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ok i wrote this like b4 but i was wondering..

see i have a bf namd chris.. who i love with everything i can love someone with.. ive been with him for 9 months (i knew him for 3 years prior to that) and im still CRAZY about him. I want to be with him forever. I love him so much. and im 15. i would die for him and theres like 3 other ppl i can say that about. i lost my virginity to him bc i wanted to always remember him no matter where in life we went. i think about marring him and having his kids. (not now of course!) and like when i think of him ever moving away i cry! like it upsets me that much! or like if something bad would ever happen to him like say he dies.. i cry! i mean i hear ppl on here talk about love.. but i kno im in love. and with the things with my mom and how she doesnt want me to be with him cause he is black (im white) well it just makes me want to stay with him more and it makes me fall more in love with him! its like i dont care what ANYONE has to say about me and him.. i love him and i cant help it. i would do anything for him! and for me to be 15 and think like this.. well when i told my cousin about it she thought i was dumb and that i shouldnt be tied down like that. but i tried to tell her i dont want to be with no one else besides him! i want to be with him forever. and dont think im some 15 yr old girl thats talkin outta her a$$ here.. i never said this about no one and probally wont for a long long loooooong time. but im dead serious. is it ok for me to feel this way? i just want ur opinions. its not like gonna change the way i feel for him if u guys say no its not normal. but i just want to hear from you all.

thanks a bunch
Manda

No. I think its normal. Your heart controls who you love, you have no control over it. And the fact that you don't care what people think (since he's black and your white) is really sweet and cute! And even though you're only 15 years old, you can find love no matter how old you are. Don't let that change. And you never know, you could get married to Chris and have his kids. But, I think its so cute and sweet. You guys sound like the cutest couple ever!! =D I hope everything turns out for you two and you guys last FOREVER!

xoxo Kourtney

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is it wrong to be so in love that you would die for him?

No, I dont think so. I mean don't go all suicidal on the person though. But, love does make you do crazy things and makes you think crazy things also.

xoxo Kourtney

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I met this guy, this AWESOME guy... I used to be one of those, daring girls, i would have turned really slutty and a rebel..huge if i didn't find this guy, this guy is a strong christian, he turned me around and got me help through God, he took me to church and everything and showed me how strong God is and how much I need him. He didn't like me after awhile. And that was my first love. im 14, who can feel love at this age, i know sounds stupid as ever. But this guy, had the greatest impact on my life, we're best friends, and he does this to every girl, just leaves everyone for a new one. Hes really good looking, and a really good kid. It's just, he was everything that I wanted. I've told him I loved him, he doesn't understand. I'd die for that kid.. Well, I almost did once, actually. He means everything to me. But recently we got into a fight that lasted for a month, that was the worst time in my life, it was the loneliest, coldest month of summer in my life. He forgave me, and we're okay now, but we're not as close. I want to be close, I told him I miss him.. But.. I'm still heartbroken and I still love him and I want to be here for him, even if it is just his best friend. But we aren't that close anymore, and I want to be that "best girl" in his life, the one who was there to wipe his tears and to hold him close when all was wrong. PLease help me..Just tell me what's going on... Please...

babii balla

I know you already told him how you feel, but I think you need to have another talking with him. But, I'll try to help you out though. Just tell him something like "You really changed me into a better person, you got me going to church and me stopping all my rebel ways. I love you for that. I told you once before on how I felt about you, and you just brushed me off your shoulder like I didn't say anything. And we aren't even the best of friends that we were, we even got in a fight that lasted a month, the whole time we weren't talking, was the loneliest time of my life. I missed you so much! You have no idea... and even if you dont have the same feelings as I do for you, then can we atleast be close friends again? Because I would really love that. I'm pouring my heart out to you right now and I just want to be friends if you don't want a relationship with me..." Just say something like that and just how you feel about this whole relationship. I hope this helps and works. Good luck hun. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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How long should u wait to know someone before you should kiss them??????

