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my stress is overcoming me
my grandmother is dying of cancer which is stressing me and my family along with the absurd family disfuntions that are sort of at a pause since my grandmother was diagnosed. anyway i also am having some problems with some friends and issues with people who i don't consider friends but still see everyday in school. i'm afraid i might burst out in anger soon and i want to prevent that. i'm someone who rarely gets angry, i mean most the people that no me have never seen me get mad but when i do, from experience, i know it can result in horrible consequences...what should i do to ease my mind and prevent anything like that from happening?
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I know from experience that the only times I really boil over in anger is when I keep everything bottled up. I understand that you are going through a lot, but if you keep everything to yourself, the hurt and anger will only fester within you, and the outcome can only be negative.
The best thing to do is to focus first on your family; they are the most important thing in your life. People at school come and go, and do not really matter in the long run. As for people you do not care for (at school), be the bigger person and ignore them..they are not worth your time. Also, you might want to have a discussion with friends over whatever's bothering you, so that it doesn't keep bottling up inside you.
You have a lot on your shoulders, which is more of a reason to do something about it right away. You can try talking to a close friend or family member about how you feel. You can even write down all your thoughts in a journal. That always helps me to cool down and feel a lot better. The best way to deal with stress is to channel your energy into something positive...like writing in a journal, for one. You can go for a walk and clear your head. Anything...listen to music, sing, go jogging, paint, write.. anything that makes you feel better about yourself (and thus, stronger) will help you deal with your anger better. We only blow up when we feel helpless, but if you take control over your thoughts and emotions, you will be a lot less likely to snap.
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seriously, it sounds like i wrote most of this.
what i do is just take time to process everything and think about it. and how i feel. once i think about it, i really dont care about the people that dont matter. what i worry most about is my grandmother and my friends. if you're mad, work outt. it gets the anger out and you're doing something healthy for yourself.
hope i helped !
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