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Q: my grandmother is dying of cancer which is stressing me and my family along with the absurd family disfuntions that are sort of at a pause since my grandmother was diagnosed. anyway i also am having some problems with some friends and issues with people who i don't consider friends but still see everyday in school. i'm afraid i might burst out in anger soon and i want to prevent that. i'm someone who rarely gets angry, i mean most the people that no me have never seen me get mad but when i do, from experience, i know it can result in horrible consequences...what should i do to ease my mind and prevent anything like that from happening?

I know from experience that the only times I really boil over in anger is when I keep everything bottled up. I understand that you are going through a lot, but if you keep everything to yourself, the hurt and anger will only fester within you, and the outcome can only be negative.

The best thing to do is to focus first on your family; they are the most important thing in your life. People at school come and go, and do not really matter in the long run. As for people you do not care for (at school), be the bigger person and ignore them..they are not worth your time. Also, you might want to have a discussion with friends over whatever's bothering you, so that it doesn't keep bottling up inside you.

You have a lot on your shoulders, which is more of a reason to do something about it right away. You can try talking to a close friend or family member about how you feel. You can even write down all your thoughts in a journal. That always helps me to cool down and feel a lot better. The best way to deal with stress is to channel your energy into something positive...like writing in a journal, for one. You can go for a walk and clear your head. Anything...listen to music, sing, go jogging, paint, write.. anything that makes you feel better about yourself (and thus, stronger) will help you deal with your anger better. We only blow up when we feel helpless, but if you take control over your thoughts and emotions, you will be a lot less likely to snap.

Q: I come from a very religious family and go to a christian school.
We talked about God all the time in classes and mostly good things.
God is all about love, forgiving, a way of life.

The thing is, that we were only being tought just chosen quotes and not the hole thing.

I bumped across this site that has all those particular stuff chosen from The Bible, The Old and New Testament and I found out crazy evil stuff inside there.Horrible stuff. Of course I am not gonna argue with my parents, let them think whatever OR my friends.

This has really been a life changing experience for me, something really mind opening and a new way of life free out of human stupidity.

Stupidity that tells you "Dont be evil cause you ll burn in hell", when it should actually be more like "Dont be evil cause you shouldn t be".
Or sayings against premarital sex or "Smoking sends you to hell" and that drinking is evil.
I get drunk like twice a year, and dont feel the need to drink more and more. And by drunk I mean a little bit tipsy.
Or why is oral sex evil and immoral? What harm does it do?Its been a while since I found joy in both giving and receiving it lol...

In case you were wondering, this is the site
http://www.truechristian.com/confessionboothx.html.

It talks about, slavery, in breeds (Lot) and put things in a way new perspective.

I have validated the facts from the bible.All it takes is make a little extra reading from what they tell you to read in school.And you are free to find out for yourself.

Of course I am not going to turn Muslim, the Allah religion is way more obscene and violent.
But I do believe in soul and one true god.
I also do believe in Jesus as an historical figure and share the same philosophy. All the good things he said.

But priests, school, religious people and books written by people, rules build by people (for instance oral sex.drinking,smoking) are violating Jesus work and the real Gods work.

No I dont expect Jesus to be smoking, but he was a human and a God. And there is no need for some being to expect from us to not be doing those stuff if that greater being gave us the present of life in the first place.

Do you suppose there is another sub christian party that works according to my beliefs? Of course I dont mean a church where people get drunk or something, but a church that celebrates life just as God intented instead of looking forward to death.

I know exactly what you mean. If you are going to be an honest, decent person, then it does not matter what path you choose to get there (as long as there is no harm involved). Every single religion (at least the three major religions of the book) has various groups who have their own interpretation of the same facts. So let's say Jesus tells you to be decent just for the sake of being a good human being. Another group may distort this, saying that you will burn in hell if you do something (fill in the blank) wrong. That is THEIR interpretation, and I do not believe it follows the actual message of the bible, or any other holy book for that matter.

And please let me clear things up for you. Islam is not an inherently violent religion AT ALL. It preaches the same basic values as Judaism and Christianity. Unfortunately, some fanatics have distorted the facts, and let me tell you, their vision IS NOT AT ALL in line with real, muslim values. I will tell you that much. A real vision of Islam, groups that agree with the true, peaceful essence of the religion, are not on Fox news, or CNN, or whatever...the general public does not know anything about the religion, they are fed a bunch of crap. No religion out there, NONE, is inherently violent or obscene. It is not the religion, but the group. And there are Christian fundamentalists in the US too, but that does not at all mean that all Christians are like that.

