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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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What are some classic Christmas songs?
Thanks :)
Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree
O Holy Night
I have to do this leadership thing, and it requires that you get your picture professionally taken. one of the pictures has to be "themed". but the problem is that i don't really have a specific hobby, you know? I mean, i read and write, but thats so lame for a picture. I really don't wanna look stupid, because these pictures are going to be in malls and other public places.
i need some really creative ideas here. i have to bring in props and outfits for 3 pictures. I don't really play any sports, but i love being outside and i want to travel when i get older, if that helps.
PLEASE give me as many suggestions as you possibly can think of. thanks so much!
What's lame about enjoying reading and writing?
My suggestion is take a stack of your favorite books to use as props. The professional will come up with a pose that looks good.
Just my thought.
ygs-30/f
about how many ciggarette packs do you need to smoke, in order for you to experience health side affects from it?
Wise words from a trying to quit smoker:
Don't start.
It's nasty.
It stinks.
It's very hard to quit.
EVERY cigarette does damage.
You just don't realize it until you can't breathe,
you have to cough up a lung and hork loogies every morning,
your teeth and fingers are stained,
and every chest cold feels 10 times worse while taking far longer to get over.
There are worse things than all that, too. But it all boils down to how all of that nasty stuff starts with ONE cigarette.
They do damage from DAY ONE.
ygs-30/f
Is watching a fight in a public place illegal? Such as some guys fighting at the bowling alley and then getting caught by the police, would the bystanders get in trouble? Many thanks if you answer.
Why would an innocent bystander get in trouble?
The fighters- Yes, I can see them getting in trouble for fighting, especially inside a private establishment such as a bowling alley.
Say you are bowling and a couple of guys get into a fight. Is it your fault they're doing it and you happen to be there? No. Is it your fault that it's human nature to be a lookie-loo when such things happen? No.
So where is the crime in that?
As far as I know, there isn't.
I could be wrong, but I've honestly never heard of such a thing.
ygs-30/f
Open Minded and Knowledgable answers only please. OK, so I was watching this thing on youtube where this guy comes home from work and after he does all his nightly things, he dresses up like a woman and then has some champaigne and a cig and relaxes. Now my question is what is the thought process? Like when you say ok, I am a guy, but for the next i donno 2 hours i am giong to be a woman...do you start thinking like a woman? do you start like being in the mind process of a woman or do you still keep your male perspective and thought process? Fill me in... thank you.
I agree with the answer below, but thought I'd add.
Some guys do it as a fetish.
Not always because they want to be, or think they should have been a woman, but because it does something for their sexuality to dress in women's clothing.
ygs-30/f
One of my mom's friend's practices alternative medicine/acupuncture... she told me about a simple method of meditation, and recommended I start using a meditation CD.
Before I ask her for recommendations, does anyone know of any good meditation CD's (preferably with female voice and calm music)? Thanks!
I don't know if Enya is considered meditation music, but it fits your criteria.
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So, I'm making Thanksgiving dinner this year for my family. I've already asked about how to make a delicious Turkey for Thanksgiving, but I left out a very key question.
When purchasing a Thanksgiving turkey, what should I look for? I will be feeding my whole family (5 people total but they eat A WHOLE LOT) so I am now rethinking the size of the turkey I thought would be best. I am also unsure of which brand is best, and if the cheapest is actually the best bargain or not. I'm also curious if all Thanksgiving turkeys come frozen or if some of them are fresher than others. There are also some with pop up thermometers to let me know when the turkey is done cooking, but I'm not entirely sure if they are worth the purchase or if I should just cook the turkey according to my recipe.
I've heard of people purchasing spoiled turkeys from the supermarkets. Even my mother brought home a turkey once and the whole back end of it was BLACK! I want to end up with something GOOD, so I need information before I head out and start choosing turkeys for Thanksgiving! Choosing the right Thanksgiving turkey is already confusing.
So, what should I look for when purchasing a Thanksgiving turkey so I get something delicious that my whole family will love?
The only thing I can add to the answer below is don't lay your trust in pop-up timers.
