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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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14/F

So I'm going on vacation for two weeks and I'm trying to pack light...I was wondering, do I really need to bring shaving cream for my legs/under my arms?
Any opinions are helpful.

No. I'm sure your parents are bringing soap, and soap works just as good as shaving cream if not better.

I love to masturbate with my cousins and friends is that bad?

No, but it's extremely odd.

14/f

ok so to make a long story short- my best friend was going out with a guy (we'll called him X) and he wrote a note to her saying something about her butt. (she didn't tell me the exact words) and her parents found out about it and so they made her never to see him again or talk to him.

well some kids from our school went on a road trip and me and X were in the same group. Since they had to break up, i kept in touch with X and texted him often. Since my friend was my best friend and i really cared about her, i tried to get them back together.

during the trip, me and X really got to know each other and he asked me out. I said yes and we were a happy couple. we held hands, he put his arm around me, said he loved him, hugged me, touched my butt...

well then during the ending of our trip i got a text from him saying he was confused when he first asked me out because he said i wasn't his type and that he still has feelings for my best friend.

this guy was my first boyfriend and i was heart broken so i cried. i was so mad at him. then when we came home my best friend said that she knew he would do something like this. she encouraged me to forget about him and still be friends with him.

*sigh* ok so now all 3 of us are friends and are planning to go to the movies together this week.

my question is.... was he using me on the trip??? or did he really love me?

THANKS SO MUCH! YOU'VE BEEN A BIG HELP AND I'M SORRY IF THIS WAS SO LONG

He was using you. You were the rebound girl. He was upset by what your friend did, and used you to get the affection he wasn't getting from her anymore.

This boy doesn't know what love is. He wouldn't know love if it came up & slapped him in the face. Honestly, don't worry about this boy. He's an asshole, and you don't need to be friends with him. He's not a good friend, nor is he a good boyfriend. He never loved you, he was just using you.

f/14 4'11/98 lbs

so, i was wondering, are there diet pills that a fourteen year old would be able to buy without a parent/doctor?
if so, what kinds, and how much would they cost?

thanks

No, there isn't. You don't need diet pills, nor do you need to lose weight. You're 14 years old. If you want to lose weight, do it the healthy way. Don't use diet pills. They make you lose weight yes, but once you stop taking them the weight comes back faster than you lost it & it'll be such a hassle to lose it.

Just exercise a ton, and eat healthy. Cut out sugars, sodas & fast food.

SO AS a mentioned before.....

my parents are divorcing. my mom took all ehr anger out on me and YELLED at me. told me things i shouldn't nor want to know. and made it as if it was my foult. then i cried. she apoligized i did nto frogive. called me next day apoligiing... i didnt forgive. now i feel really bad i know it wasnt technicoly her foult shes under a lot of stress i know she loves me but i cant forgive her, i jus cant i dont no why! like my body wont let me. how do i forgive her? what to i say without soundign to cheesy/corney. im not like htat.

It's honestly normal not to forgive someone even after they apologize. What your mother did was not okay & being under a lot of stress is not a valid excuse. She had no reason to say the things that she did & although she's apologizing, you cannot forgive her. And why? Because even if she didn't mean what she said, she hurt your feelings, possibly put you down & made parts of you feel dead.

Explain this to your mother. Tell her that although you would love to forgive her, you can't simply because of what she said. Being under stress is no excuse to be mean & yell at someone who has done nothing to you. You will eventually forgive your mom, but it'll take time.

ok, i have gf but everytime i make out with her i get an erection, and it bothers me because i keep thining it might rub against her or something, is there a way to prevent this?

No. Kissing your girlfriend arouses you, and that's fine. Maybe try not to makeout as much.

my friends are great and all but there always sad. they always ask me for advice but i cant do it anymore! it makes me sad when im always with sad people. i dont know what to do because i want to help everyone but it has been getting old and annoying!!=[

You need to tell your friends what this is doing to you. They cannot make you give them advice anymore. I can see how always being around sad people would be upsetting. Just talk to them about it & if they cannot accept it though, then surround yourself with positive people until your friends can come out of their depression. Maybe talk a counselor & get them help.

But be flattered that they're coming to you with their problems. You should be glad to help.

is it true, that guys like it when girls eat french fries. for somereason thats what everybody keeps sayin. like i saw the guy i liked at wendy's and my friends like here quick eat these,guys like it when you eat french fries. lol is that true?

No.

Your friend's an idiot. Make sure you remind her of that.

14/f

my "best friend" is a huge bitch and she lives far away from me so we only talk online and stuff.

We don't get along ever, she's such an annoying bitch and we're practically polar opposites. She's always happy and uppity no matter what, i'm always sad and mad and monotonous. She's shallow and materialistic, I'm the deepest person ever.

She has this boy who she's only seen a few times in her life and they talk online and stuff and she thinks she's his girlfriend just because they've been talking online and on the phone and he calls her his "girlfriend". They haven't even had a date.

I talk to him(or used to) sometimes because we used to think we were going to hook up, and recently when I talked to him he said "ellen doesn't want me to talking to you anymore, so bye bye." and then he just blocked me! i was so offended and it made me cry.

