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Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
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Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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Well, i have a problem that not even my friends can help me with without everyone thinkin im sorta slutty but here it is. ive liked these two guys for 3 years now, but the problem is their best friends.. i think one of them might like me and the other one im pretty sure does but i have no clue which one to lean towards more.. its probally hard for anyone to help but if you can please do
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I don't really think that you are slutty at all, because i have been in exactly the same situation, loving two guys and they are both the bestest of friends. I am not going to write you 2 pages of advice and probably say meaninless stuff that would just drive you to nothing. so i am going to tell you something, and if you understand its meaning, which i am sure you will, then you will be able to decide which one you love most and want to be with.
You may love two people so much ,and practically in the same way, but your heart only leads you to one.
Goodluck:)
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So, my boyfriends b-day is coming up. He'll be turning 19. We've been dating for 3 mo. I'm 16. I have 60 bucks and no idea what to get him. I want to do something special...not just some random gift. My boyfriend loves music & plays guitar. He also used to do martial arts. Advice would be very much appreciated. :] (link)
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Hey,
The only suggestion i can tell you is that you can get him some cool Cds for his favorite music or favorite band or something.
But i do have a point of view,that usually you should get something that doesn't have to be related to what he does or plays or likes. You can get him a silver chain(necklace) to wear, because guys like that and he can use it as a good luck charm while he plays his guitar or something.you can also get him a perfume.
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I'm going on a date with this guy and I don't know what to do at the end of the date. You know nothing kiss on cheek, lips etc etc. Im 13 (link)
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Hey,
Your not the one who should be thinking about what to do at the end of the date ,because thats the guy's job. All you have to do is to act natural and cool and enjoy the date as much as you can, and then that ending part is for him to decide what to do in. If he kisses you on the cheek , just smile and say goodnight and its over. And if he kisses you on the lips, then kiss him back slowly and gently and smoothly as he does, and say goodnight and leave. Thats all you have to do, thats your role in this situation.
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I'm addicted to soda. I'm average weight, and other then soda, I'm very healthy. My doctor says the soda is addding extra fat on my tummy and thighs, so I should stop drinking it so much. I drink about 2 cans a day, sometimes more. Its alot I know, I've tried stopping so many times. Cold turkey hasn't work, neither has slowly reducing how much I drink. Any other ideas? (link)
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Try drinking like other fresh healthy juice (orange,mango, apple, strawberry) and drink even twice a day. And then if you still get thirstly drink lots of water. and then you won't even feel thirsty anymore to drink soda.
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wat are some foods that have protein that you eat for breakfest (like a banana)help (link)
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I usually only eat healthy food consisting of the four food groups, so for breakfast there should always be eggs with sausages (and can often be put in the same sandwich), yogurt and milk. These are my suggestions and this is what i eat.
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Ok well theres this guy i met about 2 or 3 months ago when i was with my best friend. Well i started talking to him and what not well we were supposed to hang out but never got the chance and he told my friend that he was disappointed that we didnt. well i was on myspace today lookin around and i seen that he put my friend on his top 8..whats the deal with that? i mean he always called me beautiful nd stuff but he put her up there? im not mad it just has me confused because it seems like he really liked me and everyone thought so.. what do you guys think?? (link)
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Maybe he does really like you and think that you are beautiful and all. And maybe your best freind, has just become a close freind to him and he really trusts her and stuff. But not just because has her on the top 8 then he likes her, she could only be a good freind of his.And i mean if it was any other girl there, you probably wouldn't have minded or even paid any attention. So for your own good,please don't skip to conclusions and assume things that you could turn out to be wrong in at the end.
And try asking your friend, in a natural cool way, if they are good freinds or what kind of thing is going on between them.
Goodluck:)and if you need any more help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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Ok, So I am going out with this guy. He is 26 and I am 16, well soon to be 17. But people keep saying that he is to old. But he makes me happy. Then again he makes me annoyed sometimes but then again thats life. lol.
So I really like him and I just keep thinking that it is just like Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moor. (link)
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I have always thought that there is no problem if there is an age gap between one and another, but 5 years is the maximum. So in this situation , i guess the guy is too old for you to be with. So unless its just like a temporary relationship for fun and not really serious, then its okay. But usually at the age of 26, they started considering marriage, and what would you say if he asks YOU to marry him? i am sure you won't agree,because you are too young. So you can have all the fun you can since he makes you feel happy, but if this gets serious then you'll have to back out.
