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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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Months ago I saw previews for New Moon (sequel to Twilight, obviously, and also by Stephenie Meyer). I was SO excited to hear that Bella Swan was still going to be played by Kristen Stewart and Edward Cullen was still going to be played by Robert Pattinson. I love them as a couple!

ANYWAY, I haven't heard anything since and I'm curious if they canceled it or something. Is the movie New Moon still coming out or what? If so, WHEN?!

Are you kidding me? If that movie was canceled, half of America would protest, and the hopes of millions of teenage girls [and mayhaps boys] would be crushed.

I'm not a super fan, nor do I really consider myself a fan anymore, but the movie is definitely coming out this November.

November 20, 2009, in fact.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Okay I met this guy one day his name is lets say BRAD, that my friend who is JOHNNY picked my self and two of my homegirls up from the mall. & since the moment I saw him I thought he was oso cute. We've only hung out a couple times and it was always a group of us it's never been just me and him alone. One day me and a homegirl came back from the beachhhh a little drunk and etc.. and he was there at JOHNNYS house once again... and i dont kno what we talked about that I gave him my number and he NEVER called . w.e tho I payed no mind to it. This friday we were all going out together... and JOHNNY couldn't pick me up so he sent BRAD to pick me up.. and so he had to get my number and call me to tell me he was outside. The whole ride to JOHNNYS house we conversated and we didnt have any awkward moments or nothing.

we all had fun that night nothing serious. and then yesterday we all hung out again and he was there at JOHNNYS house again... but this time he kissed me twice. and Like ohh myyy no my feelings are haywire... cause I like him. But how does he feel, i dont know how to ask .. i dont know if its too sooon to ask? help

How does he feel?

Do you think I read minds? No, I don't.

If you really want to know if he likes you, ASK HIM, because there's no possible way for a random stranger on Advicenators to know if BRAD likes you. Because for all I know, JOHNNY likes you.

By the way, why did you capitalize their names? I don't quite understand.


Thanks for inboxing.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I was thinking about going out with a few of my girl friends this weekend and watch a movie. Somebody suggested us going to see "The Ugly Truth" that stars Katherine Heigl and Gerard Butler. It came out into theatres on July 24th and so I'm pretty sure our place has it. I just wanted to know if it was any good...anybody seen it yet?

Try not to spoil it, please, in case we do see it!

It was slightly inappropriate, which is why it's rated R, but it was definitely good. I was laughing the whole time.

I know you asked this about a week ago, but I thought I would let you know what I thought of it, in case you hadn't seen it yet.

Go see it, basically. ;]

--Jack
(17/m)

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other than limewire, how else can i download music for free?

Frostwire

It's like limewire without the viruses.

--Jack
(17/m)

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15/f
how do i break up with my boyfriend if he never answers his phone OR calls me back? its a long distance relationship and thats our only way of communication. but i really need to break up with him. it IS NOT working out.
(hes my first bf)
UGH WHAT SHOULD I DOOO?
should i just forget about him and stop calling him? because i have guys coming at me left and right. so if something happens between me and a guy would that be considered cheating on him because i never actually said it was over cause he never answered!
help??

Maybe there's something really important going on with him that is preventing him from answering his phone.

Wait until you talk to him to just decide to end it. Make sure you talk to him about how you're feeling and maybe you can work things out.

For now, try to stay loyal to him, because, whether or not he's answering his calls doesn't give you the right to cheat on him.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hi, 17/m. Ive been going out with this girl for about 2 months now. We really liked each other in the begining. She's on holiday, and is coming back next week (she will have been away for a month). I'm not sure if its because i havn't seen her or anything, but im starting to have second thoughts. I know she really likes me, but i dont know if i like her as much as i used to.

Im not sure what the reason for this change in thought is. One of my female friends told me that if i dont like her, i should end the relationship, because its not nice to lead her on, and the longer i stay in the relationship, the harder its going to be to end it. But she also said, that if i was unsure, i should stick with it, because i may regret it if i ended it.

Any help people? im rather confused. Cheers

Don't end it right when she comes back. Go on a date with her or something, and see if you're still feeling how you feel now. If you don't, then things should be fine.

If you do feel the same, talk to her about it. She might feel the same way. If it gets to a point where all you think about when it comes to her is whether or not you should end it, you should end it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hey, I have 2 questions.

ONE : Do guys like when girls swallow their cum ? Is that like a turn on or something ?

TWO : If you do decide to swallow, is there any chance of getting prego, or is it a 0 % chance ?

THANKS :)

Some guys do.

Zero percent chance.

--Jack
(17/m)

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difference between miss, ms, and mz?

No difference between them.

Ms is an abbreviation of miss.

Mz.. well I don't know what that is...

--Jack
(17/m)

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its rather embarassing but the other week my boyfriend and i (who have been together for quite a while) decided to have sex.

only.

he couldnt get it up?

nervous or something else?!

He was probably nervous.

