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part ways with a friend?
I have a friend who I'm not sure if I should keep in my life. We've had great times and she can be really sweet and funny sometimes, and other times I feel like it's a bad relationship.
She lies, a lot. I've learned that it's easier to just roll my eyes and not confront her about it, because getting in a fight with her isn't worth it. She says a lot of things that I (and other people) think are complete bullshit. It just gets to be too much. It's not like I lie or exagerate or go on and on about how I have this great life that she has to live up to, so I don't get it.
Lately I feel like she ditches me for better plans and when I confront her about it she tries to turn it around and starts yelling at me. It's like she doesn't have my back at all. She wants to hang out when she needs a ride somewhere, or something like that. She'll call me one of her "best friends" but doesn't treat me like it at all.
Part of me wants to cut her off, but I'll miss what we have and it would be awkward because we have a class together soon and were involved in some of the same things and have some of the same friends. I don't know what to do without causing an argument or mess. I'm just tired of self-centered people right now.
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Read back what you sent. Tell me what you would say to this person that feels that her friend is treating her like dirt. Are you ready to let her go? If so cut her off. People that use you like you describe won't make anything positive out of your life. Your friends are suppose to lift you up not bring you down.You listed all the bad things. If you felt like you could've made this work you would have listed some of the good things too.That's not the case.But be sure that what ever you do, don't be mean about it. And if she starts to argue tell her thats one of the things you don't like. Even if you don't want to be friends. Be respectful, even if she's not. It shows you that you are better than her in many ways.
Lillian
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I think you should just gradually cut things off with her. don't plan to do things with her.. and when she asks if you can hang out or do things, just say, oh i would, but i'm busy that night. You dont need to be mean to her. And you dont need to tell her why. you have already tried confronting her with it, and that didnt' work, so why keep trying? dont ignore her, but don't continually put yourself in bad situations either.
I know memories keep people tied to eachother firsthand.. and i know how tough it is. but it sounds liket his has been an ongoing thing, and that things aren't really going to change. By ending things with her, you aren't destroying the memories you have with her. You can make good memories with other friends you have, and after a while you will be happy with your decision.
i hope i helped.. :)
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I know people like that. The people who sometimes seem to just take and never give. The ones who will ask you for help or for favors, but then not try to help when it's the other way around.
Here is what I do. I be "just friends" with them. I only hang out with them sometimes and I honestly don't ever ask them for help. I know they won't help me, so there is no point. I help them, listen to them, but not expect a lot form them. I hang out with my closer friends and ask them for help when I need. it.
I think you should try that. Just hang out with her sometimes. Don't really expect too much from her in terms of help. I know that might seem mean, but this way you won't set yourself up for disappointment. When she calls you her "best friend" don't take it to heart. A best friend
means different things to different people. Hang out with your other friends. Tell them your problems.
Try that out and I think it will make your life a whole lot easier.
Best of luck :)
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