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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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This is the deal... my best friend hates
my guts :( . We've always been really close
and this is our first fight. You dont really
need to know but I'll tell you... I went out with
her ex-boyfriend 2 months after they broke up
... long long long story but shes been really upset with me this week. Tomorrow's her birthday .. and well I am making her a card. To apologize and tell her how much I love her and how
this dumb guy shouldnt get inbetween us. Can I have some things to say ?? I dont want it to sound like I'm sucking up .. but basicly its the truth i do love her very much and I want to tell her. Also I make lame/cute cards for all my friend son their birthdays so this is nothing new. Does anyone have anything good I can write inside? Quotes? Just sayings? Anything? THANKS .xoxox

If you want to say sorry, make it come from the heart. Asking a bunch of people online who know nothing about the relationship you & your friend share is useless.

ok so letz call him chris. he lovez me nd i really do love him. even doe i don't act like it. he'z like my bestfriend. so the other day he got drunk and he fucked 3 gurls. but he told me. atleast i didn't hear it from some1 else. inoe it was supposed 2 be hurt but i wasnt. i was mad but he was drunk. so last night when he said something about this girl he loved and his broken heart it hurt me. i never thought he could hurt me i didn't know i let him get so close and i've known this kid for so long. i love him but i don't know what to do. he really thinks me and him r meant for eachother. he wants 2 be together. i'm scared. i don't know what 2 do.

First off, get a dictionary & learn to spell. You don't go to school for the hell of it. Pay attention in English.

Secondly, being drunk is no excuse to cheat on anyone. And fucking three people? Hell no. Leave him. Not only was he drunk, but he cheated on you with three other people, & then told you about some other girl he loved.

Honestly, leave him. What he did was wrong & it was even more wrong for him to do that & blame it on alcohol.

Hey, my birthday is coming up in about 2 weeks, and the only thing I really want is an Xbox 360. They're like $400 right now, but I have $200 saved up already. How can I manage to ask them for this and to offer to pay for half of it? If anybody has any weaseling tips, it would help lol.

Present the idea to them. Tell them that you want it, and just offer to pay for half if they say it's too much. If you keep asking, they're more likely to get sick of hearing it, and get it for you.

i cant take school anymore. its annoying the shit out of me, and its getting harder and harder every day, especially math and science. ive always wanted to go to college and have a good futute but im now beginning to think that all of that doesnt matter anymore since i hate school SOO much. i dont understand ANYTHING in math, and i pay attention too. i fail EVERY quiz and my math grade was a B- last week, so this week's progress report i'm probably gonna get a D. my effed up teacher gives a quiz EVERY week i am not kidding. every week, we have a quiz or test in math and science and in science the questions are so fucking hard, they arent in the science book, they arent on google, they arent anywhere. i just dont know what the hell to do. i dont wanna talk to anyone or my parents or a school councelor or teacher. help me please.

Ask your teachers for extra help. Try to find a kid who understands this well & ask if they can help you. Maybe try to get easier classes? I'm not sure if you're in advanced or not, but if you're in advanced, take an easier class. And a B minus isn't really that bad. I'd kill to have grades like that. Not only are you passing, but you're in the 80's.

If you don't talk to anyone about this, it's never going to get easier or better for you, so doing that would be the best. Talk to a teacher, talk to a counselor, talk to someone. School will not get easier if you let it defeat you. And you cannot drop out in 7th grade. In some states, you have to be at least 16. And even then it's not worth it because when you're 16, you'll be in 10th or 11th grade. There'll be no point in dropping out. Just stay in school, try your best, get some extra help & do your work.

13/f ok so i like this boy lets call him T. since 6th grade. and mi friend has like him for 2 years. well she REALLY likes him. so she invited him to a party and he was the only boy tht showed up. and she likes him and he likes her. but i would ask him out before her if i wasn't short and fat and unatractive. kuz i really like him. becauce he is a good student sweet guy and just really nice. shes fianlly gonna ask him out tomorow. what do i? i hate being jealous because he is soooooooooo nice. and i REALLY like him!
please help me i really wanna ask him out, but i dunno what to do. please help!!! on how to act and what to do.

If your friend likes him and is going to ask him out, you need to accept that & back off. He likes her, she likes him -- let them be together. It'll hurt, yes, and you'll be even more jealous, but you'll get over it. There's plenty of other guys out there.

Even I don't know what to do.
O.K., my boyfriends of 9 months is the greatest guy I have ever met. We are planning to get married too. But there is a problem. His mother. A couple of days ago, he called me and told me that his mother told him to tell me to give her respect and to answer her when she says who is calling, or I can't talk to him, and he can't talk to me. Even though, I do give her respect, and she never answers the phone and asks me that, considering that I usually only call his cell phone. I want to punch her in the face like there is no freakin tomorrow. But I want to know what to do to figure out what she wants, why she hates me, what I did to her, and what I should do to solve this stupid pointless problem.

When you're over there, talk to her. Sit her down, and calmly ask her these questions. Be nothing but nice and respectful towards her, and just accept what she has to say. Don't cut her off, let her finish and then make your statements. When you're done speaking to each other, thank her for her time, and go to be with your boyfriend.

If she still doesn't like you, accept it. But still give her the same decency and respect that you usually would.

Ok. I've had sex with my boyfriend & there's a possibility of me being pregnant. I was just wondering, are there any sypmtoms that can indicate a possibility of you being pregnant before you're missed period? My nerves are killing me. & When do the other symptoms kick in? Such as morning sickness, getting bigger, ect.

