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my boyfriend ryan is in college! if that helps, weve been going out for a year.
already for our 1 year i made a photo album/scrapbook with all these pictures of us, and i wrote him a letter. he seems to love the things i make him.
i'm 16 and i dont have alot of money because i dont work so unfortunately my parents give me money, except i have been saving up alll my coins and spare dollars.
i already was thinking about getting him the ipod classic but he is happy with his ipod touch, he doesnt really like the classic ive asked him a couple times.
he has a huge interest in cars, he has an 09 subaru wrx, if that helps, he like does stuff to it to make it faster, louder, look cooler, but i cant afford to do any of that! =[
he loves to sleep, so i was thinking of maybe getting him a memory foam pillow or something? but its his 19th bday, so idk if thats more of a christmas present or a birthday present.
he spoils me alot, i ask him not too but he insists on buying me nice things, considering he has a job and his parents and grandparents send him money every month.. i beg him not to but he does it anyways.
his birthday is nov 4th so im not sure if im going to see him since im only a junior in HS and hes a freshman in college 7 hours away haa. so i think baking something is out of the question even though he loves when i bake him food :). so ill do that whenver i see him for sure. some cookies and brownies, he loves that!
i really want to get him something! ive been thinking about it for months.....but i think making another picture album or making another poster card is out of option this year :( i did that for his bday last year along with 60 dollars.
ugh its so hard! pleasepelase help.
Actually, I think it would be a really great idea to bake cookies and send them in a box to him, kind of like those care packages. It would be a pretty cool surprise. You can even send a poster or a picture frame.
I think you can also make an online photo album. Like put all your nice photos together on a slideshow and burn it on a CD. This won't really cost you anything except for the disk. You can also put in his favorite songs on the slideshow. I think that would be really sweet.
If you send the two together i think it would be an amasing gift. Very thoughtful and nice.
im 16 male
i just finished writing my first novel, well its on microsoft word. its about 300 pages.
what do i do next to get it in the stores? and sell? details please. i need to know!
I went on google and typed in "how to publish a novel." Here are some helpful sites i found.
http://www.mahalo.com/how-to-publish-a-novel
http://www.write101.com/publish.htm
There are many books out there that explain teh process. Barnes and nobel, borders and other book stores have sections of books for this. Just ask. They are pretty good resources.
This is also a book that you might find helpful. http://www.amazon.com/Publish-Novel-Square-Writers-Guides/dp/0757000495
Researching is key. It will take time so be patient. I wish you the best of luck with your novel. Can't wait to see ti in stores :D
17/f
I am in Brisbane, Australia and i recently moved here. I have never gone trick or treating or anything like this before as i am from South Africa and it is a little risky doing such..
I would like to dress up as a Mummy for halloween this year, i would like to go for the cheapest option. not something too pricey; i dont want to hire a costume. i want to make my own. i was thinking of using bandages, but im not too sure.. i have never done this before and so i dont know if it will out nicely or not.. it has too look a lil brownish and dirty as Mummies are ancient! and... should i wear any sort of footwear? it may look a bit odd. so maybe not..
but any ideas/advice or experiences you would like to share with me would be greatly appreciated!
thank you!
I found some links to help you out. Check them out.
http://www.instructables.com/id/How-to-Make-a-Mummy-Costume/
http://www.ehow.com/how_4564790_inexpensive-diy-mummy-costume.html
Have fun!
Last night i was at my step-sis's 16th b'day party.
her friend aisha asked a girl named holly if she'd kiss me and she agreed...
the kiss was good, open mouthed but no tongue, sorry if its gross...
anyway, ever scince then, i cant stop thinking about her, shes on my mind 24/7 and i dont know what to do, cause i really like her now, ive tried to add her on facebook, she hasn't accepted yet but we go to the same school, please help me i dont know what to do...
Just get to know her. You can't say you like or love her yet if you don't really know her too much. Be patient and take it slow. If you jump to conclusions you might weird her out a bit.
Best of luck!
hey, i know christmas is a little far away but not very. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. Im 18 and hes 21. We both believe that we're meant for each other and we want to get married one day! He asked me what i wanted for christmas and as much as i do want an engagement ring, a promise ring will do. Please dont give me a lecture of its too soon or we're too young. But anyways he asked what i want, i dont want to come out and tell him i want a promise ring because i want it to be something he wants to give me and something he comes up with. Ive tried dropping hints and hes like you want a promise ring fine im gonna get you one. But then i tell him never mind because i want it to be his idea. I guess i just need advice on how to tell him without telling him.