There isn't really any limit on how long you need to know someone to kiss them. If you feel comfortable then kiss him/her or if the moment is right, go for it! =P If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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okay im 17 years old and after my last relationship( with a guy i fell in love with)i havent been able to find anyone that i can go out with and not think about and compare them to him what should i do

I know what you're talking about. Except I thought I was in love with him, and I just thought about all the crap he did and put me through, and all that stuff. And my friends introduced me to a guy. Maybe, thats what you need to do. Just don't compare EVERY guy you see because that won't get you very far, thats what I did. To get him off your mind, try thinking of all the bad stuff he did to your or whatever, and just go out and have fun. Because when you're out having fun, is when you get everything off your mind. Try going to parties or whatever is fun in your neighborhood. And when you see a guy that is hot or catches your eye, try talking to him and getting his number or giving him your number. And don't think of your ex or anything, just the guy you just met. You're 17, you're still young and you only live life once after all. So go out and have fun! Hope this helps and good luck hun, everything will turn out okay, you just have to be positive about it. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i asked you this: okay so i really like this guy and hes going out with this one girl...it seems like this guys likes me i mean he calls me almost everynight and we talk for hours and when where together he always wants me to do stuff with him (like kiss and stuff) but hes going out with his girlfiend so why would he be going out with his girlfriend if hes making it seem like he likes me...

and you answered:BlueEyedBlondie725 answered Saturday August 21 2004, 8:41 pm:
Guys are so confusing! I think you should try talking to him and just be like "You have a girlfriend, but when I'm with you, you always want to kiss me and stuff. Why do you do that if you have a girlfriend? I mean if you do like me, then why are you going out with her? I just want to know what you're doing." Just say something like that and ask him whatever you want to know. But, if you two DO hook up, I hope he doesn't do this to you like he is with his girlfriend right now, you might want to talk to him about that too. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney





i'ved asked him like +654+7468746487468746454 times and all he says is "why dose everything have to be about her" and i answer ummm maybe beause you are going out with her...and he says so... so do you have any furture advice?

Geez does this boy not get it? Hmm, well just be like "I know I've asked you over and over and you just always say 'why does everything have to be about her' well because for one you are going out with her, but you act like we're going out, well do you like me or are you playing me? I just need to know, just please answer that." And if he does say he likes you just be like "Then why do you have a girlfriend, when is it going to be me and you? And if we do go out, would you be doing the samething to me that you're doing to your girlfriend?" Just say something like that. If you have already said stuff like that, then just post another message in my inbox. Hope this helps and good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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okay so i really like this guy and hes going out with this one girl...it seems like this guys likes me i mean he calls me almost everynight and we talk for hours and when where together he always wants me to do stuff with him (like kiss and stuff) but hes going out with his girlfiend so why would he be going out with his girlfriend if hes making it seem like he likes me...

Guys are so confusing! I think you should try talking to him and just be like "You have a girlfriend, but when I'm with you, you always want to kiss me and stuff. Why do you do that if you have a girlfriend? I mean if you do like me, then why are you going out with her? I just want to know what you're doing." Just say something like that and ask him whatever you want to know. But, if you two DO hook up, I hope he doesn't do this to you like he is with his girlfriend right now, you might want to talk to him about that too. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey. Im going school shopping tomorrow. And my style is preppy I guess you would say. Where are some places to shop online?

Hey! Aww I love clothes! Try shopping at:

American Eagle
Abercrombie and Fitch
Hollister
Aeropostale
Forever 21
Bebe
Express
Gap
Charlotte Russe

*Hope those help and have fun shopping!=P*

xoxo Kourtney

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my boyfriend after 4 years of dating...that the whole thing was a bet to see how long he could play me!!! wtf is up with that?!?!?!

