How do you get people to ask you questions on here?? I don't know how to do it? and nobody has asked me anything yet.
Adding to that, the better your answers, the more likely you are to get direct questions--at least I would assume so.
Just keep answering the public questions and you'll get noticed eventually, I'm sure (at least, that's what I'm counting on!).
But ultimately, does it matter that much if they're aimed at you? You can just as easily answer the public questions and be equally helpful.
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before answering,this question is not based on personality,so please don't answer..."if he has a nice personality"
i know this may seem like a wierd question,but i'm just curious,so thanks for taking the time.
do girls like classical or rock musicians?
and i'm confused,cause i hear girls say that they love musicians,but
1)is it based on skill.exp:the better the guitaring is.the more the girl likes the guy?
does skill affect?or do girls just don't care if he is a sucky guitarist or a pro,they will still like the guitarist as long as he plays guitar??
2)is it also based on looks,?or do girls love great drummers and vocals even through they don't look good? so which one would a girl choose? a kickass drummer with average looks or a sucky drummer with model looks?
thanks for answering,anyways,if you girls like any other type of guys besides musicians....like bikers,car racers or skaters...just feel free to say what talent you would love in a guy.although i hear that most girls are not really into guys that race,but more to guys that are musically or sports inclined,it that true???(this question is not based on looks or personality)
thanks a lot for reading.
In my experience, the answer varies with everyone you talk to.
Personally? I like a guy who's honest and has a real passion for something. Violence turns me off, but most other things, if there's true devotion, interest me.
On the other hand, you need to leave a bit of wiggle room and not devote yourself to a million different activities because then you won't have time for your girlfriend!
Do what you love. Because no girl I know of will be attracted to someone doing an activity he doesn't care about just to score a girl. On the other hand, if he can show passion and consistency, it shows that you can expect the same in a relationship.
As for looks, of course one would naturally tend toward a nicer looking guy if two guys were otherwise identical--but that situation will never happen. It's not about looks for me. It's about honesty to others and oneself, and, I'm sorry, but I have to say it--personality. None of these things can stand alone.
Your personality infiltrates everything you do. If you start playing an instrument just because you think girls will like it, they'll be able to tell, trust me. And that, more than anything else (at least in my own experience) is a huge turn-off.
I don't think that was exactly what you were looking for, but hopefully it was at least mildly helpful.
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I love my cat a lot. I spoil her. I spend so much money on her, including on food, treats, toys, and little cat furniture (like beds and such). But almost every time I feed my cat food, she eats a little of it, then starts kicking the bowl with her front paw, and scratching the carpet, trying to cover up the bowl (even trying to put stuff in it like a sock that was next to it, or her toys). I have no idea why she is doing this! I sometimes tried to stop her, but in a way I also think she has a good reason for doing it.. so I am not sure if I should anyway. What is my cat doing?? And what should I do?? Thanks in advance!
Generally, cats try to cover up what they think smells bad or is unappealing. My guy used to do this too, and he still does occasionally.
She might get used to the taste and smell, or you might want to try a different type of food. The fact that she is eating some is a good sign and it may mean that she will adapt to it. On the other hand, she might become more finicky--it really depends on her personality.
You might want to consult a vet about what types of foods would give her proper nutrition, and then try a few different kinds of those.
Good luck, and give her a pat for me!
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I'm looking for a sweet sixteen dress. I would like a pink one..can anyone tell me where i can find a cute dress?!
If you have any local thrift stores or used clothing stores, they'd definitely be worth checking out. Not only would you save some money if you found something, but you could find something really cute and unique.
Otherwise, you might even want to try local department stores or catalogues for places like Sears. You can find some decently priced dresses, short and long.
Of course there are always online stores, too, but they've already been suggested.
Good luck, and happy sweet sixteen!
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This is mostly for the ladies, or the gays pertaining to his or her boyfriend. If you and your boyfriend were messing around and he got hard but couldn't hold an erection for very long or had an orgasm, does it turn you off or make you think less of him to a point where you no longer want to have a relationship with him? (he says that it's not you but just because he's nervous). This is simply just messing around like playing naked no intercourse or anything.
