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the thing is, i need to write a story but i don't know how to really start it. anybody got any ideas? please and thank you!

"To write well, one must write about what they know."

Write about your own life experiences. If you have lived it, you obviously know it quite well, and can write about it in full detail. Remember, you can exaggerate your life to make it more exciting if you have to.

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What is 'IN' right now?

pictures, stores, anything is helpful.

No abercrombie, hollister.

Real Big desighners that have stuff thats really in. Actually, i don't need desighners i really just need pictures.

I personally think fashion this year is better than it's been in years. Some great trends right now include:

Modern Hippie/Bohemian:
Bell bottom jeans, vintage jewelry, tie dye, and flowy shirts and making a come back. Ask your parents what they wore to Grateful Dead concerts, and dress accordingly.
Example of an outfit:
Jeans: http://www.luckybrandjeans.com/Product.aspx?p=LBX14019&l=00020001010500000000&km=&pn=1
Top: http://www.luckybrandjeans.com/Product.aspx?p=LBX14350&l=00020101000000000000&km=&pn=2
Jewelry: http://www.luckybrandjeans.com/Product.aspx?p=LBX10226&l=00020157000000000000&km=&pn=1
http://www.luckybrandjeans.com/Product.aspx?p=LBX12347&l=00020157026400000000&km=&pn=1
Belt: http://www.luckybrandjeans.com/Product.aspx?p=LBX13959&l=00020008000000000000&km=&pn=1
Shoes: http://www.chicbynature.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/04/gladiator-sandals.jpg
Bag:http://www.luckybrandjeans.com/Product.aspx?p=LBX12753&l=00020171000000000000&km=&pn=1

1980's Hip Hop:
Two words: bright. colors.
Example of an outfit:
Pants: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=btms%5Fjeans&product%5Fid=2046756060&Page=all
Shirt: http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3187035&cp=2745080.2887794&view=all&parentPage=family
Shoes: http://nikeid.nike.com/nikeid/?sitesrc=USLP#build,sportculture_womens.1900004.1,_64756e4c6f77507265537475303631322e2e32,10310054,

Tailored:
Clean cut and professional. The kind of things you'd see a business person wearing has now become very in style.
Suit: http://www.chanel.com/fashion/8#8-paris-londres-2007-8-chanel-collection-look-22,3
Shoes: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=footwr%5Fdressy&sub%5Fcategory=&search%5Fsize=&search%5Fcolor=&search%5Fprice=&product%5Fid=2051528157&Page=all

Prep School:
The kind of thing you'd want to wear after listening to Vampire Weekend.
Sweater: http://www.forever21.com/heritage1981/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=81sweaters&product%5Fid=2051736363&Page=all
Shirt: http://www.forever21.com/heritage1981/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=81knit%5Ftop&product%5Fid=2051732880&Page=1
Jeans: http://www.forever21.com/heritage1981/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=81Denim&product%5Fid=2048691060&Page=1

Other random items and such that are in:
Colored/patterned tights- http://www.welovecolors.com/Shop/NylonSplashColorTights.htm
Babydoll dresses- http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=dress%5Fcasual&product%5Fid=2047614426&Page=all# (I have this in red!)
Animal prints: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=btms%5Fskirts&product%5Fid=2032808580&Page=1
Plaid: http://www.forever21.com/heritage1981/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=81Dresses&product%5Fid=2050104771&Page=all
Peacoats: http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=1941&itemID=50158&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter=
Full skirts: http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=450&itemID=49903&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter= (floral is also very in too)
Corduroy pants: http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=428&itemID=50208&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter=
Scarves: http://www.luckybrandjeans.com/Product.aspx?p=LBX14478&l=00020008000000000000&km=&pn=1
Oxford shoes: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=footwr%5Fdressy&sub%5Fcategory=&search%5Fsize=&search%5Fcolor=&search%5Fprice=&product%5Fid=2047115583&Page=all

Stores to shop at:
Forever 21
Heritage 1981
Wet Seal
Charlotte Russe
Lcuky Brand Jeans (really expensive but worth it)

This is only some of the trends out currently. There are many more.

P.S- I had a ridiculous amount of fun answering this.

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is it normal for a 13 year old guy(me) to have never been in a fight, be really sensitive(cry when im angry and when im pissed off/annoyed) and just weird things like that

Perfectly normal.

You don't have to say "weird things like that." It's not weird. On the contrary, it's a great thing. Fighting is silly and useless. And regardless of what they say, many boys cry.

By the way, many girls find these qualities attractive. It could be very useful to you :D.

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How do you make guys notice you? as in wow i like her kind of way or a look way?

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Guy-to-Notice-You

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okay well i need some ideas for something to do for my boyfriend. i've done letters, dinner, photo album, picnic, coupon book, and movies. i cant think of anything else. so if you got some ideas that would be awesome. thanks very much.

