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what does it really mean...
"minute man"

???

I'm not really sure what you mean.

Sex Wise:
A guy who comes too quick during sex and doesn't get the girl off.

History Wise:
An armed man pledged to be ready to fight on a minute's notice just before and during the Revolutionary War in the United States.

Hope one of those is what you're looking for.

there's this boy i really like. i know for a fact he likes me back; he's a pretty obvious flirt and he always says shit like "im single, do you want to date me now?" and yeah. the problem is that he's good friends with one of my friends. at first i kind of ignored his advances and laughed at him because it was just a little crush and i knew that my friend would be pissed if i dated him. but now i REALLY like him, i mean he really is the sweetest boy i've ever met. i can't get over him. and now i have two problems: 1) i kind of made it seem like i didn't like him when i ignored him flirting with me/i'm pretty sure my friend told him i wasn't interested and 2) my friend would be PISSED. i've seen it happen with all of her friends before. i like him so much and i hate it. what can i do to let this kid know that i'm actually interested without hurting my friend?

If you really like this guy and you tell your friend this then she should understand. If not then she isn't really that good of a friend, because sometimes you can't control who you like. With this guy you should start flirting back, or just tell him you like him. Tell him the only reason you were ignoring him was because you didn't want to hurt your friend, and you would like to try a relationship with him. Good Luck with your friend, I hope she understands.

_ - _ Jasmine - _ -

My boyfriend always wants to talk to me but he never calls me he just likes to text and talk on AIM. At first I just thought he was scared but he always does it, and I've nagged him before and I call him but he never answers I don't want to keep nagging, but I don't like wasting my texts when I could just be on the phone!

Talking on the phone can be awkward, sometimes you don't know what to say or you say the wrong thing... Maybe he's just trying to keep that from happening. When you're texting you can think about what you say first.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

14/f

ok, so i have a huge crush on this guy. ive liked him since about november. we usuaully flirt and talk and normal stuff. i just cant tell if he likes me or not. well, just yesterday his girlfriend broke up with him. they had only been together for about 2 weeks. so i want to know, how should i approach him? now that he's single, should i tell him i like him? should i start flirting more? any advice is appreciated.

Tell him how you feel, it's easier than flirting with him and waiting for him to realise you like him. Plus then you'll know if he likes you. He only dated this girl for a couple weeks, so he probably isn't that attached to her. It's unlikely you'll be his rebound.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

Today I went to the movies with my two best guy friends. We're all 16. Well out of them, I'm closer to one, and he sat next to me. During the previews he'd jokingly like grab my hand, and act like he was scratching his arm, and then put it on my shoulder. He also multiple times put his hand on my knee, and sometimes would rub it lightly. I kept laughing cause it tickled, and i think he was joking cause he laughed everytime I did. But do you think he likes me? He hasn't done this before, and we've been to the movies before all together.

It sounds like he likes you. He probably only laughed because you did, he probably didn't want to seem like he was being serious because you weren't taking him serious when he actually was. He already made the first move, so now the ball is in your court.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

I am experiencing mild cramping in my lower back and abdomen, headaches, fatigue, stuffy nose (something terrible with no signs of cold/flu to accompany it), a larger than usual appetite, and sore breasts.

My cycles usually run between 28 to 31 days. The past 2 months they have been 30 days exactly. I am 2 days from testing right now but the not knowing is just killing me.

I have never been on birth control. My husband and I had unprotected sex on the 8th - 14th of April, each night. The 18th and again on the 22 - 23 of April, each night.

The first day of my last period was April 1, the last day, April 7.

Is there a possibility that I could be pregnant?

