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14/f well just yesterday my bf dumped me..this is how it went. We were online and lately he hasnt been talking to me and seemed really quiet.i asked him if he still loved me. hes like ive cheated on you since last saturday.i was like but do u love me and hes like of course not i cheated on you, you stupid little ass bitch and just left..but there is more to the story.a while back him and his friend raped me while we were going out..sucks i know..) :

heartbroken girl...
ps i have AIM if some one wants to help me get through the break up and help me out.cuz man im still messed up from being raped.thanks bunchies

This guy is a loser. You desserve wayy better..you know, a guy who will take you out, respect you, be faithful to you, etc. There are definately guys out there somewhere who would treat you like GOLD. Dont be upset over this moron..he is lower than dirt sweetheart. Forget him..be happy because now youu have a new start, and just enjoy life!
I would definately enjoy talking to you on AIM more about this..if you would like. Give me your sn if you give me feedback and we can definately chat about it. Just remember..he isnt worth it at ALL
-Melissa

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theires a new guy at our school and hes supppeerr cute
all the girls lovee him and for some reason, he thinks im really hott and wants to hook up with meee! (as in make out now sex hook up)
anyways i know it and so does everybody else but the thing is we've never talked cuz he came a week ago and we have no classes.
we have lotss of mutuals friends, but idk how it could be so that we'd be friends? because its awkward because as of now he doesnt even know that i know who he is, buit he knows that i know the new guy as a stalker of me... so what should i do so that we can talkk

Get one of your mutual friends to bring you up in conversation with him. Tell the mutual friend to plan a night for a group of you guys to go to the movies. Then you and this guy will hit it off! Or...get this guy's screenname or myspace from a mutual friend and start talking to this guy casually. Suggest to hang out..see how it goes!
I bet it will go great! :)

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So, basically this big drama has come up, leaving me with no school friends. I'm innocent, but if they want to treat me like that fine whatever.

So what do I during school? Like classes and lunchtime. If I could make new friends I would, but I can't as I go to a small school and I have a bad reputation (Not as a slut, as a 'loser') so no one goes near me in case they get picked on too.

Even if this all blows over (Hopefully it will) What do I do while I wait for it blow over?

Thanks for your time

Make friends outside of school. Maybe a cousin your own age, a sister or brother your age, maybe your mom has a friend who has a daughter in another school close by..get to know them. Are there county activities? Like festivals,etc? Maybe meet some people there..or at a teen night somewhere. Join a youth group at church, get a part time job, tutor/volunteer helping younger kids, join a sport or club. These are all great ideas to try for the time being. (im sure all this will pass over too.) In school focus on yourself. Maybe during free time go to the library to study more or get headstarts on projects. Or you can go to gym during these free times in school and work out or something.
I hope it all goes well!

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Can people with REAL relationship experience please answer? People that have been in serious relationships that lasted more than a few months? Thanks.

I'm 17/f and he's 21/m. We've been together since July 5th of 2005. It's the first serious relationship each of us has had.

Everthing was going wonderfully between us until the beginning of this year. We fought over stupid things. I kept getting really angry with him because he wouldn't go get a job and all he cared about was playing his computer and video games. He IS in college though and is going for internet security, so that was a good thing. Most of the time we worked through whatever problems we might have had, though. I really got better at respecting his hobbies and such. Plus he finally has a job now. Okay.

Lately though, I just feel like I don't want to be around him because I know it will be boring or he'll just make me angry in some shape or form. I don't want to hang out with just him because I know we'll just sit around and be bored because there's nothing to do.

Whenever he calls to say goodnight or something, sometimes I don't even pick up the phone because there's nothing to talk about or I don't even want to talk to him.

The point I'm getting to is that I think I might be falling out of love with him. I don't know if maybe it's because I see him too much or what, but I see our relationship more as really best friends instead of loving boyfriend and girlfriend. I know I care about him because I would never want him out of my life.

So my question is, how do I fall back in love with him? How do I make our relationship more fun and loving? We've been together for nearly two years and I can't figure out a way to keep things as lively as they were the first few months we went out.

At this point, I'm not sure a "break" would work for us because I'm going to college in the fall. If we took a break, that would be it and I know we'd be done. So that's a last resort.

I know that deep down, some part of me needs to stay with him and keep loving him because I'm asking this question. I want to find that part of me and bring it out. I want to be just as much in love with this man as I was the first time I told him.

Any advice?

I'm 18..my bf is too..and we have been together for over a year. We have had our times where we fight a lot..but no matteer what we always make up..and most of the time things are fgood..so its totally worth it. Of course things arent like they are during the first feew months..and that is totally normal...but its times where my bf would smile at me and kiss me out of nowhere that really sweeps me off my feet. You need soem romance to spice things up. Make him a candlelit dinner...make him a card for no reason..take him outside and gaze up at the stars together..or go somewhere/do something that you two did in the beginning of the relationship that swept you off your feet.

