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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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So i have two children and they both were delivered through the caesarian method. And i have been steralised, (got my fallopian tubes cut or stitched, don't really remember). And now, after about 14 years, I get these strong, unbearable pains on my one side, near my pelvis. Like at the ovary, and I just don't know what could be it. I have gone to a couple of doctors and scans, and they came back clear. The doctors saud that there isn't anything they can see or know, and just left me hanging.
please give me some advice, like anyone who has the same problems or anything..
thanks!

Well, I don't know that I can help, but I'll give it a shot.
I have also had 2 by c-section. Mine were 13 months apart (the second pregnancy was hard on the not quite healed abdomen...) However, my youngest is 7 months, and that is a ways from 14 years. I've also had tubal ligation.
I have pain in my incision area now and then.

When I asked my OB about it, she said basically what that came down to was the fact that, contrary to popular belief, c-sections are major abdominal surgery. They are not easy to overcome. They cut through everything, muscle and all.

My best GUESS would be that since those muscles and tendons will never be the same again, perhaps the scar tissue, or the weakened abdominal area in general is causing you trouble.

You said you have been to a couple of doctors, but have you seen any sort of specialist? I'm not sure what sort of specialist you'd need to see for that, but if you ask the doctor will refer you to one.

I don't know if that helps, but I hope you get it figured out. Those pains are nothing fun to have to live with.

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I have a half a bottle of red wine that has been sitting on my counter for a little over a week...is it ok to drink?

Considering the finest wines are aged many, many years, it should be fine.
They say red is best sipped at room temperature, and after allowed to air in the glass for a few minutes.


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so im a Christian. 4 & a half years ago, my grandma, who was basically my best friend and second mom, died of an unknown cancer. that was the hardest time of my life, she was one of the most important and closest people to me. now im 18 and i've been thinking about a tattoo for some time. i originally planned to get a cross with a banner wrapped around it, with my grandma's initials inside the banner, and maybe "always faithful" in chinese symbols under the cross. but, even though the cross tattoos are awesome, they're pretty overdone. can anyone give me any ideas of what else i could use? its gonna be on the top of my foot, so it cant be huge but it'll be a decent size. and i want it to include her initials and also symbolize my faith as a Christian, bc during that time when she died, is when i was truly saved. and please dont say google tattoo pictures, id like personal ideas. thanks.

Since you want it to symbolize your grandma,try to incorporate something that she loved.

Say for example, she loved daisies. You could put a cross surrounded in daisies, or a cross made of daisies.

I don't know if that's what you're looking for, but something like that would take the "overdone" cross and make it into something unique and special to you personally.


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My Dad was recently layed off, and was looking for work but is having a hard time because he dosen't have a GED. He dropped out of school in 8th grade, and never went back because he found a well paying job at a factory. He was wondering if there was an online source to get a GED, or something similiar? Any information would be good.

Thanks.

The best way to get information on getting a GED in your area is to talk to your school guidance councilor.
Along with helping kids with their problems, they help figure out how to further education.


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how soon can you take a pregnancy test. im really getting scared now. i had sex last week friday. i had my boyfriend put it in without a condom for about 5 strokes and i just read this thing about "precum"??
anyway is it too soon to tel????
thanx

You will get the most accurate result if you wait to test until you are at least 2 weeks late for your next due period.
No matter what the box says...

Chances of a false negative on a pregnancy test are way higher than the slim risk of a false positive. This is due to testing too early.

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Hi

i recently got hit in the eye with a shuttle cock
and my vision was blurred for acouple days
not my eye has got better but my pupil is huge and my other eyes pupil is small??????
Have i done some serious long to damage or will this just got back to normal...??

thanks

rob

That sort of advice won't be found on the internet.
The best advice is that you need to go to your doctor. Better yet, visit an optometrist.

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I went to the hospital to get an ultrasound on my abdominal cavity and I asked the technician to check for a baby really quick(ive been wondering if i was pregnant) and I would have been 6 weeks pregnant at the time. She said she wasnt supposed to do it but she can check really quick. She slid the "wand" over my uterus for about 5 seconds and said "no baby".

What im wondering is if she could have seen anything that early on to know if i am pregnant or not? And she did it so quick!! I know she knows what shes doing so she doesnt need a long look to see if i am pregnant but should i trust it? Was it too quick of a scan or was it reliable? At 6 weeks, she would at least have seen a gestational sac right?

Most likely there was no baby to see. An ultrasound technician knows exactly what they are looking for and what they are looking at.

Most likely, at 6 weeks a fetus could be seen through abdominal ultrasound. Usually if an ultrasound has to be done that early in pregnancy, they use a vaginal wand to be able to examine the baby more clearly than an abdominal ultrasound would allow at that time. Most ultrasounds aren't done that early in the pregnancy unless there is a problem.