If you have unprotected sex at any time there is a chance you could get pregnant. Since you had unprotected sex multiple times there is a big chance you could be pregnant.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

ok so im going out with a couple of my friends tonight. were going to the movies and im not sure what were seeing but its probably gonna be something scary. theres 5 boys going and 3 girls. theres this one i guy i think is sooooooooo gorgeous. hes so hot. and my friends said there gonna make sure i sit next to him. and then those 2 other girls are my bffs. one of them is going with her boyfriend with us. so they might be cuddling or making out. the other girl has a bf but hes not going.the other guys know i think that the guy i think is hot is hot. becuase my friends told him. and so they told that guy also. so i have no idea what to do. but there gonna set me up to sit next to him. but were seeing a scary movie. and i get scared so easily. and i normally hug or hold the persons next to mes hand when it gets scary or i tuck my head behind there back. and my friends know that. so im gonna be on the end. so that hes the only one next to me. but im soo scared that im going to do that. becuase i dont know if he likes me. i mena he thinks im really cute. but i doubt its liking me. becuase he likes some other girl that goes to his church. but he still thinks im cute and pretty so do you think he would be cool with it? should i have my friends warn him? or? and also his friends over heard me talking to my friends how i want to hook up with him. so he knows i do. and he might. but i never made out. should i tell him? and when? ahhh im so lost. sorry this is long. lol

First thing, calm down. Don't have your friends warn him and don't tell him. It sounds like he might like you, and you can like more than one person at once. So just because he likes another girl that doesn't mean he can't like you. And he might find the whole hiding behind him and holding on to him cute. I tend to do the same thing with my boyfriend and he said he found it adorable. So don't worry and try to have a good time.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

I have naturally straight hair, and recently got a perm for the first time. My hair stylist did a great job, and the perm turned out fine and everything, but now I miss my straight hair. How long does it usually take for the curls to lose their form? And what does anyone reccomend I do in the meantime?

People say you can sweat a perm out, but you pretty much have to wait until your hair grows out. You can get a relaxer, but you would have to wait a couple of months so you don't damage your hair.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

i like this guy and i want to start being more flirty around him. Hes kind of a perv, btu wicked funny. Any cute flirty things I can say or do?? Websites?? (dont tell me to use a search engine please and thank you)

Please help me fast I am going to see him again veryy soon :)

Thanks a bundle &HEARTS

Try this website: http://www.myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm

Good Luck!

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

13/f

alright. um..

i like this guy A LOT (we'll call him bob). he has a girlfriend & they've been going out for like more than a month. the thing is, they don't do anything. i never see them talk & they have only hugged like once. that's all the farther they've gone. my bff has been going out with this guy for 3 weeks & they hang out a lot, talk evweryday, are constantly holding hands, & have kissed like 4 or 5 times.

my problem is, is that i don't know if i could ever go out with someone like that. someone that doesn't act like a boyfriend should. so my question is, should i move on? should i wait for him? if i do & we end up going out, is he gonna act the same way? i just don't know what to think or do.

help?

Maybe his current girlfriend doesn't like PDA, you never know how he's going to act with you as his girlfriend unless you give a relationship a try. If you feel as if it's not working out then you can break up with him. But if he knew you liked him and he asked another girl out, then maybe he doesn't feel the same way about you. It's your choice whether or not you should wait for him, but my advice to you is to not wait up for him, there are tons of guys in the world.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

okay ive been with this guy for a year and half- we're from 2 different religions and my mom would like kill me and i know we have no future if we got married or anything in the future. but recently i met this guy who is sooooooooo hot and he wants me and i realy wanna kiss him and stuff like that...and the reason for that is cus the guy i am with doesnt statisfy me sexually i mean he is not attractive and doesnt turn me on.
im really confused i just wanna cheat but i dont know if i should. is it that wrong to satisfy your feelings somewhere else?

Don't cheat on your boyfriend. It is wrong to "satisfy your feelings somewhere else" if you are currently in a relationship. You should break up with your current boyfriend because it sounds like you have no feelings whatsoever for him anymore, just because you've been together for a long time doesn't mean you have to be with him for the rest of your life. Feelings die out. It sounds like you like this other guy better than your current boyfriend anyways, you should be with him.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

How can you wash a Vera Bradley purse? I'm buying a bermuda pink hobo Vera Bradley that needs to be "laundered", but I'm not quite sure what that entails. Can I do it on a gentle wash in the washing machine and let it air dry or will that ruin it?

Washing instuctions will most likely come with the purse, on the tag or something.