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ok about 30 min. ago me and my best friend 3-way called my boyfriend and she told him i want to break up and still want to be friends and he said "im very mad and i dont know if i want to be her friend".now im still on the other line.well then he hung up i thought.i told my friend that i fell really bad but a little happy.i said alot of other stuff also.then we hear someone say my name and it was my b-friend.i guess he did not hang up.as soon as i heard that i hung up the phone.then he called me back and was like pick up the phone i know your there.well now i fell horrible and sick to my stomach.i know i dont still like him so why do i fell so bad? i cant talk to any one because my mom is iraq and dont want to tell my dad.we start skool in three days and i dont want him to hate me.HELP!!!!!i need help!!!PLEAZZZZZZZZ (link)
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Hey,
I know it seems really complicated to you ,but its actually simple and the solution is right infront of you. Just talk to him and explain your situation, and say that things aren't working out in your relationship and you just don't feel really comfortable, thats why you want this to come to an end. You can be friends or you can just both forget each other and move on with your lives. And he doesn't have the right to fight with you or say anything. Because you just don't feel really comfortable in this realtionship and its your right to end it.
So consider what i said, and try to tell him that, and if you need any other help, please be free to contact me.
Goodluck:)
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ok, i lied and i'm nervous. i've secetly been talking to someone that my mom didn't want me to talk to just because she's selfish and he doesn't *meet her standards* well, i'm afraid she's going to find out by reading my text messages or something. what do i do? i want to keep on talking to this person. but, what do i do?
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This person you are talking to is your friend and not your mother's friend, no offense caused, so if i were in your place, i would have continued on talking to him all i like, because as long as i wasn't doing anything wrong ,then why would anyone stop me for having a normal conversation with him. And besides, thats really mean to think of someone as of lower class than ourselves or atlease that this person doesn't meet our standards, because we are all the same and there is no difference between anything of us.
And if you want to stop feeling nervous and worried, trying talking to your dad and telling him about it and taking his permission to talk tothis person, and tell him what i told you now, and if he agrees,then you shouldn't feel worried anymore because at least one of your parents agrees for you to talk to this person.
But if things don't work out,then please be free to contact me, and i will come up with another suggestion.
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my boyfreind are thinking about sex. and we know we are both ready for it so please dont say anything along the lines of "you might not be ready".
but anyways. we are going to be safe about it. but my boyfreind doesnt want to buy condoms, he just thinks its embarssing. and isnt that supposed to be the guys job?
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Yes it is a guy's job to do go and buy it.
And if he doesn't think that there is anything wrong or embarrasing in having sex with you wearing a condom ,then he should think that way too about buying one.
And you could go with him if he is too shy or embarrased, but there is nothing wrong in it.
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16/f. SERIOUSLY THIS IS DRIVING ME INSANE.i need serious help..please.
i am in a strong LIKE for this guy..hes perfect hes gorgeous hes nice to me and everyone else hes funny hes got everything ..which means he has a GIRLFRIEND yep this is where the problem comes in. before he had a girlfriend we flirted like crazy any kind of flirting like sexually verbally touchy/feely anything! but we never did anything like kiss or whatever. i knew he liked this other girl and wanted to go out with her or was debating but he ended up asking her out and now..i dont know what to do! i cant stop liking him its like when i dont see him im missing him but then sometimes i forget about him and then something happens and i think about him again then i see him and i get the strongest feelings in my stomach like and i feel like i have to be perfect even though i know i DONT because he isnt shallow like that. i love seeing him even though it hurts =( but we are really good friends too! and hes friends with my cousins and their neighbors so its hard not to see him because im always over there. anyways he still always flirts with me and i dont know if he knows he is doing it or not but he is! like tonight we all went over there my cousins and me late tonight and i walk in his house and see him and my heart drops hes so adorable..i lay on his couch downstairs and he like sits on the floor in front of me then like i closed my eyes and he got really close and started saying something to me. and then i was like im gonna go ask your mom this blah blah and hes like no you didnt and he wanted to bet on it so he took my hand and like held it (as we were "shaking on it") and we held hands like this for like 5 minutes and i thought wow this is kinda weird i wonder if this is for him too! then like we had to leave and we were arguing (flirting) and he like faced me..got close and slightling started like punching my stomach if you know what i mean its hard to explain it was in a cute way though! i probably have a different view on everything than him. but i just dont know what to do i cant get over him i dont know if i want to. but hes always like on his away messages "on the phone with my girl" "i love you" blah blah and she is is background on his computer! shes absolutely gorgeous and outgoing and everything and i dont think im that bad looking but i dont know! i cant talk to him about it i dont want our friendship to be akward which i know it would be. is there anything i can do?! rather than talking to him or trying to stop liking him because neither will work
THANKS. (link)
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I know this situation really well because i have been in one several times before, i liked his guy before so much and i was so crazy about him ,that i was practically stalking him.lol.
