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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



Feel free to drop one by in my inbox and I'll tell you what to do to the of my best ability in any situation. But remember, if it doesn't seem right, then don't do it. It's only my advice, not me telling you what to do.


PLEASE don't repeat questions. I appreciate all ratings and feedback, so please do it. It really gives me a good feel for how my advice is. Also, if you don't rate, and my advice is crap, I'd like to know so that I don't run the risk of telling someone to do that again.


Thanks.. and.. I hope I helped. =) ♥

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I was just wondering if anyone had a suggestion on a very good straitener and if so where can u get it? My hair is dirty blond, very thick, notty, and wavy.

I don't know the model number or anything like that but it's by conair and it's siver and has a little removable comb on the side. The comb makes it SO much easier to straighten!

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I like a boy but he already has a girlfriend. I still told him I like him though. He told me he likes me but he doesnt want to break up with his girlfriend even though she is a snob. What should I do?

He's got a girlfriend that he wants to be loyal to. Bad News: You don't know when he's going to break off the relationship with his girlfriend. Good News: When they ARE done, you are going to have an awesome, loyal, cool boyfriend. So, in the meanwhile, just be really nice, flirt a lot, and show him how cool you are. Make him smile. DON'T TALK BAD ABOUT HIS GIRLFRIEND TO HIM, THAT'LL TURN HIM OFF because he'll see you as a gossip queen. Most guys think gossip is really mean and stupid.

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hey samm!! you know who this is but oh well!
i need help. valentine's day is coming up, and i want a valentine. whose a guy. but i have never had a boyfriend yet, and i'm in 7th grade. yeah, i know, pretty pathetic. i'm not pretty at all, and i'm a little chubby. and i'm not very outgoing around people who aren't my friends. so its hard for me to get a guy. and if i flirt, they may "flirt" back, but its not like they like me. i want to have my valentine be someone close, so i was thinking one of my really close guy friends, who i new since i was born. but they have been ignoring me lately!! and i dont have any crushes in my school. help!!!

You are NOT chubby, you are gorgeous! And you know it! So, you just need to accept yourself first. You'll come off MUCH more confident if you do!

Anyway, you HAVE to be outgoing if you want to get a guy. Guys think that girls who put themselves out there are really attractive in that they are strong females. So, talk to the guy you like, laugh at his jokes, look at him in the eye... just be flirtacious. Maybe give him you're phone number or at the least your screen name. You don't need to dress up every day, but that being said, don't go to school looking like crap. Wear some lipgloss (not too much, not too little) so that you're lips look like a nice, juicy red. If you find him staring at your lips, he is studying the territory.

Give him the hint hint that you like him, and Cupid will be good to you.

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im in 8th grade and me and my boyfried have been going out for a few months...but we dont rly talk on the phone.We talk ALOT in school but not on the phone and when we talk there is allways something to talk about..is this a bad thing that we dont rly talk on the phone?
help i rate!!

Some people just aren't phone people. Obviously, you are one. But your boyfriend might not be. He might be super busy at home and doesn't have the time/can't multi task. The beauty of IM, you can both multi task, he won't keep saying "What?" and people sometimes say more what they mean online because it's really easy to speak you're mind when you aren't staring someone in the face or hearing the sadness in their voice.

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ok well my bf like doesnt really talk to me anymore he always talks bout my friend and i think he likes her but im not sure cuz like hes like shes interesting but nothing bout me ya know and its bothering me cuz i think he dont like me anymore and is trying to get to her..what should i do

"my bf doesnt really talk to me anymore he always talks bout my friend." Ok, you started off VERY strangly. I THINK you're trying to say that he hardly ever talks to you, and when he does, he talks about your friend. Now that we have translations fixed...

Maybe you're boyfriend is having trouble making conversation, so he reverts to a subject that he knows both you and him can agree on, you're friend. Maybe he's playing you. Who knows?

For now, I'd make plans for one on one dates with him and give him oppertunities to talk about himself for three reasons:
1. Guys LOVE talking about themselves.
2. If he's talking about himself, he won't be
talking about your friend.
3. Maybe he'll shoot your question back at you, and YOU can talk about yourself.

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i could be a better flirt..i think guys could notice me better..what are ur tips

Put on some mascara, bat those eyelashes. Look in his eyes when you talk to him. Laugh at his jokes... just be flirtacious and DON'T show fear, don't be too blonde, and be yourself.

