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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I started having sex w/ my gf, but i thik she might be faking her orgasms. how can i tell?

I'm not sure you can. Just ask her after sex if she enjoyed it & tell her to be honest.

i need some serious pumpy songs. like things that make you get pumped. I need as many as you know for a basketball camp i'm going to in a few days. ANYTHING will be greattttt.

Songs on the left; bands on the right.

The Taste Of Ink -- The Used.
Damn Regret -- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
There's A Class For This -- Cute Is What We Aim For.
The Webs We Weave -- Escape The Fate.
False Pretense -- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Waiting -- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Stand Up -- A Static Lullaby.
Send My Love To The Dancefloor -- Cobra Starship.
Thnks Fr Th Mmrs -- Fall Out Boy.
Fat Lip -- Sum 41.
Say This Sooner -- The Almost.
We've Got A Big Mess On Our Hands -- The Academy Is...
Pop Punk Is Sooooo 05 -- Cobra Starship.
Flathead -- The Fratellis.
Insurance -- The Higher.
Overrated -- Less Than Jake.
Teenagers -- My Chemical Romance.
Famous Last Words -- My Chemical Romance.
My Friends Over You -- New Found Glory.
Choke On This -- Senses Fail.
Sick Or Sane -- Senses Fail.
Cute When You Scream -- Senses Fail.
The Irony Of Dying On Your Birthday -- Senses Fail.
MakeDamnSure -- Taking Back Sunday.
Writing On The Walls -- Underoath.
Reinventing Your Exit -- Underoath.
Moving For The Sake Of Motion -- Underoath.
Never Too Late -- Three Days Grace.
Just Like You -- Three Days Grace.
I Hate Everything About You -- Three Days Grace.

13/f ok. i like this boy, lets call him T.i mean i REALLY like him. well school just let out=,(, and i wanted to add him on myspace. but would it be too awkward to add him if hes the only guy with only 5 other girls? i really want to add him, but i dunno what to do. please help.

Just add him. You have a chance to, so do it.

So, my friend confessed she has been making herself throw up because she cares a lot about what other people think and it makes her feel better. I know a lot about it, I told her it's damaging. she says she's gonna try to stop, but I doubt she will. I just don't really know what to do. I know I can't really tell anyone- her parents would not understand, neither would mind. and I can't really tell any adult, cause I know she wont seek help or anything. What can I do for her personally?

If you can't tell anyone, there is nothing you can do. You need to tell her parents, your parents, counselors, the school nurse -- anyone who could be of help to her. By not getting her help, you're only letting her do it to herself more & you're just adding on to what she's doing.

Just tell someone. She might be pissed & try not to seek help but you need to make sure that someone sees that she goes to get treatment.

weve been bestfriends 7 years but now i think were growing apart. im 14 shes 13. im very perky and peppy. she is very dark hearted. i wear pinks and brights she wears the blacks and darks. we have always been real different like this but now i gues its going to extremes. prep and goth totally different music she listens to screaming and rock stuff i listen to pop. even when we go to the mall i want hollistar she wants hottopic. when we go to dances its just creepy the people she can meet and how she dances. i dont wana lose her shes all i really got. i make it seem like i have alot of friends but its really only her. she has alot of gothic friends that were there for her when she was suicideal. she just scared me so i was kinda away i regret it now. now i realize that i left her when she was dieing literally how meaner can i get to her. leaveing your bestfriend to die. we talk over aim and very little at school but thats pretty much all. i dont like her friends i hate them so much their freaks and just try to kill theirselvs for fun? i told her that it made her scream and go to them. she doesnt cry not even through all the deaths shes been through. i can tell in her eyes shes dieing inside. shes always in trouble always pissed at something. shes very mad im scared of her she talks about death and killing and she can kill someone instantly shes just scarey. shes always with her other friends she said there the only ones in my life to understand me truely. they have kept her alive this hole year. she will not let anyone help her not even her parents but how do i. there is alot of questions about friends on here so i was hopeing anything will help me. anything please shes all i need

This isn't going to be what you want to hear. Just a head's up. You're welcome to [x] out the page if you'd like.

First off, don't label yourself or your friend. Friends don't label each other. Don't label other people either. Nobody looks like a soup can; stop making them believe they are. There is absolutely NO reason to label anyone. The only reason why people do that is because they don't know who they are.

Secondly, why would you leave your friend when she was going through such hard times? That's horrible. If she was really your best friend, and if you really cared about her as much as you claim you do, you would've never left her alone when she needed you the most. That's not what best friends do. I mean, yes those things are hard to handle when your best friend is dying, but you stick through it anyways because you care. Never leave her alone again.