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I'm a 14/f. And I have a WONDERFUL boyfriend. Yeah, say I'm to young to be inlove, I don't care.

Anyways, i'm white, and my boy friend is mixed(black&white), well..my parents are exactly rascists..but they are really bad to stereotype and they think all blacks are bad and they think they all steal..and kill people. lol. Well, they think that about my Bf. And none of it's true. And it's not his fault what his color is. And really, if you were blind and he never told you that he had black in him, you'd never know.
He doesn't try to act all 'gangstuh' and 'ghetto'...he actually leans more to the emo/scene. Haha.
But, still, my parents dislike him, and i've let him meet my mother twice. and still...she hates him. is there anything i can do to convince them different?


I mean, i have to deal with it at school, too. getting called a nigga lover..and everything else. I know i can't do anything about the kids at school, but i would like to change my parent's view on the situation.

That has to be soo0o frustrating! I know how you feel because my parents dont like my bf either..not because of racial issues or stereotypes..but because of his poor choices in the past. It frustrates me so0o much because now he turned everything around..is out of trouble, has a job, goes to schoool all the time, and a lot of other good stufff..but they still dont like him. (and we have been together pretty much over a year) It hurts a lot..and we fight a lot over it..but i have come to this conclusion :
All that matters is that I am happy and he is good to me. I cant make my parents like him no matter what i do..so i hope in time they will come around...but until then i am not going to let it ruin my life or my relationship. There is nothing you can do about your parents bad stereotypes on him..dont frustrate yourself any longer..the only thing i can advise for you to do..is to tell your parents exactly how you feel. Tell them how he is a great guy..but obviously they arent going to stop hating on him..so tell them that is their choice if they choose to shut him out of their life. They might feel bad and realize they are wrong. Good luck..i hope your parents arent as stubborn as mine.

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To cut a long story short theres this guy i work with and at first we were really close and he was txting me loads. we started goin out even though he has a girlfriend. me and this guy hav done stuff, my friend has started working with his girlfriend and now he has put cold water on our relationship. he sed that it cant continue any longer, but then sends me txt msgs and when were on our own its great, we secretly meet up which is exciting.... but im confused, i feel hurt and jealous. i think i need to get over it but dont know how. please advise me on what to do??

I understand you like him..but this guy is a loserr! If he really wanted to be with you he would dump his gf ...not go behind her back. If he cheated on her..he would cheat on you too. You desserve a guy who just wants to be with YOU..not toy you around while going out with another girl.

-melissa-

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my girlfriend was over one time. and i asked her if she wanted to have sex and she said no. which i figured since shes waiting for marriage. then i decided i didnt care and i sat on her and forced her clothes off. shes really tiny and week she weighs like 91 and i weigh 156 so it wasnt hard. she tried to get me off of her but we both knew she couldnt. so my friend who was coming over to hang out with us came. and he held her down while i fingered her. she was screaming and telling me to stop but i didnt. then he sat on her and held her legs apart while i stuck my dick in her vagina. she was screaming and crying for us to stop she said it hurt.so my friend told me to punchh her so she will shutup so i did. i didnt mean to punch her that hard but she passed out. so i finished up and my friend left. and i just stared at her. i didnt mean to hurt her. i love her soo much. and i couldnt believe all the bruises all over her shoulders,legs,arms,colar bone and her face was dripping blood. so i got a towel and wiped it off. then when she woke up she couldnt move so i helped her get dressed and carried her home. i kept apoligizing but she didnt say anything to me. when i see her in school she looks scared and runs away from me. how cdo i get her to tlak to me thanks.

you are a moron.

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Ok my sister our friend Betsy and me are on a diet now we are totaly cutting out junk food drinking way more water and walking everyday even on the weekends or when were hanging out or stuff like that now say your 247 pounds or something how long would it take to get down to 125??? also were will be working out at the gym over the summer right now we are just doing situps and stuff so yeah but totaly cutting out junk food eating more fruits vegetables and stuff like that will this diet work and how long will it take to get down to 125 if you are say 247 thanks in advance

That is a very big drop. If you were to do this safetly..you could lose 120lbs in a year-a year and a half. Making small goals is the best way to get lower and lower. For example..in 3 months make it a goal to be 215-220lbs. And plan to lose 20 or 30 lbs every 3 months or so. dont lose too much too fast

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what is the point of wearing a wife beater under your shirt?

I wear them under my shirt to layer with another shirt that is a button down or low cut. I also like them because i can just take off my shirt and be ready to play tennis or some other sport without having to have to change.