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ok i have this one friend, and i love her to death, shes one of my best friends(we will call her Jof) and all but heres the thing.... shes like obsessed with this other girl (we will call her Kog)!! Jof will call Kog to do something, then if Kog can't, then she'll call me. And even if I call Jof and ask her, she'll say "Lets ask Kog to come too," or "Kog is such a great friend" and she will always bring her up! And in Jof's profile, is says under friends-
***!!Kog!!*** then me. And Kog doesnt call Jof or anything! And I always call Jof!! I love Jof and Kog (as friends) but god Jof is annoying.

That's awesome that you two are good friends. The fact that she really enjoys the company of her other friends shouldn't bother you. But if she seems like she is overly obsessed with this girl, than you need to talk to her about it. Maybe you're too shy for a face to face conference. In that case, you should write out a powerful letter, neatly and thoughtfully written. This will really help alot because if she doesn't want to talk to you, she will read it. I mean, we all get curious sometimes.

I really hope things work out for you because it REALLY hurts to lose a friend. Just talk to her.

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when i'm at home i hav cravings for chocolate, and junk food. And it makes me fat and i don't know who to stop having cravings and eating healthy and not as much. I need YOUR help!

I have the exact same issue! Anyhow, ask your mom to STOP BUYING JUNK FOOD! Because, think about it. If you're at home, you get bored, and then you think, "Hmm, there's a bag of chips and some chocolate downstairs. I'm kind of hungry. I think I should eat healthily, but chips and candy taste MUCH better than an apple, so I'll go with the chips and chocolate." But if you have no bag of chips or candy downstairs, then you can't eat it! As simple as that.

Some foods to avoid? Well for starters, anything in a shiny bag that you could find at a gas station store is probably unhealty for you. Anything that's loaded with sugar also isn't too great. Aim for fruits, veggies, bread, milky stuff (frozen yogurt is better for your body than ice cream) and meat! Yes, fruit has a good amount of sugar and bread is loaded with carbs, but you need to have these things in your diet. Sweets can be avoided for a healthier lifestyle.

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ok i have this guy friend and he's real cool and i dunno i think he might like me i mean hes hugged me and he jokes around with me and he always makes an effort to talk to me and he always gets EXTREMELy close and stairs me in the he eyes and flirts and touches my arm but i wanna see if some of the other things he does may be be "flirting" cuz im kinda confused

These are defiantly the top 5 flirtacious things a guy can do. He LIKES you! You should ask him if he does.. possibly when he's looking in your eyes. If he says no, it could mess up your friendship, but who would want a friend who leads you on?

Sooner or later he's going to ask you out. And if he's just playing with your head, than that's soo stupid.

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When i just lay there in bed or on the sofa, i think what's the porpose of living? And sometimes i wish i wasn't alive for various reasons 1)i'm fat and exercise doesn't work 4 me.
2)i can't and will never get a boyfried. 3)i don't think my life has a reason. I i'm so depressed but i hide it inside. Like when i'm with my friends and stuff i'm all happy and cheerful, but on the inside i'm sad and depressed. Is there anything to keep my mind off of the topic and what do you think i should do.

Sorry that my answer is a repeat, but it's pretty much the same topic. The bottom has some new stuff for your topic though.

Maybe you just need to keep yourself busy. When you're busy, you won't be able to think about how depressing your life may be. It works for a lot of people, but it could just make you stressed. So, don't load up your schedual too much. I really suggest that you go to a gym three times a week for an hour or two. At some gyms, they have some experts walking around that will help you in the areas you need help with.

As for boyfriends... Who cares? Anyone who doesn't like you for you isn't even worth the trouble. Guys, at this age, don't even have minds. They just want a playboy bunny hunny. Who WANTS a boyfriend who only judges by looks?

Not many people can look in the mirror and say "I'm gorgeous," so don't sweat it if you can't either. Just accept yourself and you'll come off to other people much more confident than you really are.So just hang out with your friends and go on many, many girls' days/nights out. You'll soon figure out how much you REALLY mean to your friends.

You're life really does has a meaning, but as a twelve or thirteen year old, you might not be able to know what it is quite yet. I know I don't. Albert Einstien probably didn't either. So, just wait it out and enjoy!

