Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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Age: 21
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my friend wears a bikini, shes not the skinnest girl in teh world but isn't like obese or anything. she is kind of over weight. so when we get out of the pool, she runs to the ladder, and runs to her towel and throws on her shirt. my question is, if she is SO self conscience, why doesn't she just wear a one piece or a tankini? (link)
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Maybe she wants to wear the same thing everyone else does. She obviously wants to look and feel like she is allowed to wear a bikini.
While she's in the water she probably feels like the water is covering her and no one notices or cares what she looks like so she feels comfortable. Whereas when she gets out maybe she doesn't feel so confident.
Just remember you are her friend, give her confidence. Maybe once in a while you could wear a one piece so she doesn't feel like only bigger people wear them.
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My Boyfriend is really clingy sumtimes and my friends have told him to kinda back off a bit but he hasn't done it that much what do i tell him?
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Do you mind that he is clingy? do you like it? If you don't mind then don't tell him anything.
But if you do... tell him that you really care about him but you need to make time for him and for your friends.
Tell him that you care about him and you don't want to lose him but sometimes is good for him to hang with the guys as well.
Tell him your not going anywhere so it wont matter if you miss out on seeing him for a day, besides there's always a phone or texting for him to say hi, i miss you!
:) hope i helped!
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This is weird, but Im TERRIFIED of sex. Im 14. But, I hate to think about which is weird because I masturbate all the time..but to think of something actually going in there is scary to me. Ive tried to put tampons in before and even that KILLS..I only get half way and I stop. Can anyone tell me if sex really hurts? On a scale of 1-10? Is there any pain sex compares to? Is it worth it? (link)
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If your terrified of sex that just means that your not ready for it.
Sex only hurt for me the first time because I wasn't relaxed enough. My boyfriend and I just went straight into it without playing or anything to start off with.
So on a scale from 1-10 it hurt for me about a 9-10 but that of course doesn't mean that it would be the same for you.
Its not a really bad paid either, i mean it hurts but its not an excruciating pain!
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16/f
i've never had a real relationship. im not fat, or ugly. i have a lot of friends but i can't seem to find a guy for me. every time i meet one, they sweet talk, and i fall for them and they get what they want out of me and then leave me. i fall for it everytime and i hate it because i am a mess because of it. i started doing really stupid things because im getting depressed. i hate that fact that i did that and im changing. but im still depressed. will i ever find someone for me? it seems all of my friends have found their special someone. whats wrong with me?? i dont want to be an easy peice of ass. but i am. i dont mean to be it just happens because all they need to do is tell me im beautiful and i cant say no. im longing for someone to care for me. and anyone i trust, they betray me.
help, or anything would be greatly appreiciated.
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Hey there,
Maybe next time you meet a guy, you shouldn't give in straight away. I know if they sweet talk you and tell you your beautiful and things like that, that you really want to just go for it.
If you take your time, get to know them a bit first, give the guy a chance to get to know you then you might find your 'special someone'
It may not happen straight away but hey it might be worth the wait! I was in the same situation as you before I got to know guys before I went for them, then I found my boyfriend and i've been with him for just over a year.
Just take your time, play hard to get! But in the mean time have fun!
Good luck!
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how do I stop sunburn that itches? (link)
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Tea Tree Oil. You can find it in chemists and its cheap.
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Okay, this may not seem like a problem, but I started babysitting for this one family this summer. They have a pretty big house and good jobs, so it's not like they are poor. I think they overpay me though. I know I shouldn't complain, but they paid me $40 for watching a 4-year-old and a nine-year-old from 6-11pm....and they pay me $100 a week to watch the 9-year-old while they are at work during the summer....watching the nine-year-old basically consists of watching tv or watching him play nintendo or watching him fish. it's not a hard job, and I enjoy it...should I say something about the high pay, or just take it as them appreciating me and being nice? I don't want to get more than I deserve.... (link)
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They are obviously happy with the good job that you do with the children.