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I have been in a relationship with my partner for just about four years. I recently moved to another city to study, while he stays in my old town until the end of the year.
I moved away because I felt that I needed some space and our relationship hasn't been meaning as much to me as it used to for some time now.
Recently I met someone very special who I have pretty much fallen head over heels for. They feel the same way and I'd really like to be with that person - and I really am not the kind of person to be impulsive or fall for people easily. I really mean it when I say there is a special connection between us.
So I need to break up with my boyfriend - I don't want to carry on our relationship, even if things don't go anywhere with the other person, because the fact that I am feeling the way I do means it's not fair on either of us for our relationship to continue. But how do I do it? I am so scared, because I know he still loves me very very much and I don't want to hurt him, I think he's a great guy and he has been my friend since we were kids, but I'm just not in love with him any more. This is a really difficult situation so I'd really appreciate some advice. Thanks :)

Breaking up is not easy to do..especially being that you have been with this person for so long. There is no way around it..you have to tell him its over. Definately dont be harsh..but you have to tell him how you feel and that it is over. If it were me, I would do it in person if i could. I would bringg all of my partners belongings with me and explain to him that you feel the two of you have been drifting apart..and that you met someone else. It might hurt him..and its not a fun thing..but it has to be done. If your partner was the one breaking up with you..i bet you would want to know everything he/she is feeling,why,etc. So dont be shy..tell him everything so he has some closure..and yes he will probably be very sad, but time is the best medicine. Good lucck!

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ok so whenever i even get a TINY bit hot my arm pits get sweaty and leave marks on my shirt and its sooo embarecing i can never lift my arms or else people will see. i use plenty of deoderant but it doesnt seem to be helping at all. even if im not that hot it still happens. i hate it! any help???

maybe bring extra shirts along if you are going somewhere, avoid white shirts, sprinkle some powder underneath your arms in the morning, go to the bathroom every so often to wipe the sweat off, and keep cold water near to stay cool

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Okay so today my bf fingered me for the 1st time and i wanna give him a handjob or blowjob but im really shy about that stuff. like i dont know how to start it, i mean i dont just wanna be like 'hey pull down your pants' lol but yea im not sure how to let him know i want to and get it started. Please help

You dont have to tell him what you want to do..you can hint at it. While you guys are making out you can maybe move your hand down there..maybe pull away and smile or lick your lips (haha) as you undo his belt. He will deffffinately get the picture! :)

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My gynecologist said that I have high blood pressure. I think that the only reason that when they take my blood pressure it's high is because I'm nervous. Anytime I go to a doctor, I get nervous, and I can tell that my blood pressure is up (I can feel that my heart is pumping faster). Anywho, how can I calm down whenever they take my blood pressure so they can get an accurate reading?

I know what you are saying. In the past they have told me to relax and think of happy things..pretty clouds..lol it sounds pathetic but it works if you seriously immagine this calm stuff. A good idea is to take your own blood pressure at home and i bet it will be normal. If you have a friend or family member that is a nurse..they can supply you with what you need.

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im 13/f and ive had sex with 14 different guys. i know how slutty that it. i was kind of neglected buy my family so i needed a way to be loved. i know regret all of it. i realize how lucky i am to still be not pregnant and std-free. ive been going to church every other day and confessing. what can i do to get my life back together????

Im glad you are getting back on the right track. Contine to go to church, find yourself a nice group of friends..maybe join a youth group in the chuch, dont put yourself in a bad situation (like going to parties,etc.) understand that you dont need boys or sex to feel loved. Wait for the RIGHT guy who will stick around and love youuu no matter what.

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im a freshamn in highschool im fifteen, and i was at my boyfriends friends house it was me and like his four guy friends. there all football players and everything so there built. there really nice and respectful and all but we were ust sitting on the couch and they were asking me really inapropriate questions like when ill get my next period and how old i was when i first got it, and what size bra i wear. it was really uncomfortable so i got up to go to the bathroom and i heard someone behind me so i turned around and it was my boyfriend he started kissing me and he asked me if i felt uncomfortable. we have been going out for a year since eighth gtrade so i could trust him and he was nice to me and everything so i said yeah a little and he started kissing me and apoligized and then in his friends house there was a guestroom right next to the bathroom and he started pushing me into the room and i went along with it since i mean we werent going to do anything. keep in mind hes a football player and weighs like 190 which is all muscle and i weigh 91 pounds. so he threw me (liturally) on the bed and started taking his shirt off and he locked the door. i sat up because i didnt want to do this. and he pushed me back down and started taking my shirt off and he started kissing me again and it hurt since he was ontop of me. i was trying to get him off and kept telling him no i dont want to do this and he always respected my opinion before when we were doing stuff and i didnt want to anymore so i thought he would this time. all he did was start to punch me and tell me i was a slut and a whore. and he started taking my pants off and he started fingering me and it hurt really bad. i just froze i was in shocke he would be doing this. i tried to fight him off which i knew wouldnt work sincehe was much mcuch bigger than me but he took his pants off and went in me and then i started screaming and his friends came but since the door was locked they just asked if i was okay and i said no and then they broke the lock and got him off of me and asked me if i was okay. meanwhile my boyfriend kept telling them i was a slut and he thought thats what i wanted because thats what sluts do and they kept telling him i wasnt a slut then he got all mad and left. the next day he kept calling me and tellling me how sorry he was and he wasnt thinking that night and he loves me and will wait till i ready to do it again. he bought me flower and he wrote me apoligy notes and all. i forgave him and its been like five months im just afraid hell do it again. i need help. what should i do?