I know what you mean about the double personality thing. You're friends really care about you enough to make you happy.. that's great! Just don't keep your feelings kept inside for too long, or else you might snap at your oh-so-good friends and then they'll just be oh-so-mad.

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i seriously can't dance and i don't know how. And every time i try to dance i make my self look like a total ass. i think since i'm on the chubbier side then it brings my self esteme down. And doing a dance class is hard 4 me because there are people from my school there and i'm afraid they will make fun of me. What is Your Opinion?

First of all, you're better than you thin. You're probably just WAY to hard on yourself.

I'm very happy for you that you're trying. It takes a lot of confidence to go to a class to get better. But, whao.. You just blamed your not-so-hot dance moves on being a little chubby? That's not it at all! I mean look at some of the best dancers in history! They're not all pencil-thin. You, like many other people in the world, aren't so coordinated. So what? It's ok! Because so many people don't have the flow and beauty of Britany Spears.. it's just really accepted.

If people are making fun of you for trying to excell in dance, then forget them! Maybe try a new dance class that has different people in it. Or, go to a different school a little further away from your area.

Until you're getting good, try avoiding some places where you'll be expected to dance. Keep up good work at your class and NEVER QUIT!

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Hey Sam!! ok heres the thing. I have advicenators too, and someone asked me advice about me!! And I'm sure it was about me, because she asked u the same question, but with more details. What the heck should i do?? And she put the blame on me, wen i was trying to help our friendship patched up, wen she was like "o i dont think we should be friends anymore" It just makes me annoyed, that she would ask ME advice about ME!!

When she asked you a question about you, she was trying to communicate with you. You should answer talking in the third person and just tell her how you feel. But if she's calling a quits as you try to fix, maybe she's not worth the trouble.

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Sometimes when im just sitting in my room or laying in bed listening to music(not sad music or anything) but i start crying and i don't know why and it sometimes scares me.I was thinking that it could be that i am so depressed that i don't have a boyfriend and it feels like i'm not pretty/thin etc. enough to get a boyfriend. What's your advice?

See, what happens is as you're listening to the music, some of the lyrics could upset you. I'm not talking about them cursing out and being offensive, but some girl might be singing about how incredibly awesome her boyfriend is and you'll get jealous.

But maybe you just need to keep yourself busy. When you're busy, you won't be able to think about how depressing your life may be. It works for a lot of people, but it could just make you stressed. So, don't load up your schedual too much.

As for boyfriends... Who cares? Anyone who doesn't like you for you isn't even worth the trouble. Guys, at this age, don't even have minds. They just want a playboy bunny hunny. Who WANTS a boyfriend who only judges by looks?

Not many people can look in the mirror and say "I'm gorgeous," so don't sweat it if you can't either. Just accept yourself and you'll come off to other people much more confident than you really are.So just hang out with your friends and go on many, many girls' days/nights out. You'll soon figure out how much you REALLY mean to your friends.

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me and one of my friend always seem to get into some arguement. And it's about little things and stuff that doesn't really matter. But it really bugs me. She says that i think i know everything and i never said i did. Wut do you think i should do?

Last year, my friends and I were NONSTOP getting in fights. It was really stupid because it was over the stupidest things.

Luckily, my story ended up a happy one. And the reason why is because I would always make us talk about it.

So, you need to talk to you friend when you get in arguments. And when you're having your verbal wars, keep your voice tone down making it seem calm. This will show that you really don't want to make her angry, you just want to tell your opinion.

If she refuses to talk to you, write her a note. Get a piece of lined paper and neatly write out you're feelings. I'm not talking about filling up a line or two with something along the lines as "wats up wit u ur so messed up y wont u ttm" because that is so lame and shows that you don't care enough to be sensitive.

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there's this guy that i liked for a while and i constnatly check if he is online and stuff. And i start driving myself CRAZY over him. What do you think i should do?

WHAO! Are you my evil twin? Anyway, I struggle with the same thing. I was ADDICTED to the computer. It gets really bad.

What I did to help myself was getting really really busy. Like, too busy for the computer. Get involved! Play a sport! Try a dance lesson! Go to the gym! Play an instrument! Get out there! Forget about him! If he really wants you, he'll make an effort to talk to you.