-Write a song for him
-Sing an already written song for him (even if you can't sing)
-Watch fireworks together
-Look at the stars
-Look at the clouds
-Bake/cook
-Knit him a hat (sounds cheesy but totally cute)
-Make a mixtape
-Write a poem
-Rent out a movie theatre so it's just you and him (this can get expensive)

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my music camp is doing a talent show
and we have 10 days to prepare
we need a song to do with 6 girls
we were thinking cell block tango
but itmight be too inappropriate
any ideas? we need an idea by tomorrow!

Cell block tango would be a fabulous idea! Just be sure to ask a consuler first if that would be alright.

If it is too inappropriate, try to do something a capella. A capella is so beautiful and anyone can apperciate it. Since there are six of you, you should be able to figure out the harmonies and such.

Songs that are totally awesome A Capella:
-Oxford Comma by Vampire Weekend
-Cape Cod Kwassa Kwassa by Vampire Weekend
-Because by The Beatles
-Across the Universe by the Beatles
-Got to Get You into My Life by the Beatles
-Bleeding Love by Leona Lewis
-The Show by Lenka
-Mamma Mia by Abba
-Remembering Sunday by All Time Low
-All I Have by The Rocket Summer
-Holiday From Real by Jack's Mannequin
-Dark Blue by Jack's Mannequin
-Kill the Messanger by Jack's Mannequin
-Rescue by Jack's Mannequin

Really, you could do just about any song a capella, these are just a few I've heard done that way and particularly like. Ask for help from a consuler if you can't arrange the music quite right.

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I am a very tall girl so i like to avoid wearing heels. I am also very into fashion and i find it hard to keep up without wearing heels.What are suggestions of any fashionable outfits i can waer with fashoinable flats?
pictures would be nice...or detailed descriptions
Thank you very much
p.s all suggestions are welcome:-)

Flats are versitile and can go with almost anything. Heck, if you find the right flat you could probably even wear it with a formal dress. Anyway, here are some examples:

Casual:
Jeans: http://shop.pacsun.com/girls/jeans/venice-skinny/Venice-Skinny-Dark-Indigo/index.pro

Shirt: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=fashion%5Fcasual&product%5Fid=2050952688&Page=all

Shoes: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=footwr%5Fcasual&sub%5Fcategory=&search%5Fsize=&search%5Fcolor=&search%5Fprice=&product%5Fid=2049982479&Page=1

Dressy casual:
Skirt: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=btms%5Fskirts&product%5Fid=2050008021&Page=all

Shirt: http://www.wetseal.com/catalog/product.jsp?categoryId=101&subCategoryId=113&productId=12913 (in white)

Shoes: http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=footwr%5Fdressy&sub%5Fcategory=SHOES%5FFLATS&search%5Fsize=&search%5Fcolor=&search%5Fprice=&product%5Fid=2048351661&Page=1# (in gold)

Dressy:
Dress: http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=316209&CategoryID=18109&LinkType=EverGreen

Shoes: http://www.payless.com/Catalog/ProductDetail.aspx?&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensStory&BLC=WomensPromoFlats&Width=Regular&ItemCode=56527&LotNumber=056830&Type=Adult&Popularity=897&DescriptiveColor=Black

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I really dont know what masterbate is can u please tell me!
Thx

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=masturbation

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what does it mean for a person to be sketchy??

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sketchy

The third definition is the one you are looking for.

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bulimia
ok how bad is it really?
i just want to loose weight really fast.
ive been doing it for two weeks now and i cant even stop anymore...i dont know if thats a good or bad thing.

Bulimia is horrible. Let me share some experiences I have had with it.

When I was younger, my family had a friend who was a model. She was truly beautiful, but constantly trying to lose weight. She developed bulimia. Soon, she died. I was around seven when this happened, so I was obviously quite confused. I could not understand why someone would hate their body enough to throw up everytime they ate.

The Second story I have hits much close to home. This past year my best friend developed bulimia. First, she threw up every few days. It soon became more frequent. Soon she would be planning out binges and when she would vomit her food back up. She lost a ton of weight, however, she looked completely sickly. Her face was constantly breaking out, her clothes hung off of her, and she always had bags under her eyes. The pretty girl I was once laughing and having a good time with was gone. Eventually, she hit an all time low and had to spend a week in the hospital. Now, she has recovered. However, she still has to go to therapy once a week and she relapses every so often. It's a work in progress, but I amso happy my best friend is back.

As you can see, bulimia is extremely serious. If you cannot stop please seek help as soon as possible. You need a professional.

http://www.bulimia-treatment.net/

Look around this website for tips on recovery. I really hope you stop doing this to yourself. Your friends and family do not want to see you hurt yourself.

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when you give a hand job how do you get inside the guys pants? do you stick your hand in there or do you unbutton/zip his pants and pull it out or what?
and what do you do with all of the cum?

You pull it out. That way his pants won't get messy.

And you just wash your hands to get it off.

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isit good to be low key?

Yeah. Many guys don't really like high mantience girls. However, if you aren't already low key, don't go changing yourself for guys.

