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Recently ive been thinking alot about death, and its nearly at a point where its uncontrollable.
i dont know why but im really afraid of whats going to happen in the afterlife, if there is one. ive made alot of mistakes in my life before, and i keep on thinking that will affect what will happen.
at night i often think about it and start crying.
i used to want to die because of personal issues, but now i want to keep on living forever.
someone please help me :( i feel really paranoid!!
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If you are focused on your life, death won't be on your mind. From what you said, you want to live on forever. You know that's not possible. However, you are able to live. Don't worry about your past or future. Concentrate on your present. Don't worry about your mistakes in the past and don't worry about dying in the future. The more you concentrate on now, you should be able to no worry about death. if you can't, talk to phycologist.


I've just gotten sde-swept bangs cut, but they'll only stay to the side for a second at a time.
this is sort of what I'm going for (only the bangs):
http://i175.photobucket.com/albums/w145/cheezemeplease/emo.jpg

Would I have to use a straightener to keep it that way, tons of hair spray/gel/mousse, or both?
Thanks. (link)
I love your hairstyle. Your possibilities are...

1. Leave them alone/grow them out
2. Use Bobbypins
3. Spray/gel/mousse is a possibility


14/f.
my face hasn't been that red really during the summer, but now that school has started im always soo red like mainly my cheeks, chin, in between my eyebrows and my head. its not red because im nervous or anything, its like the lighting in the school, or the fact that i get up early and am so tired or something im not sure. i put on more and more makeup to cover it but it doesnt do anyhthing, and then just ends up making my skin really dry and powdery, or liquidy looking. please dont tell me to just not wear cover up, i really have to! haha. but if anyone has any ideas how to make my face not so red please let me know! makeup, stuff at the store, i dont even know but just whatever! thanks a bunch! (link)
I have a friend who has the same condition. Your skin is becuase of acne or your sun burned. For acne, you can buy Proactive Acne Cream which is a great cream for your skin. If you are sun burned, you can buy make-up. Try a darker color make-up to cover it up and use more. That's all you really can do I think. If I didn't answer your question, please tell me.



What does "milf" stand for? (link)
mom id like to fuck aka a sexy motherr
also thers dilf
aka dad id like to fuckk


alright so heres the situation.

im 15/f and pretty sure im pregnant.
i havent told anyone yet except my ex boyfriend.(we broke up a couple weeks ago)
if i keep the baby, people will think of me as a slut and whore and my relatives would probably not be supportive at all, but if i got an abortion i might feel guilty and i might regret it later in life.. but im 15 my ex boyfriends almost 18..but hes really calm about it and we would probably get back together if we decided to have it.. but i really dont know. but anyways i want to know other peoples view on abortion. (link)
i would get the abortion. you are only 15, and keeping the baby could ruin your life! you could have no possibility for a future like going to college and working would be hard becuase youd have a child to take care of. not to mention, that your only 15! you are young, and you still have the rest of your life to have a child, so i don't know why youd regret having an abortion on this child. also keep in mine that you said you broke up with your boyfriend. so the baby wouldn't get to see his father a lot which is bad for him. if you do ever think youll regret it, just remember you can always have another baby, but once its born, your stuck with huge responsibilities (not to mention that babies and diapers cost a lot of money)


16/f
I'm wondering, if you are on birth control and you have sex WITH a condom what's the chance of a pregnecy ? I'm thinking slim to none, but I'm not really sure.. Thanks !! (link)
almost impossible
thats practicing really safe sex..good job =]]

basically if the condom breaks than the birth control will help prevent getting pregnant
and thats ifff the condom breakss


This is a curiosity question: Lets say an individual decides he/she no longer wants to go to a doctor that they have gone to in the past (or hasn't gone to that doctor in many years) what does the doctors office do with those files. The files that I am talking about are the ones that the doctor uses in the examining room which has all the patients info (link)
At one point, I switched doctors for umm, about 3 years. Things didn't work out with my new doctor so I decided to go back to my old doctor. They still had my files. So I'm guessing they keep them for a while. They might throw them away at some point but my doctor kept mine for 3 years while I wasn't seeing him.