-Thanks
Just tell him that a promise ring would be nice. You are going to confuse him if you say no after you hinted it. Besides you do want it and he was going to give it. If he was goign to get it that means that it was his choice. He could have refused but he didn't. So just tell him you want one :D
Best of luck!
14/ F I am have a rib/tummy/back pain that is getting worse each day. I have told my mom about it, but she wont take me to the doctor. It gets so bad that i fill fall down, throw up, are even pass out. I have no idea what this could be. And i feel i need to see a doctor and soon. :/
I would suggest just giving a call to your doctor or your doctor's office. I do this sometimes when I'm not sure if i should come in for an appointment. Explain your symptoms and ask if it seems like it is serious. This way you will get an exact response and won't have to worry. Also ask if there is anything you can do to lessen the pain or any changes in your lifestyle to make it better.
Best of luck!
ok this question is for my best gal friend :](jen for this website)
jen broke up with her boyfriend about 1 month ago and she feels she is ready to move on. i support her in finding a new guy. how should she go along with showing interest in a new guy? jen is interested is one guy in school but she isn't sure if he is single or not...should she ask? or just let things go....?
I would suggest just hanging out or getting to know him. This way asking will be less awkward.
i have been dating my beu for a year and a month and was wondering what i can do to surprise him and rekindle our romance a little?
like sexy ideas for us
and nice gifts or something?
or a good movie we can watch that will make us look at eachother and realise how in love we are? like the notebook but weve seen that a lot so any others? lol
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlerb.aspx?cp-documentid=22024560
Trying new things is always fun and best when done together. It's exciting and interessting and you will have fun even if things go wrong. Go to a new restaurant together, try a new skill (like ice skating if you havn't done it or galss blowing), make a new recipe.
Best of luck!
My grades in school are not well. i am trying to get better and pass but for some reason my grades suck. my parents just took away my xbox for 3 weeks and within those 3 weeks i have to get a "b" average in school. i got some hard classes and they really stress me out so thats a problem. i just don't want to work on school stuff forever and just think about school. i just need advice on what to do to get better grades and succeed. I also need relationship help. I am trying to find a nice lady to hang with but i just don't know who to choose and at least talk to them right. so, yeah those things are what i need advice on.... My age: 16 Gender: Male
Sometimes it's hard to do everything yourself.
So I would suggest talkgin to your teachers about it too. That migth seem strange, but they are there for that reason. Ask them what you can do to raise your grades and what you should spend more time on, if there are study sessions you can go to, or for some onlien resources. Your teachers will help you if they know you need it. And if you show an interest in doing better, they will help you get there. Some teachers will even be generous enough to give some extra credit.
It will take some hard work. Lately I have been working on my school work too and it is a handful. Just remember to take breaks when youa re studying otherwise you will get broed (10 min per hour shoudl be fine). Also try finding ways to motivate yourself. Like "i won't get to hang out with my friends until i finished my math." It might convince you to work harder.
As for your lady friend, don't worry. Just make new friends and you will find someone sure enough. It's liek trying to find the remote.
When you stop looking you see it. Just be nice, but not cheesy and clingy. Ask them questions about themselves and be patient. You won't learn everything about the girl on the frist day. Take it slow.
Best of luck!
UK f 16
ok so this is for an assignment
i need you to explain the tactics... (by explain just point out when and where it is used and why its is used)
sorry if tactics isnt the right words for you guys that play it but this is what my teacher has told us =)
- timeout
- formation (W formation please - but others is great =D )
- get ball to front centre
-any other if you know any would be helpfull!
it probally sounds liek your doing your homeowrk for me... its really not. i gotta write a long essay =( i jus need the basics =)
tanks in advance!
Volleyball time-outs:
60-second duration
two technical time-outs in each of sets 1, 2, 3 and 4 (none in the fifth tie-breaking set)
taken when the leading team reaches the 8th and 16th points
from this website: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Technical_time-out_(volleyball)
Volleyball formations:
The W and other formations found on this website: http://www.strength-and-power-for-volleyball.com/volleyball-formations.html
I'm not sure what you are asking about the "get ball to to front center," so I couln't really search for it, sorry.
