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Okay, well i like this guy. His name is Pete. Well My friend Jes liked pete FOREVER and i had to hide that i liked pete from her, til she got a bf and i told her and shes like i still like him but w.e. Well, i told my other friend Leah, and she was like he doesnt want a gf. But i told him i loved him anyway. He said he loved me too, and i didnt ask him out because i hate asking guys out, i mean, since he loved me, he would ask ME out right? He did, but he seemed hesitant when he did. Well, one day, when i was supposed to have lab durring lunch, i walked in regular time, because it was cancelled, and i saw Leah all over him and trying to get him to hook up with her, and she was sitting on his lap and he was like pushing her off him. Leahs one of my really close friends and when i confronted her about it, she said he was all over me and said that you siad you didnt like him and then when he saw you he got weird. Well i really love this guy. I have for about a year, and asked him out before but he said no, so this is a big deal. I dont know who to believe bc he couldve seen me, bc i wasnt looking at him for a minute, i was talking to my friend. Idk, should i break it off? or should i not talk to my friend? Help, and thanks in advance.
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Well if you SAW correctlyyy, then you saw Leah on him, and him saying no. Then, after confronting her, she lieeddd to you. so unless its possible you saw it wrong, but I doubt that. because if it was that, then it would be him forcing her on his lap, and she would be struggling, and those are two very different images. So if your positiveee about what you saw, then your friend is a liar, and then you shouldnt be friends with her, because thats a backstabbing move right thereee.


I am a first time user of tampons. I actually feel the tampon in me but it isn't really uncomfortable. And I know you are not supposed to feel it in you. Do I have to actually insert the whole tube into my vagina?? It seems like it would be quite painful.
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when you said: "Do I have to actually insert the whole tube into my vagina??", that makes me think that youre leaving the outer plastic part on with you. the tampon itself is about like 1-2 inches long. the outer part is only to make it easy to apply. after applying it, the only thing that should be inside you is the cottonish part.

here watch this
its kinda weirdd...
but whatever
http://youtube.com/watch?v=kFVdIDVEcEQ&feature=related haha


can you get 2 different phone plans? like my mom has a cellular one contract but i want verizon. can she have both plans? (link)
you can, but normally its cheaper if you just have one. for example, me and my mom both have verizon, because it offers the "family plan." my sisters getting a phone within the next 3 months, so that way, it will only cost an extra 10 dollars a month for her too. and so if i wanted to switch to like cingular, then my mom probably would say no because it would cost more, and you lose the family plan (cingular also has the add a line for 10 dollars though, just like verizon). So if cellular one doesn't offer it, then you shoulddd get verizon. Otherwise, you deffinantly can, it just may be hard to convince your mom that you should have two different ones. but theres like no rule saying you cant have two different servicess!


Well, my bf has a little drinking problem. Its not all the time, but when he starts he cant stop, but hes not dependant on drinking. He doesnt do it all the time. Well, one time he said he went to a poker party. I went out to a club with my girlfriends. While i was there, i danced with my girls. Well, this particular club had like little beds with a sheer curtain around it for people to hook up. Well, i saw this girl getting a little friskey with a guy, like shed known him for a while, well they closed the big black curtain, but before that she took off her clothes and so did he. I thought i saw my boyfriends face so i ran up there and i peeked through the black curtain. I saw the back of the guys head having sex with the girl, well he had long brown hair like my bf. I didnt want to seem like a pervert if it wasnt my bf, so i crept to the other side and saw it was my bf!!! I ripped open the curtains and was like WTF JAKE and hes like katie, come join, i love threesomes! and i was like WERE OVER. The next day he called me and didnt remember anything at all! I told him about it, and hes like well i was at my friends but i started drinking, and we ended up at the club...then all black, then i woke up in the club with no shirt on. I dont know what to do. I was like well were over, and he showed up with flowers, the next day with candy, the next with a diamond necklace. I think he really wants me back. Should i take him back, or kick him to the curb?? (link)
So the fact that he can't remember makes it a little better because that means that it meant nothing. But its still sooo bad. Last week, I did stuff with a guy and I was so drunk I couldn't remember any the next morning. He had to tell mee what happened :/ But I have to take responsibility for my actions, as it was my choice to drink, and I probably shouldn't have done that. I wouldn't have done the stuff I did if I had been sober though...
You could take him back though, if you set ground rules. I was reading this article in a magazine, and the same thing happened to this girl. She was devastated. She took him back though, and she said that she had a hard time to get over it, and they had trust issues for a while. But after a few months, they were closer than ever.
The person below me said that if he does it once, he might do it again. Has he ever done anything like this sober? Anyways, set the rules that he must NEVER drink again. And if he goes out, he has to tell you. *(This one was the one that the girl in the magazine had).
Honestly, you shouldn't be asking people you don't know if you should get back together or not. You need to think about what YOU want; if you've been with him long enough, and how your trust has been in the relationship before this happened. He does seem like he is truly sorry. This is a decision that's should take you a while to think up. Give yourself a two week break in which you can just have time to think. I would say that most guys wouldn't buy a diamond necklace if they weren't serious about a girl...
Good luck & tell me what your decision is!


