I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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I have a really, really big website that I work really hard on, and it gets over 1,000 visits a day. I spend a lot of time writing the site, and researching for it, and sometimes I even spend money buying newspaper articles for my research. I do it because I like it but I DON'T like it when people plagiarize my site! I will spend a long time making a page just right and then someone will copy what I wrote and put it on their site without even saying where the info was from!
I have a page on my site explaining that if you're going to copy from me, at least put a link to me, but people don't listen. Just today I had to write another email to someone complaining because they had ripped off my site. Most times people agree to remove the stolen information or to put up a link, but sometimes they won't do anything and then I don't know what to do. Is there anything at all that I can do to prevent this from happening? It really makes me angry to see my hard work posted somewhere else without attribution. (link)
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I'm sure there's some way to copyright it so that you can take legal action against those who refuse to take the stolen info down. If it really is such a problem, I'm sure a lawyer could help you out.
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13/f
Ok theres this guy who is my friend, we hang out alot, and i REALLY like him, i mean more than ive ever liked any one in my whole life! Im fairly shure he likes me 2, but he has a g/f, and is happy with her, i mean im really happy for him, but what do i do? (oh and he knows i like him...) i rate 5's! (link)
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If he breaks up with her for you, wouldn't you be a little worried that he'd be capable of dumping you later for someone else? Don't actively try to break them up. You could either wait until the relationship naturally fades away, or you could find someone else. It's your choice.
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hey everyone my girlfriend and i are coming up on two years i thought that maybe i would make her a CD with songs that make me think of her is this a good idea and if you think it is can u tell me some up to date good love songs and any other ideas we are only 16 too thanks ill rate (link)
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I think she'll love it.
Some love songs I like are...
Dave Matthews Band - Crush me
Seal - Kiss from a Rose
Lifehouse - Everything
The Calling - Stigmatized
The Ataris - San Dimas High School Football Rules
Goo Goo Dolls - Slide
Incubus - Echo
Regina Spektor - Samson
John Mayer - Not myself
Evan and Jaron - If I could Fall
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I'm supposed to get my period around the 28th. I'm going to see my family for Christmas and we're going to an indoor water park near that day. What if my period starts when I'm AT the waterpark? I can't put a tampon in without actually bleeding, right? So what do I do about this?! (link)
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If you're really so terribly worried about it, you could put one in, but then if you didn't start it, it would be a bitch to take out. I think I've started my period while swimming before and no one would have noticed. Just check regularly that day to see if you've started, because it would be no fun to not go swimming because of it.
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Am I good to go with a tampon and a thong? (link)
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I do that a lot, but sometimes if it's heavy I'll put a thong panty liner on, too, just in case.
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My mom caught me smoking weed around three months ago, and I'm STILL grounded, even though she does it.
Well, a little over two months ago my mom came home from a party high and extremely drunk, and piss, and depressed, and, long story short, attempted suicide and spent 5 days in a hospital. I don't know how I stayed grounded though all of that, but I still am. I get random UAs too. I was thinking tonight that I could gather up some money, some stuff, and run away from home. I'd keep in contact with my family, and not come back until they'd stop with the UA stuff, because I don't think it's right that I get my schoolwork done and then smoke responsibly on the side, and she gets drunk and high and does crazy shit and has a crappy job. If I ran away, I would have shelter. should I do it now? wait till after Christmas? Not do it? (link)
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A little bit of weed is not worth all of this trouble. You won't be grounded forever. Just wait it out longer. Trust me, it's really hard to live away from home, a lot harder than you might think. You might get all your schoolwork done now, but there's no guarentee about how much things will change if you run away from home. Not to mention, your mom would be even more depressed than she is now, and might actually succeed in killing herself the next time she'd attempt. Would you honestly be able to live with the guilt or the sadness of losing your mother? You might feel like a bad ass and be like, "yeah, sure," but you probably wouldn't. Stop thinking of only yourself for once and realize your mother has some serious issues and try to be there for her. Running away is not the way to handle it all right now.
