friend. she's always there for me, and can be a good listener...sometimes.
i want to stay friends, and i've tried to talk to her about it, but she doesn't really listen. erm, help?

You need to simply confront her, look her in the eye, and say "We REALLY need to talk about our friendship." You need to tell her some of the following things:

1. You totally love her so much and love being friends!
2. Tell her that some of your friends agree with you, that she's a little bossy and a bit self-centered.
3. You REALLY WANT TO BE FRIENDS, but it seems impossible whenever she acts the way she has been acting.
4. You totally love her so much and love being friends!

Make sure you do it in person.. as hard as it may seem. Get her alone, because she'd be totally embarrased if you did it in front of her friends/family/just people.

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hey you.. i need help.. i am in ur grade too.. so if you knwo who this is.. dont tell ANYONE!.. so me and my boyfriend just had fun last night.. and we did IT.. yea.. .. so i need help on telling my parents when they find out im pregnant, and should i get abortion? or not? cause i dont know what to do.. and i need serious advicee

Wow... that's some serious stuff. First of all, I'm not going to yell at you because.. I know someone who will... YOUR PARENTS. Sorry, but I have to be truthful with you. First of all, how do you know your pregnent? Did you do one of those test things? Because sometimes they are really wrong. But you're problem is WAY beyond what I can advise you on. So PLEASE call this toll free number 1-800-227-8922. They can help you WAY more than I can! Also, there is this poster at the Exton Mall and it says some info on that stuff.

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ok.. i have a choice of either getting a bed and a wardrobe or a bed and a min iPod.. but i dont knwo which ones i want more! i need help! please help i dear goddess of advise!!

Listen up, mini iPods are SO overrated... YES the hold a bajillion songs and YES they're totally cute... but they are a FAD! And remember, the songs cost money too. AND I've done some research on these things and apparently, the batteries get screwed up after about two years. Also, in a few years, the price will probably go down like all other products do (such as mp3 players, video game systems, computers...) So, it's NOT worth it! But then again, you WILL eventually grow out of your super cute clothes. I PERSONALLY would go with a wardrobe... but that is just me.

Note: You'll get MANY more compliments on CLOTHES then a MUSIC PLAYER!!!

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well... my friend is super reliable... and so i do trust her. and so i dont know when i will be getting his time to me alone.. and i think he might like jaquie wallace... the of the school.. god i her.. anywayz.. THANK YOU SFM!!! lyl sam! i would tell you who i am.. but its embarrassing! lylas!

That's good that you trust your friend! Way to have good ones! His time alone... between classes, calling him anytime between 4:00-5:00, 8:00-9:00, and IMing him whenver he's on. Jaquie is taken... and yes, everyone loves her because she's beautiful.. but you're totally cooler!

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I really like this guy.. but when my friend asked him if he would ever ask me out.. he said no. He is a shy guy.. so maybe if i ask him out.. he might say yes.. the only t w i s t is..I am tooo scared to ask him.. so how do you ask out a guy? and i think that he doesnt like me.. so what should i do?

Well, if you really like him, you're going to like him. But first of all, think about the friend that asked him. Is his/her word reliable? Reguardless of what the answer is... keep in mind that he's a shy guy. You should make sure it's not in front of his friends or...anyone. So once you get him alone, or call him, or IM him...ask him if he likes you. If he says yes...SCORE! But if he responds no, then I'm sorry, but you've GOTTA move on. And remember... you are BEAUTIFUL, FUNNY, SMART, AND I LOVE YOU!

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