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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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i like this guy and him and his girlfriend just broke up today.. if i ask him out, is taht bad? because me and his ex are like friends but not really

if you like him than go for him. but if you and his ex are kinda close, you might wanna discuss it with her first, that way you'll no what everything is hitting for, like whether or not there will be drama.

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One of my good friends is dating this guy, Erik, that I liked for 2 years, but she never new it. And so they been dating for 7 months, and Ive been a bit down latly. He just recently broken up with her, And he said he did it cause he wanted to go out with me cause he heard I liked him. But I don't wanna hurt my friend, beacause she's really down, and crying and all. I feel really bad, but on the other hand I really wanna go out with him. What should I do?

~Amberlynn

Dont do it. If you do, you will surely ruin your friendship. I'm sure it will be hard to do it,since you really like him and all, but, trust me, its not worth it. you need to be there for your friend, she probbaly really needs you right now.

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I have known this guy since 5th grade and i'm in 9th now. His name is Nick. In elementary we were practically enemies. We would fight all the time. Well at the time i was in love with his best friend Gabe. Well this past yr (in 8th grade, i had religion class with Nick and I thought that if i could maybe get closer to Nick that it would help me get close to Gabe like i wanted to. Instead of all that happening i just got closer to Nick and started to fall for him. Now i feel like he is the best person that i ever met because we connect in a way that i never have before. The thing is, he is going to a different school. I am going to one in Clearwater and he is going to one in Tarpon Springs. Now I feel like I am in misery because I didn't make a move and I don't know when I am ever going to see him again. And as many guys as I've met, none of them are as good as he was. I miss him so much. What do I do now?

Find a away to get a hold of him. Meet up, and take things from there. make sure you let him know you miss him.

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my dad is taking away my phone line for my internet. is there any way i can do something on my computer to prevent him from taking it away?

well if its yours, and you paid for it, he has not right to take it away. i could understand if he was paying for it, but hes not. tell him he cant disconnect the shit unless hes gonna pay you back for it. and if he goes and disconnestc your shit, disconnect his, so he can see how that shit feels.

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im running for student concil and the teacher and the head teacher of student concil choose should i just b a "teachers pet" so i can win?

no, dont be a teachers pet. not all teachers like that. people appreciate some who is real, so just be yourself, Aand do your best to win.

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Well, ive been a cutter for about..1/2 a year now. And i cut on my wrist..(i was pissed) and i went out without my wrist band on, and i think my mom saw! what if she sends me away to a mental hospital!?
Please help!
|-.Lost Soul.-|

If she saw, of course she is going to want to get you help. No one wants thier child hurting themselves. When you talk to her about it, explain to her why you do it. Maybe you do need help, but maybe you dont need to be sent away. try and agree to go to counceling, that way both of you can be happy.

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so my best friend leah of 2 years met this guy jo and wanted to date him. she thought he was really hot and nice. but i felt the same way. my other guy friend hooked me up with jo and now me and jo are goin out. now leah wont talk to me and my other friends say leah is mad at me and she doesnt like jo becase..'hes not hot or nice he takes me away from my friends and ignors me ' according to her. shes trying to make all my other friends hate me and she says i shouldnt even b goin out with him cuz i havent known him for that long.. but she cant tell me wut to do becuz she just meets guys off the street for one night stands. wut should i do i dont wanna ruin our friendship but shes goin way over board and i really like jo.

well you have to understand that your friend is probably jealus becasue she like dthe guy and you went for him. that probably wasnt the best thing to do. But, you did, so she is just gonna have to settle for that. Talk to her. Let her know how shes acting is really imature. She shouldnt let a guy come between your friendship. He's not the nly boy in the world, she will probably, or already does, like a new guy. if she doesnt wanna make up, and stop talking shit. then just leave her alone. It would just mean shes not worth your friendship or your time.

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Alright Well..I want to lose weight in my thighs and abs and stomach area. Does anyone have any GOOD excersizes that will work in a month in a half or so? I wanna loose 20 pounds. Thanks and please dont delte.

do crunches, go running, eat lighter and rink plenty of water.

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how can i get my family back together? Like i told my mom id lose my attitude if she got back together with my step dad and she said she would. But she lied to me and now we're moving out of my house in 3 days. What do i do to get them together again?

Christine

well you can try and sit the whole family down, to talk things out and see what exactly is the problem and what could be a solution. but most likely, there isnt much you can do about it. sorry hun.

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If your belly button peircing is infected and bleeding because you messed with it too much as in taking it out and putting it back too much, can you put peroxide on it?! If not what can I put on it?! Thanks

peroxide is good. but you should try bacitration or triple anti biotic.

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Ok I have my cartilage pierced and it's beel pierced since the end of May. I ran out of the cleaning stuff the store gave me and now it's infected and swollen. I was wondering what I could use to clean it. I have hydrogen peroxide and isperyl alcohol (not sure if that's what it's called). Would either of those work or should I use something else? Thanks! I rate!

peroxide will work. but you should use bacitration. (im not sure if thast how you spell it)

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well.. i wrote the other day and i told yall that there was this guy on my bus.. and he asked me out.. and i said no.. hahaha.. cuz i thought he was joking.. but he wasnt.. and yea.. so.. me and him are cool again.. but there is this one little girl who likes him.. and everytime he is with me.. she starts talking mess about me to all her little friends.. so.. i didnt want that.. so today.. he went up to talk to me.. and he was like.. " hey.. so you gunna holla at me or wut? " and i was like.. oh.. nope.. srry.. jessie might get mad.. and he was like what?? so.. i told him she was talking mess.. and now hes mad at her.. and shes even more mad at me.. so.. i dont know what to do.. should i stop talking to him?? or what?? ill rate ya if you give good advice :)

well you cant go around not talking to guys everytime some other girl likes them. its very common for girls, besides you to like your guy. you cant let them control your relationship though. if you like this guy, then go for him. who cares what that other girl thinks and what she has to say.