Thanks. :)

im not japanese but would it be weird to name my child after a japanese name.. like Kasumi or Hikari? im actually african, not asian at all.. but the names seem cute. also what do they mean? the names i mean.

No, if that's what you like, then go for it. =)

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just wondering. at what ages did you guys have your first kiss? and where was it?

i'm just wondering because i'm 15. i'll be 16 in september and i still haven't had my first kiss.

I was 12 when I got mine. My "friends" stole my bike & wouldn't give it back to me unless I madeout with my boyfriend. SO not only was it my first kiss, but my first makeout as well. It was horrible.

Good thing about it though, I'm not friends with them anymore. =)

what is menapause? sorry i didnt know what category to put this under cause i have no clue what it is.

It's a stage of life where women stop getting their period. It can last anywhere from 5-10 years and it occurs when you're middle-aged.

okay so i shaved my bikini line for the first time, and now my vagina itches sooooo much...and sometimes it hurts a little. i shaved my bikini line yesturday and it still itches. i think i have razor burn. what should i do? it itches a lottt!

Put lotion on it. When you get money, but Bikini Zone. I use that all the time & it works well.

So ive had a few grlfriends over the years, and i feel like each one has taught me something diffrent about what i like and dont like about relationships.

But what i can't figure out is,
why do i always get broken up with?

Im a good boyfriend!! I remember dates, i bring them flowers, i call to see how theyre doing, i do my absolute best. i really do. but they always end up breaking up with ME! i dont know whats wrong with me!

Like my last one, broke up with me RIGHT after i told her happy one month and gave her a ring. right after to my face! am i ugly or something? i dont think so. i like to think im fairly good looking.

this is probably just me rambling and ranting but id like some advice as to what i should do diffrently :)

thanks

Girls are stupid. If they can't accept the things you do for them, then let them find a guy who treats them like shit. It sounds like they deserve it.

But for the record, I'd kill to have a boyfriend like you. You sound amazing.

Hello ,

Okay lets say you have it with a guy and he has a condum on will it break ? Is it more likely to get pregnanat? Is it safe if the guy wears a condum cuz if anything happens i rele dont want to get preganant.

Thanks ,
Betty.

Yeh, the condom can break if not used properly. And it's totally possible to get pregnant* if the condom breaks. Really.*

14/f
this is kind-of long, sorry. :/

me and my boyfriend jordan have been going out since may 1, and as of now, we've only held hands and hugged, not kissed or anything. but we went to this school dance on friday, and they played our song [ bless the broken road, rascal flatts (: ], and after they played it, he looked at me and went in to kiss me, and the moment seemed perfect and such, but i turned away. he said it got him confused becaus he thought it was the right moment, but i told him i just felt like it was too soon. so just a few minutes ago he told me he wants to kiss me tomorrow after school, but i don't know what to do, because i don't think we've been going out long enough.
so basically, have we been going out long enough for us to kiss?? and please don't say it's up to me, or that it's whenever it feels right, because i honestly don't know.

so is less than three weeks long enough to kiss?
and we're going to the movies on friday, so i know he'll want to kiss me and maybe even make out.

thanks in advance..

If you don't want to kiss him, tell him that. If you think it's too soon, then tell him. Don't do anything you don't wanna do. Anything you guys do is your choice.

mkay. well i'm 16/f. The last time I had my period was April 21st. and that lasted until April 25th. and was completly over April 26th. Then, my boyfriend came over and he fingered me for the first time. Now whenever he comes over, that usually happens. I give him a handjob too. My periods supposed to come anywhere from yesterday and tuesday. I'm scared that it won't come because I heard you can get pregnant from doing handjobs and then having him finger you.
What are the chances of me getting pregnant from that? Sorry, this is an akward question for me.

thank you!

You have about a 50% chance, but I wouldn't be too worried. Just make sure he washes his hands well & that you do too.

Hello ,

Does it really matter to the guy about the breast or does it matter if the girls lower area is hairy? Because my friend said it does and im just wondering.

Thank you :)
Betty

Depends on the guy. They're all different & they all prefer different things.

does the fat in a food make you fat? or do the calories or carbs? sorry this is a stupid question, but i'm confused lol.

Yeah, the fat in the food does add to weight gain. Carbs & calories are needed, but they can contribute to it. Also, no exercise makes you fat.

Okay me and my boyfriend weve been going out for a while and im not aloud over at his house im aloud doing everything else but not aloud going over to his house... ive tried convinsiing them and everything and they think its not right for a girl to go to a guys house and I really dont get that can someone please help me what could I do so they could say yes. And by the way im 16.

Thank you ,
Betty.

It's normal for your parents to feel that way. They feel that if they let you go over there, you & your boyfriend will do things. The best you can do right now is let them see that you're indeed trustworthy. Maybe they'll change their minds, and if not, accept it. It's their rules & you must follow them.

what does it mean when a girl gets "wet" ?

It means she's horny & ready for a guy to get to her and that booty.

i have a question
this is kind of embarassing
but is it normal to question ur sexuality at like the age of 15???? answer plzzzzzzzzzz

Yep. When you're a teenager, you're going to question a lot of things; and your sexuality is one of them. It may take YEARS for you to find out if you're bisexual, gay, or straight. And that's fine. Everything is identity during the teenage years, so don't think you're abnormal if you don't know something about yourself, you've got years to find out. =)

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