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I'm running out of new music to try. What are some really, really good bands or songs I would like if I already love paramore and a little fall out boy, but still like aucoustics?

Three words: The Rocket Summer.

okay well im dating this guy, we are a couple hours distance and only see each other on the weekends usually. Well lately he has been blowing me off. He told me no sometime last month because he was goin to see his friends indtead so i was like okay. I offered to pick him up that week and take him here to a few days and he was like no the weather is bad I got upset but got over it. Then the next weekend i was able to use my grandmas car again, but she wouldnt have known about it. I offered to pick him up once again and he told me no the weather is bad. I flipped out and started screamin and crying and we almost broke up. I overeacted i admit. But it had been three weeks since i had seen him at all. Well that next weekend my sister got ahold of a car for me and i saw him. I went to see him and i found on his phone text messages from his ex that were to friendly. I had recenlty got pissed at him before that because he was talking to her when i toldh im not to. He just told me to get over it. I just told him that i dont trust them two together because of there past and I had found myspace messages where she had mssaged him sayin they needed to get together and "get it on" I had perfect reasoning to want him to stay away from her. so I got pissed about the text messages of course. I didnt snap or anything i just called him a lier and told him to get off of me because he had wrestled me down to get his phone. Well I left and ever since then he has been a complete ass. He tells me im a wife and says that he intentionally ignores me. Well its been about a month since ive seen him. Next weekend will be a month. I was supposed to go see him not this weekend but the last but he said he was wanting to go see his friends and i was like okay thats fine but i told him to stay away from his ex, thats the only reason i was uptight about it and hes like alright and called me a wife. Well it turned out he couldnt go that weekend and didnt tell me till that sunday. He said he would leave tuesday and be back friday so we made plans to see each other this weekend. Well teusday comes around and he cant go then. So i tell him okay when i come see you this weekend ill take you over there sunday and you can spend the whole week there. He didnt reply. THursday i call him and hes like your gonna be pissed and im like why. HEs like im goin to south bend(his friends) this weekend. I did get pissed. I didnt yell at him but i was bitchin, i told him tha he nver takesme into consideration and that its all about him and that i told him id take him there sunday and he could have all week there. He was like well they have been waitin to see me its "mandatory" I cried a little because thats what happens when i get mad. HE called me a wife again. WEll i have barely eard anythng from him since he's been there and he usally tried to ignore me some. So i called him again friday morning and i asked him i was like you wanna be with me right? He was like yea, i said then what is it i do wrong, why dont you ever talk to me, what is it i need to fix. He was like nothing your fine. I was like obviously not if you dont talk to me. HEwas like like nothing your perfect. SO i dont know. Do you think im overreacting about seeing him? and do you think i overreacted about his ex gurl?

Why are you even with him? Dump his sorry ass asap. He really seems like he couldn't give a crap.
What's the point in being with someone that makes you upset?
You seem like a nice girl who knows where your priorities lay, so ditch the loser and find someone who will treat you with respect and actually love you back.

How do I learn to handle alcohol better? I hate the taste, it makes me gag and I can get drunk after to Mike's Hards. Its ridiculous, I hate being the girl at the party that can't shoot whiskey or play beer pong because the tastes make me hurl immediately. Or the one that throws up and passes out after a couple of drinks! I want to at least be able to handle a party well. Anyone else have this problem? Is it because of my weight being smaller than some?

Female: 118lbs/ 22yrs old.

Some people enjoy the taste of alcohol, whereas others don't. Personally, beer is disgusting and I prefer to drink spirits with mixers. Straight spirits mostly make me feel sick and they just taste bad and burn.. so I put lemonade/coke or fruit juice with them.
Maybe you just haven't found a drink you like, but there's so many out there, and a lot don't even taste like alcohol, just fruit juice.
Can you drink vodka? If you don't like fizzy drinks, mix it with orange/apple/pineapple juice - it's really nice! There's also really good tasting spirits out there, like cherry/blackcurrant etc.. and when mixed with lemonade taste great.

Your alcohol tolerance is most probably to do with the build of your body and the fact maybe you're not used to drinking. Also, factors like what you've eaten that day (if you don't eat much, you will get drunk - fast) and the fact you are female will play a part.. To be honest, alcohol just isn't cut out for some people and no matter how much they try.. just do not enjoy it and can't handle it well. There could even be an underlying medical problem which causes this.
Time will tell I suppose. For now, just find drinks you like and stick to them. If it turns out your body just doesn't like alcohol and you don't want to feel left out at a party, stick to something with a low alcohol content and schedule your drinks so you don't go over board.

Not actually 'with' this guy, we just hang out/ text and stuff, only when we do, it;s never really great or good conversation, it's mostly just physical stuff..He only really texts when he wants something, and seems uninterested, I'm not dumb, I'm thinking to ditch this guy.
Opinions?

DITCH. You're a smart girl and know the score.
Find someone who's worth your time.

My condom broke while I had sex with my girlfriend yesterday, what do I do?

1. Have her get the morning after pill, if possible. It can work up to 3 days. Obviously, the sooner you take it, the better it works.