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Do you think a 13 year old, 5ft 3in, female who weighs 140lbs is fat? Pleas be honest and do NOT sugar coat it! (link)
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You're overweight, but you are not obese (fat). Being fat means being 30 or 40 pounds overweight, when in reality you're only about 10 or 15 pounds overweight. If you want to lose this weight, don't be stupid about doing it just because some silly people online told you that you were overweight. Make sure to stay healthy.:)
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im 14 and my girlfriend is 13. we have been going out for 4 months. she told me that she wants to make out with me. part of me wants too but the other part says no because we kissed for the first time last night at a dance. do you think i should make out with her now or not? if not how long should i wait? (link)
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There's no harm in making out. If you don't feel like you're ready for that, then don't do it, but it's honestly not that much different from a kiss. If you want to though, don't let the fact that you just kissed the other night stop you.
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what is the youngest that you, or anyone you know has had sex? im scared my sister in 6th grade is sexual active, and so i was wondering if thats normal? thanks (link)
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I'm not usually one to say that someone is "too young" because everyone has different maturity levels, but I think it's safe to say that she probably should not be sexually active in the sixth grade. I think someone should AT LEAST be almost done with 8th grade before they have sex, and even then for most people this is much too young and they'd be best off waiting until high school.
This is a tough situation because she's going to do what she wants despite the fact that you want her to do something different. Telling your parents at this point would be bad since you're not completely sure that this is happening. You'd feel really badly if you told this to them and it turned out she wasn't doing anything of the sort at all. If you become absolutely POSITIVE that she is sexually active, then let your parents know. They definitely need to have a talk with her about it.
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Well my name is Michael and my girlfriend refuses to call me that. She only calls me Mike. She also hates it when others call me Michael and corrects them with "Umm it's Mike not Michael." Even my mother. But she says it with more respect talking to my mom. Does this seem werid or overly possesive to anyone? Or should I just go with it? (link)
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Your girlfriend is pretty strange. I bet you already knew that. I can't believe that she has the audacity to say something like that to your mom, even if she says it with "more respect" when talking to her. Your mother was the one who named you! I don't know if overly possessive is the right phrase to use here, but it's definitely a bit rude and should be stopped, especially if you prefer being called Micheal to Mike. If anything, at least tell her not to tell your family members what to call you. That's not her place at all.
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lately me and the boyfriend have been having a lot of problems...a lot of which are over things that shouldn't matter. we've been together for almost four years, and all of this tension is finally getting to me.
my question to you is what do you think i should do? we've tried resolving these arguments and learn from them but there hasn't been any success. it's just like deja vu all over again. i've tried talking to him numerous times, and in the end, everything just turns out the same.
i love the guy, but sometimes i think that it's logical to break up with him. he says to me that he can't handle a "break", so what am i to do? i want to stay and work it out, but it seems sometimes that i'm the only one putting effort into improving this relationship... (link)
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Do what's best for you. If you need to get out of the relationship, you need to get out, regardless of whether he's okay with that. It will feel really shitty to hurt him like that, believe me, and you'll want to get back with him, but just don't. I know you want to stay and work this out, otherwise you wouldn't have stayed in the relationship for 4 years. I've been in this exact same situation, and, if anything, you guys at least need to spend some time apart for a while, because nothing is going to get better while you're together. Sometimes being in love simply isn't enough. When stuff like this starts to happen, even though the people involved both care about each other, they start to drift away and do really stupid things like cheat and lie. I suggest ending it before it gets to that point. The best of luck to you.
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ive been dating my boyfriend off and on for 5 years. were together and doing very good right now... but christmas is just around the corner and i cant think of anything!! every one says get im cologne or clothes but he wouldnt like that. were 16 and i know one of the things he got me and its a bracelet..i want to get him something special. maybe something i make and something to buy. im willing to spend 35-40$ any ideas?? thanks! (link)
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5 years? Wow... that's a serious amount of time for teenagers :)... It's kind of hard to help without knowing his interests or what he's like... but when I had been with one of my boyfriends for a really long time I'd get him things like silky boxers or a book I knew he'd like. You could get him concert tickets if a show he likes is coming up, or game tickets if he's a sports fan. Ask him what he wants, and if he won't tell you or just isn't very helpful, ask his parents. They might be able to drop you some helpful hints.
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is it healthy for a 5'8" teen to weigh around 115lbs. And if you know, what is a good weight for someone who's 5'8"? (link)
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Umm...you actually might be underweight, but I am too and I haven't had any problems from it. I have no idea what a good weight would be since I'm a lot shorter than that.