This website also has a lot about volleyball rules and such: http://www.dgp.utoronto.ca/people/jflaszlo/interests/volleyball.html
Anyways, I hope that helped. Google is a powerful tool :)
My mother never really had friends when I was a kid. She just focused on guys and ended up being married 4 times. Now than I'm an adult and married I feel like I'm headed the same way because it seems like I cannot create any sort of friendship with anyone other than my husband.
I feel like I'm behind. Most of the people I know can easily mingle with each other, or have life-long friendships they are involved in. I don't even know how to go about turning an acquaintance into a friend, or what normal friend behavior is considered to be. Can someone give me some advice? I really want to make friends...and have lasting friendships, too!
Once you have doen the things that "Orphans" said I think it would be a smart idea to try to keep up with the acquantices you enjoyed. Keeping in touch is the best way to keep a friendship.
You have to remember that if you act like a great friend, then they will want to be a great friend in return. So that would include calling them up and asking them how things are going, inviting them to other events or even to your home, and helping them when they need it.
Of course notice how they act towards your attension. If they return favors, ask for advice, invite you to other things, then you are on your way to becoming good friends. It's just that everyone you meet won't become your best friends, so if you feel like you and someone won't get any closer then you don't need to put in as much effort.
This will take some times I have had some friends that i knew for 3 years and then i finally became close to them and now i can't imagine why it took us so long to click. So be patient.
And don't forget to smile and be open minded.
Best of luck!
Okay so i am a freshman in college and clearly am on a tight budget. Since it's like a weekend celebration here at college, i want more than one costume but can't afford the 80$ costumes they have out there. Some friends are being hooters girls and I want to do something along those lines. Some ideas was a mafia girl, or a sailor? but i want some more ideas just so i can figure it out but it needs to be cute/sexy! any ideas are greatly appreciated! thanksss!
Here is a link for how to make some homemade costumes. This way you can get some ideas on finding an inexpensive alternative to those $80 costumes.
http://diyfashion.about.com/od/costumes/ig/Sexy-Costumes-for-Women/
http://www.ehow.com/halloween/costumelist.html
I'm 19 and female, by the way.
I simply don't care about going to college or having a good job (now or in the future). I'm sure I can make due plenty well enough with any job. I don't have a "dream job" or any sort of future goal on what I'd like to do with my life.
I keep blowing my money on make-up and new clothes. I don't ever really see anything that I absolutely need and I realize that. I just keep doing the same thing over and over. I mean, I get by and that's just fine with me.
I don't care if I live with my parents or not. They've suggested getting me an apartment so I could start my life apart from them and I don't really care either way. I'm just sort-of waiting on them to make the decision.
I don't really care if I end up having kids in the future. I like to take around but marriage seems awfully serious right now. I'm sure I could deal with either of those situations so it isn't a worry of mine, really.
What is wrong with me? Everybody else seems to not be like this...my friends think I'm strange. Am I? Why don't I have goals?
Sometimes people feel like they don't have ambition because they havn't found what they love to do. Isn't that where dreams and goals come form? From a desire to do something or get it done?
I just think you havn't found what you like or dislike to do.
I would suggest possibly taking some classes at a community college or where ever you can and learn something new. It might spark some interests.
Also, thinik about your job. In the future when ou are living on your own, you will have to pay for a whole lot more than make-up. things like toliet paper and food add up. So maybe you can try to either work your way up the ladder and work hard or find a job that has benefits.
Another thing that might help is talking to your parents about what steps they took when they got out of high school. They might have been like you.
There is still time to figure things out, but it might help if you went to college and such. There are many, many things people learn about themselces when they are on their own and at college.
Best of luck!
Don't have your parents make a decision for you, make your own. It coudl be hard, but take the first step and the rest of teh walk will be eaiser.
I am a sophomore in college, and I go to a smaller school. I am going to become an Avon representative and I was just wondering if anyone could give me some tips to become successful.
Lol, ok so me and my mom are Avon representatives.
You have to be willing to give time and put in the effort.
Create an email. The reason I say this is because Avon sends A LOT of emails and it can seem annoying mixing in with your other mail. I used gmail and it was easy.
Don't forget to do the eReprisentative thing. It free for the first couple of campaignes.
Order brochores, but don't order too many. I would start with 10-20. They might not seem enough, but they are. Plus Avon usually sends lots of flyers with the the deals of that campaigne for free, so you can also pass those out. I printed out a little tags that contained my name, phone number, email, and website. I did this by making tables on Word and printing it. I then cut it and taped it to teh back ot the flyers and brochores so that people can find your contact onfo easily.