So anyway...I am sure that there are groups that are flexible, and who tell you to be good for the sake of being a human being, rather than for fear of being punished. You might even want to start a student group about it, where you could have activities and retreats. I am not entirely sure of the groups that may or may not be out there..but anyway, I'd say for starters, practice religion on your own time. You don't have to go to church every Sunday. Do what you think is right.

Q: Erm hey, im 17 and ill be leaving school next year

My question is that, we've been made to make choices at school about what universities we want to go to, but the thing is, im thinking of doing psychology and its a really hard course to get into; at every university im thinking about, plus im not sure to whether i'd be able to go off to university since im not a very independent person.

So... do i have to go to uni or college to get a good well paid job? I'd like to work with children but im pretty open-minded and would really just be happy working somewhere where i would make alot of money and if it was something that i enjoyed doing.

Thanks in advance =)
xx xx xx

If you are looking into Psychology, then yes, you would need at least a Bachelors degree in order to get a career. Pretty much any field that deals with children, including teaching, would require at least an associates degree, in addition to a teaching credential (which is not too difficult to get).
I would advise you to still apply to a number of programs and see what happens. If you live in the US, you can still apply to schools as "undeclared," so you can pick a major after a year or two. Even if you feel you are not very independent at this point, going to college will help make you more independent.
You can take some time off and try to figure out what you want to do. Or, you can even go to a community college for a couple years and transfer into a university. These days, it is best to have a college degree..even though it's not a ticket to a great job, many places only hire if you have a degree. Some people can keep building up without a degree, but it is not worth the risk. Besides, getting a job is not the only reason to get a degree. You will learn so much more about yourself, the world, different subjects, etc., as a result of going to college.
My advice to you is, just keep your options open, and try for anything...you never know. And, you are still really young, so your interests may change. Also, the majority of students who go off to college do not know what they want or how to get there...things tend to fall into place after a while, when you grow and learn new things. So, yes, I would highly recommend that you go to college.

Q: when i was 14 (4 years ago) i was extremely depressed. i took non perscription sleeping pills all day long trying to just stay asleep. its not that i wanted to die.. i jsut didint wanan be alive. it was the closest thing i could get to where i wanted to be. well now i still take them every once in a while because im so busy i dont sleep enough. when i have extra sleeping time i want to use it.. so i take them. i dont know if i was addicted before.. and i dont know if i am now. i dont go threw any withdrawls or anything..i dont think.. im just really afraid i could be or get addicted to them. i guess i take them from 0-5 times a month. do you think i should be worried or quit taking them? could i be addicted?

I agree, it's best to stop taking sleeping pills. A few years back when I was a freshman in college, this girl did a presentation on the harmful effects of sleeping pills...I remember her saying how they can increase your heart rate, which isn't healthy. Having anything unnatural in your body is not a good idea, even if it is over-the-counter. Anyway, there are natural ways to help fall asleep at night:

http://www.webmd.com/solutions/sleeping-pills/sleeptips

Even if you don't have a physical dependency on sleeping pills, you could form a habit, and keep taking them when you really shouldn't. It's best to follow some of the tips in the link, like getting enough exercise and dealing with stress effectively. Also, I find that a hot bath, or a cup of chamomile tea helps me to relax before going to bed.

Q: i swim so i get yeast infections alot...i am going to do this candida cleanings system called candigone and i do it for 15 days...will it make me smell down there...and will my boyfriend be able to smell it???

I am not sure if there's any information about that, but here's a link for Candigone:

http://www.health-n-energy.com/candigone.htm

Also, I haven't gotten a yeast infection in four or five years, but when I did, I took this pill called
"Difflucan," which is available as a prescription. It's only one pill, and stays in your system for a week- it gets rid of the infection during that time. You can try that. Also, I've heard that eating lots of yogurt, and drinking unsweetened cranberry juice, can also help.

Here are a couple links:

http://health.yahoo.com/sexualhealth-overview/vaginal-yeast-infections-topic-overview/healthwise--hw61046.html

http://www.fwhc.org/health/yeast.htm

Since you do swim a lot, the wetness from your bathing suit causes yeast infections. Do not keep your bathing suit on for a long time after you swim...change right after, and make sure to keep yourself clean and dry down there. There are some other causes of yeast infections- you might want to read up on it, and see what treatment works best for you.