2. Wait for her period and if she happens to be pregnant, talk about your options.

3. Try not to panic. Accidents like this happen more often than you think and most times, things turn out okay. but please be more careful in future, because I'm sure you can't afford to take that risk.

Good luck.

Okay well im at my friends house. First off to just let you know she has an ouijia board in the room next to us that we had played a few times in her room and all over her house, but we haven't played it in about 2 month. Okay well anyways we were in her room in the dark watching movies well she has this big photography picture like up against her wall well I was watching the movie then all of a sudden I seen like a scary face in the photograph picture it look like it had horns in the head coming out and the face was really scary and look like it was kind of popping out, but the rest of the picture I couldn't see. I even tried to blink a few times to see if it would go away then I tried saying god in my head whenever I closed my eyes, but it still wouldn't go away thats when I got really scared and told my friend to turn the light on as I was shaking and my heart was pounding. Then after that have happened I like got zoned out for a really long time while staring at the picture my friend told me I wasn't moving at all are blinking I was just sitting up staring at then all of sudden it felt like wind pressure hit me and I like jumped out of it. Then the 2nd time this occurred I was just sitting up staring at her bed then I heard a low knocking noise coming from the next room, I showed my friend were I heard it from and she started crying and was like thats exactly where the boards at. I didn't have no idea the board was in that direction ether whenever I pointed it out. Do you have any idea what's going on? Please help were freaking out right now scared to death. None of this is made up ether.

You will get mixed responses from this. Some people believe in what ouija boards bring, whereas others don't.
If you both really think there's something going on in your friends house, you'll need to get a professional. I had a phase of watching a programme called a haunting, where people get possessed and have to get priests in to exorcise the house etc. Apparently all those stories were true and what you've described was in one of the episodes..LOL. Not trying to scare you. but if you're being genuine, think about going to a church.

I'm 13, I have never had sex before and I'm not sure that I have ever even popped my cherry, just so you know.
One day I gave my boyfriend a hand job then he went in the bathroom and finished up. After he did that he washed his hands then came back and started fingering me. That month I got my period and it came on time but now I'm not feeling the greatest . And it's been like a month after that.
I was wondering could there be a chance that I'm pregnant ? someone please reply to this I'm freaking outttt.

Freaking out? I'm not surprised, you are 13 for Gods sake. Shouldn't you be having tea parties and playing with barbies still?
If you were educated in the matter, you'd know you're not pregnant if you've had your period. You just feel like shit. You're a teen..

So my boyfriend never pays for me, like when we go out to eat or out to the movies. It's not like he doesnt have the money, im pretty sure he does. Anyway, I dont really care, but my parents are so judgemental, they think that its only appropriate for a guy to at least offer. what do i do? I wouldnt let him pay for everything, of course, but it would make me feel better if he offered. Opinions?

Well, to put it simply, some boys do, some don't. I, personally don't believe the boy should always pay. My boyfriend and I take turns, or sometimes if we go for an expensive meal, will split it, so it doesn't leave one of us out of pocket.

Maybe your boyfriend doesn't realize how much you'd appreciate it. but like the person below said, perhaps you could try the forgetting your purse trick, or telling him you don't have any money to do anything on that particular day, and see what happens.

Maybe you could offer to pay for him once and tell him he can return the favour next time.. he might catch on.

I'm not sure how old you are, but as you guys mature, I'm sure he will treat you once in a while. I've learnt that as the years go on anyway. :)

i was in my friend msn and i was cheking his mail because he told me to. i was scrolling down and clicked on the mail and i saw 3 pictures of a girl with bras and panties only...if i report that what can happened?

It's his business, not yours. So unless it's child porn or something (which it doesn't sound like ;)), nothing can happen if you report it.

My myspace makes me enter people's emails when I try to add them. I know that they have it set differently to where I don't have to write down their last names or emails but for some reason every time I try and add anyone it says I need their email.
This happened to me once before also.
Does anyone know why, or what I can do to change it?

It's a privacy setting. These particular people may have set it this way, so only people they know can add them.
According to Advicenators, you are 14.. so if your MySpace age is set to 14, this could also be why, for your own safety. So if it's set to 14 and it bothers you that much, change it and see if it helps. Check all your other privacy settings whilst you're there, too.

Merry Christmas!

i'm just gonna come out and say it; my "area" smells awful. its a fishy sort of smell, and i cant ever seem to get rid of it. i doubt its a yeast infection because i dont itch or burn, but the smell is overwhelming and i'm always self concious in public, because i know other people can probably smell it, too. anyone know what i could do to make it stop? i've already read articles about feminine odor and from what it seems like, i'm going to have to take care of it like i take care of my hair; constantly washing, powder, wiping a certain way, "airing out" at night, etc. that seems like a lot of trouble and i dont have time to deal with it that way. otherwise, i wouldnt be here. so does anyone know a quick, easy way to deal with this? and what if i'm planning on letting my boyfriend go down on me? is there anything that doesnt have a scent or taste? vagisil helps a little, but it still smells like cream, and its almost more embarrassing than the odor itself.

sorry this is so long, thanks for any help.

