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13 and sex
im 13/f and ive had sex with 14 different guys. i know how slutty that it. i was kind of neglected buy my family so i needed a way to be loved. i know regret all of it. i realize how lucky i am to still be not pregnant and std-free. ive been going to church every other day and confessing. what can i do to get my life back together????
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fourteennn. thats alot.
but, atleast you realize its wrong.
start focusing more on school, or hanging out with friends or something. and try not to like focus to much on boys, well i mean, don't go out with them and stuff so to speak.
i bet you could go to counseling for something like that.
if your parents know that you did that, then tell them you want to fix it, by going to counseling. and you'll probably gain some respect from them too.
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Im glad you are getting back on the right track. Contine to go to church, find yourself a nice group of friends..maybe join a youth group in the chuch, dont put yourself in a bad situation (like going to parties,etc.) understand that you dont need boys or sex to feel loved. Wait for the RIGHT guy who will stick around and love youuu no matter what.
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heh I guess your called a recycled virgin....That is good trying to get back your life.
1. Don't go to parties and stuff and have sex for a long time.
2. Think about what you want and things you want to accomplish sounds weird but it can take your mind off things like you could be thinking for days.
3. Just try and forget if you can't just remember theres no sin that cant be forgiven
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1.) Keep your legs closed.
2.) Continue what you're doing. You're on the right road, congrats! :)
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Very good going back to church and such. Join your church's youth group. or any group for that matter, dedicate yourself to something productive. Athletics, academics, community service, arts, anything. and realize that what's done is done. Its in the past and You don't have time to waste regretting things. But yeah. having something to dedicate yourself will help bring your life into focus. or even, get a dog, Love it. Dogs love back unconditionally. Cats too. or rabbits, and spending time taking care of it, You can learn a lot form animals.
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First, learn that what's done is done and you can't spend your whole life regretting it. You have to own up to the choices you've made and do your best to change it.
It's good if you're religious. Many religious people find peace within themselves and their lives by living by the Bible. You can't just confess because you feel guilty for what you did. You have to really mean it.
Also, be sure in yourself that you can change. You already made the first step toward that change by seeing what was wrong with what you've been doing and trying to become a better person.
I'm not saying that you did this, but you can't blame your family for your former path in life. Everyone has problems, some are worse than others, but either way we make our own decisions and have to take responsibility for them.
As someone already said, keep testing for pregnancy and see a gyno to be tested for all STDs. Some, including HIV, can lay dormant for up to 6 months and you can test negative over and over but one day that can change even if you haven't had sex. Other things like herpes or warts can only be detected during a breakout, and some people never (or seldomly) get breakouts.
Just take a break from your former life and focus on yourself and anyone who care about that you know cares about you. You have to forgive yourself before you can change completely. You just need to focus completely on becoming a better person right now. Therapy can also be a BIG help.
Hope this helped!
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first, you should keep going to church often, and just pray to God to forgive you for your sins, and pray to him to help you get your life back together.
stop having sex until you really have strong feelings for a guy.
it's already done, so you can't do anything to change the fact that you did, but if you aren't pregnant or have STD or anything, then all you can do is the things i've said.
by the way, its really good that you've realized how much it can affect you, and that you wanna change =]
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1. Quit having sex. Sex isn't something you abuse like that. You only need to do it when you are in LOVE and old enough to deal with the responsibilties that come with it.
2. Keep going to church and repenting... and mean it. don't just do it to get rid of your guilt.
3. Triple check that you don't have an std and aren't pregnant. Get on birth control pills to keep it that way.
Sorry if this was kind of harsh, but i don't like seeing people throw their lives away like that. you don't deserve it.
Hope i helped.
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