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What should i do? im so confused and hurt:(
Okay so theres ths guy that i really like: (im gunna put it in like..bullets so its easier to read):
It all started last month, around the beginning of March.
We've met before, but never really talked much because we don't go to the same school, but he lives in the same town as me.
We work at the same place, and that's basically how we started talking.
So over the weeks in March, we started to text all the time, every day; from the time we'd wake up to the time we'd go to sleep.
Everything was going well, and I got the chance to get to know him a bit more and he seemed like a really sweet guy. He just had bad luck with past relationships, because of the way he was treated.
The only problem: we never got the chance to hang out because I had drivers ed three times a week, basketball two times a week and work on the weekends.
This was a problem because he was always bugging me about hanging out, but I never had the time to.
So everything was going pretty well.
APRIL:
So he then invites me at the last minute to some semi-formal thing (on a Tuesday) and the semi was that Saturday.
I'm not able to go, because my parents don't know him and I wasn't getting great grades at the time.
Saturday comes and he's really, reallyyy sad that I can't go.
A couple of weeks go by, and everything is still going well.
Then, all of a sudden, he just starts acting wierd, and this carries on for tthree days.
I had to work one of the days and he said: "Oh, maybe I'll stop by,"
So he stops by, and we didn't talk but just smiled at each other. He stayed for about an hour.
After work I check my messages, and there are three from him explaining how he was sorry he acted the way he did.
Days go by, and then it's vacation.
Since I go to a catholic school in a different state (but we live in the same state) and he goes to public school in the state we both live in, our vacations are different.
I ended up going to florida for vacation, for a week. We texted the whole time I was down there and things seemed to be fine.
In the last two days I was down there, he didn't respond to my text messages.
I was worried something was wrong.
I got back from vacation, all happy to be home (sadly lol) and then I just look on his myspace (although I'm not allowed to have my own) and it says "in a relationship".
so I'm like: "Ohh great, what the hell happened now?". Then he signs on that night and tells me that his phone has been dead and it won't hold the charge.
So I asked him why it said "in a relationship" on his myspace and he's all like: "What? i thought you weren't allowed on myspace? I thought it was blocked?". And I'm like: "Nooo... It's not blocked. I just can't have a myspace,"
And so then he says: "About that... I thought you were just leading me on the whole time, and we haven't even hung out yet, so I was getting tired of it." This obviously means that he now has a girlfriend.
So I say: "Okay, I told you before vacation that after I come back, we could hang out because drivers ed would be done with."
He says: "Well, I don't remember that, and you didn't seem like you were interested in me that much, because you never made plans to hang out."
I definitley remember making plans to TRY to hang out but they didn't work because of drivers ed.
and then today at work he didnt talk to me. we made eye contact a few times, but nothing from there. like...i looked up and saw him looking at me and then i looked away and did the same.
Now he just won't talk to me or anything, and I don't know what to do.
What would you do if you were me?
Thanks,
Steph
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basically, what i would say, is when your at work or whatever, whenever you see him face to face, be like..
"hey, ok so its weird not talking to you all the time and stuff, and i did like you, its just i was really really busy, but now drivers ed is over, and i have a ton of time to hang out with people now, and even if you do have a girlfriend, i still would like us to be friends. it really hurts that we arnt friends right now."
and see what he says. it sounds like he still likes you. act fast enough, and ya'll will be friends again, and most likely more.
i hope it works out. (:
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I would make sure he knows you're not mad at him and then make plans to hang out, even if it's as friends. If you do like him tell him that you weren't leading him on and that you do like him, but if he does have a girlfriend tell him you would still like to be friends. You don't even know if the relationship he's in now is serious and it sounds like he likes you whether or not he has a girlfriend. So maybe once he knows you like him he'll ask you out or maybe he wont, I don't know. But the ball is in your court. Good Luck!
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If i were you i would quit worrying about this guy and chill out about it.
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Try talking to him about things. Ignoring each other & just staring at each other won't help the situation.
Sit down with him, or call him & talk to him that way. Explain to him how it is you feel, and why. Tell him you wanted to hang out but things didn't work out, and now you're available. When you have things planned that are mandatory, you can't clear your schedule for something that's optional. You have responsibilities.
If your friend doesn't seem to understand & he stays mad at you, then he's not worth it. Dumb things like this shouldn't be enough to make two people stop talking. Make sure he gets that through his head.
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