I would start by passing them out to people you know.Make sure you have their contact onfo and don't forget to tell them when the have to order by! Call a day before the orders are due to ask them if they want to order.
When that's done, leave them at high traffic areas at teh college. These incluse dorms, sitting areas, and other places. Don't forget to ask if it's ok to leave them there in teh first place.
Take the training courses they provide online. You don't need to take them all, but it's a good start. You will learn more by doing and through experience.
I hope this is the kind of tips you are asking for. If you want specific adive or need more tips don't hesistate to ask because I might be able to help.
Best of luck!
Sasha Katherine-Rose & Elena Ricci-Regine.
I think they both have a special ring to it. ^_^ Both middle names for the girls are named after parents.
Opinions?
I like Sasha Katherine-Rose. But, that's because I think Rose in a name is beautiful...
UGH! Ok, so one of my best friends and I just got into a HUGE fight. Like, I have never ever ever told her to fuck off and leave me alone. Basically, she was with this guy last christmas for like a month. She broke it off with him because she thought it was really awkward and wasn't working out. Then for about 5 months, she realized she "still loved him" and was like a pathetic little puppy following him around and always begging him to take her back. During these 5 months, he dragged her through hell and back, dating other girls while claiming he liked her, claiming he liked her but "wasn't sure if he wanted to date her". He was like waving hope in front of her face and everytime she was almost happy, he'd snatch it away. It was terrible because I had to hear about it basically every freakin day :/ So, now they're back together even after all the crap he's put her through, and they're just SO strange. She claims that they're "in love" and they're planning all this stuff about their "future together" and stuff :/ keep in mind, we're only sophmores in highschool... I know some highschool couples make it, but they are both just SO incredibly immature. Well, recently, another of our guy friends started to like her. She keeps telling me this over and over and I said "well that's ok, as long as you don't like him back because you're "in love"". She just gave me this blank stare and said "well I kinda like him...only a little..." I was like what?! You can't just be flirting with other guys when you claim to be "so in love" with your boyfriend...So yeah, fast forward to the fight :/ We were texting about how she got really mad at him because she said "bye" just joking around, and he said "bye" seriously and didn't stop her from leaving (yeah, I know :/ really stupid) so, trying to be a caring friend, I brought up a question... all I said is "Hey, are you absolutely sure you love this guy?" and she was like "Yes. Don't ever question that again" so I tried to justify why I asked that and she goes off about how "everyone is always judging her" and how "a real friend wouldn't have asked that" and stuff like that :/ So I kindof got really mad because, in my opinion, she is just really really really far into denial. I mean, I know I cant really feel what she's feeling, but I am not completely clueless. I've been through a lot of my own personal problems, and I have this deep gut-wrenching feeling that she is going to get REALLY hurt. Anyways, I told her I thought she's in denial about something and she's just being stubborn because she NEVER listens to ANY of my advice, even though I am almost always right about it! And then she said "Well maybe I'll just break up with him because you want me too. Will that make you happy?" and I'm just like "I NEVER said you should dump him! I didn't even say anything remotely close to that! Why are you trying to blame it on me?!" then she starts bringing up all this really really emotionally painful stuff that is very hard for me to talk about and is actually none of her business because she won't ever understand the stuff I went through. At that point, I just told her to "Back the F*** off and leave me the hell alone because you are in absolutely NO position to bring up that particular memory." So yeah, I got her to stop talking to me. I seriously am shaking because I am so angry. If she were here, I probably would have punched her in the face a LONG time ago. I really regret even bringing it up, but I honestly didn't know she would freak out that much about it. I just don't know what to do. Any advice is helpfull. I'm going to guess that some of you will say it's partly my fault, so just give me your honest opinion and help me get through this :( thanks...
I am not going to blame you for the fight you had with your friend. Actually, I'm going to mostly take you side.
I think that you didn't do anything wrong, but try to help you friend. When your friend said "a real friend wouldn't have asked that" I think she was wrong. A real friend would have asked that and a true friend would have answered honestly. I think she is just as confused as you think she is. I think she is trying to sort out her feelings and thinks that people are judging her, when they really aren't.
I think that after you calm down, call her. Ask her to just listen to you before she starts talking. Talk to her about how you aren't judging her, about how you never judge her. Tell her that as a friend you want what's best for her and want her to be happy. Tell her that she should make her decisions on what she wants to do next. That you don't care if she breaks up with the guy or not. Also apologize for telling her to back off and leave her alone. Then listen to what she has to say.