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I work at a large department store. I usually work the night shift, from 5 until 10. Well there is this girl that I have been working with. She's normally really nice, but tonight she called me a fucking bitch because I got to leave an hour before she did.
I would NEVER call one of my coworkers what she said. She wasnt joking about it either.
Should I say anything or just try to let it go? (link)
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Hmm...people just get especially stressed out the holidays, I think. That doesn't necessarily give her an excuse to say what she said, but it makes it a little more understandable. Just try to let it go for now and act like everything is fine, but confront her if it happens multiple times. She might have just been having a bad day and decided to lash out without it being something personal.
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19/m
Ok I have been going out with my girlfriend for a little over a month. a couple days ago i was hanging out with one of my female friends and she pretty randomly kissed me. i pushed her off of me almost imediately, and we talked about it afterwards and were ok with it now and are still friends. here is where it gets a little more complicated. this is a girl that i used to have very deep feelinfs for. i wouldnt quite call it love, but it was close. i never told her, because she was for various reasons unavailable and i got over her. then i met my current gf and fell for her. now my gf knows that i used to like this girl, and she was ok with me being friends with her. now my worry is if i tell her what happened shell be uncomfortable. i know she would never try and forbid me from handing out with her, because she is one of my best friends, but i know it would make her feel uncomfortable. now because of an age difference (my gf is a little older than me and my friend is a bit younger) they will most likely never meet on their own so my gf would probably never find out. so my question is, should i tell her? (link)
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If you have no intentions of pursuing this girl, I don't see why you'd need to tell your girlfriend. You pushed her back when she started kissing you, and it's done. If it continues to happen, you might want to warn your girlfriend or reconsider spending much time with your friend if she won't respect the boundaries. I don't see why you have to tell your girlfriend now. It's as if you feel guilty- but there's nothing to be guilty about.
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ok,(im 14 male and shes 13 female)and we were fooling around the other day.she was on top of me so on so on.I know shes not ready for anything oral or actual sex.I got really "hot and bothered" and i started undoing her pants and it didnt feal right.i asked her "are u sure ur ready"? and she says "I dont know not really but i REALLY want to beacuse i know itll feal good so im not going to stop you" i didnt want her to regret anything we did so i stoped.Did i do the right thing beacuse she says shes not ready but she wants to beacuse itll feal good?and should i ask if shes ready next time it happens? (link)
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The ironic thing is, she says she wants to do it because it will feel good but if she is a virgin it will definitely NOT feel good.
Just...don't have sex. There are other ways to get pleasure- utilize them.
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OK well here it goes. My friend Marissa is my bestfriend but shes been really EXTREAMLY getting on my nervs latly. Shes making me think of her as a skank that leads guys on. Everytime i meet a new guy and talk to him after a while she ends up finding him too, which i dont mind at all dont get me wrong, but then they start talking more and more cause she talks "dirty" to them. She says shes only kidding when i confront her about it and she THINKS they know that but OBVIOUSLY the guys do NOT know she is. Ive asked my guy friends and they think shes serious. So that makes them better friends with her then me now and like her more! And it really pisses me off cause they all end up liking her more. Im with her all the time so its kinda hard to have them avoid her and i dont want them too cause im not like ganna keep her from sharing my friends too..I mean i want her to have my friends too! But the thing that really gets me is if they like me and then she talks to them then they like her more cause she talks "dirty" to them and says she loves them and things like that. I know im jealous ill admit it but it pisses me off when they end up liking her more. Im not like that im not ganna go talk dirty shit to all my guy friends. Like i said she says shes kidding but they dont get that!! Everything she does they like better. GOD! It even makes me mad just talking about it! I know i dont sound like a good friend but wtf its annoying! Theres one guy that flirts more with me then with her and guess what she doesnt like him. Like i had a birthday party a month ago and she wanted me to invite all the guys that like her more then me but are still good friends with me but NOT the one that pays attention to me!! I DONT KNOW WHAT THE HELL I SHOULD DO! Could someone PLEASE tell me how i can like get this to stop bugging me or what i should do? Im ganna go crazy one of these days!! THANKS SO MUCH! Sorry this is so long and ill rate 5's cause its so long and i sound like a maniac. LOL! (link)
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You know, I had a friend like that in middle school. She ended up being the one that no one really wants to date, whereas they all paid attention to her back then and it was a miracle if a guy liked me over her. I know this means nothing now, but your time will come and your friend will just get pushed back in the shadows- especially when people start figuring out her head games, and they will. Invite who you want to your parties, try to worry about yourself and ignore what your friend is doing. The guys are stupid for falling for it and will learn their lessons sooner or later. Be yourself and be sincere and people will like you all the more for it when it really comes down to it.