Is there a certain amount of calories you have to have a day? If so how many? (link)
Most would say about 2000. That's like the typical diet.
However, I'd say most people actually eat about 3000.
I eat about 4000, but thats only because my metabolism is wayyy high, and I also play sports and am really active.
I hope that helps if you have more questions askkk awayyy =]


Alright so I want to sell things on ebay, but I'm only 15. I know I don't have a credit card or anything, but I don't want to buy anything.

My mom says I can't use hers because they might try to scam her and take all her money..

But if I were only selling would they be able to do that? & Is it hard to sell things? like.. do you have to package it, etc.. I don't understand any of this. What do I do? (link)
I sell on eBay.
I'm only 15 too, and its illegal to sell on ebay if your under 18.
However, I do it COMPLETELY under my dad's administration, so I can't really get in trouble for it, technically haha. Like, he is the one that gives me the things to sell and I Just type up the descritption since I'm really good at html.
ANYWAYYYSSS, I have been doing ebayt for about 2 years now, and making ggood money, and I have never been scammed at all. What you do is you sign up for a PayPAl account, and then you put your credit card there, etc.
Its completely secure. and they only ask for it once.
You do have to package and ship it and all that stuff. I can help you, but I don't really know what your questions are exactly, so yeaahh, if you have a specific, ask me in the inbox! I would lovee to help.
Also, its not hard. You don't HAVE to do html, but I like tooo =]


what is the normal duration during sex,including foreplay and oral sex? i have a friend that said six hours,is that even possible?

and besides the average sex duration,what would be a good time length during sex so it's not too long or too short?asuming the sex is good (link)
So it can last about 5 minutes. If its a "quickie," meaning like someone could be in a hurry to do something, go somewhere else.
Or a few hours. I wouldn't say six...
But I would say it would normally range between 30-60 minutes.
No time length on making it not too long or not too short, as long as both people have been satisfied than its good


i heard this awesome rap song "soldier boy" i think that was its name but idk it said that alot, does aomeone know who its by??? (link)
Soulja Boy is the artist, and its called crank dat =]
LEARN THE DANCE! :] (on youtubee)


How do I get a zit to go away by Sunday? (link)
put toothpaste on it while you sleep.
then it should dry out.
so thats what you do tonight, friday.
then saturday, it'll be dried out right? and it might still be there. put your acne cream on it. i like to put on a cream that gets rid of cuts, and such. Like the ones that says helps heal minor cuts, burns, etc. those actually work veryy well
i hope it goes awayyy :]


Can everybody name a few things theyre asking for for Christmas? To help me out?
Like this is what I'm asking for...
*Nice hoop earrings
*iPod Touch
*Nike dunks
Thanks :]

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im asking for new sports equipment
like a field hockey and lacrosse sticks and balls


so what is the difference between oral and anal sex?? thankss (link)
oral is in the mouth
and anal is in the buttt
like oral = giving a guy head/eating a girl out
anal=a guy having sex in a girls assss
hope that clears it upp :]


Is giving a blowjob vegetarian? Because technically, semen is a human biproduct, yet, it's not as if I'm killing a human.... Just wondering... (link)
its vegetarian, but might not be considered vegan. (like how vegans dont eat cheese, milk, honey, etc).


If you discovered that your drunken boyfriend had gotten a blowjob at a party from a stranger whose name he didn't even know, would you be bothered by this? I might add this was a couple of years ago, before we knew each other. He just admitted it to me and I've been weird about it ever since. I haven't even been able to talk to him. I can't get it off my mind. I've just totally lost respect for him for it. I realize people make mistakes but it's really bothering me. =/ He does regret it at least but still.

So..uh.. what's wrong with me? How can I stop holding this against him? Do I have a right to look down on him for this?


19/f

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personally, i would forgive him, if you know for a fact that he is trulyyy sorry. like not just fakin/playing you.
this happened to me like a week ago kinda. i got so drunk and got fingered by this guy. but it didnt mean anything, i cant even remember it. i had to get told by him haha.
id lose respect for him, because he should know better than to get so drunk he cant control it, but i dont know if its worth endening your relationship.
dont forget he was honest with you, which is a pretty good thing. wouldn't you have been mad if he didnt tell you, and you found out some other way. then i would say end it. but by him telling you about it it means that you know that he feels bad about it. so i would have to talk about it if i were you.