Take the money as a compliment.
If, though you aren't happy or you feel uncomfortable about it, tell them. :)
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I'm 16/f and I have an older sister (just turned 18)and an older brother (21). Well my sister and I used to be really close (we're only a year and half apart) but ever since a few months ago, she's started hanging out with these guys that are way older (like my brother's age)and I hate it because we used to do everything together but now her and my brother are always together.
She was a cheerleader in high school so she barely ever drank and she's never done drugs but ever since cheer for her senior year was over she's started partying a bunch more and I now she's gotten high a few times. I know weed isn't all that bad for you really but it just isn't her!
My family and I went on vacation to the Virgin Islands a few weeks ago and like 4 of the nights we were there my brother and sister went out clubbing and stuff with this guy that came with us. I love my brother and everything but he's such a bad influence on my sister.
She's moving to Austin after the summer is over (we're in Houston) to go to college and I know it's just going to get worse. She's really pretty so guys are constantly all over her and I'm just afraid she's going to get herself into trouble. I know she's had sex with 2 guys--one long term boyfriend and another guy she dated in April after she broke up with her boyfriend. In April she was still 17 and the guy was 21.
I don't know if I should say something to her or not because sometimes I just feel like I should mind my own business and not act like her parent but I just don't know.
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Tell her that you are worried, explain to her that your not trying to be her 'parent' but a best friend and a sister.
Tell her that you miss hanging out with her and things have changed in the last few months.
Let her know that you miss her company and would like to hang out again. Maybe she'll see the difference and she'll hang out with you more like old times.
The best thing to do is to talk to her... she's not going to know how you feel if you don't talk to her.
Hope I helped :)
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When you have sex for the first time on a scale of 1-10 how much did it hurt for you and was it really that pain ful ? (link)
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For me it was about 9/10 but only because my partner and I rushed straight into it.
I wasn't really that aroused before we started and I was really tensed up. I wasn't relaxed enough.
But that of course doesn't mean that it will be like that for you... it might only hurt a tiny bit if you take your time, make sure you are relaxed and you are definitely not pressured into it and your are totally aroused before he enters.
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When you lose your virginity, how bad does it hurt and how do you stretch the skin for him to get "In There" if youre a small person. ???
Help me!
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It all depends. If you are relaxed and comfortable and VERY aroused and you and your partner 'play' a lot before sex than it wont hurt that much at all.
But.. if you get straight into it and rush things then it will hurt.
It doesn't matter if you are a small person, your vagina may not be that small. The penis will just enter. It will enter a lot easier if you are 'wet' down there.
Hope I helped.
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so me n this guy basically broke up. which made me feel pretty shitty about myself. then my mom decides shes gunna ground me for the rest of the summer for sneaking out and going over my cell phone bill. AND then call me selfish self centered manpiulative and basically a disgrace for a daughter. which makes me feel even MORE shitty about myself. ive cried and cried and cried and now im to the point i feel so shitty i can even like..care. i cant see my friends .. THE ONLY PEOPLE IN THE WORLD WHO CAN MAKE ME FEEL BETTER cause im grounded. i want to get away from my family but again im grounded. my mom has 4 other kids my oldest ones BOB n SALLY and she treats them like GODs. like BOB had a crud load of drugs n his drawers and my mom didnt even SAY anything to him! my step dad even told me my mom is different with me then the rest. and im sick of it i get im not speical or worth being cared for but god i dont know how much more i can take (link)
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You going to have to talk to her. As much as some teenagers don't want to talk to their parents your going to have to tell her how you feel.
Tell her that you feel like your being treated differently and all you want is to be treated fairly.
You have to tell her that you are equal to Bob and Sally so therefore you should get the same amount of respect as what they do.
Have you tried talking to your step dad? Maybe he can help, you mum might listen to him if she wont listen to you. Tell her that it gets you upset and you want to be treated like everyone else gets treated.