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Okay, so my boyfriend's birthday is soon and he is turning fifteen. What do you get a Red Sox baseball loving guy for his fifteenth birthday? I'm in a rut!
I've already gotten him a picture frame that I decorated with a picture of us in it, I've baked for him a lot, and I don't just want to get him some gift card or money, you know?
And I also don't wanna get him something uber-expensive, I need to live too haha. The most I wanna spend is about 50$.
Help!

Thanks.

Obviously, baseball tickets or a jersey would be a good idea. Furthermore, outside the stadium you can generally find offical Red Sox baseballs or signed ones for a cheap price. Try for one of those. Really any Red Sox memorabilia would be a good idea.

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Well im young and i havent started my period, but i want to know hwo you know your gonna start, like i know you get cramps and moody but do you know when its a period cramp, or do you know the moodiness is from your period, like is it nothing youve felt before, like you can tell, i just wanna know if i will know for sure that "that is period cramps" or "that is moodiness from my period", i can tell, so please help me out , i wanna know, Thanks!

Not all girls get cramps and mood swings. Other symptoms may include tenderness of the breasts and strange cravings. You may also feel tired. You could experience all of these, or none at all. It differs from girl to girl.

You probably won't be sure if the cramps and mood swings are from your period if you have not gotten your period yet. Once you do get them, however, you will be able to differentiate quite easily. Period cramps are pain in your lower stomach, around where your uterus is located. Once your cycle becomes regular you will be able to tell if your mood swings are caused by your period because they generally come a few days beforehand.

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Okay, so one of my friends, lets call her Jamie, is always making fun of my dislexia (and for those of you who dont know, dislexia is a learning disability that, for me, pervents me from reading and writing well).

She always laughs at me when I miss spell a easy word, or cant read a easy word. I also studder when I talk, which she makes fun of.

When i try to defend myself and bring up the fact that im getting strate A's, she brings up the fact that i can only write at a 4th grade level and have to type everything because my handwriting is unreadable.

Anytime i tell her to stop, she tells me to relax and that its just a joke. What should i do?

13/f

Honestly, you shouldn't be her friend. She is a negative person and does not care about your feelings. Friends are supposed to bring out the best in you, however, she just makes you feel terrible about yourself.

Does she really seem like a great friend?
Didn't think so.

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can anyone give me any good love poems

if you can try not to put in website address to them because i dont want to visit a website for poems/quotes.

also can you try making them unique not the same old ones

thank you!

A special world for you and me
A special bond one cannot see
It wraps us up in its cocoon
And holds us fiercely in its womb.

Its fingers spread like fine spun gold
Gently nestling us to the fold
Like silken thread it holds us fast
Bonds like this are meant to last.

And though at times a thread may break
A new one forms in its wake
To bind us closer and keep us strong
In a special world, where we belong.

- Sheelagh Lennon -


My love, I have tried with all my being
to grasp a form comparable to thine own,
but nothing seems worthy;

I know now why Shakespeare could not
compare his love to a summer’s day.
It would be a crime to denounce the beauty
of such a creature as thee,
to simply cast away the precision
God had placed in forging you.

Each facet of your being
whether it physical or spiritual
is an ensnarement
from which there is no release.
But I do not wish release.
I wish to stay entrapped forever.
With you for all eternity.
Our hearts, always as one.

- Anthony Kolos -


If I could have just one wish,
I would wish to wake up everyday
to the sound of your breath on my neck,
the warmth of your lips on my cheek,
the touch of your fingers on my skin,
and the feel of your heart beating with mine...
Knowing that I could never find that feeling
with anyone other than you.

- Courtney Kuchta -


love the way you look at me,
Your eyes so bright and blue.
I love the way you kiss me,
Your lips so soft and smooth.

I love the way you make me so happy,
And the ways you show you care.
I love the way you say, "I Love You,"
And the way you're always there.

I love the way you touch me,
Always sending chills down my spine.
I love that you are with me,
And glad that you are mine.

- Crystal Jansen -

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what kind of healthy diet can i go on that will help me lose weight fast?

Diets don't work. Weight watchers does.

Seriously. Yo-yo dieting does not work. You lose the weight for a short period of time, however, once you begin eating "normally" again, you gain it all back. What you need is a lifestyle change that will gradually help you lose weight and keep you healthy. Like weight watchers.

There are no quick fixes in life. Espically with weight.

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why does barbie have boobs but ken doesnt have a penius???

Barbie's boobs are just there to make her look more womanly.

Ken doesn't have a penis and Barbie does not have a vagina or nipples because it would be inappropriate for young children to see that.

And if it was appropriate to put a penis on Ken, pets would probably chew it off anyway.

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would you girlies recommend this really cheap priced BRAND?

there brushes are only a dollar!!!
e.l.f. is the brand.

No. The shipping is ridiculously expensive. Not worth it at all.

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anyone know how to get blood stains out of your clothes?

Soap and water works wonders.

Also try using peroxide. Sometimes this fades the color though, so take warning.

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