16/f. At school I get hit on all the time, and at the mall, things like that. I am so not a slut I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and never had sex. The thing is I'll be walking down the street and there will be these like old mexican gardeners and they will like check out my ass and that just disgusts me so much. I feel so disgusting because of them. How do I get over this?

oh yea that happens to me and my friends a lottt. well be walking down the street, and once a mexican was like i want to play with that.

they pretty much are like horny 24/7, and its not that big of a deal (they are not only checking YOU out, they pretty much check out all the ladies)


20/f. i'm mexican. so your saying only old mexican guy's are horny 24/7. NO THERE NOT. what the fuck? you sound racist are something. so it's like saying my dad, brothers, and my grandfahers are like that. No there not. Yea they check out ladies. There not gay.
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ok that last paragraph confused mee
i think you just copy and pasted it into multiple coulmns? well thats not allowed next time just go to the get advice at the top and ask it there and that way every advicenator can see it =]


aaaaanyways this happens to me 23428395 times a day too, and my friends
like once i was walking by constructiona nd i heard "rompe" and i was like aaaah but its not a big deal unless you encourage them

alsoooo my mom was telling me that she read in mexico, its polite. and ladies take it as a compliment. or something like that she couldn't remember it all. its not disrespectfull at all in that culture
im not completely sure about thatt but it kinda makes sensee
just take it as a compliment
if youve got it flaunt it =]


okay so my sisters bday is coming up and i wanted to get her this:
http://www.coach.com/content/product.aspx?product_no=7457&category_id=240

but i need to know if its REAL leather. like hardcore coming from a cow....cause shes aa vegan....


thank yaaaa! (link)
"Signature jacquard fabric with leather trim"

thats fromt he descrption
also coach doesnt tend to use fake leather


so i was wondering about grinding...this might sound a little weird but what type of like facial expression are you suppose to show? like laughing showing your having a good time or what?also if your grinding with a guy should you hold hands while doing it? and does he grab your hands? or what. (link)
well normally you face away so he wont even be looking at your face unless your front grinding
so dont worry about what your face looks like
normally you dont hold hands...but ive had my hands grabbed by guys a few times, but its not common
if you wanna see a facial expression (there really isnt one) but you could always go watch people grinding on youtube


can I get preggers if a boy cums in my hair? my friend said I could... but she's only 11.


13/f (link)
nopee only if it got in your vaginaa
dont listen to 11 year olds about sex =]


Can someone explain this to me? Why are people freaking out about this big hole.. i mean the universe is almost never ending its so huge and outside of our universe theres another one almost similar to ours, right?

here's a link if your just simple curious and maybe could help make things a little clearer for me.

http://www.space.com/scienceastronomy/070823_huge_hole.html (link)
ive actually heard of this hole, and i think people are freaking out about it because it could suck us up. oh and there isnt another universe. theres billions of galaxies inside one universe. each galaxiy has stars and planets in them. ive actually heard of this only once, on abovetopsecret.com theres articles like that on there, click breaking news on the left :). it might explain it a bit better :)


Can someone please explain how do to these problems. ( In steps if possible )

the directions say Factor each of the following

1.7y-7
2.2x²+8x+4
3.b²-25
4.y²-6y+8

thanks soo much (link)
1) it becomes 7(y-1) because they both have a 7 in common. NOTE: 7 divided by 7 = 1... it doesnt just disappeaer!
2) (2x+2)(x+2) than you do the "foil" technique, and if you don't know what that is leave on in my inbox im really good at math =]
3) square roots: (b-5)(b+5) SINCEEE its minus 25 instead of pluss, than thats why theres two brackets. if it was b²+25, than it would be (b+5)²
4) (y-4)(y-2) ones with only one variable² are eaaaasy. because than you just put it in as the first letter of each bracket. than with the 6 and 8>> you need factors of 8 that add up to make -6:
-2x-4=8, and -2 + -4 = -6
that easyy
check your work by foiling
hope i helped


Do you know where to get skinny jeans? And dc's, vans's, dvs's shoes at? Thank you in advance. (link)
well i dont know your area
but whenever i go to a mall, almost every store has them
and same with shoe stores at the malls they allllwaaayyss have those shoes


Where can I find a purse like any of these that is $50 or less???
I've looked basically everywhere I've heard of.
All of them are either ugly, or over $100. (one I liked was even $475, I'm definitely not spending that much)