Why do you think her friends are freaks? Because they dress weird & listen to "freaky" music? I listen to that type of music, and I wear black sometimes -- am I weird too? Don't judge them by what they wear or the music they listen to. Not only is that extremely closeminded & rude, but it's preventing you from getting some new friends. When you label someone based solely on clothing or music, you're missing out on what's naturally important. Their personality. How do you know that they're not nice kids? I'm sure they are. Most "Gothic" kids tend to be extremely nice & more open to things. I mean, sure they might not be to some people but that's because those people never gave them a chance & always did mean things to them. So instead of judging them, get to know them & try to become friends. Instead of only having one friend, you'll have a few.

And "gothic" kids do NOT cut themselves for fun. Some kids do, & that makes them attention seekers & lame, but most kids have a reason to. Maybe there's a problem at home - maybe they don't like themselves - maybe they have a ton of problems & there's no way out but death. Never assume it's for "fun" because it's usually not. I used to cut myself and I never did it to be cool or to fit in. I did it because I had problems with myself, with other people & my home. My environment was stressful & nothing was going right.

But there can be plenty of reasons why your friend hangs out with other kids more. Maybe they relate to her more. They get how she's feeling, and they've got lots in common. Try to build up your relationship with her by talking to her more & by talking to her friends. By doing that, you can not only meet new people, but you can begin to understand that not everything has to be the way you make it out to be. There's nothing wrong with rock music. There's nothing wrong with the color black, and there's nothing wrong with being a little different.

So instead of pushing these kids away, talking shit about them, labeling them, & making things hard for them -- get to know them. Listen to some of their music so you're not completely lost when they're talking about a band. Maybe ask them how life is like & what their favorite things to do are. Stop labeling people -- that includes yourself, others, your friend & her friends. And stop thinking of just the differences & the negatives. Life is so much more positive. Don't see the world through BLACK and WHITE. See the world through COLOUR.

well i just started a job bagging at stop and shop. they didnt show me anythinggg, they just like told me to start. i have nooo idea if i am doing it right, i really don't know how. can anyone tell me like how to bag groceries? i know it sounds stupid but i really need the help. and i don't know anyone there, how to clock in, or anythinggg. im so uncomfortable there, and this is my summer job so i wanna like it. pleaseeee help !!!

Group similar things together. Don't make the bags too heavy [don't put a lot of stuff inside] because depending on the material of the bag [paper or plastic] it can break. Plastic is easier to break so it's best you don't put a lot of stuff in the bag or make it too heavy. If it's you don't want the person to have a lot of bags, double bag so the bag is harder to break.

When you first get there & need to clock in, ask another employee to show you. I'm pretty sure they won't mind helping you out a bit so don't be afraid to speak up & ask. I'm sure over the time you're working there you'll make friends with the other employees. So there's nothing to be scared of.

are hiv and aids the same thing? or what are they im confused

HIV is the virus that leads up to AIDs.

So they're different, but very much related to one another.

so i was watching the OC and seth was listening to Boys 2 Men or something. is that a song or a band? I want to listen to it. any information will be helpful.

It's an R&B group from back in the 90's. They're pretty good. They do mostly love songs.

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this girl at school i hate her and so does the whole class but these 3 girls do this to everyone but find it more fun doing it to that girl they for a joke pinch her boobs slap her bum tiggle her vagina im a bystander i just watch this may be bullying but they do it to everyone including me but i dont react so they stop what do i do i hate that girl though?!

You can hate someone all you want but by letting someone else pick on them, you're just as guilty as the person doing the teasing. You need to report that because that's above & beyond bullying. If you're not going to tell someone, at least stick up for her.

I know it's noot good, you know to not do anything to help, but is it really BAD? you can't call it BAD can you? Cause I mean BAD is when you do something bad - like LIE TO YOUR MOM - but then lets say your little sister knows your lying and doesnt do anything about it - that's not good, i know - but it's not AS BAD as what the actual BAD ACTION is, right? Or is it all equally WRONG?

Your question doesn't really seem to make sense, BUT I'm going to try & answer anyways.

If you're asking if being passive is bad, it can be; yes. I mean, if someone's walking all over you & you're allowing it, that's bad because you'd be an idiot for letting anyone do it. However, if you're the sharing type of passive, like if someone takes a sip of what you're drinking [while asking first] & you let them, that's a good type of passive because you're sharing.

However, you need to be assertive. Don't be agressive, there's a difference. Agressive would be like "DON'T SIP MY DRINK, OMFG DIE." Assertive would be "I would appreciate it if you didn't drink from my cup." It's best to be assertive in almost all of the situations [unless you're pissed, but it depends on how pissed you are]. You don't wanna scare people away, and you don't wanna let people walk all over you. So I hoped this helped you & if not, that's life.

ok i ahve been dating this guy for like three weeks and i love him so much but he never calls me i mean we see each other alot but i wish he would call b/c i wonder if he even likes me at times even though he tells all his friends that he does? what sould i do?

