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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Hello ,

My name is Betty and and my friend shes about 14 or 15 years old and shes been going out with her boyfriend for about 2 years now and they love eachother nothing gets in there way her boyfriend tells her everything and doesnt leave anything else and hes always telling her how much he loves her and everything hes a real sweet caring guy and my friend is really scared because there going to highschool next year and there going to separate highschools and the guy she loves said no other girl will ever replace her ever ever ever and people already tried breaking them up but it seems there love got even stronger do you think they were ment to be? Because they absoltuley love eachother and everything and im just wondering.

Thank you so much!
Betty.

They could be, but probably not. I had "love" like that before, and we're not together anymore.

wat is metrosexual?? give me examples of people please

It's a guy who is indeed straight, but has really good taste & is in touch with his feminine side.

15/F
I've liked this guy for a couple of months and a few weeks ago I found out that he likes me back. A group of my friends and one of my closest friends friends (Sorry if that's confusing) met up at the mall yesterday, and I found out from my friend that he's bisexual. And I still like him. I just don't know if I would want to go out with him anymore. I don't have anything against people who are bisexual, it's just that I've never dated a guy like that before and I don't If I would want to. Am I being unfair? I'm so confused. What should I do?

You are definitely being unfair. If you don't have anything against bi-sexual people, why are you letting your opinion about him change? He likes you, and you like him, so why does sexuality matter? I'm bi-sexual, it doesn't stop people from dating me, and if it did then they're dumb.

If you like this kid, then go out with him. Sexuality is nothing. It's how he treats you & makes you feel. It's also personality and attraction. Don't let his sexual preferences change your mind.

do girls get anything out of it when they get felt up? is it like pleasurable to them?

or do they get nothing out of it?

just wondering . . .

Everyone's different. I personally don't like it. But other girls do.

my boyfriend really wants to eat me out and hes tried to get me to let him before but i was nervous so i didnt.

my question is, is that really appealing to guys or could he just be doing it to pleasure me? like do they get turned on my the taste and smell?

He could be doing it for both. Maybe he likes to eat people out. Or maybe he wants to pleasure you.

i like this guy named sevvy. we're in 8th grade and we talk almost every night on this other kid, randall's forum. about a week ago we were discussing religion on there from 11:00 PM to 2:00 AM. we have different views on religion, but we both made each other think. i told him we should talk like that in person and he said "actually i was thinking the same thing". we only have one class together and hardly ever talk, but he says random things to me more than he used to, and maybe he just thinks we're better friends now. but i actually like him. and he's kind of nerdy so maybe he thinks i wouldn't like him or something. but i don't know if i should tell him or not, it might make me seem like a fool. please help!

If you like him, tell him. Things will get better between you guys because if that's what he's thinking, then he'll be more comfortable around you.

dude my mom is so gay. she is trying to make me feel guilty for no reason. she always yells at me and i hate it! she drinks and smokes when i told her don't do it around me. she does it anyways. then she cusses me out all the time. when i didn't do anything. i hate it. i just wish she would die. i hate her. i want to move out forever! what can i do. my brother said i could move in with him when he gets a house. and my aunt said the same thing.! help what can i do?

Well, there's nothing you can do except stick it out until your brother gets a house. Once he does that, get under his custody & live with him.

whats the brown kinda yellow stuff coming out of my vagina sometimes.

It could be discharge, or it could be your period.

okay so i pretty much hate my mom
we havent got along at all this year
and shes always cussin at me, calling me names and i hate it cuz ill be at school and then once i face her at home its like i wish i was dead, or ran away or something where i never see her again.
and then shes always blaming me on everything.
and she does drink alot of beers which kind of bugs me as well
and im just wondering if you can be put into child service or something on your say?
youll pry say ill miss my mom but im not joking, i noe some kids who wish they could runaway but then there problems get better. MINE HASNT!

Talk to a trusted adult about this. Nothing is going to get better if you just sit around & do nothing about your problems. Running away won't solve it. However, calling social services would be a bright idea. Your mother sounds like an alcoholic & that could be why she's the way she is towards you.

how can you really hear the ocean through a shell? is that even possible?

No. It's just a stupid myth.

I have a traditional family. you know, brothers sisters, a mom and a dad. but I feel like they don't care about me. don't get me wrong, my friends and teachers and church leaders think I'm amazing. They love me so much, and they never ask me to be what I'm not, but none of the people that I think should love me do. my sister is 3 and she's always telling me I'm a bitch and she hates me (I'm not lying), I'm 5'4 and 115 pounds and my brother keeps telling me I'm fat, my mother is always trying to make me dress in trendy clothes that I hate and telling my I'm weird because I'd rather be myself thatn what anyone else wants me to be, and my dad ignores me completely. I was suicidal for a long time and they never even noticed. I know they aren't right about me not being worth their time because how can everyone else in the world be wrong, but how do I deal with the people who are supposed to love me unconditionally seeming to not care at all?

17/f

Talk to somebody about it. Maybe a counselor, maybe a friend. If you can, try to talk to your mother about what this is doing to you. If you talk to one of them, they can probably help.

what are some different ideas for taking pictures of yourself? like something different/unique that not everyone does.. (for myspace) thanks!