Looking at an ultrasound of your uterus at 6 weeks, she would see a small amniotic sac on the uterine wall at the very least.

If you feel the scan wasn't accurate, by all means take a test. You can get them in the store, or if you can't afford one, your county health department will test you for a very minimal fee, or free of charge if you're broke.

If you are at least 2 weeks late for your due period, it is a good time to take a test. If you take one before that, the accuracy of your results goes downhill.

Urine pregnancy tests are pretty accurate if not taken too soon. If taken too soon, you have a higher chance of a false negative. Pregnancy tests have a much higher risk of false negatives rather than false positives.

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Why are people Prejudice?

They don't know any better, for one reason or another. Sometimes they never know any better, and sometimes they don't want to.
When a person refuses to know any better, that is flat out ignorance.

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My parents wont let me and my boyfriend be home alone together, is there any way I can convince them to? Like by saying things like I have good grades, etc..?

I very extremely highly doubt that you can convince them.
They are assuming you want to be alone to do things a couple only does while alone. Though that may not be your intentions, they HAVE to assume that.

Why? It's one of the many ways they look out for your best interests. Though it seems awful and unfair to you now, you will one day fully understand where they are coming from.

When that day comes, I promise you will feel thankful that your parents love you so much that they do seemingly mean things like not let their teenage daughter stay home alone with her teenage boyfriend.

You will feel thankful that they care about you so much that they are willing to make you mad at them by doing what is best.

I'm not saying you're mad at them, or anything. I'm just saying you will wish they would allow you to do something more than once in your teen years.

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No matter what brand of shaving cream I use the end result is the same. It burns and itches like hell while it's on my face and leaves my face red afterward. I know I must be allergic to a common ingredient in it but I'm not sure what.

Do you have any suggestions for what products I should use? Better yet any idea of what is in most shaving creams that could do this to my face?

I have a couple of suggestions for you.

1- Use an electric razor. No creams involved.

2- Though it may sound silly, use conditioner rather than a cream. (Yes, the conditioner that partners with shampoo...) It will prevent razor burn and moisturize your skin.


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I am 21 and a few months ago i became engaged to my boyfriend of several months. I went to college in another state where he was playing in the minor baseball league. My parents had never met him and when i called to tell them that not only had i met a guy but we were engaged they were pretty upset. The wedding is now 2 weeks away and my fiance and i are leaving tomorrow to go home for the wedding. (We decided to get married in my home town)Yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. I'm not sure if i should wait until after the wedding has happened before i tell my parents or tell them right away. They are very conservative and since they didn't take to well to me marrying someone they haven't met yet, i'm pretty sure they won't take it to well that i'm already pregnant.
My thought was to just wait and tell them that it happened on our honeymoon thinking that they would at least feel better about the fact that it happened after we were married. Any other ideas?

Why lie? Your parents deserve better than that.

Here is my suggestion:
Wait until after the wedding to tell them.
You can either be flat honest and say it happened before the wedding, OR you can just tell them you're pregnant and let them draw their own conclusions.

But come on. Don't say "Oh it happened on the honeymoon..." Like I said, they deserve better than that. This is their grandchild you're talking about.

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Helloo =] Does anybody know some really good romance films ? PLease name any you can think of x x

I'm not much into romance, however Titanic is an awesome movie.

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17, F.

Ok so I want to go on birth control, either pills or the injection, but i'm too shy to go on my own. I'm not very good with walking into places on my own, its a nervous thing, that I just can't help.

I can't really ask my mum to take me, because she doesn't know im sexually active, I haven't got a friend that will go with me either..

What can i do?

Also what do I say when I ring up? Do i ring my doctor, or the sexual health clinic? :S

I'm sure that you could call either place.

However, you need to try to make the step on going on your own. You won't always have someone to go with you.
That, and considering you don't usually get birth control without a pap/pelvic exam, you wouldn't likely want people along to witness that...


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I was using mothballs in my closets and drawers but my mom got very sick and I think my dizziness was also caused by moth balls. What is a good alternative with no smell where one would not detect anything is in the drawers or closets but would effectively keep the insects away

I read once that dryer sheets kept in drawers help keep insects out. I've never tried it, so I can't tell you for sure one way or the other. Worth a shot though.


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my granny is 90 years old and she can't really take care of herself so she's living with my aunt right now and whenever my aunt has to go somewhere i look after my granny so she isn't by herself and i wait on her hand and foot. I fix her coffee, give her meds,and fix her supper and she never appreciates any of it and it's really starting to bug me i mean i don't mind looking after my granny for my aunt but granny could at least say thankyou for everything i do for her and i want to tell her off somithing terrible but i hold in my anger and don't say anything about it but i don't know how much longer i can keep my mouth shout what should i do when i want to release my anger out on my granny please help!