My folks have always cooked turkey for so many hours according to the weight. (Not being a turkey cooker, I can't give you that info. DO ask YG. She knows... Her link: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=YG)
Anyhow, many times, if they would have gone by that timer, their turkey wouldn't have been completely cooked.
YG can also give you advice on the weight you should get, considering she's cooked many Thanksgiving dinners entertaining several family members.
Another bit of advice: Many folks get "bad turkeys" because they don't properly thaw the bird. NEVER thaw the turkey on the counter, in a tub of water, etc. Always put the frozen bird to thaw in your refrigerator 3 or so days in advance.
Best of luck to you! Do follow that link and ask YG in her inbox. She can give you excellent cooking advice!
ygs-30/f
okay well im a real tease around my boyfriend, like ill kiss all around his lips but not on his lips. but he wants to know how to do that back to me and he cant thing of anything to do to me to tease me like that...
guys are is there anything you do to your girls to tease them?
or girls is there anything your guys do to you that make you go absolutly crazy?
You should know that answer, considering you are a girl, and surely know what you like.
I am a 26yr old female with 2 children ages 3 and 9. I have been on the depo shot until July'08. I was due for my next shot Aug'08 but I did not get one. I did not have a period for the month of September however I got one Oct 1-4th. The week of Oct 6th I had the white filmy discharge during sex. The week of the 13th I ovulated. On 10/14 cramping. 10/15 I was spotting. THen on 10/16 bad cramps. 10/28 I had very bad cramping and back pain. I was due for my period on 10/29 and nothing came.
It is now November and I am 3 weeks late today and have taken 7 pregnancy tests and they are all negative. On 11/17 I felt cramping and I was spotting. It felt as if my period was coming and still nothing. ON 11/18 I was also cramping and spotting but it was pink not red. I took a preg test this morning with 1st morn urine and preg test still negative. I go to the GYN on 11/21 to get a blood test. I dont know what is wrong with my body. I have preg symptoms like headaches, fatigue and my breast were sore for 2 weeks straight feeling full and engorged. What should I do?
**I'm going to give you my thoughts, but PLEASE keep in mind, I'm not a medical professional. This is just me throwing my thoughts out.**
Best thing to do is stay calm and wait for your GYN visit. They'll probably do the test and give you an exam. Maybe in the same visit. They will do their best to try to figure out what is causing the problem.
It could be something along the lines of your cycle being imbalanced due to the Depo shot. After I had my first, we discussed me taking Depo, but it would have made it harder to plan another child when we wanted.
Once you stop Depo, it can take up to a year for you to be fertile enough to become pregnant again.
However, you can still become pregnant once you stop the treatment, as well.
The filmy discharge COULD have been caused do to hormonal changes, also because of you not taking the shot. Kind of like the discharge during pregnancy that is due to hormonal changes.
Headaches, fatigue, and sore breasts are also menstrual symptoms. It could be that you are getting ready to start your period, which stress can delay. (I'd say you've been stressing- 7 tests...)
I have two babies, 21 months and 8 months old. After post natal bleeding, my periods came regularly, if not a week early on occasion. Both were born by c-section.
The only form of birth control after my first was condoms, and after my youngest was born, I had a tubal ligation. But I was most likely still regular due to the fact that I didn't take hormonal birth control.
So my guess is that your birth control is what is effecting your menstrual cycle.
Boy, that was long winded!
Good luck to you, and try not to stress and worry. Believe me when I say I know how hard it is not to.
ygs-30/f
Im 21 years old and this is my story...