The point is, is that I get really nervous around the guy i'm dating, we're not official but we've been going out for more than a month now. We have been messing around and I can't seem to hold an erection for very long. I believe it is because I am nervous and have performance anxiety... during the time that we've been dating, I have messed around with other guys that were not looking for relationships and have found that I can hold my erection for quite sometime... I'm really confused because I don't know whether or not it's just there's no physical attraction between us or just because i'm nervous... neither of us have really had a steady relationship or just a steady dating partner... I really don't know what to do and I think it's bothering him more than me... Any advice??
As a female who's never actually had a boyfriend, I suppose I can't know for sure how I would feel.
But with an explanation, I'd be fine with it. Probably even without. It will come with time (oh dear, no pun intended), just try to relax and enjoy.
Your boyfriend is male too, so I imagine he probably understands the position you're in even better than I could, or than any female could, as far as that goes.
Maybe the fact that you were messing around with the other guys offered you a certain level of detachment? You're dating this guy, so chances are that you like him a lot, and maybe that in itself makes you more nervous.
Good luck. Give it time, and try not to worry about it too much.
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is limewire leagal?
even if its a sharing program?
Just to add on to what was already said--if you're Canadian, and if I understand my laws correctly, you can legally download mp3's, video, etc. You cannot legally share it, however.
And you can expect that law to change sooner rather than later, or at least that's my guess.
The reason (again, I'm no law expert so take what I say with a grain of salt, or several) that it is currently legal is that there is an added surcharge on the CDs that you purchase in stores, which goes towards the artists or recording companies or . . . something.
You might want to double check these laws though, if it's something you're concerned about, because it's been awhile since I looked into them.
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What are the positives and the negative to masturbating...? I always wanted to know
There really aren't any negatives if you're safe about it (in other words, don't share sex toys, don't use anything dirty or not intended for sexual use, etc.)
The benefits are many. First, it's a great way to relieve sexual tension without going out and actually having sex. Second, you get a better idea of what works for you and what feels good, along with what doesn't. This knowledge can help make sexual intercourse better, too, because you can help your partner give you more pleasure.
Masturbation is nothing to be ashamed of, and assuming you do it safely, there is no reason not to. Find what you like! Enjoy it, and renew your appreciation for your body.
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whats a pansey or pansie how ever you spell it like when someone calls someone a pansie what does that mean
Generally it means someone is weak, or in the case of a male, unmasculine. Essentially the same thing as "sissy."
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Okay so theres this boy and he is real nice and all and I've been crushing on him forever and my friend was planning to tell him and if he finds out he will like me thats what always happens so I'm not sure if I should go through with this because he would give me is sweater and buy me candy and sit by me but the problem is that I'm shy I mean real shy and I know if we were together I shouldn't be so shy but I don't think thats me. What do I do?
Would it help if you told him you were shy? I know that probably sounds hard, but it would be a big relief, I bet.
Being with him, because you like him and it sounds like you really care about him, might even help you get over some of your shyness. I'm sure it won't make it go away entirely (unfortunately, I know!), but he might give you some new confidence.
Take a chance, if you can bring yourself to do it. Take it a moment at a time and tell yourself that you're doing just fine and you're accepted and okay.
It probably sounds like a load of crock, but it's how I've started to get past my social awkwardness--a slightly different problem, but similar enough. Push yourself just beyond your comfort zone, not to far, and not for too long. It doesn't even have to be with him. Start by smiling at someone you don't know. Once you master that, if you see someone you know, but not well, ask them how they're doing. Offer answers in class.
Don't rush yourself. You can do it.
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I'm 15/f and I've never kissed a guy or had a boyfriend. I'm getting alomst to da point of desperation. Any advice? How do I get dudes to do that? Is it wierd that I've neva been kissed? Thxxxx
If it's any comfort, I'm 20, I've never been kissed, and I've never even been asked out on a proper date.
There's no rush to be with someone. You want to experience your first kiss with someone you really care about, because it's the only time you'll be able to HAVE a first kiss. You want it to be special, or at least I would.
I know at times it feels like everyone else is ahead of you, and that you're missing out on something, but ultimately, it's just a kiss. It doesn't change who you are. It doesn't make you any more or less mature. It's just lips on lips for a moment or two.
