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I am going to metallica and we are VIP ie: backstage, what in the hell do I wear?..I am a female pushing 40 up a hill...HA!! thanks

whatever you want.

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Okay, so at my school, groups are a bit thing. Not really cliques, but definitely groups. Anyway, I'm not that popular, but I have a lot of friends from all different groups. Thus, I don't really have a specific group I fit into. And, at my school, all dating occurs within groups. Thus, I'm in high school and have never even had a boyfriend. And honestly, I don't care, because highschool relationships go nowhere anyway. But, consequently, I have no guy friends. A few I talk to now and then, but really no guy FRIENDS.

So, okay, question--
Today, all of the lower-popular and middle-popular (pretty messed up, right?) guys in my classes couldn't stop talking to me. Its not just like me being in a group of all these guys and talking to them. It was, individually, these guys just kept starting [long, might I add] conversations with me. It was pretty weird. I didn't look any different today... no change. Trust me, I didn't mind lol, they were really cool, but any idea why?

Thanks :]

To be honest. Popularity Doesn't matter.
The least popular people are just about the most amazing friends you could ever ask for.

Advice: Don't group people so often. People are people and they all have potential to be amazing. and most of them are.
Worry less about who's popular where and things will move much smoother

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I don't know the name os this song all the lyrics i remember are these:

This love has taken its toll on me, she said goodbye too many times before....

Does anyone know the song?

Maggie

its Maroon 5, This love.. but for future reference you can go to google and put the line inside quotation marks ("This love has blah blah blah....")
and that'll bring up sites with the lyric on it. most of them being like lyrics.com or just lyric databases and what not. They'll have the name of the song's you're looking for as well as the artists who sing them

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Whenever I want to go away for a long time, I put up an away message & then log off so it's at the Windows XP log in screen where you can pick what account you want to go on. For some reason when I go back in to the main account, my away message isn't there & I was just idle the whole time. Is there a way I can set it up so that my away message stays up the whole time?? Thanks!

when you log off of your desktop, to go to the log in screen of your computer, it automatically exits all windows that you leave open. so it exits your buddy list(if you left it open) and the window for your away message (when you exit that its the same as clicking "I'm Back"). so everything's closed but the computer still has you signed on. so on other people's buddy list it'll show up as you being online. and then after a while of not being there your status turns to idle.

You can keep your away message open by clicking the "switch users" button instead of the "log off" one.
this brings your computer to the log in screen but leaves any windows open for when you come back.

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My face looks oily. I've always had dry skin or combination skin. My face is shiny and even after I wash it.

I don't want harsh products that would irritate my skin. I don't want any products that burn the skin, you know?

I also have small bumps on the side of my cheek. How do I go about treating this? It's a lot of small bumps so I don't want to irritate the skin and make it worse. They sort of popped up last month while I was on the pill :/

I've been putting benzoyl peroxide medication on the small bumps for the past week. it's done nothing but bring it to a slight white head.

any tips/tricks?

also, can i buy proactive without getting the whole monthly supply? [i already tried it and my mom doesn't want to pay for it every month] They do sell over a counter in the mall, right? If they do, how much for each bottle?

Clearasil works if you haven't tried that already.
try washing with soap and water with salt. sounds weird. but salt will exfoliate and get rid of some oils. but don't do that too often. once a week'll do. um.. Oh. during the day, if you're out of the house or whatever. carry a piece of either brown paper bag or construction paper in your purse or whatever and when you go to a mirror and say "oh my gosh. my face is shiny and oily, YUCK!" then just pull out this handy little scrap and wipe your face. These papers will absorb oils and reduce shine on your face. just a crazy little home remedy. (one that actually does work lol.)

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my boyfriend has fingered me a few times, and every time he's washed his hands immediately before. also he told me that he hadnt masturbated since the previous day too (every time.) and he hasn't touched himself at all while he's fingering me. but my period is a week late.

i'm just thinking its stress, because i was stressed about it being late in the first place, but please reassure me that i can't be pregnant.
thanks

You're probably just stressed from worrying about it. Your situation seems IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant from. Hun, you're fine

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Ok well when we changed our ink, everytime we turn on our printer it always prints out thsi weird looking page. Then there's a pop-up saying to align the printer.

You have to put the printed sheet faced down on the printer and press the scan button. When the green light stops flashing, then it's done.

But everytime i turn on the printer, it does the same thing.

How can i fix this problem?

Try aligning it again. and if it still happens call the manufacturer.