And then he started dating this other girl, and that hurt me so much and i cried so much and it was just very sad. He became the only thing on my mind, and the only thing i thought about and talked about. I became so crazy and madly in love with him. And that lasted for a whole 2 years, but during this whole time we were good friends and we talked and flirted , fooled around and had lots of fun. And then as time passed during these 2 years, i started noticing that this guy with already there beside me as something more important than a boyfreind. He was practically my best freind, and we could do anything we want even kiss on the cheek, and it was just great to have him as a friend, even bette than a boyfreind. And we still are great freinds, because if we had dated, we would have probably broke up, and then there would not be any relationship or freindship.
So you see, you may have not had him as your boyfreind, but at least you didn't completely lose him and now you have him as a really close freind to you and thats something really great that you should take advantage of, and who knows, maybe if he breaks up with his girlfriend, he would realise that all along he was inlove with his own good friend, and that she was infront of him all this time flirting with him. So just act natural and cool, and leave things to fall down in place alone.
And by the way, she's not prettier or hotter than you, because when a person falls in love with someone, he should fall in love with their personality and not with their appearance, because if he does the opposite, then he wouldn't really be inlove with you,but he would be walking aroundwith you to show off.
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im 14m and my doctor told me i need to increase my physical activitys because im at risk of having high blood pressure. swimming was working out but because it's aguast that's only gonna last me 2 or 3 more weeks. and i hate exercising because it's boring and i always get tired and feel bad about my self and when im in the pool i have fun and don't get tired or sweat and it isn't boring and i hear that in high school you get alot of homework so i don't know how im gonna find the time to please my teacher and my doctor at the same time
help!
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well there is always time for everything. I mean i know people, who take up 2 sports at the same time, and go to school,and have tons of homework and exercise and hang out and go to parties all at the same time. Can you believe that? i couldn't when i first heard it, but its actually true.
So all you have to do , is to listen to your doctor and do what he says because he knows whats good for you, and at the same time you can go to the pool at weekends and do what you want. But you still have to exercise like the doctor wants you.
And then when school starts, you can wake up early everyday and do some exercises and stretches like your doctor wants and then go to school and come back and do your homework, and then you would still have sometime at night if you want to hang out with a friend or something.
See ,so things could be settled down, and thought of clearly. And i know how much you hate exercising. But always look on the bright side, its something for your own good and it will make you feel alot better.
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What don't guys understand about girls?!?!
I dont understand guys either, but I just want to know what they dont understand about us.
thanks!! (link)
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Guys and girls are different from each other, they don't understand the way we think,the way we communicate with other people, our feelings, out ideas ,our moddiness, our behaviour. Everyting about us is different from them .And just exactly how we don't get anything they do, and their attitude and their roughness and their love for wrestling and football and their agressiveness and the way they talk about us from behind our backs, they don't get us either and anything we do. Their is just this difference between us which makes it hard for us to get each other.
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Ok i always try to stay fit but i never can stick to. Heres my questions
1) When is the best time a day to go jogging. ( and since its summer usally i wake up at noon)
2)how do i curve the craveings
3)im 13/f how many crunches should i do and when?
4) other things to help me stay healthy and fit?
thanx any answer is wanted and apreciated (link)
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hey,
I have some suggestions and answers but not to all questions.
First of all, the best time to go jogging, is early in the morning at 6 or 7 ,and thats what all people do. So i guess you will have to straighten up your day a bit, and sleep early and wake up early.
Second of all, to stay healthy and fit, you should completely cut out on junk food and any food containing sugar and fats. You should also consult your doctor to make you a healthy food plan consisting of only the four food groups.And then you should go running, and exersicing, and working out in the gym. You can also go for long walks because it really helps.
Thats all i have got now, but you can refer back to my column and you could find other suggestions.
Goodluck
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ok i have a lot of discharge, i have not stsrted my period yet either. i live with my dad so its really hard to bring up the subject. i can't have a aunt or cousin take me either. i need pantyliners but i dont know how to get them without my dad knowing. what should i do???
plz help me, A.S.A.P. (link)
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Hey,
Your dad doesn't have to know, you can just go on your own to any store that sells them, and buy it with your own money. And even if he knows, he would be embarrased himself. So its okay, and there is no need to panic or worry.
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what do cramps feel like. i havn't had my period yet. i think it may be coming soon, i have arm pit hair, hair "down" their, and some what breast development. so i need to know what cramps feel like, when i should be expecting to get those cramps and where exactly are the cramps?
thanks soooooooo much (link)
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Cramps are a painful and involuntary muscular contraction, and they could come in any muscle in your body.