He punched you and raped you. That is horrible! He took your virginity before you were ready..rape is a horrible crime..very degrading..and he can get in serious trouble for that. He has issssues. If he loved you and respected you he wouldnt have RAPED you and PUNCHED you. You need to understand you do not desserve this...this guy is a jerk..annd you can do so much better than him! DUMP him..! please follow my advice..any more questions? definately go to my page ..and write me a question,..im here for you.

-melissa

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wel im 19 and trying out for a job as a secretary. these jobs are veri high paying. i have been to 5 interviews so far, the first one fell through even tho i thort i was really good but apparently he wanted more. so in the next one i gave the boss a blowjob (he had already promised i would get the job if i did), but he went against his word and didnt. the next two bosses i did the same, and did it to comletion like before, but they kept going against their word and not giving me the job. the last guy i had sex with, thinking other girls would probably have done that, but he still refused after. what am i doing wrong?! help.

You need to have pride in yourself and not do those kind of sexual acts for some pervert. Dont do anything like that again..be professional. If they ask for a sexual favor..walk out and even report itt to the police. That is disgusting. Even if the guy asks for a sexual act and i say no..and even if i get the job i wouldnt take it because i wouldnt want to be around a scum like that. You desserve better than that. Keep looking for jobs..but do nottt do sexual things for these idiots. Keep your pride and respect ffor yourself high..be professional..and you will get a job.

-melissa-

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me and my boyfriend and his friend derek were watching t.v one time and when my boyfriend got up to go to the bathroom derek sat on me and took off my shirt and pants and started licking and fingering me and i tried fighting him off but hes alot bigger than i am. i started screaming and my boyfriend came and laughed and joined him. i forgave them and we still hang out and they onyl did it three times after that. so i guess im over it and im still with my boyfriend. but i dont know how to move on. help please. thanks

eww its almost like they had that planned or something! If my bf's friend did that to me..and then my bf (who i would hope would protect me and punch his friend) actually LAUGHS nnd JOINS (??WTF) then he would be DONEE! That is harassment! Its a form of rape because it was against your will. And it is just plain nasty/sick. They both have problems..definately dump this weirdo..you will be much better off trust me hun

-melissa-

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and i dont know, we're sorta growing apart cuz this ordeal. We've been friends for not even a year, but we're really close friends already. what do i do to keep our friendship? Do i act like i agree with her?

thx.

kp:)

This is no reason to not be friends. Tell her that you two will have to agree to disagree. She has her opinons..and you have yours. You both have the right to think what you want...it doesnt mean you cant be friends. Make an agreement with her to not debate political issues involving pro life/prochoice issues.
I hope you guys work it outt!

-Melissa

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ive fallen in love with my bestfriend. hes so awesome and funny and all and he isnt serious very often. how do i ask him out?

thanks so much.

there are a few approaches you can choose from:

-you can straight out tell him online,in person, on the phone, or in a note that you have feelings for him and ask if he feels the same way or just see what his response is

-you can ask a friend of yours who is also friends with him to ask him how he feels about you guys being more than friends.

-while hanging out with him you can just make the move when it feels right..go in for the kiss or rest your head on his shoulder..bring up your feelings.

Good luck! Tell me how it goes

-melissa-

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17/f
okay...so i have a boyfriend and im sexually active with him. its one of the most amazing feelings ever. esp. bc the love is there.
and i love it when he fingers me. it really turns me on
but for some reason i cannot finger myself...ive tried...it doesnt do anything...it doesnt even feel good..ive tried everything possible to pleasure myself and it does nothing.
is this normal??

There is nothing wrong with you dont worry. Your guy obviously knows what he is doing and that really works for you. Maybe pay attention to what kind of things he does..how much he goes fast or if he slows up a little..and try to copy what he does, i dont know if you have tried little vibrator toys ..if not try those, but if you just cant then dont worry about it..your guy has you covered! hehe

-melissa

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