Try to look at it this way.

Granny is 90.
I'm pretty sure, all of her life, she's done for herself.
Now she doesn't have independence.
She can't even stay home alone and be to herself anymore.
Such things can really weigh heavy on a person's mind. They can make that person depressed. When a person can't be independent and feel sad and angry about it, they don't often think to say thank you.

Don't take it out on her, ok? She can't help it that things are as they are.

Maybe you can make her feel better about her life, and in turn, she will perhaps feel more appreciative.

When you take her a cup of coffee, sit down and ask her what things were like when she was growing up. Showing interest in her life will make her feel good. Also, she may have some really awesome stories to tell you, if only you ask to hear them.

I know my grandma did.

Try that out and see if it helps. Just don't blow up at her. It will only make you both feel worse.

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OK people I am sorry I am always asking questions about one guy. and thank-you to the people who have helped me out.Well last night me and my best friend (who is a guy) were talking on the net and some how we ended up doing stuff and him saying he wishes it was in person. Well he has a gf and today he was acting like I was his GF and treating me like it and making sure I was ok with what ever he was doing.Sad part is he dont even do that with his Gf. So idk what to do he is cheating on his Gf with me and I feel more guilty then him.....GAH! I love him more then anything but this isnt right

Well, you feel guilty because you know it isn't right. What do you do?
Stop him.
Tell him NO.
Remind him he has a girlfriend.
Tell him you realized this behavior is inappropriate.


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I'm 16 and like in cook county Illinois. In the last month I've gotten two speeding tickets. One was 58 in a 35, and the other was 48 in a 30. I have court October 3rd and 7th. Does anyone have any advice on how to fight these, or a smart way to go about handling these tickets.

Fight them? Not to sound rude but, you go and try to fight them, you'll look a fool. You could fight one that was maybe 3 mph over speed limit, not 18 mph over, and especially not 23 mph over.
So fighting them is not the smart idea.

The smart idea is take the fine the judge hands you. (You have to admit you earned them.).

The smartest thing you can do is SLOW DOWN.

30 mph and 35 mph posted speed limits are for a reason. Most likely because going faster puts people at risk of being run over in the road.

Be wise behind the wheel, OK?
I've made mistakes and been in car accidents. You don't want that, I promise. Speeding puts you at high risk of being in an accident.


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I saw your advice column and would like to ask you a question if you don't mind. I am a 21 year old female with a 10 month old son. His father and I broke up for a period of 3 months, and during that time, both him and I have been with other sexual partners. As ashamed as I am, I had unprotected sex for just a few minutes(I know time doesn't matter) and he also did. I'm not sure of exactly what he did, because I do not want to know for emotional reasons, however, do need to know for health reasons. I do know he slept with someone unprotected. I got tested for STD's 2 and a half months after these incidents occurred and me and him were sleeping together again. I tested positive for Chlamydia and took antibiotics immediately to cure it. HIV came up negative but it was only at 2 and a half months testing. I've read alot about HIV and usually, as I read, conclusive results will come back by 10 weeks( exactly 2 and a half months ). They reccommend waiting until 3 months and then again at 6 to be sure. I read it is very rare to get a negative at 3 months and positive at 6 but it does happen to a small percentage of people. I just got tested today for it again, which will be my 3 month mark. I suffer from anxiety attacks as it is and am extremely worried about the results. I know I already tested at 2 and a half months and I read all different things(some say 6-10 weeks, some say as early as 2 weeks, some say 3 months) ...everyones body is different so at different times it will read the antibodies in the test. However, I cannot relax about this. I know alot of people worry about it after testing, but I am extremely worried. It is all I think about and I will know the results Friday but I'm really really scared I have it. We have had risky sex with other people these past few months now knowing their sexual status. I have already beat myself up over this many times and definately learned my lesson, but I can't shake this worry. I am distant from my boyfriend and am so scared if I have it, it will ruin my child's life. I may be overthinking this, but I am terrified for Friday and the doctor saying I am HIV positive. HIV is more common than society thinks, however, it is still a rare disease. I guess my question is, do you have any advice on how I can relax and ensure myself that I do not have HIV since it already came up neg after 2 and a half months?

Though there is no cure for HIV/Aids, medicine has greatly advanced since it's discovery. They do have treatments to slow symptoms and help you live a longer life.

That's on the chance that you do have it.

In the meantime, you need to calm down. When you start freaking out about it, try this:
Stop what you're doing.
Breath slowly and deeply.
Try to clear your mind to ward off negative thoughts.
Then try to avert your mental attention to a "happy place."