I know you might object to her being with the guy because you don't want her to get hurt,but sometimes people need to get hurt. I guess it's how you learn lessons, through disappointment. Just try to make up and don't give her advice when she doens't want it. I know you want to help, but let her figure soemthings out on her own.
Best of luck with this :)
is there any legit lip plumping products out there? i have a lip gloss from nyc, but it doesnt seem to do ANYTHING at all. i know that nothing will completlely make your lips look fuller, but is there any lipglosses or anything that will help?
Try this product: Plump Pout Lip Gloss from Avon
This "Lip-maximizing formula makes lips look fuller, smoother, sexier...and enhances natural lip color and shape."
And the bonus? It's on a sale for $3.99!
Here is the website where you can read about it:
http://www.avon.com/1/1/4974-plump-pout-lip-gloss.html
There is also: ANEW CLINICAL Plump & Smooth Lip System from Avon
This one is more professional. It's the alternative to those lip injections. This one it $25.
Here is the website where you can read about it:
http://www.avon.com/1/1/98-anew-clinical-plump-smooth-lip-system.html
If you are interested in ordering, order online or find an eRepresentative near you to take advantage of the free shipping.
Hope that helps and best of luck! :)
I have a friend who I'm not sure if I should keep in my life. We've had great times and she can be really sweet and funny sometimes, and other times I feel like it's a bad relationship.
She lies, a lot. I've learned that it's easier to just roll my eyes and not confront her about it, because getting in a fight with her isn't worth it. She says a lot of things that I (and other people) think are complete bullshit. It just gets to be too much. It's not like I lie or exagerate or go on and on about how I have this great life that she has to live up to, so I don't get it.
Lately I feel like she ditches me for better plans and when I confront her about it she tries to turn it around and starts yelling at me. It's like she doesn't have my back at all. She wants to hang out when she needs a ride somewhere, or something like that. She'll call me one of her "best friends" but doesn't treat me like it at all.
Part of me wants to cut her off, but I'll miss what we have and it would be awkward because we have a class together soon and were involved in some of the same things and have some of the same friends. I don't know what to do without causing an argument or mess. I'm just tired of self-centered people right now.
Thanks
I know people like that. The people who sometimes seem to just take and never give. The ones who will ask you for help or for favors, but then not try to help when it's the other way around.
Here is what I do. I be "just friends" with them. I only hang out with them sometimes and I honestly don't ever ask them for help. I know they won't help me, so there is no point. I help them, listen to them, but not expect a lot form them. I hang out with my closer friends and ask them for help when I need. it.
I think you should try that. Just hang out with her sometimes. Don't really expect too much from her in terms of help. I know that might seem mean, but this way you won't set yourself up for disappointment. When she calls you her "best friend" don't take it to heart. A best friend
means different things to different people. Hang out with your other friends. Tell them your problems.
Try that out and I think it will make your life a whole lot easier.
Best of luck :)
My boyfriend's birthday is coming up and I have no idea what I want to get him. I have some ideas like making him something, but I want to buy it and be as special as our relationship. He is going to turn 16 and I am confused. Please help if you can!
If you are a guy, explain to me ur reasoning. I need to know more about guys' minds in general.
THANKS IN ADVANCE!!!!
The best presents to give are sometimes the ones only you two will understand. What I mean is, try to remember some of the inside jokes the two of you have had and buy a gift that incorrperates that. It will make him smile and be all that more special.
You can also try to take him to the mall for a day and see what he likes. If he does point something out, then you will know what to get him. Just don't tell him ahead of time.
Happy birthday to him :)
Okay, deep breaths as I type this out.
It's very long, but I felt I needed to give all the facts.
16/f
I'd been best friends with this guy since we were seven. We were crazy close. We'd talk about anything and everything, always be around each other, it got to the point where when I went someplace without him, I felt like I was forgetting something. And people would always ask whenever I got somewhere "Hey, where's John?"
Well, you know how things go. We were so connected to each other on a level much deeper than anything you hear teens talking about, that pretty soon we fell in love and crossed that line. And then we REALLY were inseparable. It was so easy, everything was easy. And I loved him. God I loved him so much.