Call him? He never calls you, so call him. And stop saying you love him; you've only been together for three weeks. Saying you love him is a little rediculous.

to make a long story short..im going to prom alone..and just recently i tried getting into my best friends limo(already paid for). of course i will pay them back.The problem is my friends..there is rooom for me..but they are saying no because i dspend all my time with my bf..and its so messed up because i was looking foward to spending this special night with my friends. im so ANGRY with tthem..should i even go to prom? i wont have fun if i have to drive there and especially because im so m ad at them..but ive been llooking foward to this. what would you do? not going might make them feel bad..plus i have to room with 3 of them for senior trip. im just so angry..at first they were pushing for me to go in the limo..and now they are just like.."oh well..im sorry"

I think both of you are wrong & you should both be angry at each other.

You should be pissed because they're being stupid about the limo situation and they should be pissed because you blew them off for your boyfriend.

I'm sure if you talk shit out [no matter how angry you are] things can heal & work out. If they don't seem to change their minds about letting you in the limo then fuck them.

Don't miss out on prom though just because of your friends. They're dumb & they're no reason to miss out on prom. Besides, prom only comes once [unless you're extremely lucky] so why miss out? If you don't go, you'll regret it.

i had a big butt like 4-5 months ago and now its lost. im like paper lol, what can i do to get a bigger butt like black women lol. i love it, so i need some advice on that please!!!!

Work out on a stairmaster.

I gave head for the first time.. it was an overwhelming sweet taste and i got up to spit..

is there a certain way to clean my mouth?

Brush teeth, mouth wash.. ?

The taste is lingering on my tongue and I can't seem to get it off.. every time I try cleaning my tongue.. I gag a little.

Brush your teeth & use mouthwash.

What is Merderma? Just like a cream or something? Not seen the adverts for it...
And roughly how much does it cost if you know?
(sorry for all the questions)

Sarah

Mederma is a scar cream that helps to fade them & make them less noticable so they're not so embarassing.

I'm not exactly sure how much it costs but I know you can find it at Wal*Mart.

I have some acne scars on my forehead because I have really pale skin. I know that they can be removed via surgery, but that's a big step.
Does anyone know a way in which could help to reduce the redness/depth without surgery? Like a cream or something?

Try Mederma. I seen a commercial for it and I've gotta buy it as well, so I would recommend to try it.

I've liked my bestfriends boyfriend since before she started to date him. And now after two months they broke up. In fact shes even going out with someone new again. So I have my chance to go out with him. And I took it. I told her and a lot of different people that I was only going out with him to hurt him, which I would never do. I even about convinced myself that I didn't even like him. Now he said he loved me and at first I was hesitant to say I love you too, but I said I love you. Everything would be great but I know its just not right to go out with your bff's ex, especially when she says she doesn't love him when she really does. Also summer vacation just let out and she is going to a new school next year so she'll probably never see him again but I will. I just want to know if you think I made the right decisions in what i did. and if you think otherwise don't be afraid to tell me becuase I don't want to make the same mistakes twice.

I would do whatever made me happy. If you like this guy, don't worry about your friend. She's got her own thing going on, so do what makes you feel good.

does anyone know where a good website for spelling is..

Google can always help you find those sites.

Click Search & you should get some of the results you're looking for.

can anyone tell me who she is?.. i was on you tube and found all this hate videos on her. and i cant find out who she is.. can anyone tell me why people hate her?.. please!!

Well, I searched it on MySpace and this came up:

http://www.myspace.com/kikikannibal

She's basically some scene girl who whored herself all over MySpace to get MySpace Fame. She's honestly not a big deal & she's nobody. People just hate her because she seems to be a bitch.

ok first of all for 2 years now, people have been spreading rumors about me saying that i am bisexual and IM NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today i got this really rude note from a girl named " hilary" ( i dont really think someone named hilary wrote it)

this is what is says:

Shelby,

you are a hore. some people even think that you are bisexual. i know thats what i belive. i know this because of last year. by the way, your ex boyfriend tyler said eww when he heard that you like other wemon.

Chow,

hilary

this is really making me mad and depressed. I DO NOT LIKE WEMON~!~~~~~~!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM STRAIGHTER THAN A BOARD!!!!!!!!! I HATE THIS!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Okay, if you know that you're not bisexaul, don't let these things bother you. People are going to talk WHETHER you LIKE IT or NOT. You can't stop it, it's life. Come to accept these things. Not everyone is going to like you -- not everyone is going to believe what you have to say & not everyone is going to care about your feelings.

Honestly, just deal with these things. Ignore them as best you can but DO NOT retaliate or act like you care because then they know that they're getting to you & they'll just do it more. If you're not a whore, & you're not bisexual, then that's that. You know the truth so never let anyone tell you who you are, what you are or how you are. =)

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