It's probably BV. You will get rid of it with a simple doctors trip and some antibiotics. It's not embarrassing at all and if you're worried about having a physical exam, ask them if you can do the swab yourself.

OR, check this out:
http://uk.balanceactiv.com/index.aspx?lang=en

You can get it in chemists etc, depending on where you live. Read the reviews, after a 7 day course, it's totally gone.

P.S: I know you're having trouble down below, but do NOT douche or use soaps down there.. because they could have been the cause of the problem in the first place.

Read about BV to determine whether it sounds like you. Most of the time, it doesn't have any other symptoms other than a bad smell. Sometimes, it can cause discomfort and different discharge.

Good luck. and remember, it's not embarrassing. Apparently 1 in 3 women get it at some point!

Hi, I was wondering.. if I want to delete an individual song from my ipod, can I just go and delete it from the playlist on itunes and then it will delete off my ipod? Or do I have to delete it a different way? Thanks

Yes.. Delete it off the playlist and make sure you sync your ipod again afterwards.

I have a 1 1/2 month puppy, weighs aprox. 13 lbs. I just took him outside, and I was holding him probley 5'6" of the grond, and he jumped and landed on his neck. He looks fine, he got up and sort of shook his head and stuff. THen he went back to just running around. I feel horrible though!!! Is he fine?

Although we aren't vets, if your puppy seems his usual self, then he's probably fine.
When dogs are sick/hurt, you normally notice by their behaviour. If you do see anything unusual, get him checked over. but if he's his happy self and playing as normal, don't sweat it. It's not your fault he jumped. Just hold him tighter and not so high next time!

i queef a lot sometimes during sex. what can i do to prevent this, why only sometimes? its pretty akward, any help please.

It's normal! It happens - just ignore it!
It probably only happens sometimes because different factors can cause it, such as certain positions, how hard/fast, how wet you are etc. Don't forget it's only air being pushed, so it's nothing to really be embarrassed about. Laugh it off :)

hi is there any way to prevent a ring from turning your finger green?

Coat the inside of the ring with CLEAR nail varnish. and try not to get the ring wet.

I Havee A Picturee Of My Ex On A Song On My Ipod
But I Want To Take The Picture Of..
Does Anyone Know How To Do That
I Tried Everything

Do it from iTunes. With mine, I click the song and copy and paste whatever picture I like (usually the album artwork) into the space for pictures in the bottom left corner. Then I sync away.
Do you remember how you put the picture on there? It's exactly the same.. :)

15/f

i've been hearing a lot about oral sex lately

um i was wondering, is it just me or does anyone else think it's absolutely DISGUSTING? or am i just prude or something?

thanks(:

Some people like it - some people don't. Although you may change your mind about it as you get older. That happens to a lot of people!

why wont my msn emotcions ( the smiley faces etc.. ) work its really annoying. any help please ?

You probably turned them off.. maybe even without you realizing. It happens to me sometimes.
Go to:
Tools
Options
Click Messages in the left side bar
Make sure "show emoticons" and "show custom emoticons" are clicked

Does it work now? :)

In my psychology class we trade tests, and someone random grades it. I was going over my test to see what I got wrong for my final thats coming up, and realized a bonus question was counted wrong. The answer I wrote on the bonus question was identical to what we'd written in our notes/the correct answer. My grader counted it wrong, and that question is worth 5 points.

I got an 89 on this test, and if i'd gotten a 90, i'd be able to exempt the final. well, if my answer had been counted right, i would have a 94, therefore being able to exempt the final. the thing is, we took this exam on sept 23, and i only noticed now when reviewing for my final.

do you think its worth showing my teacher, and trying to get the extra points? thank you!

YES. Every damn mark counts! Why let someone who probably wasn't paying attention make you lose points. Tell your teacher ASAP and well done :)!

my boyfriend of almost two years cheats on me daily with my "best friend" and they both have the fucking nerve to deny it. which i just found out today. i love him for some strange reason, hes helped me threw so much he was there for me through my cancer and mental schizo rehab and many deaths and has always ben by my side i dont wana let him go but i dont think i can cry anymore, i want to stay with him but i dont? i dont know how to live without him.. what do i do, with explanation or try and convince me or something please :( iv had an extremely hard life im bad at letting go of ppl i love, were both almost 16

Are you CERTAIN he's cheating and it's not just your insecurities niggling at you?
If you're positive, then you must break up ASAP.
Yeah, he's been there for you through the hard times, but most people would do that.. I'm sure you have other friends you can turn to when you need them, right?
If he's been cheating on you this long, every day, why would you want to trust him ever again? Why would you want someone like that so share your problems and help you through them.. Let alone be intimate with you.
This boy clearly knows how much of a hard life you've had and if he can cheat on you, he clearly really has no heart and obviously doesn't know the meaning of love.
End your relationship, because once cheating starts, it's already dead. Give yourself time to get over him and find a boy who will treat you how you deserve to be treated. He will come sooner or later.

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