Last year though, everything changed. One of my friends got into a little bit of trouble, and ended up pulling me down with her, not intentionally. She got wasted at a party and didn't want to call her parents, and so she called me. I went to pick her up even though I was only on my permit which was stupid of me, and we got pulled over by the police because I was driving a little fast. He saw my friend, and he also saw an open bottle of beer in her hand. The final blow was when he went to check my license.
I live in a small town: word gets around. And the rumors twist out of control. John's father heard about this mess, but he heard it as: I had been drinking and driving, and I was totally wasted that night, going for a reckless joyride around town. Which was not the case.
I told John the truth and I told his dad the truth, but his dad wouldn't listen to me. His dad has never really liked me for some reason. I was thinking it was because I always had pulled away his son from him, you know, because John spent so much time with me. =\
His dad is a very religious person, very moral and stuff. He doesn't drink or smoke and since his wife died I don't even think he's had sex. And he doesn't ever want John to drink or smoke or any of that stuff either. So upon hearing about that misunderstanding of mine, he forbade John to see me anymore.
You can imagine how devastated I was. I'm barred from seeing John, the guy I'm in love with, my soulmate. I was in such misery, and when I'd be in misery, I'd talk to John. But he wasn't allowed.
But the real hurt came about a week after his father laid down the law, saying I was a bad influence. I caught John at the grocery store downtown and I walked up to him to give him a hug and just have a moment with him, because there were no parents around. But he just looked at me, blankly and turned and walked away before I could reach him. There was no hurt in his eyes or anything. Just a blank stare, nothing like the way he used to look at me.
Another two weeks passed and he had been on a few dates with this girl from our church, well his church now. I don't go to church anymore.
It's been about a year since I've spoken to him, and the only time I ever see him is glimpses of him around town. And we've drifted so far away that sometimes I can't even remember what it was that made us so close.
Okay, deep breaths.
Saturday when I got home from school I had a message waiting for me. It was a friend of mine telling me know that John had been involved in a really bad car accident. He'd damaged his spinal chord and he probably won't be able to walk anymore.
You know that feeling when the world comes to a stop? Here's this boy, my first love who at one point in my life I couldn't breathe without, and now all of a sudden he's hurt, really hurt. And I just can't wrap my mind around it.
It's been so long since we talked. And I'd finally moved on from him, stopped hating him, but never started loving him again. He hadn't even crossed my mind in a month or so. And the whole 10 months I spent trying to get over him, I was thinking about how much I hated him for killing me inside. How much I wanted him to hurt. How much I just wanted to get even with the way he broke me. Did I do this to him? My first thought.
I haven't been able to concentrate all week. I'm sick with grief and fear about what might happen to him. What did happen to him. I can't wrap my mind around it and I'm feeling so confused.
My mind keeps telling me that this is a person who hurt you and the warning flag goes up and says, "You shouldn't hurt this much. Yes, it's bad that he got hurt, but you don't even know him anymore. So just relax, pray and push through."
Then the other side of it, my heart is telling me that old feelings never go away and it's okay to suddenly know that the connection is still there. There's so much running through my mind right now that I can't sort through. It's too heavy. All of it is just way too heavy.
I'm in shock, and I'm being selfish I know I am because here's John, hurt in a hospital bed, and I'll I can think of his my pain and grief.
My friend is taking me to visit him on Sunday. We haven't seen each other in so long, and all that deep history between us...I don't know what to say to him or what to do.
What do you say to a person in this position who once meant everything to you? I don't know what and I don't know how to process all these feelings.
Please, advice. Of any kind.
Wow.
First off, it isn't your fault. You honestly should stop feeling guilty because he did not get hurt because of you. If you carry this false guilt with you it will make you feel worse. So try to realize that this was an accident.
I know that you have been through a lot. I know that you have had feelings of saddness and felt that John wasn't there for you anymore. Now, here is what I would do. I would go to visit him tomorrow. You don't have to even talk to him. Just be there. Ask him how he is feeling and how he is doing. Ask him if he needs something. Try to help, but you don't need to be overbearing.
You have to have patience though. For now, forget the past you to have. Forget the pain that you felt before. Because you see, he needs support from his family and friends. And as much pain as you have gone through before, he is going through some pains of his own. Try to be there for him.
My theory is that if try to be nice and helpful, that eventually he will start to be comfortable around you again. And you know if right now you just try to be a friend, his dad might see your good intentions.
I know it will be hard. It will feel like you are starting from square one, but if you have the right outlook, things will work out.
I hope that helps and I hope that everything works out for you. Best of luck :)