Q: So I'm having some period problems...

14/f/been on my period for three years

The last time I got my period was around November 3. I've been spotting for the past two weeks, but it comes and goes and I haven't gotten my period yet. Today I spotted just a little bit, but the blood was like a stark red rather than a darker red which I've never experienced before. I've never really been irregular, which is the only reason I' stressing right now. I've been experiencing some stomach pains and extreme breast soreness. I know that these are symptoms of PMS, but I've never had PMS like this before.

Also, I'm one hundred percent not pregnant.

I know that this is the typical, 'I'm late on my period, oh my god what do I do' type of question, but I really am kind of worried. Any advice or tips or guidance is welcomes.

This is most likely an irregular period, which is normal from time to time- your diet and stress can have a lot to do with it...it's most likely stress, you'd be surprised what it can do. Or it could be hormonal. Most likely you have nothing to worry about, but it might be better to speak to your gynecologist about it..she/he can ask you some health questions, and maybe take a blood test to look at your hormone levels (and other things) to see what could be causing it. But they are probably going to tell you the same thing I am- but to be sure, they might run additional tests and analyze your health history to be completely sure.

Q: So I just got the Clean and Clear Advantage Acne Control Kit and it comes with 3 tubes; the cleanser, mouisturizer, and fast clearing spot treatment. It says the directions for each of them, but it doesn't say if I use all of them at the same time, like one after the other? Please help! Thanks!

I see what you mean... I think that the best thing to do is to cleanse, then moisturize as usual.If you have a toner/astringent (preferably not too harsh), that'll get extra dirt/makeup off right after you cleanse your face. If you are going to use the spot treatment fairly regularly, I think it would be best to use that before you moisturize (with SPF), since some ingredients in the kit can make you sensitive to the sun. I'm thinking that you should stick to whatever combination works best for you...remember:
cleanse, tone (if applicable), spot treatment (when you want), moisturize.
In your case, see what works best- spot treatment before or after moisturizing. It might just be a matter of preference.

Q: My boyfriend has acne, just like me. I'm not sure how to help him though since mine has cleared up more since I'm on BC [only thing that worked besides proactive]. I don't know what type of acne he has anyway. He's rather pale and his face is a bit pink/red :] So his acne is.. just many bumps with no white heads or anything. Sometimes he does get a normal zit with a white head. [Which is all I get, so I'm not sure how to help with the bumpy texture] It's all over on the bottom of his cheeks and chin, so any tips/advice? I think his most concern is his skin color. How do you get rid of the redness?

Any advice/tips? Please don't say proactive [not everyone can afford it]. Preferably something you used & gave great results with bumpy skin.

All I can give him is Clearasil Ultra products. Do you think that would work for the "acne" ? I have the on spot treatment, deep pore cleansing pads and daily face wash?

He's talked to me about his skin like 5 times so far so I guess it's his way of wanting my help. :]

That's a tough one, since everyone's skin reacts differently to skin care products...some people are more sensitive than others. If he has moderate to severe acne, he should see a dermatologist for recommendations, since sometimes it takes more than over-counter products to do the trick. He could start using clearasil pads regularly, and see how that works. But often times harsh ingredients aggravate the skin, leading to more breakouts. I would recommend that for daily use, he washes his face with a gentler cleanser, like Cetaphil (comes in gentle formula, or normal to oily). A lot of dermatologists recommend that, as it doesn't make acne worse. He could also try using accutane or
some cream with glycolic acid (at the derm), which would make him more sun-sensitive, so he'd have to use sunblock. In my experience, I tend to break out more if i overdo it, and use harsher products than what i need. I use a simple/fragrance free facewash (liquid neutrogena). I also use Witch Hazel formula astringent, which is all natural and non-drying. You would not believe how much gunk and dirt that takes off your face, even after washing. I notice that it has improved minor breakouts, without being harsh or irritating my skin. You can get a big bottle for around $4 or $5, at the drugstore (skin care section)_Another thing he could try using, is tea tree oil. Trader Joe's carries tea-tree oil pads (sort of like clearasil pads, but natural). Healthfood stores might also have them. Tea tree oil is a natural antiseptic..but it can be drying, so make sure to dilute it, or rinse your face with water after using it. But anyway, bottom line, I think he should also talk to a dermatologist. And patience is also key...if he sticks to a skincare regime for a while, and tries not to touch his face all the time (bacteria causes acne), it should start to improve.