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hi. ok lately i have been REALLY tired. i mean i get enough sleep. i get between 9-11 hours of sleep and during the school year i got around 9. but i feel so tired! like in magazines i read that thats enough time to not make you tired. and i have such dark circles on my eyes. and i cant get them to go away. i tried that old spoon thing where you freeze it and place it over. didnt work. i tried covering it with cover up. wouldnt lighten up. i dont know how to get rid of it. so basically im asking how do i get rid of the circles and why am i so tired if i get enough sleep? (link)
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Hey,
Sometimes when a person doesn't sleep enough as well as when a person sleeps TOO MUCH, then he feels really tired and unable to do anything or concentrate on anything.So why don't you just try to wake up early everyday and do stretches and exercises first thing in the morning then go running or something and have a huge breakfast adn take vitamins ,and then you will feel better and fresher and much better, and if you get used to doing this everymorning, then you won't feel sleepy or tired,and actually you will feel very active and fresh and then you won't have dark circles under your eyes.
And maybe you could also consider taking up a sport or something, because they help in making you more fit and active.
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I have a major obsession about my body and exercise and food. At first, it was just like, not eating so many cookies at lunch or limiting how much soda I drank in a day. That was about a year ago. In like, April I think, about that time anyways, I found that I was not eating any junk food at lunch anymore and I was only eating ice cream on sundays, and i hardly drank soda. I also was running about 2 miles 3-5 days a week. So basically, I was in shape. Then when summer started I joined a club lacrosse team and did a lot of training, we ran at least 3 miles everyday and had practice 3 days a week (one was a muscle training day). My coach told us about all the bad things about soda. and how not to eat the dairy before a work out, that kind of stuff. Along with lacrosse, I joined my old swim team (practice every weeknight for an hour). And I also did a special start and turn session for about an hour every week day. I was getting a ton of exercise so I had to eat constantly, like in the car between practices and stuff. I really slimmed down, lost 10 pounds, and I haven't had my period since May. Now, I am extremely picky about how I eat. NO candy, soda, ice cream, pizza, chicken wings, at ALL. I also run 4 miles almost everyday, but I don't swim anymore and lacrosse is over. But I still find myself always thinking about how much I've eaten and how I'm going to burn it off. I mean, I enjoy working out, it's just I can't help but calculate in my head the number of calories I'm eating and using. I am very fit, but I'm not convinced that I"m healthy. My mind is all screwed up, and I just want to be able to enjoy other things in life besides my body. How can I fix my mental issues??? (link)
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hey,
First of all, you should go on with the healthy eating thing, and don't eat any kind of junk food, or sugar or fats. And you can consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan to go on, because it won't make you worry anymore about what to eat healhty and what not to eat.
Second of all, appearances are the last thing that a person should think about , because it is more important for a person to have a good personality than to just have good looks.
And i am sure that you have such an amazing personality, so use it more and take care of it more and obssess about it more than you do about your appearance. you are a great person ,so don't ruin that by having mental issues and obssessing about something that people don't even care to look at. I mean... there are fat not good looking people who get married and have more admirers than the good looking hot ones, and you know why, because they take good care of their personality,and its so much better than how they look. And everyone of us, is beautiful from inside of him/her. So just try to occupy your time with something else where you can put all your concentration in and work on.
Goodluc:)and if you need any more help or advice then please be free to contact me.
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what do you guys do in your free and occupied time besides school, eating, maintaining hygiene, and hanging out with friends?
i dont do anything in summer and otherwise. like summer camps/schools or like sports, what volunteering things, clubs outside and in school. can you suggest stuff or tell me what you do? all i do is watch tv, read, do hw, volunteer at a hospital one time a week (maximum amount possible in the program). pointers on getting a job? i feel like im wasting time and space in this world
please
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Everyone here will just answer and say the type of sport he plays, and the volunteering job he works ,and the book he reads. And thats exactly what i am going to say too. but then how does that help you. Why don't you think for awhile about something that you have always wanted to do.Is is possible that there is no sport you have always wanted to take up? no book you wanted to read? no part time job you wanted to work? No kind of school project ,activity, tutoring people? NO good movies you want to watch? No bake sales or garage sales which you could make and gain lots of money? NOthing you like to collect? No charity thingys you want to be a part off?
I am not just going to lay down some suggestions,and tell you to pick one, because this is not how it should be, but it should be your decision, and what you like, so if you have an answer to one of these questions, then i have solved your problem, but if you don't , then i am no counseller.
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um im 14/f, && my boyfriend just started fingering me. sometimes he fixes his boxers because of well ____ something. anyways, im scared if he was doing it too me, and somehow when he fixed his boxers he may have gotten some sperm on it and then when he fingered me, he got me pregnent, only because i dont have my period, and i was due a week ago, and also i feel sick alot lately. PLEASE help, im begging you. im really really nervous. please help im really scared. (link)
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Hey,
There is a 50% chance that you are pregnant and another 50% chance that you are not and that you are just stressing so much.
We all get out periods late sometimes, but i hope it was only a concidence this time.
So my best advice is that you should have a medical examination and consult a doctor because he knows better than all of us here in this website. So goodluck:)
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