Talk to him about it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hey guys. im 13 and i met this pretty hot girl at my friends party last night, and she gave me her number and she was telling me how like gorgeous and hot i am and i told her back. She is going to a diff high school but she still wants to go out with me. i was wondering if it will work. ok now for the making out.She asked me if i wanted to hang out and i was like yeah where? and she said the kids house that had the party last night. i was like cool. what could be do there though? she replied with " make out :) " so im thinking that shes obviously made out before. i said " yeaahh we should ill ask my parents when i can go ". iv never made out before and i really need some helpp with this. i also have braces if it helps you answer. what should i have ready? gum , mints, liip balm, ?

I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]

But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss.

Just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.

Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.

There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.

From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:

1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.


My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.

www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699


--Jack
(17/m)

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ok i have never given a guy a hand job before. I really want to give my bf one but i have no clue how. I don't even know what will happen. I am kinda nervous and i need advice on what to do and what will happen. Also how long should i do it?

You want to do it, but you don't know how, what will happen, and you're nervous.

This tells me that you are NOT ready to do this. So, here's my advice on what to do:

Don't do it. You obviously aren't mature enough to handle the consequences of "what will happen", so this act is not something you should be partaking in.

But, if you're going to disregard everything I've just told you, well then ask your boyfriend what he wants.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Is it wrong to just ask a guy if he likes you because you are getting mixed signals or should i ask him who he likes and see if he says me

No it's not wrong.


I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!


--Jack
(17/m)

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Well they're not my neighbours, they're my neighbour's neighbour; the house beside our neighbour.

They are SO loud and I'm trying to sleep but I can hear yelling (and they're family is just a normal family and the oldest kids are in high school) and it's driving me nuts! it's summer and I love the earth so I'm using my window but it’s SO loud. And when I shut it I can still hear them, which doesn’t help because it's suffocating in my room if the window isn't open.

They have loud music BLARING, it's almost 12 right now and I should have been asleep a long time ago but I can’t sleep and frankly, I'm getting bags under my eyes. My sister and I just have the urge to scream "SHUT UP!" out the window and duck but we'd be sinking to their level and disrupting the rest of their neighbourhood.

I am seriously thinking of walking to their place in my pajamas right now and yelling at them. What do I do? Oh, and ear plugs DON'T work! Like I get it's summer, but you got to think of everyone else around you when you're living in a NIEGHBOURHOOD.

Don't confront them. Call the cops, but not 911, the number used to report non-emergency type things [which varies for your area], and file a noise complaint.

You shouldn't have to deal with that.

--Jack
(17/m)

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can masterbation get you pregnant

Yeah, so you shouldn't do it.

Ok, kidding. But seriously, you can only get pregnant if sperm enters your vagina.

--Jack
(17/m)

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When someone says they got folded, what does that mean?

folded
1. Completely drunk or high, usually enough to barely walk at all. "Me and Kat got folded last night after the party!"

According to:
http://www.thesource4ym.com/teenlingo/index.asp?Letter=F

--Jack
(17/m)

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do friends suggest to each other that they should fall asleep on the phone together?

My guy friend and I were on the phone last night and he suggested that we fall asleep on the phone together. We are both single and same age.(18)..We been friends for about 16 months>

Why not? If you're just friends, it doesn't mean you have to be anything more just by falling asleep on the phone.

Like Christina said, make sure that you have the same phone company.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Ok 14 and I have 2 girls after me 1 is dull and the other is more of a prep and sporty and great grades I'm dating the dull now wut shud I do

It sounds like you don't enjoy your girlfriend you have right now.

So, don't date her if you don't enjoy her.

But, that doesn't mean go for the other girl right away, because you'll hurt your current girlfriend, when you don't really have to.

--Jack
(17/m)

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so I reeaallyy wanna enter but I doubt my parents will let me! I love that show and it's always been my dream to be an actress but I put it on hold becuz it's pretty much impossible to be successful if u don't have connections! I'm just wondering if I should just enter and not tell my parents! I mean it's very unlikely that I'll win! But if I do what am I suppose2 tell my parents? Should I just enter or what?!?

Tell your parents. Going behind your parents' backs is not the best idea.

Besides, the chances really are slim that you'll win.

Good luck, though.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My friends have to know my email address to add me on myspace, how do i get rid of it so they can add me?
My friends cannot add me because they need to know my email address for myspace. No one knows it, so can anyone help me get rid of that. I dont know how to just let anyone add me without having to know my email address.
HELP!!
thanks :)

Have you tried adding your friends instead of them adding you?

Have they tried using your last name instead of your email?

What if you tried changing your email?

http://profileedit.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=accountSettings.contactInfo

Go there and change your email address to something you'll remember.

Also, on that page, you can add your last name.

--Jack
(17/m)

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http://sororitylifetrain.blogspot.com/
that's my website, not my own domain but it'll due until i have success in this web business.
i've got about 60 hits so far but it's not going to go anywhere unless i can have everything functioning correctly on that website. for example i can't figure out the html to use to make that id form process into that table of icons i have there. those were'nt processed, i added them myself because i thought it might help the hit count until i figure out how to work the id train. this is my first website idea coming even close to success, yet, i can't go anywhere with it because im not competent to figure out how to process an id form for sorority life. what's your honest opinion on the website? can i make the form process on blogspot? if i can, how?
if you can help me, i'll owe you an infinite amount of gratitude (:

The website said that your blog couldn't be found. Sorry. =/

--Jack
(17/m)

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