Maybe make some sort of aggrement with your mum about when you snuck out and went over your phone bill, she might appreciate you talking to her in a mature way.
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Ok here is is my question: I went to prom with this guy and hes totally amazing and we've been hanging out for a while. Well at the afterprom i got really tired and he got a little tipsy. (id been hearing that he wanted to ask me out from friends) well while i was almost asleep he softly kissed me a few times. i was so amazed! but then he later on in the night he whispered to me that he loves me, and he said u may not believe me but i do. I didnt say anything back and he seemed a little disappointed and hurt- i didnt knw whether to believe him- but i love him too!. Anyway when i asked him about it the next day he like changed his answer and said that he doesnt knw what love is and that saying i love you is like saying i like you. But i really want to knw if he loves me or not, b.c ive been hurt before and i dont want to express my feelings without being sure. He really seems like he loves me, he kisses everyone of my fingers and then my hands, he sung "your beautiful to me" lol, he calls and texts me just to say hey, he holds my hand all the time! and when he asked me out he announced it to the room of friends of ours! What am i supposed to think? and what are some signs he loves you? (link)
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Maybe he was embarrased that you didn't tell him that you loved him back.
Just wait for the right opportunity to tell him that you love him and see what his reaction is.
There are no signs that someone loves you that just comes naturally and you'll just know.
If you've been hurt before, tell him. It sounds like to me that he REALLY likes you.
Maybe he does love you...if he doesn't now in time he will. If he treats you like you are the world to him then you have a special guy and he obviously wants to have a great relationship with you.
If you don't want to get hurt either tell him or take things slow. Don't get to attached to start off with.
hope i helped
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ive always thought dat my life was messed up. y live a life dat i hate? dat changed after my boyfren came along. i felt special. i felt LOVED. now his paents are moving to NY. real far away from me. im really sad. i hate myself. i hate everything. i wanna kill myself. im nothing without him.is life really worth living for? how can i get over the person that changed my life? how am i gonna live without him? please some1 tell me wat to do? i feel so hated by god. y is he treating me like this? y is he takin away the love of my life? please help! :( (link)
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Hey, killing yourself isn't the answer now is it?
What about your boyfriend? Just because he's moving away doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore! There are many ways that you can stay in contact with him.
Even if you or your boyfriend can't handle a long distance relationship...remain friends!
Don't hate yourself because he's moving away because he probably hates leaving you just as much.
Talk to him..tell him how much he has made you happy and that he has made you feel like a special person and that you've never felt more loved before.
Let him know that your going to miss him and your going to find his move really hard and that you still need his support.
Can you imagine how he would feel if you killed yourself?
He wouldn't have you to love anymore... he wouldn't have anyone to write a love letter or a poem to, he wouldn't get excited when he hears your voice on the phone, and most of all he wouldn't have your love in return anymore.
This move could make you two closer!
If your boyfriend is the love of your life this move will prove that and eventually if your love stays strong you will be together again one day.
Hope I helped :)
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hey, i really like this one guy he's a year younger than me he's 12 and i'm 13.. i really love him thowe he's the nicest guy i've ever met. he talks about how i give him hard ons and it turns me on and we tell eachother alot of personal stuff like that. i'm gonna go to were he lives in like a month and i really want to do some things with him. i'm only 13 but i really really wnat to have sex with him.. my question is.. should i? (link)
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There is a lot more to sex than you think. You are only young and so is he.
There are alot of chances that you could get pregnant.
You must not feel pressured into anything that you don't want to do.
You must be safe while having sex, you should make your partner wear a condom and it is a really good idea for you to be on the pill.
It is illegal for you to be having sex at such a young age. I lost my virginity at 17 nearly 18.
Make sure you know the consequences.
Maybe for the time being you should stick with other things to do with your partner until your a bit older.