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I am going on a camp retreat involving rxcercises and obstacle courses and all that crazy stuff! But I got my belly button pierced about 2 months ago and I need a covering for it so I won't get hurt. Any ideas?

make sure you have something small like a stud. thats not all dangly and such. If it still worries you you can put tape over it. I know it'll look funny but that works. and its recommended especially when playing sports with new piercings. and its inexpensive.
You could also use a bandaid. or a piece of gauze taped with medical tape.

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ok sorry abotu the wrong category.. but i was wondering if like proactive really works? because im not sure if i should try it.. and i have like sesitive skin if that helps any.

thanks in advace=]

Proactive is one of the more recommended brands of acne control. A lot of my friends have used it for a LONG time and it works wonderfully. It will dry your skin out some.. but all acne meds do that. after using it for a few days the dryness stops.
It didn't work for me though. my skin is terrible though I mean. TERRIBLE. Clearasil worked for me. but by all means try ProActive first. they're ranked higher.

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the dr dignosed me with seborric dermatitis [sp]
and i cant stop picking my head and im ending up with bald spots what can i do?none of those shampoos that they have for that work so i use a natural kind its like "neem" shampoo & conditioner my hair is starting to thin and i dont know what to do i keep picking at the scab things.

basically the shampoo's will start to work when you stop picking at your head. so have someone who you're around a lot hit you every time you do. like in the arm so you get a charlie horse and it hurts to lift your arm... kinda the same philosophy as teaching lab rats to go through a maze by shocking them when they do the wrong thing.
Or wear hats if they're not around. just to keep your hands off your head. (wearing the hat too often however can be bad. so only do it when there's no one around)

also try keeping yourself busy. this picking at scabs sounds like a boredom habit. like how some people eat when there's nothing else to do. so ... plant a garden or something. buy puzzle books Sudoku. something just to keep your mind busy when there's nothing better to do.

hope it helps
~webby

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i want to gain muscle=eat more calories
i want to lose fat=eat less calories

i want to gain muscle=exercise
i want to gain muscle while not losing my bulk and not going skinny=???

bottomline,how do i gain muscle,while losing fat and exercising but not too much till i lose my bulk at the same time?

Eat more Protein. and watch Carbs rather than calories.
as far as building muscle. lift weights and use a comfortable weight while doing a few reps. more reps will tone muscle instead of build it, making you skinnier. and every once in a while try upping the weight you lift.. but not by too much, just enough to make a small difference.

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lately, one of my friend were getting bullied, and i stood up to the bullie.. and now shes threating me and everythink! and the problem is shes really popular!!

It makes no difference if she's popular. just keep standing up for yourself and your friend. your friend will catch on and stand up for you and herself. just keep your cool and dont engage in the name-calling. Keep it in your mind that name calling and bullying is a second grade thing to do. you're above that. In short, be the bigger person. everyone'll see your confidence and realize that this girl isn't a good person. You'll ruin her.

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I'm a 17 yr. old girl, and I usually have no problem getting a guy, I think I just attract all the wrong guys, alot of guys come up to me but I kinda give them attitude or either they just see me not girlfriend material? I'm so sick and tired of them looking at me sexually. So whats wrong with me.
- I do not dress sexually, mini skirts, etc. I dress classy
-I love to hang out with the guys
- I'm not really good at flirting
-I'm a virgin, I have done nothing sexual whatsoever.
So why do all these guys see me as nothing more than just a girl to hook-up with?

hun there's nothing wrong with you.
I'm in the same boat. a lot of guys just like hook-ups. as you go along mingling with people you'll come across someone who realizes that you would make a good girlfriend.

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Well, I am 5''3 and 13 years old and all my mom can ever talk about is my weight. In summer 06, she told me that i looked to heavy. I was 122 lbs, so i lost 20 pounds. then she complained that I looked to skinny. Right now I am 107 and she keeps bugging me that I look too skinny. She wants me to gain 5 lbs, but I dont want to. I like the way I look right now but my mom doesn't respect that. Whenever I wear a swimsuit, all she can comment on is, "you look too skinny". It's really annoying and I wish she would just let me stay at the weight I feel right at. I just don't want to listen to her complain anymore. What do i do?

If you can see your ribs, then she's right.
but Its probably just because she's not used to the new you yet.

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how do you put an edible photograph on a cake or cookie?

You'd have to go to your local supermarket. talk to whoever's at the bakery Give them the photo and they'll do it.