So, as frustrating as it may seem, just remember that it will happen when it's the right time, and try and relax and be yourself! The more desperate you look, the more you'll scare away the guys who won't take advantage of you. ;0)
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sorry, i dont really know what topic to put this under.....
But,Okay, well me and my really really close friends are in a huge fight and i dont really talk to her any more at all, and well, i havent for about a month or so. Well, i guess my question is, i bought her and her family christmas presents and im really close with her family because we were friends for soo long and i just want to know if i should still give them the presents, because well, i dont have a problem with her or her family at all. welll, should i give them to them? or should i at least give her family their presents??
If you're interested in repairing your friendship with her, this could be the perfect opportunity. You could take the gift to her and her family and apologise, even if you don't think you did anything wrong. Sometimes it's not about who's right.
It's possible she has gifts for you, too, and she just doesn't know what to do. So if you're brave, I would give them, in person. Or, if you can't do that, leave them or mail them and attach a note, maybe?
One other thing--if you do apologise, make sure it's about what you did, not her. In other words, don't say "I'm sorry you were upset" or "I'm sorry you fought with me." Try "I'm sorry that I hurt you" or "I'm sorry that we got into a fight." Accept responsibility so she knows you miss her.
If you DON'T miss her or want her friendship back, well, I wouldn't give the gifts, but ultimately, it's whatever makes you more comfortable, and what you can live with.
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so heres the thing.. when i date people . i dont see [ color ] i see personality & charm
First of all, good for you! I'm glad that despite what other people say, you can stick to your principles and see people as, well, people. That can sometimes take a lot of courage.
Hold your head high, no matter what they say. It isn't their place to say anything at all, since by all accounts there's no reason to dislike your boyfriends. I could see them saying something about abuse if he was abusive, but not about skin colour.
You don't owe them any sort of explanation, so if you don't feel like giving one, you don't have to. But if you do, tell them simply and concisely how you feel--that you see people for the good in them, and that's that.
If the whole world was like you, it would be a far better place. Remember that when other people try to put you down.
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I have dis friend she always annoys me.She messes wit ma hair.There was also this time wen i had somthing really embaressing happened to me wen she was with me.Then she tells everyone about it and she keeps repeating wat happened to me thinking its funny.Me and my other friend r getting really annoyed she is a totall cry baby to.My friend think everyone lyks her.Im trying so hard to be nice to her.What should i do?Should i just keep ignoring wat she says or should i say somthing?
If you value your friendship with her at all, and if you think there's a chance it could improve, I would talk to her. How she reacts will really dictate how invested she is in the relationship, as well--if she's receptive to what you say, she values you more than if she blows you off or makes excuses.
If you can't ever see yourself being friends with her, but you want to end things nicely without having to confront her, gradually wean yourself from her. If she IMs you, for instance, answer her questions but nothing more. Don't initiate conversation. If she invites you somewhere, politely decline--you don't even have to give a reason.
But be prepared, in that case, for her to ask you what she did wrong--that's why it would be best if you can be honest with you.
After all, the worst that can happen is that she blows up and dismisses your friendship. If she's worth her salt, she won't do that.
Good luck, and be sensitive. There might be something in her life that she's having trouble dealing with--it's impossible to know. My advice? Be kind and be honest. Treat her the way you would want to be treated.
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i am a really nice person and i don't understand why so many people are mean to me...i mean i am really quiet and i don't bother nobody!
there is this person who is constantly putting me down and really hurting my feelings...i try not to let anybody know how bad he's hurting me....but it's really getting to me. you would think he would say it to my face instead of other people. i mean the stuff he is saying hurts me soo much....i'd rather be beaten physically than to have something killing me from the inside this much....
i really don't know what to do i just know i feel really bad about what's going on....espeacially when me and that particular person don't even know each other.....not to mention when he starts putting me down so does everyone else....
i know most people are going to say talk to him....but that's not an option...because if i talk to him i am probably going to get violent...because i am sick of this.
this is really really tearing me apart and i know you shouldn't let words bother you but after a while they began to really get to you and tear at you...what do i do?
Oi, I can totally sympathise--I was in essentially the same position during middle school and somewhat in early high school as well. Unfortunately, I took little action.