If not, read this:

http://www.epinions.com/content_147137007236

I think it has how people who own those purses have washed them and what not to do.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

Hiii, I've been going out with my current boyfriend for about 3 months, and he's a year older then me, and is a Freshman, so we don't go to the same school. so, i only see him once a week. lately, things have felt weird between us, and i don't really like to talk on the phone to him, and i really like him a lot still, i just know i do. but, i like this one boy thats in my grade. and we flirt a LOT. i feel like i'm hurting my boyfriend, even though NO ONE knows, but me. i don't wanna break up with my boyfriend, but i don't wanna hurt anyone. i don't know what to doo. help?

It sounds like you feel like you're neglecting your boyfriend because you can't see him everyday yet you're constantly flirting with this other guy. You probably just feel guilty. Flirting with someone else while you're in a relationship isn't cheating but sometimes it can feel like it is. So call your boyfriend more even if you don't like talking on the phone that much, and try to adjust your schedule to spend more time with him.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

Okay so theres ths guy that i really like: (im gunna put it in like..bullets so its easier to read):
It all started last month, around the beginning of March.
We've met before, but never really talked much because we don't go to the same school, but he lives in the same town as me.
We work at the same place, and that's basically how we started talking.
So over the weeks in March, we started to text all the time, every day; from the time we'd wake up to the time we'd go to sleep.
Everything was going well, and I got the chance to get to know him a bit more and he seemed like a really sweet guy. He just had bad luck with past relationships, because of the way he was treated.
The only problem: we never got the chance to hang out because I had drivers ed three times a week, basketball two times a week and work on the weekends.
This was a problem because he was always bugging me about hanging out, but I never had the time to.

So everything was going pretty well.
APRIL:
So he then invites me at the last minute to some semi-formal thing (on a Tuesday) and the semi was that Saturday.
I'm not able to go, because my parents don't know him and I wasn't getting great grades at the time.
Saturday comes and he's really, reallyyy sad that I can't go.
A couple of weeks go by, and everything is still going well.
Then, all of a sudden, he just starts acting wierd, and this carries on for tthree days.
I had to work one of the days and he said: "Oh, maybe I'll stop by,"
So he stops by, and we didn't talk but just smiled at each other. He stayed for about an hour.
After work I check my messages, and there are three from him explaining how he was sorry he acted the way he did.
Days go by, and then it's vacation.

Since I go to a catholic school in a different state (but we live in the same state) and he goes to public school in the state we both live in, our vacations are different.

I ended up going to florida for vacation, for a week. We texted the whole time I was down there and things seemed to be fine.
In the last two days I was down there, he didn't respond to my text messages.
I was worried something was wrong.
I got back from vacation, all happy to be home (sadly lol) and then I just look on his myspace (although I'm not allowed to have my own) and it says "in a relationship".
so I'm like: "Ohh great, what the hell happened now?". Then he signs on that night and tells me that his phone has been dead and it won't hold the charge.
So I asked him why it said "in a relationship" on his myspace and he's all like: "What? i thought you weren't allowed on myspace? I thought it was blocked?". And I'm like: "Nooo... It's not blocked. I just can't have a myspace,"

And so then he says: "About that... I thought you were just leading me on the whole time, and we haven't even hung out yet, so I was getting tired of it." This obviously means that he now has a girlfriend.

So I say: "Okay, I told you before vacation that after I come back, we could hang out because drivers ed would be done with."
He says: "Well, I don't remember that, and you didn't seem like you were interested in me that much, because you never made plans to hang out."

I definitley remember making plans to TRY to hang out but they didn't work because of drivers ed.

and then today at work he didnt talk to me. we made eye contact a few times, but nothing from there. like...i looked up and saw him looking at me and then i looked away and did the same.

Now he just won't talk to me or anything, and I don't know what to do.
What would you do if you were me?

Thanks,
Steph

I would make sure he knows you're not mad at him and then make plans to hang out, even if it's as friends. If you do like him tell him that you weren't leading him on and that you do like him, but if he does have a girlfriend tell him you would still like to be friends. You don't even know if the relationship he's in now is serious and it sounds like he likes you whether or not he has a girlfriend. So maybe once he knows you like him he'll ask you out or maybe he wont, I don't know. But the ball is in your court. Good Luck!