Q: I am a vegan which means I don't eat dairy (milk, eggs, cheese, ect.) or meat.

What are some things I can eat and make meals of.
I don't like
peppers
celery
onions
tomatos
lettuce

I've been eating lettuce with italian dressing so I will come to like it.

I like mostly all other fruits and veggies though.

I also don't like soy.
Meaning soy milk.

Although I'm not vegan, I love vegetarian/vegan meals- they are very healthy and can be tasty too. Try adding rice, beans, lentils, cous cous etc., to your diet. You can't only eat vegetables, so you can mix veggies with a main staple, like rice, for instance. If you'd like, you can make a simple stirfry with your favorite veggies...anything, really..pea pods, mushrooms, carrots..., and add a bit of sauce (soy sauce, teriyaki..of course, make sure it has not animal by-products), and you can have that with steamed rice. Or, try having cous cous...it's so delicious, and simple to make. You can mix it with just about any seasonings/veggies you like. Try also having vegetable soups. Umm...let's see- really, if you use your imagination, you can think of anything. OH, and you mentioned that you don't like soy milk...you could try Almond milk instead. If you want a quick snack, some veggies with hummus dip, or some other non-dairy dip is great, or even pita chips with hummus..mmm! Now I'm getting hungry, lol. What's great is that vegetarian and vegan meals are becoming more mainstream now, so you can find tons of recipes online. There are even vegan cookbooks out there too. Bon Appetit!

Q: Ok i have gym in next semester and my friend told me that you have this test to see how long can you hang onto a monkey bar.

Well, I shave my armpits but like you can still see the dots and it's the same with waxing too because i have black hair and the area around the armpit is kinda dark too.

And I can't change my outfit because we have uniforms. Any advice would be great, thank you.

I know exactly what you're talking talking about. It's the same with me when I shave my armpits...this usually happens after shaving, and affects those with dark/coarse hair more. I would recommend that you stop shaving your armpits all together, and stick to waxing...in the long run, it'll help lighten the area since the hair will grow back thinner overtime. Otherwise, you could try using a depilatory cream, like Nair, or Veet, but even then, I don't think it's completely effective. The area has darkened overtime, so you probably have to stick to one method (like waxing or using Nair)and after a bit it'll start getting better. But remember that shaving can only make it worse.

Q: i want to get a really nice hair straightener for christmas. something that works really well and lasts reasonably long. I don't want a CHI, or really anything above $80. what do you recommend?

Hot Tools flat irons (metal) are reasonably priced, at around $20. I would recommend getting a ceramic flat iron, since it regulates heat and causes less damage to your hair. I checked google (products link) and found Conair, Ceramic Heat Flat Iron for $25. Target (online) carries a conair flat iron for around $40. I think you can also find the same thing at the Target store, or maybe Walmart or some beauty supply store. Another similar product is a ceramic flat iron from Revlon (around $30).
If you're looking for something a bit more expensive, in the $50-75 price range, Bed Head flat iron ($70) is available at Target, and I've seen some of their hairstyling tools at the drugstore too. Overall, I think Salon Selectives, Bed Head, and Hot Tools have better quality products at a reasonable price.

Q: i wanna go visit my family in california again. my friend and i flew to california by oursleves (with parents permission and all)in august and it was a lot of fun. i want to go again but maybe with my cousin or just me.my mom is really chill and she usually lets me do alot but my mom and a friend are opening up a lazer tag place so shes really busy so she couldnt go.this sounds stupid but how should i get my mom to let me go again?

She should understand, since she already gave you permission to fly out with a friend before (and she wasn't there with you). If you give her your reasoning, she'll be more likely to listen. When she's not too busy, you can let her know that you would really like to go again, and that you are capable to going on a trip by yourself or with your cousin (you already have before, and everything turned out fine). You should also give her details, such as who will pick you up from the airport in CA, exactly where/with whom you will be staying, ticket information, etc. The more details, the better- it will make her feel more reassured (if she has any questions herself, make sure to let her know whatever she wants).
One of two things could happen:
a) she'll let you go again or
b) she won't let you go, maybe since you were there recently, or it may be expensive, or maybe she would rather go along with you.
Anyway, you can try your best, and see what she says.

Q: Ok so i just used my first tampon
and i was wondering:
how do you go to the bathroom with a tampon in?
and ...
what if the string goes in you and the tampon gets stuck?