It all started 6 years ago,my father started having problems with his company and he would always throw his tantrums on my family,i have 2 elder sisters.he would get upset over the most ridiculous things such as,why isnt the rice cooked nicely,or y is the music so loud,he never lets us go out with our friends or whatsoever.he hits us all the time if we were to do something wrong.my father is a good man,i know,he provides alot for us,i feel he just do not know how to handel his emotions.one day he caught me talking on the phone when everyone was a sleep,he redail the number i found out i was talking to a boy,he started hitting me so hard,he punched me,he dragged me up the stairs,he threw a weight scale on me,he did all sorts that at the end of the day i was so bruised up,i had no space left for another bruise.my mom didnt let me go to school for a week so my scar would heal,so that no one would question me,my teacher saw it tho,she wanted to report my father but i didnt allow it.and when i finally was allowed to go to school,i ran away..i manage to run away for 3 days only till my mom found me,things were horrible in the house,both my sister left the house after awhile cuz no one could take it anymore frm my father,i was the last one left until finally i was old enough to survive on my own,i stayed away for 2 years on my own,my father fell sick between that 2 years and i went to see him in the hospital,but i was not allowed 2 becasue the docs didnt wanna cause him more stress.after 2 years my 2nd sister decided to go home,and my father gave in,and then i decided to come home after awhile,and i talked to my dad,and according to him,it was all my fault the family was apart.now im currently working with him,but he is not paying me and he does not allow me to work anywhere else.i wanted to study too but he didnt allow that,both my sisters had the advvantage of studying and going overseas.but all this problem started when it was my turn to study.now,he still does not allow me to study and im worried that,if anything were to happen to himmm i will have nothing to fall back on to,he still treats me and my sister like kids,we are not allowed to come home afetr 11pm,we cant do anything that we want 2,boys are not allowed,things like that,i decided to give in,but even thou,he still treats us like crap despite his terms and conditions im still here trying to make things better,but when something upsets him,he does not talk to us n make us feel real dumb.there is no way of talking to him at all,he is always right,no one can tell him otherwise,even my mom is giving up.i need a solid future,but im not getting it..im really worried to what i should do.i know there are far worst problems thats others may have,but please..i really need advice!
ps:my eldest sister has not returned home till now and i have not seen her for 3-4 years already,and there are many things i left out but i didnt want my post to be extreamly long sorry!
First off, it is NOT your fault that bad things have happened in your family. That is him refusing to place blame where it belongs, which is on himself.
Now, what you need to do is try to find a means to GET OUT. You're 21 years old! You should be living your own life, meeting people, getting that education you want and deserve. He is your father, not your warden.
But since you live under his roof, he will continue to be your warden because he can. Yes, he can lock you out if you aren't home by 11. Yes, he can refuse to allow you to have friends over. His home, his rules.
You're very right in your worries of not having anything to fall back on if something were to happen to him.
Why did you go back? Out of guilt because he fell sick? Not to sound heartless, but I believe in what comes around goes around. He beat and abused you, then falls ill. Karma.
Go out into the world. Find who YOU are. You won't find that young woman until you have the freedom to do so. You should be a young woman coming up in the world right now. Instead you're living the life of a 14 year old girl.
He doesn't want to help you come up in the world, so you have to do it the hard way- on your own.
Go out on your own and make something of your life now before that day comes along when you start to tell yourself it's too late. Because by that point, most folks start to believe that.
ygs-30/f
i dont really know what im trying to ask here. im in 10th grade this year, and i feel like these few teachers i have ( there are three i cant STAND) i feel like they dont respect me. they treat me like shit & im about to go off on all of them , and get in more trouble. what would you do?
Hmmm... Very good question.
What would I do? I'd start by talking to the teachers, and explaining the way they make me feel.
Try that. If that doesn't help, perhaps talk to your parents and seek their advice. Believe me. They don't want anyone, especially a teacher, treating you like that.
Good luck, and I hope things start looking up.
ygs-30/f
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my parents have this rule right? and its that no boys are allowed to stay in my room overnight until im 18. they say its cus it would be like, inviting us to have sex and they dont approve of it. - which is weird cus my bf is allowed in my room till like, 1am and we end up having sex then anyway. thing is, when we've discussed it in the past, i asked them what would happen if i was gay - whether they would not allow my best friends who have stayed in my room for the past 10 years or so stay over any more. and what would happpen if i was bi - would they not allow any one to stay over? wel anywho, they ended up saying that it was "like me" to just say i was gay to be allowed guys to stay over and then as soon as im 18 to say, oh no I'm straight again. I dont know where they get this from and i wouldnt do anything like that at all. but now i do actually wanna come out to my parents and i dont think they will believe me! Im really open and into gay rights and ive always been that way, and my mum knows ive had sex with guys and that i have a boyfriend so - how do i get her to believe me?