I'm fifteen and when I'm on my period I usually use pads, but I want to start using tampons. What's a good brand to start off with? For sports also? Because I'm pretty active...

Also tips to putting them in? No websites please, they really don't help. I've only tried putting one in once and it hurt like hell. (link)
i play a lot of sports too, and honestly the brand doesnt really matter. but, what you shouldddd do, is because your a starter, you should buy a slim easy glide one. the slim wont make it hurt, and easy glide makes it so you can barely feel it.
so, for the first time, what you could do is you should sit down then spread your legs as wide as you can go, and then just slowly push it in. make sure your muscles are relaxed. if your all tense, it wont go in as easily, and when it does go in it'll hurt. then push it as far as you can go. if it isnt you'll be able to feel it while your doing your sports. otherwise, you should not feel a tampon while being active if its put in correctly.
so just get a super small skinny tampon that is easyglidee :]


I've heard that antibacterial soap isn't so beneficial, as it also kills good bacteria. I was wondering just how harmful it (potentially) is, and why ...or is it all hype? (link)
Basically ygsgirl said it all, and I don't wanna make you read another long explanation.
But, theres also something ELSE bad about them.
In my school, theres a "staph" infection spreading and everyone is getting really afraid of it (Staphylococcus). The thing is, everyone has millions of Staph bacterias on them, and not all are bad...some are good!
However, theres this really dangerous type, called MRSA, and that can kill the victim, whereas the other dangerous forms of staph can normally be cured with the use of antibiotics. But, the MRSA viruses can be caused from using like Purell too much. By using Purell and killing the bacterias, it will cause them to mutate so that they can survive against the soaps. Normally, when they mutate, they become verryyy dangerous.
I hope that made sense, and if not, you can ask me a question in my inboxx =]


Is it usal for it to start heavy?? (link)
yepp
for most people, your first and second days are the heaviest and then it gets lighter and lighter until it stops
but for others it could be differentt


i am seeing the guy i like this weekend, and we will be together for most of it.
we both really really really like eachother. and we're both a little prude, other then a few kisses. but i want to go further than hooking up with him, i want him to maybe feel me up. how can i possibly make that happen, without putting his hands on my boobs? (link)
put his hands under your shirt. and then he'll start to massage your back and stomach.
if hes smart, he'll get the hints and go for your bra. and then he'll feel you uppp
and if he doesnt get the point, put your hands down his pants, but dont like do anything that'll get him thinking your gonna pleasure himm. so do that like play with the lining of his boxers, in a seductive way, to encourage him to feel you up


can any body please explain a typical day as a dermatologist?? (link)
yess i worked there this summer
im like a future dermatologist nooo jokee
so basically they jjust have several patients come in a day.
they start out by asking their patient a few quesitons, related to their skin of course.
then after that, it can be different.
when i worked there, the doctor would do full body skin checks on the older people. on the younger people (teenagers), sometimes too, but that would be more about their acne. it depends on what your going in for.
if you have any questions about dermatologists/dermatology askkkk!


Ive tried almost every picture I have and it wont let me get them. This is what it tells me, "You tried to upload a picture, but it was greater than 15K in filesize so it wasn't uploaded."
What can I do to fix it?
Ive also heard that you may have to resize the picture. But I dont know how, if that is the way to fix it,can some one tell me how so i can upload the picture, how do you do it,and what do you use to do it?
Thanks major in advance!!
*~*Michelle*~* (link)
what you should do is upload it onto tinypic.com
and then right under where you upload one from the computer you just put the link theree
then you can keep it any size you want.


i'm going to start tanning at a tanning salon soon. i don't want a tan that's way too dark, but i definitely want it to be noticeable. my skin is not pale; it's the skin color that most caucasians have.

i'm going to be smart and wear spray-on sunscreen. if i want to get a noticeable tan while staying safe, what SPF should my sunscreen be? i don't want it to be too low (that would be unhealthy for my skin), so please help. :] (link)
salons are in general really unsafe.
please, before rating me a one, hear me out. i worked at a dermatology office this summer so i actually know what im talking about =]
ok so tanning in salons is actully so bad for you. you only get the uv rays from the bed, and you DONT get the only good thing that comes from tanning in the sun, which is the vitamin c.
so when you say your going to be smart and wear sunscreen, it doesnt matter becuase your still getting all the harmful rays that will damage your skinn =[. and these are also more powerful/dangerous then the ones of the sun.
so if you decided to do it, just consider that in 20 years, you will have crows feet, and those are permanent, unlike a tan that goes away in a month or two
be safeee!




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