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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i dont know what to do. i have so many problems and i jsut got a kitten and its making my lfe worse. so my question is does the aspca take kittens like if you want to give it to their chelter do they take them. or any other animla home. i really dont know who to give my kitten to. and i want ger safe. what should i do? ps none of my freids want kittens cuz they have dogs.

Since you can't give your kitten to your friends, maybe give her to another family member? They might want her, so try your aunts/uncles/cousins; etc.

If not, find the local animal shelter & give her to them. I'm pretty sure they'd be able to find her a home & keep her safe.

I have always wanted to be an actress or singer. Im not that good at singing but im very very good at acting, im not trying to sound conceited but i am and i have been told that many times before.

Lately i want it so bad i can taste it. Its amazing. The only problem is, I have no idea how to get into acting or how to start out. My mom doesnt really like the buisness because of how some of them end up.

So my main question is:
Should I try? How should I start out? Should I wait till im 18 & on my own ? [[im 13 now]]

If you're acting at school in drama club or theatre, keep at it. It not only looks good on your college application, but could attract someone who wants to employ you.

If it's possible, see if your mother could get you into a performing arts school in your area. I have a friend who goes to a performing arts school where I live & I'm pretty sure there's talent scouts there looking for kids. If there isn't & I'm wrong, then I'm sorry. But try to get into a performing arts school. It could help you out majorly by sharpening your skills & getting you noticed.

Keep talking to your mom though. I know she's afraid of what might happen, but those things happen to most of those kids because they let things get to their head & it screws them over. You know you're better than that, so explain it to her & see what she says. Let me know how it goes, good luck.

What do I do know? I mean, she's already with somebody...

You slap him in the back of the head for leaving you for someone who isn't even single. Then you slap him again for hurting you. Then you give him a final kick in the shin for being an idiot & leaving someone amazing which was you all along.

is my dick big enough for female liking?
i got hard and measured and its a little less than 6 inches
is that good?

It honestly depends on the girl you're active with. Some girls prefer big guys, some girls prefer small guys & some girls prefer what they think is good enough or average.

Your penis is average size for a male, so don't think you're not good enough or whatever. You're fine, so just don't worry that you won't pleasure someone. Like other guys have said "It's not the size of your tool; it's the motion of the ocean." In other words, it doesn't matter what your size is, just how good you are at using it.

Well my best freind she doesnt like this guy named jeff but she always wants to have a friends with benefit relationship with him. HES A TOTAL JERK. He is soo mean to her and treats her like crpap doesnt talk to her for ever and then asks to hoookup. Well, idk what to do anymore cuz she doesnt listen to me wen i tell her not to do this and she will regret it. And wen i say this guys a jerk he bad mouths her to the school and all she cares about it making out.

Despite your efforts to warn her, there's nothing you can do. You can tell her & tell her & try to convince her, but unfortunately -- it won't go through.

You may know this guys a jerk, and she may know it too, but in order for her to learn that he's an asshole -- she needs to make the mistake. All you can do is keep telling her, but if she decides to make this decision [whether you like her choices or not] back her up.

Your friend will learn her lesson sooner or later. But let her make this. Once she does, she'll realize you were right & apologize for being stupid. She'll never learn if you just hold her hand. So let her make this mistake but be there for her when things mess up.

I'm grounded for a long time. I can't leave and go anywhere... what are some good ideas for things to do to occupy me from the time i wake up to go to sleep?

Take pictures of yourself.
Start writing/drawing.
Listen to music.
Watch tv.
Watch movies.
Go on the internet.
Talk on the phone.

If you're allowed, have a friend over.

15F

I cut myself, and I really want to get therapy for it. I can't tell my parents, though. I'm too ashamed to tell them. Also, they're kind of neglectful. There's a large chance they wouldn't even get me help. How can start seeing a therapist without them knowing?

Although your parents are neglectful & you don't think they'll help you -- they just might. You don't know what they'll do until you speak up & confront them with your problems & your cutting.

If you don't want to do that [although you should], ask a friend for help. Your friends will always be there for you no matter what, and if they leave you by yourself then they're not your friends. Also, you can talk to a teacher or someone at school They can get you a counselor to see & it'll help a ton.

If you'd like -- I'll talk to you. I'm a recovering cutter & I'd be glad to help you further than this little box. All of my information is on my column & you can IM me.