First of all, there's strength in numbers. Is there anyone else who's also treated poorly whom you could buddy up with, or at least befriend? In grade nine, there was a new girl in my class who wasn't treated well at all and we ended up hitting it off, making it a little harder for either of us to be attacked.
Talking to your guidance counsellor and teachers might help a bit, but obviously they can't (and won't) do much, the majority of the time.
I totally understand not wanting to talk to him, and I don't think you should. It would probably just let him know that what he's doing is working.
If it doesn't stop, you can at least help control the emotional damage outside of school. Join clubs you're interested in, or volunteer--you'll run into other sorts of people who share the same interests. If you're lucky, you'll see those same people at school and they'll stick up for you.
I know it might feel horrible, but try and remember that it's not personal. He's treating you like dirt because he feels better when he does it.
And I know a lot of what I've said here has been said to death on tv and in magazines and that it's only helpful to a certain degree.
But really, when you're in such a horrid situation (and it is horrid, don't doubt that), there's a limit to what you can do to make people change how they treat you.
One thing I wish I'd done was stand up for myself a bit more. It's hard, and you can't always do it, but when you can, do. Even if you can raise an eyebrow or pretend it doesn't hurt--pretend that you think it's absolutely ridiculous and childish. When I started doing that, it had waned somewhat, but they seemed to get the hint.
I wish I had something concrete to say that would fix everything, but bullying situations, especially verbal bullying, are not easy to deal with.
One other thing to remember--as long as it may seem, these people will grow up or move away. They won't be in your life forever. So don't give up hope. Find things you love doing, try and find friends, and try not to let them triumph over you.
And most of all? Don't beat yourself up over any of this. Don't beat yourself up over it happening, or over you letting it bother you. It isn't your fault, and it isn't fair.
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what's roleplay?
Roleplay is basically what it sounds like--you take on a role other than your real identity.
For instance, ever see those nurse costumes? Some men fantasize about being with a nurse, so their girlfriend might decide to pretend to be a nurse so their sex will be more exciting.
It's sort of like acting--a safer way to fulfill some of your fantasies.
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hey I'm Jackie, I'm 15. My question is that this weekend I was invited to go iceskating with my twin sister, her boyfriend Nick, and this really cute kid Eric, and this boy matt might be there too. The problem is that I was also invited to hang out with my group of good guy friends, I'm not sure, but there could be between 2 and 5 guys there. So I'm not sure if I want to go with my sister and flirt with one Eric, who may not flirt back, and may be only with Matt. Or go hang out with my 2-5 guy friends who I would be the center of attention with. Which do you think?
thanks
Well if you already accepted the first offer than it's an easy choice--don't go back on your word. If you haven't made any promises, it's a bit more of a pickle.
But really, is it so wrong to hang out with your sister and possibly not have anyone to flirt with? Ultimately it's up to you, but in the end, I would go with whomever asked first. Easy way to make the decision, and it's simple; say to the second "I'm sorry, but I already had plans."
Good luck figuring it out.
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My face is really oily and makes it really shiny, ive tried special face washes, the dermatologist and makeups. Does any one know any tricks to help with oily skin like reduce it or get rid of it?
-thanks
Well, what did the dermatologist suggest? Did you follow his or her instructions exactly as given? Did you go for a follow-up when it didn't work?
He or she should have suggested a new course of action since the first one didn't work. If that wasn't the case, it might be worth seeing a different dermatologist for a second opinion.
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OK I have a few little things here and there id like to fix. Are there any home remedies, products, or technequies I could use for this.
1.) Oily Hair- ok I have dark sholder length hair and its really oily. I wash it so I know its not dirty. Also im wonderring if hair balm makes it really oily cause I use it in the morning. How can I get it more normal and less oily?
2.) Oily Skin - My skin is also pretty oily. Like it kinda looks shiny in a way and when I take pictures my skin kinda shins at my chin and cheeks and its really annnoying. How can I make my skin less oily?
3.) Exema- i have Exema (not sure how to spell) but its on my head. Its annoying cause when I scratch it it gets into flakes and looks like dandruff. Anyway how to make it go away?
Thats mainly it... Please reply ill try many of the techniques so please dont write things that'll make it way worse
For the Excema, depending on the level of severity, you might be able to manage it with a shampoo created for dandruff, despite it not actually being dandruff. I use Nizoral and it's fairly effective.