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone who you have only met once? :) (link)
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It sure is... I hadn't even met my boyfriend and I was in love with him....a year later I still am in love with him.
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I think I might be pregnant.. I had sex with my boyfriend without using a condom..about 2 weeks ago..He was supposed to pull out in time and he claims he did.. but "down there" was wet like "his stuff" was all over it... as if he pulled out as going ...!
I know this was a STUPID thing.. to not use a condom and whatnot.. but its too late.. and i want to know if you guys think im pregnant!?
Im like paranoid now.. and feel dizzy all the time.. ! My periods not supposed to come for a while either.. so I dont know.. plus, its realllly irregular and I dont even know when to expect it!
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Yes, there is a chance you might be pregnant.
I suggest you go to your doctor and have it checked out or buy a pregnancy test just to make sure.
Stress also causes your period to be late as well so the less stressed you are the sooner your period will come if your not pregnant.
hope i helped.
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Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong? (link)
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As long as you are ok with it. There's nothing wrong with it just as long as you don't feel like you are being used by him.
It's totally up to you whether you want to or not.
If you are able to do this and maintain friends and not become jealous if he finds someone else (viseversa)then thats great.
Just don't feel like your being pressured into it and if you don't want to then he should respect that.
Hope I helped. :)
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hey guys! i`m not really sure the purpose fo me posting this but yeah.. i am a 15/f and a Christian. i met this guy at church about two and a half years ago. his name is nick. he is the sweetest lil kid. he is one year younger than me and really cute! now i know he doesn`t like me but the other niite he called me and we somehow got on the subject of masturbation and whether or not i thought it was riite or wrong. i told him i didn`t think that it was wrong or anything and it kinda escalated from there. he told me to go to my computer and he sent me some sites of porn and i really liked them. then last niite, we watched tons of law and order episodes together because it had chris meloni in it (one of the guys from the sit he sent me). and then i mastubrated with him on the fone several times and he was too. is this wrong? i really don`t know what my question is so any comments or thoughts would be helpful! (link)
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There is absolutley nothing wrong with what you are doing.
Its perfectly normal. Teenagers like to explore sex and masterbation in many different ways and this is one of them.
Your not harming anyone!
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OK, well, I am in soccer, but the problem is like 5 minutes after we start I get tired because I start so fast. Well since it's off-season where I play, is there a way to get me in shape before I start playing again, so I dont run out of breath right away? Thank you so much if you could answer this! (link)
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Have you ever thought of getting a membership at your closest gym?
Or you could try running, power walking, swimming or any excerise will help.
If you eat healthy and excersise for a half an hour or more a day you will be fit in no time.
Just remember not to over do it.
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I wanna become friends with some of the more popular kids at my school so I can go to some of their crazy parties. I can be really shy so I don`t know how I should go about doing it. If I leave a myspace comment on anything of theirs, I often don`t get anything back. (link)
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Don't try to be someone your not. Don't try to hang out with the 'cool kids' just for a party.
Yeah they might have a wild party every weekend but what about the friends you have now..??
Sometimes the popular kids aren't the right kids to hang out with, they're not all what they make out to be.
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My best friend and I were so close at the end of the school year and actually since last year. I love her so much and trust her with everything and we are crazy together, aka we are best friends. Now that it is summer she is always off at camp or at her boyfriend's house. I have been busy too (with other friends and my horses and stuff) but I always get the time to call her. She usually only talks for a few minutes and then goes to her boyfriend's house. I just don't want our friendship to fade and, at the end of the school year, she told me that I had better keep in touch over the summer. It isn't as if she is my only friend by a long shot but she is one of the best I've ever had. I fricken love that girl so much. What do I do? (link)
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You have to talk to her, make her realise that she is your best friend and she hardly has time for you anymore.
Make her aware that this is happening and that you want to remain friends.
Tell her that she is suppose to be your best friend but she's not making any effort to remain in contact and that you miss her and you want your best friend back!
hope i helped.
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