As the other columnist says, your urine does not come out of the vagina, but through the urethra
(a tiny hole above it, near the clitoris). So going pee will not affect the tampon...but since the string is hanging outside, it's more comfortable to move it to the side, so that it doesn't get all wet.

Q: okay so ive known my boyfriend for about two years now, and ive been going out with him for 6 months. it took us a long hard time to get to this point and i know he loves me with everything hes got. well hes reallllly against drinking, and today he asked me if i did. and i didn't want to lie, even though i could've and he wouldve never found out.. . but i told him the truth, that i do. and he was SO disappointed. like..i dont think he can look at me the same way...he was just so shocked, as if im a totally different person than what he thought i was. so my question is that how do i fix this? i feel so bad, because i knew he was against it....he said hes not mad at me, just dissappointed. any advice? comments? anything..=(?

I completely agree with the previous answer- your boyfriend should understand that you are not going to follow every one of his beliefs. He's against drinking, but you are not. He probably thinks of drinking in terms of binging and being an alcoholic. But having a drink or two every now and then is fine, and it certainly doesn't make you an alcoholic.
Maybe his concern is age-related (as in he thinks you're too young), or he's completely against drinking all together. Or maybe he's disappointed because you didn't tell him earlier. It could be any or all of the above. But you didn't do anything wrong, since you were honest when he asked you. It doesn't matter at all that you were already aware that he's against drinking--it has nothing to do with YOU, it is HIS personal belief, and not yours. He should understand that. And of course he's not mad at you, you didn't do anything to intentionally hurt him. If he's disappointed, it's his issue. Just let him know that you enjoy an occasional drink, and don't feel that there's anything wrong with it. You can tell him that you two can agree to disagree...that usually works in disagreements. You are two different people. You aren't going to agree with everything he says, does or believes.

Q: ok well me and my boyfriend of 3 months had our first kiss today when we were up in my room on my bed and we started making out right after the kiss and we had it goin on for a good hour and a half. and now we both seem to be addicted to it and we wanna see eachother and do it again because it was so special
do you think thats weird?

No, it's not weird at all. When you first kiss someone you really like (or are really attracted to), all you want to do is make out with them- that's how it is with most people.

That's great that you are both so into it, and all that you want to do now is make out. There's nothing wrong with that at all. As long as there's some talking/understanding involved in your relationship, and it's not ONLY about making out, it's perfectly fine. I have dated guys in the past that I haven't exactly cared for, but everything revolved around physical, rather than emotional connection. If you, on the other hand, care about your boyfriend (and not just making out with him) then you'll enjoy making out all the more. Healthy relationships keep a balance between emotional and physical connection. But now, it's the beginning of your relationship...and you're young and in love. Enjoy it, and enjoy making out!

Q: I am a 16 year old girl who has trouble finding and keeping good friends. This has been a problem since mid-elemetary school. I feel lonley and bored a lot and really wish I had some good friends. How can I make more friends and be happier?

I was the same growing up. I generally had a hard time meeting people and making friends, because I was shy. It became worse when I transferred to a new elementary school, and felt that I wasn't accepted nearly as much. I still am pretty shy , but I've learned that the best way to meet and interact with people is to be yourself and try opening up. Never try to change yourself, or do anything you're uncomfortable with, just to fit in. At the same time, when you meet new people, be accepting of them and don't expect them to be a certain way..people are who they are. These are a couple of things I try to remind myself- be yourself around others, try not to be tense...and also, stand your ground-but still be accepting of others. When you open up to others, it's a good first step to meeting new people. And if you are accepting of yourself and others, you can establish strong friendships. But remember, it's the quality of the friendship that counts, not how many "friends" you have...better to be close to a few, than to surround yourself with people you don't care for, and who don't care for you.
My sister, the social butterfly, always tells me to losen up, go to different events (in your case, you can participate in clubs, talk to people in classes/groups activities, volunteer in your community, meet people at work, etc.)- she says that you never know who you can meet. And when you meet new people, try making an effort to make plans and keep in touch. When you do, chances are that whoever you meet will start doing the same.
Oh, I read this on a fortune cookie, believe it or not: The only way to have a good friend is to be one. If you are honest, kind, reliable, and YOURSELF, then it'll shine through, and the decent people you meet may very well reciprocate.

Q: 16/m

My girlfriend always thinks I'm lying to her. For the smallest things. And I don't have a history of lying, so I don't know why she thinks so.