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Ok well i wanna pierce my belly button but my parents won't let me. So, i'm gonna do it myself. What are some good tips for piercing your belly button and wut type of needle do ya need...thnx a bunch

STOP! RIGHT NOW! DON'T DO IT!

Reasons why you shouldn't do it:
1) Your parents said no
2) You're still living with you're parents, so
you're probably young
3) You would risk getting an infection getting
it done by a professional, so think of the
risks you'll be taking if you do it by
YOURSELF!

It isn't worth it! Just wait until you're out of the house. Save yourself the pain. Keep respect for your parents.

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me, you, sally and shelly were on an airplane. but i didn't see sally until the bed and breakfast because she was in 1st class, but you and shelly were sitting next to each other. i was in front of you. and you guys went to the bathroom and shelly had these sheets of paper, like on her adviec thing. people were filling them out and stuff and you were helping her answer them. i wrote one but i forgot what it was. Then i saw sally at the bed and breakfast. I fell asleep when she was talking about glue. and u 3 r the one i usually go 4 advice

i donno if you interpret dreams.. but please try!

I'll do my best...

The fact that you were together on an airplane means that you'd like to hang out with these three friends more often. Because Shelly and I were next to each other, it symbolizes that we might leave you out sometimes. But because you were sitting in front of us and not behind, it means that you are okay with don't feel too harshly about it. Sally was in first class because you feel like sometimes she acts "too cool" and like a "snobby popular kid".

We were writing advice in a public area because you feel like the advicenators web site is helpful for everyone. You wanted to help to feel included with our activities.

Breakfast in bed means you'd like to have a sleepover with Sally, or at least spend more time. You fell asleep because she often talks about thinks you don't enjoy.


That was about the oddest thing I've ever tried to do.

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i like this guy and hes hott and we friends we talk alot and sit by each other he waits for me when i get out of classes but i mean we huged before and held hands but not to be
serious ...but im i don't if he is what should i do ?
should i ask him if he likes me or something i need som ideas or anthing

You like him. He obviously likes you. Ask him online. If he says no.. blame it on sibling asking him on your screen name. Ah.. the wonders of IM.

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There's this guy i like and we r both in 7th greade.is that too young to date and be in love? Anyways i'm not sure if he likes me. We went out a while ago for 1 1/2 yrs. But when i IM him and stuff he said stuff like "hey fatass" and i'm like why did u say that and he said he was just kidding. I'm not sure wut to do. And alot of my friends think he is gross and ugly. but i like him. How can i find out if he likes me (i'm way too shy, and not very good at the direct approach.) I see him everyday and he looks at me and i can't tell if it is a 'like' look or a 'oh ur just standing there' look.
I need HELP!!
Ps.- I love your website, I think it is a WONDERFUL thing you are doing for ppl.

When I was three years old, I was in love with the color yellow, apple juice, and ballet. I don't think being 12/13 is too young if I was in love when I was three. There isn't really a certain age, but there is a certain maturity level. If you still believe in the tooth fairy, then you might not be able to be in love with a boy.

Ok. Let's think. One and one half of a year ago, you were in the middle of fifth grade. Now you are in seventh. Think of all of the changes that you've gone through in one and a half years? I mean, you've probably got smarter, many friends, learned life lessons, got boobs, maybe you're period... SO MANY THINGS! But you still like the same guy?

Let's get our brains working again. This dude BROKE YOUR HEART. You're willing to go through another heartbreak again for a few weeks or months of happiness? I say you move on to a new dude who doesn't insult you and call you a fatass.

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i think i'm so fat. i know wut ur gonna say "your not fat" but idk. i weigh like 125 lbs and im 5'2. i kno that might seem not that heavy to u. But there is just so much it seems like i can't fit into clothes that normal ppl wear. it just gets so intimidating and fustrating. I do all the exercise that i can but it doesn't seem to help. Wut can i do?!?!?!

:(

As humans (especially as females) we are always being compared to others in how we look and dress. And what's in now is to be SKINNY MINNIES! And it's hard. I agree.

First of all, know your facts. If you go to the web site http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/bmicalc.htm. It lets you put in your height and weight, and then tells you your Body Mass Index which is also known as BMI. The scale is listed on the left side of the screen, but if you can't find it, this is it:

Underweight =

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