Perhaps that happy place is thinking of your baby's smile and laughter? Focusing on something so positive as that may help when you have those "what if" episodes.

Also think about how, though there is still that percentage of chance the test could come back positive, think of the relief you will feel when it comes back negative.

Until Friday comes, take things not a day at a time, but a moment at a time. Fill those moments with things that bring joy and positives to your life.

I don't know if that helps, but I sure hope it does. I hope you get back to me after Friday, and that all comes out well. :-)

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I had sex about 3 weeks ago on my period & we didn't use a condom!


Whats the possiblity of me being pregnant?


I've had sex with him before without a condom & never got pregnant!

Anytime you have unprotected sex, you put yourself at that risk. Yes, you can get pregnant while on your period.
Also, not using condoms puts you at risk of getting and passing STDs.

I strongly suggest you research facts and myths regarding pregnancy and STDs. An informed girl is a wise girl.

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ever since i can remember i've felt like i'm living in the wrong time..like i feel like i shoud live in the 80's or 70's. i am obsessed with everything from back in those times and always wish so hard that i could live then instead of now. i feel like back then everything was much easier and relaxed and there wasn't as many world problems and stuff as there is now. all of my favorite movies, music, and actors are from back then but then it sucks becuase the actors are older now so it's weird since i'm just a teen..i just feel like iwas meant to live back then. sometimes i even get depressed about this and people ask me what would make you happy? and really what would make me happy is living in the 70's or 80's but i know that's impossible now. it just sucks because i totally hate this time era. i feel like techonology ruins everything and lets people know things they aren't meant to know, and that's why everyone fights so much. i just feel like all this technology is unnatural, and i feel lke in the 70's or 80's it was at the perfect balance. in my dream world i would be a child in the 70's and a teen in the 80's...i would be so happy. because i feel like techonology and the new world now ruins everything. can anyone help me? i just want to feel better about the time i'm living.and has this happened to anyone else? or do i just have problems?what can i do to feel better about the time i live in! i just love the 80's and 70's so muchh.

I think the 60's would have been a cool time to live in. However, one can't go back in time, and its unhealthy to live in the past.

Though there wasn't the technology back then that we have at our fingertips now, things weren't all peachy keen back then.

From link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1980s#Disasters

Disasters:

* Mount St. Helens erupted in Washington, U.S. on May 18 1980, killing 57 people.

* The 1989 Loma Prieta Earthquake struck the San Francisco Bay Area during the 1989 World Series, gaining worldwide attention. Sixty-five people were killed and thousands injured, with major structural damage on freeways and buildings and broken gas-line fires in San Francisco, California. The cost of the damage totaled $13 billion (1989 USD).

* The US Drought of 1988 decimated the US with many parts of the country becoming victim. This was the worst drought to hit the United States in many years. The US Drought of 1988 caused $60 billion in damage (between $80 billion and $120 billion for 2008 USD). The heat waves represented alongside stole 4800 to 17000 thousand lives in the Unites States.

* Hurricane Allen (1980), Hurricane Alicia (1983), Hurricane Gilbert (1988), Hurricane Joan (1988), and Hurricane Hugo (1989)

* Other natural disasters: The 1982–1983 El Nino brought destructive weather to most of the world; the 1985 Mexico earthquake registered 8.1 on the Richter scale and devastated Mexico City and other areas throughout central Mexico; the 1985 Nevado del Ruiz lahar in Colombia; the 1986 Lake Nyos limnic eruption in Cameroon; and the 1988 Armenian earthquake, which rocked the Caucasus region of the USSR.

Non-natural disasters

In 1984 the Bhopal disaster resulted from a toxic MIC gas leak at the Union Carbide plant in Bhopal, India, killing 3,000 immediately and ultimately claiming 15,000-20,000 lives.

In 1986 the Chernobyl disaster, a large-scale nuclear meltdown in the Ukrainian SSR, Soviet Union, spread a large amount of radioactive material across Europe, killing 47 people, dooming countless others to future radiation-related cancer, and causing the displacement of 300,000 people.

In 1986, the Challenger disaster, the NASA Space shuttle Challenger explodes after takeoff, killing all of the crew on board. This is the first disaster involving the destruction of a NASA space shuttle.

In 1989 the Exxon Valdez oil spill occurred in Alaska. Although not among the largest oil spills, its remote and sensitive location made it one of the most devastating ecological disasters ever.


That kind of stuff is best left in the past where it belongs. Wouldn't you agree?

Best thing to do is let it go. If you feel technology ruins people, then be above that by not letting it ruin you.
Remember that the 70's and 80's had it's positives, but it also had it's share of negative.

Just like the 60's.


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