Sit indianstyle in your pictures. Hold your camera above your head & look up. If you can get the way you're sitting into the picture as well, that'd make it better. Or, lay on your stomach with your feet in the air outside or something.

Is it normally to crave food before your period? I'm usually not the type of person that eats a lot or wants to, but my period is suppose to come next week & I feel like I need to eat like crazy. Any ideas?

Yeah, it's definitely normal. Before I get my period, I crave chocolate cake & I make my mom buy me one for myself so I can get my chocolate fix.

I'm 5'6 1/2 to 5'7 & I'm 16. How much should I weigh? Could you give me a graph or w/e?

Since I have no idea how much you should weigh, I used Google for the charts & tried to remember what the hell my health teacher was telling me. Since you're 67 inches tall, you should weigh anywhere from 121lbs to 153lbs. Here's the chart I got from Google:

http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/guidelines/obesity/bmi_tbl.pdf

It's going to pop up as something in the ADOBE Reader thing, so it may take a little longer than usual to load.

well my older sister doesnt live with me but i see her very often like on the weekends, and she knows what i am going through with him.

See if you could live with her as an alternative. She knows what you're going through, so she's probably willing to help in any way she can.

What hurts worse..just out of curiousity?
Your belly button/tongue or your nose?
I have my nose pierced and it hurt like hell. But i really want my belly button and tongue pierced but I am not sure what would hurt worse.

It depends on the person. Some piercings don't hurt for others, but may hurt for you. So what may hurt to you, may tickle to me & vice versa.

My brother has gotten tons of piercings & tons of tattoos, and he said they didn't hurt. However, my cousin got the same piercing my brother did and she said it sucked for her. When getting your tounge pierced, you tend to drool when the needle goes through. And it's not a small amount of drool either...it's massive! You also can't eat solid foods [chicken, potatoes, things like that] for about a week or two. So, you can only eat jello, pudding, ice cream, or soup.

As for your bellybutton, I'm not sure about that because I've never gotten it done, nor do I know anyone who has. Basically, pain is different for everyone. Make sure you go somewhere clean. Make sure they open the needles in front of you & explain what they're going to do, what they're using, how it's done & how to take care of it. If they don't, walk out.

I hate my family!
Everyone always takes my little sisters side because she is handicap and 8 and im 15.
"oh kelsey your so immature for fighting with her"
" can you just learn how to learn to shutup"
"leave her alone"

they always catch me doing something.
they never catch her and she is soo annoying.
she pisses me off so much.

and when i hit her its just a tap and she crys and crys and crys!
like i punched her in the face (i wish)

you know everyone feels to sorry for her because she cant walk.
other then not walking she is perfectly normal, like she can talk fine, just like a normal person.

!!
no one sees that, and its pissing me off.
because i cant tell her dad off without my mom yelling at me and my mom knows im right.

the only person in this family that i CAN trust is my older sister because she's already been through problems with my mom's bf. she she actually had the balls to punch him and got charged with simple battery.

please tell me what to do because im about to go crazy.

Talk to your mom about it and ask her why the hell you've gotta take this shit. It's not fair that she's such an angel & that you get treated like this especially when you're right.

Does your older sister live with you? If not, see if you can stay with her as an alternative.

My mother says that she hates my boyfriend. I am 14 and we are 2 years in our relationship. We tried everything but she still hates me. I cant understand anymore, and with it, now she hates me! She doesnt trust us because we've had sex. So she just hates both of us and breaking us apart! I dont know what to do. Please help! What should i do? I cant break up with him? and why does she hate me about it?

She's upset because her 14 year old daughter is having sex, and I would be upset too. Fourteen is a little young to be having sex with somebody [no matter how long you've been together]. Just talk to your mother about it & don't get an attitude with her. If you stay calm, the conversation will run smoothly.

My best friend is moving away soon, so i'm making her a huge scrapbook full of pictures and stuff. i was looking for some good quotes and poems about going away, adventure, trying new things, etc. (she actually moved here for a year, and is moving back to where she came from) suggestions? help? preferably quotes/poems by well-known people. thanks a ton!

I use www.wittyprofiles.com. They have basically everything.

Ok so, im 14 years young and ive recently been diagnosed with depression. Isort of saw it coming, but for some reason it came as a huge blow. ive felt different ever since, but at the same time, im relieved to know that my personality has a justification. I have a lack of energy and happiness, and lately not only do i REALLY dont care about anything, but i've become extremely suicidal. Yesterday all i could think about was death, i just DON'T see any point in living anymore. I'm become more afraid of myself, because I actually might committ suicide [I've tried it twice before]. In my mind I ask myself why I haven't done it. I know I need help, but people reminding me each day is making me feel like I deserve it even less. There's a lot more to my story, but I know well that people are sick and tired of listening to other's problems when they have their own to deal with. I don't feel that anyone cares anymore, as hard as they try to pretend. So, should I just do it already?? Thanx for reading

No, don't kill yourself. I can be more of a help personally through Instant Messenger. My screen name is on my column. Feel free to IM me.

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