OMG! I'm so sorry!! I don't think that he would play a bet for 4 years! Thats just alittle odd right there. There's no way! I think it might of been an excuse of just how to break up with you. Guys are dumb sometimes when it comes to breaking up with you. They don't always think. I mean if you think about it, 4 years of playing you? He wasted 4 years then. I mean come on, thats dumb, if it was a bet on how long he could play you, he would of only done it for a couple of months, not years! But, you deserve a WAY better guy than that. You just need to move on and get yourself out there and get a guy that will treat you right. Just go out and have fun and meet new guys and don't be shy. Go to parties, or the mall, or something. I hope this works and good luck hun, I'm so sorry! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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hey, well im sorta overweight so it's hard to shop at stores ya kno? where wuld be a good store to get clothes or website if i have a somewhat ghetto style. id shop at a place like deb but all their clothes are for lil skinny mini'z n whatever. so if u can plz help..

Hey! Oh geez, I can't really help you on this one =/ I'm sorry. I shop at like Hollister and stuff like that, so I'm not too sure where you can buy "ghetto clothes" Try looking up some websites, on www.ask.com and seeing if they would have any clothes that you like there. Just type in the style you're into and some websites should pop up for you! I hope this helps and sorry I wasn't much help for you =/

xoxo Kourtney

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me and my boyfriend have been together for 15 months now. I'm 16 and he's 17. He's gonna be a senior this year and im gonna be a junior. We're in love so much, it scares me and even makes me cry sometimes. I'm so afraid of losing him when he goes off to college. is it abnormal to be feeling these feelings now? I would love to spend the rest of my life with him. We even talk about it sometimes. I tell myself "if it's love, it'll all work out" Yet i still think about it. I love him so much and would like die if we broke up lol. not really but u get what im saying. Is it wrong to feel like this so early?

NO! It's not wrong to feel that way at all. 15 months is along time to be going out with someone. You can't control how you feel, you really love this kid! Just tell him how you're feeling, I'm sure he feels the same way. Just be like "You know I love you so much, but you'll be going off to college and I'll just be a senior, I'm so afraid we're going to break up, I don't want to lose you, I don't know what I would do if I lost you.." Just say something like that and go from there. Just talk to him about how you're feeling and then you two can talk about it. You just have to make it work and just trust each other and be positive about it for it to work, and talk to each other when you think something is wrong or whatever. Hope this helps! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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why did i just get really grossed out when my boyfriend told me he had to go take a shit? i mean i love him and we've been together for 15 months, shouldnt i already be over the "omg eww he goes poop" stage? lol

Well, that is gross.. lol. So, its okay to get grossed out by it. Atleast he's comfortable telling you things. So, try to look on the bright side of all of it, you don't have to worry about him not telling you things, after all he's telling you things you get grossed out by and he's comfortable telling you things. Which is great that he's comfortable. But, everyone does take a crap, so just look at it that way. Next time he says it, just kind of look at it that way! lol. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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I was with a guy for six months and we were so incredibly close, I've never been more close to anyone in my entire life. He told me he was in love with me and we had so many plans once I graduated because he will be this year. But this summer we took a break because something wasnt right. And I came back from Cali and he liked his ex gf who I absolutly hate. And she cheated on him three times when they were together before. And so it really pissed me off and now they have their little thing. And she seriosuly is straight up to God a big slut so yeah they can have their fun...

Right now I just want to get over him completely cause I have more damn respect for myself then to deal with that. So what are ways or little things I could do to get over him?

I'm really sorry to hear that, some guys just don't think at all huh? Err. Well, that is really good that you have respect for yourself =D But, just go out and have fun and meet new people. Whatever is fun in your state go do that. Like, go to a party, the mall, out with friends, have them introduce you to some guys, etc. Anything that is fun and will keep him off your mind and keep NEW guys on your mind. And once you see that guy that catches your eye, get to know him and maybe give him your number. Hope this helps and good luch hun! If you need anymore help, just post another message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ive been with this guy for 8 months and just last month i got a fone call saying that he was cheating on me. when i tol him about this he just said oh babe dont listen to her she just hating. befor all this shit happend he would call me like 9 times a day and now after all this drama he only calls me every 4 days but sometimes if im lucky he'll call me for 2 days straight and then he will stop and go back to the 4 day thing...i love this guy alot but im so confused i just dont know what to do...i need help...PLEASE!!!