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but wat if i cant... wat if im just some ugly fat girl that no one like and hes the only one who cares...?

look it doesnt matter if your fat or not. or how you look for that matter. fat people, people who are considered ugly, even they find someone. 1st of all you are only 13 so you have a long way to go. all you need is to have a little self confidence. guys dont like girls who are moping around feeling sorry about themselves. a guy wants a girl with a good self esteem. who if shes fat she proud, and if shes skinny shes proud, whatever she is shes proud. so just be confident.

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okay see my boyfriend lives in georgia and i live in new jersey he so far away... im 13 and he turning15 ... we like each other so much but no one really aproves since we met on the computer and he lives in georgia .. we wanna meet but its a lil hassle ... wat should i do... should i stay with him and meet him or wat?

i dont think its a good idea to meet people off of the internet. if you do though, then bring a parent or a well trusted friend. but being taht you guys are so young, and this is an internet relationship, you probbaly wont last anyway, so maybe you should see other people.

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SO I AM LIKE GOIN INTO DA EIGTH GRADE, AND LIKE MY HAIR IS UP TO MY SHOULDERS . I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO WITH MY HAIR BESIDES BLOW DRYING IT AND PUTTIN CURLS. I ALSO DON'T KNO EXACTLY WAT TYPE OF EYESHADOW I SHOULD WEAR AND LIP GLOSS. I HAVE TAN SKIN AND DARK BROWN EYES.

hmm... you can put it in a cute little high ponytail, or half up half down for a more casual look. you can scrutch it up with gel, moose or hairspray while it is wet. you can bump it with a curling iron or straightening iron. you can put in rollers before bed, for a nice curl and the style it up or down. and try a pink or plain shimmery eye shawdow, this draws attention to the eyes, without making you look like a hooker. and pink lip golss is always nice too. any natural color lip gloss is nice.

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I have a friend and me and her have been friends sense 4th grade we're in the 8th now , but lately she has been thinking that every single one of her exboyfriends likes me. I keep telling her that its not true, but she still thinks it. I dont want her mad at me over something like this. Its not like I like them back is what I tell her. What should I do?

tell her you dont like them, so stop tripping. if she doesnt believe you, forget her. you dont have to prove shit to no one.

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ive never been kissed b4.. is that a good thing?? or noo???

hmmm... deprends on how old you are... thats why you should always tell us that when you ask a question.

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Okay, this might sound stupid but here it goes: My friend is obsessed with the fact that I have a lot in common with her boyfriend. Whenever she brings up the subject, she'll call him and ask both of us what things we like, and if we say the same thing she'll scream and say that we're going to fall "madly in love." I've told her hundreds of times that he's going out with HER, and he obviously LIKES her! I've spoken to her b/f once, and I don't like him that way, but she's obsessing that he's going to break up with her for me.. whom he's never even met. She's mad that she has NOTHING in common with this guy, and that I do, and I don't want to lose her as a friend.. and she won't listen to anything I say!

Sorry for the long post, but any ideas on what I should do?

umm... not to be rude... but your friend is a retard? how could her bf possibly want you if he desnt even know you. so what if you guys have the same things in common, alot of total strangers ahve the same things in common. she is over reacting big time. tell her to chill out, your her friend and you would never do that to her and you know how much she likes him. so she can just stop getting pissed about nothing.

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I went to camp as a counselor.. for about 5 days and I liked a boy there last year.. but this year when I went I had a boyfriend which things weren't going to great for us.. so I ended up dumping him.. Over the 5 days at camp the guy I liked was like flirting with me grabbing my hips and just being incredibly sweet.. now that i'm home from camp we have been talking on the internet.. and he says he wants to see me and asks me if I want a new boyfriend and stuff like that.. I really want to see him and miss him like crazy.. but sometimes I get mixed feeling from him.. should I just come out and ask him if he likes me??

yeah, just ask him how he feels about you. or maybe meet up with him 1st, and see how he acts in person, like outside of camp. good luck! :)

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Ok heres the deal ...
I got a fone going in to ninth grade my moms old fone its so old it doesnt even have games( and new ones cant be downloade) but my sister just went into ninth grade and my mom said she was going to get her old phone ( tyhe one she got new when i got mine) but when we got to the verizion place ... my sister came home with a brand new camera fone!! i just bought a car and i need the hands free kit ( new your state law) but my stupid fone is so old they dont sell the kits any more!! i asked my mom if i could buy a new fone with my own money and she told me no ! Its not fair that my sister gets a new fone fully paid for but im not even allowed to buy my own !! Its not even that i want the best ... i just want something new so that i can hook it up into my car! Ive tried every thing i can think of and please dont say talk to her cause it never works !

Yeah, thats not fair, especailly since you're the one is gonna be buying the phone anyway. Its not like having a new phone will increase your bill or soemthing. if i were you i would just go buy a new phone then have the store take out the chip from your old phone and put it in your new phone.

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