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Well me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago and I still love him a lot. But he's going out with another girl. Im still crazy about him and I really want him back. Should I wait around for him or try to move on? ..Oh, and I've heard from a bunch of people that his girlfriends gonna dump him for his best friend which is really low and I wanna tell him but he'll just get mad at me and say that I'm just trying to break them up so I can get him back.. should I tell him and risk the chance of losing our friendship but keep him from getting hurt or should I not tell him and keep our friendship but have him get hurt? Thanks in advance.. Kellie (link)
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No, don't tell him. He'll find out himself soon enough. Besides, what do you owe him? He dumped you and now all you can think about is helping him out by hinting that his girlfriend is going to dump him? You're right, he will get annoyed. I think it's unlikely that you'll get him back, even if him and his girlfriend do break up, unless you just back off a lot. Don't make it so obvious that you want him again, or else he'll just feel pressured and get frustrated. Good luck.
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Okay, first of all, 18f. Second, some background - there's this guy who had been confusing me, teasing me, making fun of me, and being kind of a (good-natured) asshole to me for about two months. Somewhere along the way, I developed a crush on him...weird, I know. He's different, though. Guys aren't usually able to confuse me like he did. He's intelligent and interesting. That's like, exactly what I need in a guy.
Thing is, he kissed me the other day, and completely gave away the fact that he liked me the night before when we were hanging out...so I didn't exactly push him away.
So I like him, he likes me. That's a big problem for me. I got out of a fairly long term thing in like mid-October, and pretty much decided single was the way to go for me. I've always been kind of a loner and I've felt trapped in relationships before. I didn't like that feeling. I'm almost afraid to end up in anything complicated like a relationship with him 'cause - for one thing - I dont want to lose the friendship if it ends badly. I don't want to feel stuck, or tied down right now, at all. That's totally not what I need.
However, it's a mutual crush. I mean, what better grounds for a relationship?
I just don't know what to do, because I want to be with him but I'm afraid of that trapped feeling, and all that. I don't want to go back on my word to myself (I said I'd stay out of relationships for a long time because I was sick of the complexities and the confusion and drama they always ensue), but if that's the case, why do I want to be with him?
Argh.
My first instinct is to run away from my feelings/from him, but consciously I don't want to do that. AHH. I guess I wanna know what you guys think I should do.
Please lay off the chatspeak/all-caps. Both of those are extremely obnoxious. If I have to read your answer more than once to understand it, you're not getting a five.
Thanks =) (link)
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Haha..that last bit made me laugh. I'm glad another advocate of proper grammar exists on this web site!:)
I think you should go for it, but try to take things slow. If you want to avoid complications- you need to be up front with him from the get go. Explain all of what you said here to him so that he is aware of what is going on with you and can understand you better.
I know some people say it's better to be single after a long term relationship, but why let some past dramas hold you back from something potentially good? Though all relationships get a little stressful sometimes, it's not fair to automatically assume that the situation with this guy will turn out like the last. Give it a chance, or you'll regret it and always wonder what it would have been like if you had dated him.
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Okay, my boyfriends name is Michael, and we've been dating now for almost 2 months. I haven't even hugged him yet! We've cuddled & held hands, but I've never actually gone up and gave him a hug. And I've never done anything with him after that. Today I hugged one of my really good guy friends, and Michael found out about it, and now he's all pissed @ me because I've done more with my best guy friend, then I have with him, supposebly. I don't want him to hate me, but he just signed off of AIM & I'm seriously SAD! He said we can't be together if I don't quit flirting with my best friend. ): Please help!
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Hey, it takes two. Why hasn't he hugged you yet? I think he's just pissed that he hasn't stopped being a cowardly whiny little boy like your friend has. It's a fucking hug!! Who cares?! It's not like you blew the guy! If you really care about staying in this with him I suggest not hugging your friend anymore, but I personally think it's BS if you can't hug your friend, as long as you know that your intentions were good...he just sounds too controlling.
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