SO iM 15/F & LiKE EVRY OTHER TEEN qiRL, HAVE HUqE iSSUES WiTH MY MOM. iT ALL BASiCALLY STARTED WiTH HER FiRST BOYFRiEND [THE FiRST i KNEW OF ANYWAYS], WHO'S A COUPLE OF YEARS YOUNqER THAN HER. THEY DATED FOR ABOUT 2 YEARS, AND i EVEN WENT BACK TO MY NATiVE COUNTRY FOR A YEAR CAUSE i CUDN'T STAND THE THOUqHT OF LiViNq WiTH THEM. iT DiSQUSTED ME. STiLL DOES. WELL, NOW SHE'S 5 MONTHS PREgNANT [iTS A qiRL], & WE jUST FiNiSHED HAViNq THiS ARqUEMENT CAUSE ME & MY YOUNqER BROTHER CUD CARE LESS ABOUT THE THiNq. i KNOW iTS WRONq CAUSE iTS STiLL MY "SiSTER", BUT WHEN iT COMES DOWN TO BABiES, iM A MONSTER. i KNOW iM jEALOUS, CUZ iM THE ONLY qiRL, BUT OTHER THAN THAT, i jUST CUD GiVE A DAMN. ANYWAYS, HER LOViNq "HUSBAND" LEFT HER AS SoON AS HE FOUND OUT [HAHA], & NOW SHE'S TALKiNq ABOUT HOW SHE WANTS TO LEAVE ME & MY BROTHER, SiNCE WE'RE "OLD ENUFF" TO TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES. MY FATHER LEFT US YEARS AqO, & SHE REMiNDS ME EVRYDAY, NOW SHE'S LEAViNq To0?! i CANT BE STRONq FOR MY LiTTLE BROTHER, i CANT EVEN TAKE CARE OF MYSELF, MUCH LESS A 10 YEAR OLD. SO WHAT AM i SUPPOSED TO DO. iF SHE LEAVES, AT LEAST SHE'LL HAVE HER BABY TO LoOK FORWARD TO, i WONT HAVE ANYTHiNq. i REALLY HAVE NOTHiNq TO LiVE FOR, & iM THROUGH WiTH LiVE, NO ONE WiLL REALLY MiSS ME. i KNOW iM CHANqiNq TOPiCS HERE, & jU MAY THiNK iTS A CRY FOR HELP OR SOMETHiNq, BUT i REALLY DONT SEE ANYMORE SOLUTiONS. THANXx FOR WASTiNq jUR TiME. i APPRECiATE iT.

You type like an idiot.

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Thanks, but I'm not even white. If you checked my column like a smart person would, you'd see that I'm hispanic. But since you type like an idiot, you must be one too.

I want some movies to watch that are similar to My Best Friend's Wedding, or When Harry Met Sally. Basically, movies about a friendship that grows into more, or one person in a friendship liking the other person. Thank you!

Wedding Crashers.

What can happen if you are caught underage smoking?
At my local shopping mall a lot of us from my school (we are 16) and many others our age smoke in the designated smoking area and the security guards see us but what can happen? Can they do anything?
One time they just came over and asked us what we were doing out of school. i live in Australia by the way. I'm 16/f.

Thanks

They might tell you to put them out & make you pay a small fee. But if it's first warning, they might not do much to you. It depends if they're assholes or not.

okay so to start of im 17 years old female. anyway im 17 and i have been for the last 5months my mom will not let me do anything and im so sick of it i had to come in at 10:30 pm like im a baby or something its friday night and all of my friends are out drinking but no i have to be home by 10:30 i cant go out to partys and drink because i drive i cant even stay out past 11 on the weekends im going insane..!! some one please help

Oh no! Your mother's keeping you in because she's figured out what the hell you've been doing & now you can't break the law anymore! Whatever will you do?

She did it for a reason. What you're doing is illegal & she doesn't want you to kill yourself, others or act like an idiot.

There is this boy that I am attracted to, however there is a slight chance he may be gay. He has had girlfriends in the past, i just get the feeling. Anyways, he asked me over myspace if he could give me a hickie. I dont know how to reply considering it was over myspace and its stupid. I think replying could make it awkward for us in person and even more awkward if he likes boys in the future or whatever. what do i dooo?

Do what makes you comfortable. If you like him & would like for him to give you a hickey -- go for it. If you don't want him to, then tell him no. It's very simple.

Even if he turns out to be gay in the future, that's fine. Not everyone is straight & that's something others need to accept. It's not like he'd be any different. He'd still be the same person he always was, but he'd just be dating guys. Nothing wrong with that. =]

my calves are huggee, i hatee them.
what exercizes can i do to make them smaller.
pls, theyre gross.

Leg exercises usually just make them bigger and I don't think there is anyway to get them smaller. Usually stuff like that is in your DNA and can't really be controlled.

which places will hire ppl who are 14 and up?