For the oily hair, this will likely sound extremely counter-intuitive, but you need to stop washing it as often. Every time you wash it, you stimulate your oil glands to produce more oil, and thus it ends up becoming oilier and oilier more quickly. If you can stand leaving it unwashed for a weekend, start with that. Experts suggest you only wash your hair ever second or even third day to keep it healthy.
As for your oily skin, this again can be over-washing. Get a mild facial cleanser and use it twice a day--once before bed and once when you get up. Some foundations that are meant to reduce oil might help you as well.
But as suggested, it really would be a good idea for you to go see a dermatologist. They specialise in skin care, and they can give you the best answer.
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I've been pretty ill for about a week or so and haven't been able to eat, I've lived on tap water for the whole week and havn't eaten anything else. I've drunken about 1 1/2 to 2 litres per day, maybe a bit more. What will happen to me? Anything bad? What can it do? I'm scared but I can't bring myself to eat anything else...
The longer you go without eating, the harder it's going to be to start again.
You don't want to begin by eating a huge meal--that's unrealistic. Try switching to juice in place of some of your water, and maybe milk as well. You'll at least be getting a few nutrients.
If you can stomach protein drinks, it might help for now. You can get some that taste pretty good, and it would help you take in more calories as well as helping your body heal.
Does anything tempt you at all? Your favourite foods? Ice cream? Eating anything, even if it's junk food, is an improvement at this point.
If it continues for much longer, you should see your doctor about it--it might be something worse than just the flu. Your doctor would probably also have tips about how to increase your food intake again.
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Okay, Im sick of being fat.
I know how to diet and exercise and etc but I just cant stick to it for a long period of time but im trying.
Alot of people tell me Im pretty , but i just think Id be so much better looking If i was skinny.
I need something to boost my confidence or make me stick to the diet more continuesly.
Thanks!
The very first thing you should do is confirm that you actually need to lose weight. Have you talked to your doctor about it? Is your BMI (Body Mass Index) actually in an overweight or obese rating? You can check it here:
http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
Get into a routine with exercise. Try to do it at the same time each day if you can. Don't allow yourself to wimp out or make excuses because you're cheating yourself. Write down every excuse that comes to mind and figure out why it doesn't work (or if it IS a valid reason, recognise that).
You can add activity to your day in other ways, too. I'm sure you've heard them before--take the stairs instead of the elevator, park further away than usual, do some walking, even just run the vacuum.
You don't want to concentrate on food too much, or it risks becoming an obsession. 3500 calories is equal to one pound gained or lost. That does not mean, however, that you have to exercise off every calorie you eat, and then 3500 more! In fact, you should eat at LEAST 1200 calories, and you should actually probably aim for the number of calories you burn just by existing. You can find that number by calculating your BMR (Basal Metabolic Weight), as in here:
http://www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator/
Don't go on an extreme diet. It could lead to an eating disorder, or at the very least, the trap of yo-yo dieting. It's proven that the large majority of yo-yo dieters actually gain more weight than they lose. What you want to do is change your lifestyle. Eat healthier foods--vegetables, fruits, the typical stuff. Try different foods and ways of preparing them. Find a balanced diet that you can live with--permanently. That doesn't mean you can't have the occasional treat, but it does mean that you should be fairly consistent.
You need to change your lifestyle to something you can live with, not something that will help you lose five pounds one week, and gain back ten the next.
Also, wanting immediate weight loss is unhealthy and unrealistic. Aim for no more than two or three pounds a week, and don't be surprised if your efforts don't show up until about two weeks after you begin healthier eating and exercising.
Life changes take time and patience and you WILL occasionally fall of the wagon. The important thing is to plan for it, figure out how you'll get back on, and be accountable to yourself. If this is something you really truly want, you can discipline yourself into doing it. Make goals--you have to exercise for twenty minutes before you watch your favourite tv show, for instance--and stick to them, no excuses.
In the end, it comes down to how much you want it, and how hard you're willing to work for it.
Good luck, and be careful. Talking to your doctor is probably the first step you should take, and he or she will be much more help than anyone online, especially in making sure you're healthy rather than just plain thin.
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