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What makes her think...
16/m
My girlfriend always thinks I'm lying to her. For the smallest things. And I don't have a history of lying, so I don't know why she thinks so.
I'll say something like, "Today I went to the store and got skittles..." and she'll be all "stop lying to try to get attention." I don't know why she thinks I lie. I don't make a big deal of it though cause I don't want her to get mad.
Any help here?
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I agree that she may have trust issues with guys, probably due to being lied to in the past. She may automatically get the feeling that you are lying as well, since it may have been a pattern in other guys she's been with or been interested in. It may have nothing to do with dating at all- she could have been hurt or lied to by anyone before, be it a friend, family member, etc., so now when you say something, she assumes you aren't being honest. I, of course, have no idea who she is or what she is like. My advice is based on what I can see from what you wrote.
Now, this isn't fair to you, since you know you do not lie around her. You should talk to her about it, and see why she sometimes assumes you are lying to her. At times, she may mean it as a joke...but again, I am not the one to judge. I think that the best way to go about it, is to calmly explain to her how you feel, and give her a chance to explain. If she accuses you of lying again, then ask her why she thinks so, or why she said such a thing. Be open with her, and see how she reacts. If she continuously does this, and it doesn't get any better (or gets worse), then you should really talk to her...a healthy relationship is based on trust, and if she can't ever trust you, then that isn't a good sign. For now, relax...explain yourself and give her a chance to do the same.
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Well she could have dated many guys in the past that have either cheated,and or lied to her. What I think you should do is sit down with her and ask her if there was past realationships that have lied to her and has made her worried that every guy lies, and or cheats on her. It seems like she has alittle trust issue's and you know she need's a gentleman that will hold her with trusting arms and to let her know that she can trust you with her heart and words and love, you know just show her, do something amazing for her that she could never believe.
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There are a few possibilities for this:
a) She's just awfully paranoid
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b) She's had a bad experience. This may be the case. When a girl gets hurt really bad, such as a guy lying to her and cheating on her, it really leaves an impact. Ask her why she's always thinking you're lying to her. If she gets defensive, chances are this is the case. Talk about it with her. Try to get her to open up to you.
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I agree with the person below me, she seems like she doesn't trust you. I think the best thing to do, is ask her. Next time she says something like that, say, "But why do you think I'm lying?"
Make sure to say it calmly, so you don't get her upset.
If this girl is like me, it's going to take her time to trust you. I don't know how long you've been together, but if it's only been a short period of time, then it's going to take her time to trust you.
But in the meantime, I'd comfront her about it. Lying to a girlfriend/boyfriend is serious and if she thinks you're doing it, something must be wrong =/
The only other thing I could think of, is if she's kidding around. I know I sometimes say things like that to my friends just to mess with them. Maybe this is the case?
-Laura. (15-f)
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Heres the deal straight up she doesn't trust you. For little things like that she makes a big deal how bout some reason your like me and my partner [whitch is a girl] are going to the library. Then she'll be like you cheating on me blah blah and you guys break up! DON'T THINK YOU WANT THAT TO HAPPEN! Soo .. talk to her tell her that this is bothering you tell her tht you should trust your own boyfriend. Tell her if anything if you think that i lie so much tagg along with me and see. Communication is key =)
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hmm.. what you need is proof. Proof is normally the answer to lying. If she think you're lying, you ask her 'do you want proof?' and if she says yes, then so 'ok from now on, i'll always have proof of things'
some proof ideas would be- having a friend near you, then your proof would be the witness, or take a picture of yourself while doing whatever it is that you're doing, or maybe if you're shopping for something, show her the receipt. Or if you bought candy (like the skittles story) show her the wrapper, or if its an item... show the item to her
I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150
PS: if she still doesn't trust you, then go up to her and ask her why she always thinks your lying. As her if sometime during the past, if you've ever lied. Tell her that you would never lie, especially to get attention. while you're talking to her, look deep into her eyes and don't smile. be as serious as you can be. She needs to know that you're not pretending and that you're 100 percent serious.
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