This is a tough situation. But, maybe try talking to him about it and just be like "We've been going out for 8 months and you use to call me all the time, and then when I got that phone call a month a go saying you were cheating on me, you call me every 4 days. What's up with that? I mean, if you're cheating on me, you need to just tell me right now but if you're not cheating on me, then why is it that we only talk every 4 days?" Just say something like that and how you feel and stuff. But, if you still feel like he's cheating on you, maybe try talking to that girl that called you and try to get proof if he is cheating on you or not. Or, you can try calling him randomly one of these days and just surprise him and see what he is doing or whatever. I hope this helps and good luck hun!! Hope everything turns out okay. If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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If a guy that you like gets mad at you.. even for something stupid.. this happened to me during the school year.. and he was playin mad and stuff.. what do u do? cause like i always got close with a guy and we'd joke around or whatever and then he'd like get mad.. but not seriously mad just this like 'im not tlaking to u u said this " or whatever.. what do u do?

Try talking to him and asking him why he does that. Just be like "You know I like you and then we got to be close and then all of a sudden you stopped talking to me and got all mad at me. I dont want you mad at me.. I'm sorry. But, why are you mad at me?" Just say something like that and just figure out why he's mad at you and wont talk to you because you said that. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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if a girl that u like is mad at you what should you do

Tell her you're sorry. You can either talk to her face-to-face, on AIM, or write a letter to her. Just be like "I know you're mad at me, but I don't want you to be, and I'm REALLY sorry for what I did (tell her why you did it or w/e) and you know I like you, but I would hate for you to be mad at me, PLEASE forgive me..." Just say something like that. If you need help with this, just post a message in my inbox telling me what you did or whatever. Good luck.

xoxo Kourtney

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I've been thinking of growing a mustache and goatee.
I was just wondering though.....do girls like that or is it generally a turn-off?

Some girls like it and some girls dont. It just all depends on the girl you are with. I personally like when a guy is cleaned shaved or whatever. But, if you're with a girl, just ask them if they would like you with a goatee or a mustache. Hope this helps =D

xoxo Kourtney

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hey i am the girl who asked about likeing my best friend ok i flirt with him all the time and my friends say he flirts back but i don't know if it's just for fun or if he means it and i am to shy to come right out and ask him if u dont know who i am just im me at xox babygrl91 xo

Hey!! Guys are so confusing and thats the one thing I hate about them, you NEVER know what they're thinking! ERR lol. But, he does flirt with you, so thats a good sign. But, since you are shy, maybe you could try writing him a letter and telling him how you feel. Just be like "People say you flirt with me, but I dont know how you mean it, do you mean it or is it just playing around? I do like you and I just want to know how you feel about me.." Just say something like that.. short and simple and right to the point. Don't be scared. And just tell him the friendship wont change if he does like you. If you still need help, just tell me to IM you and I will. Hope this works and good luck hun tell me how it goes!!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok here it goes i really like my best friend but i dont think he likes me and i dont know how to ask him and i don't want my other friends asking him because i don't want them to lie to me to make me feel better and i was just wondering if anybody knew how i could tell if he likes me or not

Try flirting with him and hinting to him that you like him and see how he reacts to all of it. If he doesn't, then maybe he's too shy to say anything. So, you should try talking to him or writing him a letter and telling him how you feel. Just be like "I tried hinting to you that I like you, but you seem to not of noticed or anything, I was going to have a friend ask you, but I figured it would be better coming from me, but I just want to know if you like me or not..." just say something like that and how you feel. Hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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My x still likes me and i like him bac but the thing is my parents are like " Your not that serous in relation ships" I know i am and i dont know how to prove it to them?? Can any1 tell ma how ta cuz i love this guy to death

You can't really prove to your parents that you can have a serious relationship. They have to see it for themselves. Maybe have him come over and let them meet him and see how you two really care for each other and they'll see what a great guy he is and that you two really like each other. And just give it time for them to see that and stuff, you'll just have to be patient. I hope this helps and good luck hun. If you need any more help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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