Its kindof like how, If you've ever seen paint get mixed, they put in a certain amount of red, blue, and yellow. Same thing. except its dye into icing to get a broad range of colors.. To be honest, I've always wanted to see this done.. cause when I think of it I see a giant printer with a sheetcake coming through it lol. Thats probably wrong.
I'm sure you can find out somewhere on the food network. Or their website (foodnetwork.tv)

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i really love to watch cheerleaders and people do back hand springs and cartwheels and all the flippy spinny stuff =] i just wish i could do that. is there some things i could do to teach myself at home? like how i can make myself more flexable and stuff. so that i can do that. please give me specific things.

thanks =]

stretch daily.
stretch everything from your ankles to your wrists.
also do bridges (hands and feet on the ground, belly up.)

also you can find someone, a friend or neighbor, or someone you've met who knows how to. and ask them to help and spot you.

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how much would it cost for all of the vaccinations etc for an 8 week old kitten, because i recently bought one and was wandering how much it would cost. thanks :)

umm good question.. we've never vaccinated our cats. and they're healthy. we just spay/neuter them and they live nice long lives.
It depends on the vet you go to. our local vet will vaccinate and neuter/spay them for free if you say its a stray.

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why do babies have super long eyelashes? how long does it take to grow them that long?

Its not that they're long. Its an illusion cause their heads are small.

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Is it possible to be allergic to mosquito bites? Because I think I am, whenever I get one, it swells up to the size of like two quarters and its hard and red...What do you think?

umm its not quite an allergy, its just your immune system reacts to it more severly than others do.
but what works when you get them is to take your fingernail and press an X into them. I don't quite know why it works, I have some theories but none that I can say as a fact. but it works better than most creams and such that I've tried.

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Alright,so for the past 2,3 months i've been having these weird symptoms that occur almost everyday. i know you can't diagnose but i just need help from anyone to give me some clues of where its going,if you know anything at all.

I'll give you the symptoms and examples,it might be long.


- Unable to focus

*i never know whats going on around me,i
feel like really lazy and tired. i always get
9+ hours of sleep,its not the lazy tired
people think,its like exuastion all the time.



- Unable to think straight

*I'll mix 2 thoughts and think they're real,
imagine things and for about 30 seconds think
they actually happend.lose track while in the
middle of a story (all the time.)



- Lack of emotion/thoughts

*sometimes i'll just stare at something and
think of nothing,i get out of focus and dizzy
then after a little while i get back into
focus and notice i've been doing that for 3
minutes.


- Sometimes when i'm reading the words will shake on the page.

*only happend a couple of times. im just staring
at the page and then it like gets out of focus
and hurts kind of.


- Sometimes my hands get shakey

*didn't really happen that much but still,
its happen to my right hand it just spazzed
or something. weird.


- Unable to get back into focus for awhile

*like i said,everything blurs out and i
also forget what i was doing after it happens.


- Bad hearing?

*i ALWAYS have to ask people one,two,or three
times to repeat things. mostly because i
can't listen. i try but i just fade away..
i literally don't pay attension every time
i try too. its too hard to pay attension.
the weird part is nothings even on my mind
to distract me. i'm always zoned out?



- i really feel like my head near my eye
area is heavy or something


*like towards my forhead,it just feels wrong.


- always feel dizzy-like

*unable to focus and like i'm looking at things
as if im just watching a movie. i don't think
things are real sometimes either. i ALSO feel
really delayed.i dont know if i already
mentionedthat.




- I CANT REMEMBER THINGS AT ALL.i'm not just
saying it,i literally forget MOST* things i do.



for example,we learned a dance in cspa today.
and tonight i really can remember anything
about it other than it was really hard.
and i'm probably going to have to learn it all over again.


- confused easily

*self-explanitory.i feel slower than the rest though.


-delayed reactions.


- FREQUENT ear popping in left ear.


*yeah,and i have to pull my ear a cirtain way
to clearly hear out of it.





Some other facts: My old sister has been having this too lately, and YES,i eat right, YES, i've been getting my vitamins (i take vitmin pills). YES,i've had enough sleep. thats why i'm taking this seriously. I'm 14,female. (My sister's 20)I DO NOT do drugs,sex,drink, or smoke. if that makes a difference.
any help at all on this,thanks.

It could have a lot to do with your environment.
try finding a fairly inexpensive resort somewhere away from cities. (for example if you live in the Northeaster US Vermont Mountains, or the Adirondaks.. just open country) It'll clear your head, take your mind off things. and just stay there for a good week. and let the symptoms run their course. Things like your symptoms happen to me often, typically when I haven't vacationed in a while.
If that doesn't work try making a routine out of your day. And be persistent if it doesn't work out at first. For instance, once you wake up, Shower, change, Eat, Read a Newspaper, Go for a walk, exercise, Eat lunch, relax. Just something that you can get used to so your mind always knows what comes next.

*Side note, on the eye/forehead issue. I had experienced that aswell.. try increasing your iron intake. It turned out that I have a deficiency of iron... just give it a try for a week and see if anything changes.

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