Well, best thing I can tell you is to give them time. It could be that they'd think the reason you mentioned, or just not want to believe it.
If you want to tell your mom, tell her. Tell her she can believe it or not, but it's true. Then let her wake up to that reality in her own time.
ygs-30/f
Why do quarterbacks throw spirals? Detailed responses! thanks
Ok, I'm not completely certain, but I think the spiral causes the ball to go further (wobbling ball cuts down distance, aerodynamically speaking). The tighter the spiral, the better, and more accurately, it flies.
ygs-30/f
15/f
my boyfriends 16, and we've been dating like a year and three weeks and we started dating like the day after we met so everything is getting to the point where i'm really comfortable with him and everything. we don't really go on dates due to no money or rides because neither of us can drive and i'm fine with that so we just normally hang out at each others houses. he has only been to my house like 2 times and i go to his house like 2 or 3 times a week so i wanted to start inviting him to my house a little more often. it's just hard at my house because most days someones arguing and crap. anywayyyys my question is what are some fun things we can do that don't really cost much? or nice things i can do for him?
thanks a bunch!
Well, you could always go for walks together. Gives you time to talk to one another, and you're bound to happen across something fun to do in the process.
ygs-30/f
My cousin was going to be in labor this week or next week, she went to the doctore yesterday and she lost her baby before labor. she had to reduced labor. baby was just so pretty he is perfect. they weight him and going to bastize him. and it was stuck in cord. anyway please keep her in your prayer. i really feel bad becouse she desver have that ... Read Morebaby. her mom walk out of her life font of her she was 8 and lost her sister HOlly she nver seen and her grandma she become close to. now she lost frist of her child be worst day her life. i don't know she be the same becouse she never have alot in her life. i do'nt know why god plan something like this i know it maybe not god i don't know hwy this happend. she so young and was wanting the baby. we pray so hard for marchle now our famly be in greift i know my grandma and my aunt lose it just lost 3 people last few month and years.
Well, I'll definitely keep your family in my thoughts.
You're right... She probably never will be the same again. Having two babies of my own, I don't know how I'd do without them in my life. Just be there for her. She needs all of the love, support, and shoulders to lean on that she can get right now.
I don't know why God does things like this. The best answer I can give for that question is that it must be that everything happens for a reason, even though we may never see what that reason is.
Or, at least that's what I've been telling myself since my baby cousin died back when I was a kid.
I wish I could be more helpful to you, but in a situation like this, there really isn't much one can say to make another feel better. :-(
Sending you my heart in your time of need
ygs-30/f
ok
for some reason i keep trying to upload a picture of myself to my advice column but...
it keeps saying they were not allowed to upload because it is bigger than 15k
the thing is that it is really small so i dont know why it keeps saying that
any suggestions on what to do??
thank you in advance and any help is appreciated.
Go to tinypic.com and upload the photo of your choice there. I usually pick the size option that is for websites. (I think...)
Anyhow, after the picture is uploaded, select the choice of seeing the actual photo size to insure it looks shrunk enough to go on your column.
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I have always had very regular bowels but lately I find I am feeling very constipated. What can I do or eat to help this stop. I never ever had constipation befor recently. What can I do???
Avoid laxatives. They are hard on your body, and your bowels may come dependent on them.
Try natural things such as eating plenty of fresh fruits and veggies. Strawberries are an excellent source of fiber, and they taste yummy in the bargain. Drinking 100% fruit juices also help out. Beans are high fiber (though come with gas). Cabbage, broccoli, such as that. All good for you and help get things moving.
If it comes down to needing to buy something to help, try a fiber drink like Metamucil. If that doesn't work, stool softeners. But NOT anything that says laxative on the box!!