I'm pretty sure many places don't hire at 14 so until you reach the age of 16-17, you'll need to babysit & do extra chores around the house.

hey guys, i know this is an "Advice" place, but i need help finding the name of this song.
i know its 50 cent and Eminem.
the beging goes like this
"Ey em, you know your my favortie white boy, right?. ha i owe you for this one"
and the main verse seems to be
"i'v been patiently waiting for a Track to explode on. you stant if you want and yo ass get rolled on. it feels like my flow been hott for so long, if you think im fuckinfall off, your so wrong"
i might have some words wrong, but i think thats it. if you can tell me the name i will love you. thank you!!!

Patiently Waiting.

I'm not a fan, but I used to be. It's hard to admit since 50 Cent's a horrible musician.

can someone send me link to get nice myspace layouts?? thanks!!

www.createblog.com

What songs does Fall Out Boy play on the Honda Civic Tour.

Any other Good songs from the other people there? if so what?

Also How was the Concert?

thanks so much in advance. :]

They play a ton of songs. Some off of their old album, and some off of their new. They like to mix it up a bit so you're never going to hear the same thing everytime you go, and it's not going to be all new music. You'll hear some familiar old ones.

I've honestly never been to that tour, but I'm pretty sure it's good. Concerts like that usually are. I'm not sure who else is going, but most of the bands I've seen have been pretty good, so expect the other bands to sound good too.

well, i'm 15 and i'm definitely not having sex before marriage. me and bf are sure of that and are strong with our beliefs.
but for me, i'm little lost on some things. i would just like to be a little bit smarter with the subject.

1st - is ejaculation (for both guys and girls)good or bad? is it gross? does it get on anything?

2nd - what are orgasms for? what do they do? why do people always ask about them?

3rd - what is "popping the cherry"? is it bad? is it something to watch out for? does it hurt?

4th - and when i am married i'm a little afraid to have sex because a lot of people say it can and can't hurt and girls can always can get pregnant. is there anything to really be afraid of? what is there to really watch out for?

5th - how well do condoms work? would condoms work everytime we would have sex?

thanx for answering...

[1]Ejaculation during unprotected sex = bad for the guy, good for the girl. Ejaculation during protected sex = good for both. Ejactulation during masturbation = good for both.

[2]Orgasms release tension & people have probably never experienced one & they're probably just curious. Same reasons why other people ask questions.

[3]Popping your cherry is just breaking your hymen. No, it's not bad & it doesn't hurt. Sometimes you don't feel it because you can break it a ton of ways [sports, activities] other than sex.

[4]People are lying to you. It hurts for some & doesn't for others, that's true. If you're one who's prone to pain, try to do some foreplay first before you get into it because then the sex won't hurt as much & the pain will be eased. The only way to get pregnant during sex is the condom breaking, or not wearing one at all. No, there's not. Just make sure your boyfriend goes slow when you guys have sex because since you're both virgins it might hurt a bit.

[5]Condoms have about a 98% chance of working if used correctly. So, they're pretty effective & yes, use them everytime you have sex. Other than condoms, get on birth control. It's double the protection & can save you just in case the condom breaks.

does anybody know anything about wu-long tea?

I really like this guy in my class. We’ve had awesome convos on AIM, but barely anything more. Yesterday,at recess, I was sitting with my bff and his ex-gf who is my frend. then him and his frend came over and were talking. We played a little truth or dare, but didnt really do anything. Then we all had to say who we would go out with in the class. Only my bff answered. THen, later, he past me a note saying “u never answered the question at recess” i looked at him and sed “so? i dont hav 2 tell u” and shoved the note back at him. i hate how i handle situations like that. anyway, my bff sed “maybe he likes u” which i doubted because im not skinny or pretty or anything to talk about… so then i was like “neither did u” and he shrugd and sed “i was about to”
today, he totally ignored me.
i feel really bad about being so cold. I never let anyone in because a few ppl asked me out then sed “jk”… this guy is really, well, wanted. hes had so many gfs. iv never had a bf. sm1 else sed he liked me last yr but i thought he was kidding, so i was really mean until a month later wen he was with sm1 else, my bff told me that he had told her he really liked me. GEEEZ
i think i ruined it with this guy. what can i do to show him i care about him>?

Start being nicer to him & try letting him in. If he's told your friends & his friends that he likes you -- I doubt he's "just kidding." I know people can be mean, but that's no reason to shut everyone out. You end up missing out on dating & meeting really great people.

Try to let him in a little bit & if he denies your trust, then you can virtually slap me. But it's worth a shot. Let me know how it turns out.

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