_ - _ Jasmine - _ -

i am honest,active,adabteble,adventure,hmourse,helphful,smart,

You never actually asked a question. If you have a question then drop it in my inbox again.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

How much is it at a local vet to declaw a kittens front paws roughly.

Yeah yeah I know its painful and I dont want opinions. Its not my choice because if it was they would have all their claws.

I had both of my cats declawed and it was around $50 dollars for both of them, so for one it would probably range from around $15-$25. Depends on where you go.

Ok so there is this guy i like and we've known eachother for 1 month.We talk all the time on the phone and just now are starting to hang out in person.He said he likes me alot and would date me.I've been totally ditched and forgot about by two guys and i told him that i didnt want it to happen again.He told me that he will never forget about me and that yea there will be a few days we dont talk because we got stuff goin on but i will never forget about you.He was like im not like those guys and i go well thats what the last guy said about the first and he says just trust me i love you.and thats the first time he said i love you.but anyway with what i just told you how long do i have to wait for him to ask me out?

-sierra

Maybe you should just ask him out, he already said he would date you. He said "I Love You." It's not like he would say no to you. It would be better than wondering when he's going to ask you out.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

i dont know if she loves me, but she is still tied a bit to her old relationship, saddend by the rare phone calls of an old friend.

she makes moves towards me, says she loves me sincerly somtimes. given me head, made out with me

yet somtimes i think she is thinking "I dont want him to be in ove with me, because i truly dont love him"

but does she really think that way? is she really in love with me?

i was in love with her, untill i realized that i might need to get over the whole "love" things and lets just be amazing friends

HOW DO I ASK HER, i really cant just say, do you want me to love you? because that is to weakinging on my part. i have already appeared alot as the quieter more submissive friend, but i am not. so i cant ask her "do you wajt me to love you"

please help fast!!! thank!! you!!

You can't just stop loving somebody because you want to, and if she loves you that isn't going to change from day to day just because some days you don't believe she loves you. Sometimes people feel as if they're not worthy of being loved by someone, they think that they don't deserve it. It's not because they're not in love with them, it's probably just the opposite. Or she may be afraid to get into another relationship due to her previous one. I know you probably don't want to her talk to her and tell her how you feel but I'm going to say it anyways. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. You'll never know what to do until you find out how she really feels. I hope everything works out.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

ahh! so i have this big problem =(
i get reallly shy around this guy i like.
and its getting worst every day!
ahh. in the beginning it wasnt that bad but now its getting worst and worst. ahh and i hate it. i mean i try to pull myslef together and get a grip and face him but im just too scared to!! why do you think that is?
also i want to be around him but once im there i pretend i dont know him and he wont talk to me either, hes the same as me.
but its weird becasue we used to talk in school a lot and we talk online almost everyday for atleast an hour!
this like almost never happens to me.
well it does everytime its a guy i like before im freinds with him =(( help me to get myself to RELAX and talk to him already!

You're probably just physcing yourself out. The longer you wait to talk to him, the more freaked out you're going to be. So just put aside your nerves and just go up and talk to him. Once you talk to him again for the first time it wont be as bad anymore. Good Luck!

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

okay, there's this guy i like in school, but i don't know what to do. I catch him looking my way a lot, but that's about it. He's friends with everygirls in my class, except four girls, including me. I don't know what to do. I really like him, and we kinda hit it off last year. But thenn we had summer vacay, and we didn't really talk.actually, there was no talking at all. now everythings weird, and we never talk. even when we were the only ones in a group together for an hour a whole week, or a group of three with the new kid, who dosen't speak english very well, we neer spoke. Help me, pleeeeeeeeeease! how can i start a conversation with this guy? help! guys, i would really like your help on who to go about this! thx, kitzy.

When you're thrown together again, just say hey. Bring up something you have in common like any classes you had together last year or this year, or a band you know he likes or something that was on the news. Or like I said just say 'Hey, what's up?' and take it from there. It's not that hard.

- _ - Jasmine _ - _

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