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I got pregnant May of 2006 and had my son Jan. of 2007. There wasn't much complications they thought he had down syndrome but it was false. I gave birth to him okay. They had given me a lot stiches afterwards that's about it. I am trying to get pregnant again and it's not working and its not the guy. I heard after your first kid its easier to get pregnant again??
Well, I got pregnant with my youngest when my oldest was 4 months old. (In fact, my oldest was born a month after your baby.) I don't know if it has anything to do with getting easier to get pregnant, or not.
Something that does make it harder, no matter how many you've had, is trying too hard.
A friend of mine and her husband tried for 2 years before deciding to just not take birth control, and if it happens, it happens. Since they relaxed about it, a couple months later she was pregnant.
So if you guys are wanting to have another, try to relax about it. Enjoy each other and keep babies out of your head for a while. If it happens, it happens... Right?
ygs-30/f
Last year may i met a boy that i realy liked and even tho i knew he had a girlfriend i lyked him alot . All of us were hangin out (his girlfriend too) and drinking after a couple of drinks she got drunk and he took her home when he came bak one thing led to another and we ended up kisin...for months after that we were talkiing on the fone and he finally left her and we got together. The thing is a couple of weeks ago i heard that his ex was pregnant for him and that they got an abortion the thing is when i ask him about it he doesnt want to anser he jus asks me y i bringin that up...but in a way i feel dat its my fault and if i didnt go there they would hav had the baby....im fellin reallly guilty what should i do?
Well, fact of the matter is, you don't know that you coming into his life changed anything.
What I will say is this... He best be giving you better answers regarding her abortion.
Fact of the matter on that is, what if he gets YOU pregnant?
You'd be better off knowing how he reacted in that situation so you can either be:
A) Prepared for him to bail on you.
B) Tell him to buzz off.
Just remember this important fact: Don't forget how he treated her, because now you are walking in her shoes.
ygs-30/f
We've [being me and my friend] are making videos using the video mode on my camera. My camera is a Kodak EasyShare C613, and we don't know how to download the videos to Windows Movie Makers. Also, how do you like get the camera reconized[or whatever its called]. Everytime sonething pops-ups saying that it can't be used, or that my videos are in the wrong place, or idk it just doesn't work. Help! Please!
Also if you know of any FREE video making things that you can download for FREE please tell!
Thanks! Sorry, its confusing!
I had that trouble, too. See, the problem is that the video is in the wrong format. I always convert my videos to avi for use on WMM.
This is the free program I use for video conversion...
http://www.radgametools.com/bnkdown.htm
Download Rad Video Tools, which is the link at the top.
Now, I'll tell you what I know to convert using this program...
Open the program (Listed in my start menu as Bink and Smacker, then select RAD Video Tools.)
Where it says Look In, select the folder that contains the video you want to convert. For example, mine are in My Videos.
From that folder, click on the video you wish to convert.
There are 12 buttons on the bottom... Click Convert A File. Bottom Left.
Now, you come to the next page.
At the top, where it says Output File Info, look to the right of that line for the button that says Output Type.
Click it and select AVI File. (Check every time you convert a video to insure AVI is still selected.)
Now. On the far right, under the Bink icon, click Convert.
Next, a couple of boxes pop up. The top one being Video Compressor. I don't know much about that, so I always choose the automatic choice it gives, which is Full Frames (Uncompressed).
Sometimes, if you took several small clips of video on your Kodak (mine is Easyshare Z650 in case there is a difference in this step...) It will give the option of compressing all of those clips into one video clip. I always do, but that is really up to you.
Hope that helps and isn't confusing. :-)
ygs-30/f
P.S.
Figured I better add...
When I hook my camera to my computer via USB cable to move the files, it puts all of them, video included, in Easyshare program. You need to move them. The only way I've figured that out is one at a time. Move them to My Documents, then from there to My Pictures (for pics) My Videos (for vids).
Now, I'm not really tech savvy, so it took me a while to figure out that if I put the memory card into the front of my computer, I can move all of my camera files straight to any computer folder I wish.
My memory card content can always be found under My Computer, H Drive.