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the guy im seeing has a girlfriend.


Question Posted Friday May 11 2007, 2:11 pm

To cut a long story short theres this guy i work with and at first we were really close and he was txting me loads. we started goin out even though he has a girlfriend. me and this guy hav done stuff, my friend has started working with his girlfriend and now he has put cold water on our relationship. he sed that it cant continue any longer, but then sends me txt msgs and when were on our own its great, we secretly meet up which is exciting.... but im confused, i feel hurt and jealous. i think i need to get over it but dont know how. please advise me on what to do??

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Mona answered Friday May 11 2007, 6:48 pm:
This guy has player written ALL over him.- He knows exactly what he's doing, he probably thinks that your friend would tell his girlfriend on the "relationship" that he has with you. Though you may think it is exciting, inside you know you want a real relationship. Leave him alone, if you think you are feeling hurt just imagine how his girlfriend would feel.>please give feedback<

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icey0990 answered Friday May 11 2007, 5:40 pm:
I understand you like him..but this guy is a loserr! If he really wanted to be with you he would dump his gf ...not go behind her back. If he cheated on her..he would cheat on you too. You desserve a guy who just wants to be with YOU..not toy you around while going out with another girl.

-melissa-

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ciao77 answered Friday May 11 2007, 3:54 pm:
I know you like being with this guy, but ask yourself how you would feel if you were in his girlfriend's shoes. It's not a good idea to continue a relationship with a guy who already has a girlfriend; a) he's cheating on his girlfriend to be with you, and b) a cheater will be a cheater.
You are hanging out with him because it feels good to be with him; you have fun and like each other's company. But it's wrong, and it's hurting you. It can only get worse over time. Even if he breaks up with his girlfriend-- he cheated on her, who's to say he won't do the same to you?
Even if it hurts to end it now, it'll hurt even more down the line as things progress. Just tell him that it doesn't feel right and that you do not want to continue the relationship. Simple as that. Be honest, and be firm. A guy will try to say anything to change your mind..but don't let him. Stand your ground and don't continue on with the relationship.

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ductape_n_roses answered Friday May 11 2007, 3:20 pm:
Short and simple:
You end it. Eventually this is going to end and the longer you put it off, the more hurt you're going to get. If he's already cheating on his gf for you, who knows who he will cheat on IF he breaks up with his current girlfriend and goes out with you...

Just end it because more feelings are going to get hurt. Put yourself in the shoes of his current gf and see how you'd feel. We all find out about the things we don't want to know sooner or later.

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ammo answered Friday May 11 2007, 3:17 pm:
Getting right to the point - you don't need anyone here to tell you what you need to do - you already know what you have to do and that's put a stop to this or carryon and get hurt.

I seriously doubt he will get rid of his girlfriend and eventually when he's either had enough of you or when his girlfriend starts to get too close he will just turn his back on you and leave you standing there cold. All you seem is a bit of fun for him and if that's all you want and you have no problems with helping him cheat on his girlfriend by all means carry on but if any of those do bother you then you ned to tell him it's stopping now.

You probably feel hurt and jealous because you know deep down out of you and her he will run back to her anyway (like he already tried to do once by saying it needs to stop) or maybe because you know you are justa bit of fun for him - I don't really know. Either way though the only way you'll get over him is by firstly telling him it IS going to stop now and then sticking to that. If he texts you flirtatious messages ignore them or text him back telling him to flirt with his girlfriend and not you. This guy is just looking out for himself and as much as I don't like that you're an accomplice to what he's doing to his girlfriend I hate guys like him even more - you can do better.

Guys like this are scum - why get into a relationship if you can't do a simple thing like stay faithful. People like him are what give all guys a bad name.

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