I'll say something like, "Today I went to the store and got skittles..." and she'll be all "stop lying to try to get attention." I don't know why she thinks I lie. I don't make a big deal of it though cause I don't want her to get mad.

Any help here?

I agree that she may have trust issues with guys, probably due to being lied to in the past. She may automatically get the feeling that you are lying as well, since it may have been a pattern in other guys she's been with or been interested in. It may have nothing to do with dating at all- she could have been hurt or lied to by anyone before, be it a friend, family member, etc., so now when you say something, she assumes you aren't being honest. I, of course, have no idea who she is or what she is like. My advice is based on what I can see from what you wrote.

Now, this isn't fair to you, since you know you do not lie around her. You should talk to her about it, and see why she sometimes assumes you are lying to her. At times, she may mean it as a joke...but again, I am not the one to judge. I think that the best way to go about it, is to calmly explain to her how you feel, and give her a chance to explain. If she accuses you of lying again, then ask her why she thinks so, or why she said such a thing. Be open with her, and see how she reacts. If she continuously does this, and it doesn't get any better (or gets worse), then you should really talk to her...a healthy relationship is based on trust, and if she can't ever trust you, then that isn't a good sign. For now, relax...explain yourself and give her a chance to do the same.

Q: If your on your period.. and the boy stays inside of you and doesnt pull out can you be pregnant?

we did that about five times on my period.

Yes, there is a chance of pregnancy. It doesn't matter whether or not you're on your period, the chance is still there. I would go to a women's clinic or a Planned Parenthood in your area, and get a free pregnancy test. You can also go see your doctor or gyno, who will most likely take a sample of your urine. You can get accurate results 10 days or so after you last had sex. Don't take the chance, better safe than sorry.

Q: Yeah, sorry for the lame title.

I am laughing at this cause I think It's funny but painful at the same time.

My ass is REALLY sore.

It's like it has been cut or something. By my ass I mean the.. ring.. If you know what i mean. I'm pretty sure It Is that anyway.

Yeah so It's really sore. I've never, in my entire life, had this problem.

About washing it; I don't really wash my ring. I don't know about everyone else though.

I only take showers, maybe It's time for a bath. I dunno.

Oh I'm a 16 year old male.

It's embarresing. So I came here.

Shall I put some lube on It or something?

Thanks

You probably have an anal fissure (small cut), that is usually caused by constipation (of any degree, mild to painful). I'm sure that this has already healed, but anyway, if in the future you experience something similar that doesn't go away quickly (within 2-3 days), then talk to a doctor about it. And wash yourself in that area not just everytime you take a shower, but every time you go #2, with wet toilet paper. Seriously, I don't see why people use toilet paper alone, but I guess it's a matter of preference. At the least, wash yourself with a mild soap when you take a shower....and make sure to rinse thoroughly, as any soap left over can cause irritation. And don't be embarrassed about asking such things- just do something about it.

Q: I just got a persian cat(cleopatra is her name:) )

She's preganat and due in 3 weeks time.I just want to know

How do i prepare a place for her to deliver the kittens? how do i let her know the place?

I noticed she's really playful. what kind of games could i play with her?

How do i train her to get close to me?

Here's an excellent website to answer your first question regarding preparing for delivery:

http://www.petplace.com/cats/preparing-a-queening-box-for-your-cat/page1.aspx

..and as for playing with your cat, yarn works wonders (or dangling some sort of toy in front of her...she will start playing around with it). My old roommate used to have a cat too, and she had a wand that she'd wave around, and sometimes some string would do the trick.
Here's a link for ideas on playing with your cat:

http://cats.about.com/cs/catmanagement101/a/play_with_cat.htm

Also, cats often choose a person in the house to become attached to. My sister and I used to have a cat, and she loved my sister so much..she'd follow her around and sleep in her room at night. To get her to bond with you, you can try playing with her, offering her food/treats, etc.. I think all cats have their own personality..so she may respond in a certain way to you. If you are the primary caregiver, she'll become most attached to you, since you play with her and feed her. She'll start to bond with you once she feels completely comfortable.

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I am here to give honest advice, when I feel I have something to contribute. I try to be as empathetic and understanding as I can, as I know that the way something is said is as important as the message itself.

I usually advise on love/relationships, friendship and family issues, nutrition, and health (mental and physical). If I feel I can help out, there's not a whole lot I am unwilling to answer. Ask away!