I want one like this:
http://www.bananarepublic.com/browse/product.do?cid=32966&pid=513224

or

http://www.jcrew.com/catalog/product.jhtml;jsessionid=RT5AVZT3XGC2ACTFEEKRX1QKMUQQ0GUG?id=prod86449291&catId=cat220221

(that's the $475)

Yeah so hopefully that gives you an idea of the look and type of bag I'm going for. I don't really know how else to explain. Please give me ideas! Give me lots of stores/websites cuz I've looked at a lot of stores already. Thanks so much! (link)
It's going to be a tad hard finding a nice bag like that for under 50. What I'd suggest is going to department stores and looking there. They often have handbags on sale and that'd probably be your best bet. Dillards, Macy's, JC Penny, etc. You can also look at TJ Max, Ross, and Marchelles. They usually have nice hangbags for lower prices.


So school is about to start for me and i'm about to quit my current job because it's too much work for during the school year,
but the thing is, I have become accustomed to having
a pretty decent cash flow, and so I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions to a simple school year job.

Just something where I could go in a few days during the week, and rarely the weekends. Pay really isn't an issue.

I live in the DFW area of Texas if that helps anyone. (link)
I recently found a job as a receptionist at a physical therapists office. I only work the weekends during the day so my nights are still open. Something like that I think would work best but you'd have to look around.


my hair just naturally flips out at the ends, and its really annoying me. are there any ways i can get rid of it?
i have a straightener and i know i can use that, but it takes so long because my hair is so stubborn and i can never really tell if i did it right.

thanks♥ (link)
I wouldn't put gel on the tips of your hair because it'll make your hair look crispy and it'll look different than the rest of your hair. You'd be better off with hairspray. But before you but anything in your hair, you should straighten the ends because that is what will make them straight. Right after you straighten them, spray the hair spray on your hair to keep it straight. What you can also try rather than just straightening them downwards is curling them under a bit. Not so much that they actually curl under but just enough to reverse the flipping upwards. And again, after this, spray hairspray.


I need your opinions. I will be a freshman this monday, and I only know like 2 people in my highschool becuase I moved to a diff side of town. My problem is, I'm scared to like stand at the bus stop becuase the people standing there will all know each other, and I'll just be standing there all awkard, but I'm not sure if my mom should drive me becuause im not sure if thats like "cool", and I'm not sure if it's a bad idea not to ride the bus the 1st day and get used to it. I need your opinions on which would be best. thanks!
P.S. (my mom could only drive me the 1st and 2nd day cuz after that her job starts) (link)
I remember freshman year and many many people rode the bus that year. I'd say, ride the bus with the other kids because it gives you a chance to meet the people living around you and get to know the kids at your high school that are in your neighborhood. It's going to be weird the first few days because you don't know anyone but you'll meet them and start talking to them. Go on the bus the first two days especially because that's usually when people start picking their seats and it's just easier if youre there from the start.


my right ear lobe has always been kind of bad with earrings this past year - real itchy, well i didnt wear earrings so my earlobe could get better and stop itching but the problem was while i left my earrings out my holes started to close. so i put my earrings back in about two-three days ago and the back hole of my earlobe was just about almost closed [the right one] so i had to find where the hole was and then reopen it [sometimes very painful]

now my earlobe is KILLING me, maybe i repierced my ear and thats why - or maybe the infection got worse? my earlobe feels swollen and when i looked at the hole lastnight i saw some crusty feeling things in my ears (yes i took everything i could see out) maybe it was like a scab or something i have no clue.

whats wrong with my ear? i went to walmart and bought antibiotic ointment for my ear because the lady said itll help incase i have infection. but wont it close my piercing? i dont have any 'small' earrings theyre all silver and big like hoops or really long ones.
help. (link)
Just in addition to what the person below me said...


The earrings you wear aren't good for your ears. Some people have extremly sensitive ears and cannot wear fake jewelry or even silver. My mom's ears are like that and she can only wear 10K gold earrings or higher because her ears can't handle the metal in the other earrings...her ears get the same way yours do.


I got my hair done today and I love it! I came home and my dad said I looked like a gorrilla! Now i feel horrible what if the kids at school think that too? (link)
yer..the person below it totally right. and anyway, old people e.g. parents etc dont exacly know what we kids are into so they might think something else when everyone else loooves it :)




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