My question is this: does this bitch have the right to tell this boy that he can't talk to me?

What should I do I hate her so much and she makes me feel SO much worse about myself, she doesn't understand basic social graces and she thinks she knows everything and she's only 13! i'm more than a year older than her and all she can talk about is HERSELF and just OMFG I HATE HER SO FUCKING MUCH!

so any advice would be appreciated. thanks.

If you hate her, she's not your best friend, nor is she even your friend at that. She's just someone you know.

Anyways, no, she doesn't have the right to do that. She doesn't own him & he has a mind of his own & can talk to whoever the hell he wants. Honestly, either bitch her out or make a different sn & IM him.

Talk to whoever you want & if he honestly is that stupid to listen to her, then he's not a good friend either. Think about it.

me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months and we have never had a fight. my friend say this is a bad thing. should i be worried?

Well, yes & no.

It's good you don't fight, but it's bad because fighting is very healthy for a normal relationship. But cherish what you've got. No fighting is amazing. =)

Is there a difference in the size of tampax satin (for beginners) and tampax pearl lites?
I'm a beginner and just not sure at all what to get. Also, are there any other small tampons?

I don't think there is a difference, but I would go for the satins. Since you've just got your period, you wouldn't need any type of tampon other than the ones for beginners. Your flow might not even be large enough for a "lite" tampon.

There aren't any smaller tampons, but there are small pads. And always wear a pantiliner when wearing a tampon because it doesn't always absorb all the blood. =)

14/f

yesterday i went on a 45 minute bike ride... and today my whole vagina/butt area that touches the bike seat is sooo sore and it hurt really bad when i tried to go on a bike ride today.

so should I just stop bike riding? or just ignore it?

Yeah, stop bike riding for a while.

someone said,
are you "getting fresh with..."
and i think they meant it ina gross way,
what does it mean?

Getting fresh with someone would mean that you're getting frisky/flirty with them, or you're being an asshole & getting a little loud with them.

In my english class i am recently doing the subject of soap operas and i need to know if Just Shoot Me is a soap opera?

Thanks in advanced
xx

No. It's more like a sitcom.

Are there any MALL JOBS someone can have at 15?

No. Most mall jobs hire at 16. Some don't even hire at that & require you to be 18+ to work there. The most you can do for now is work at a grocery store or babysit.

i heard of this soda called Jones Soda.. um where can i buy it from.. i live in NJ, too. also have you had it before and is it good and stuff? and is it expensive? and other things i should know :) thanks

They were selling it for a dollar or whatever at the Zumies couch tour yesterday. I'm pretty sure you can buy it at places like Wegman's or Costco. It all depends though. I'm not sure how much it costs, but it's fairly good. =) Try checking out those stores & see if you can find it.

my best friend is mentally challended, and has accidentally killed a young women. if i turn him in he will spend the rest of his life in a mental hospital where he will probably live a sad and fearful life. but if i run away with him he might do the same to someone esle and this would make me an accessory to a crime and both of us will be fugitives of the law-- wanted for murder. but if i kill him i will spare my friend the pain of living a cruel existence in a mental hospital. he is my only friend and i will not see him get hurt what should i do.

Is this a serious question?

Your friend killed someone, and you want to:
[A] Run away with him & probably become an accomplice.
[B] Turn him in.
[C] Kill him?

You claim he's your friend but yet you want to murder him.

Put him in a mental hospital where he belongs. And then slap yourself in the face for even thinking about murdering him. You're selfish.

15/F + Boyfriend is 17/M.
(If that helps at all?)

Well me and my boyfriend have been together for a year (on July 2nd.) We pretty much spend every waking second together. You can narrow it down to the fact that we're all eachother has, such as friends and such cause we gave them up for eachother. -Anyways! Things seem to be slightly changing. He's so sweet and stuff usually, but for instance today he's supposed to come over, and he's like "I don't know, I don't care." about everything, and it's been like this for like 2 weeks. I know it doesn't exactly sound like a big deal, but to me it is. It's a big change and I don't like it AT ALL. I asked him why he's changing and he's like, "I'm not you are." and he constantly says I'm being mean, when 90$ of the time I'm sucking up to him.

Whatever. I don't know what to do. How should I talk to him? Erghhh.
Thanks in adv.

Just come out & say whatever's on your mind. Your boyfriend is changing, but you might be also without even realizing it. When he tells you something, don't cancel out & tell him he's wrong. Take whatever he has to say into consideration & lots of thought.

Try working things out. Maybe stop hanging out with each other for a while & see if things go back to normal. If not, then you need to ask yourself if this relationship is still good for you. Good luck.

im dating this kid and we've been together for a few months.. but ive been hanging out with this other kid for awhile now and my boyfriend & me have been fighting and we broke up but were kinda still together and the new kid wants to be with me and i dont know who to pick.. i like them both so much and i dont wanna hurt either of them and ive tried so hard to make this easy but theres no way to. im so stuck and cant do this =(

If you and your boyfriend have broken up, then there is no "we're sorta still together." You're either broken up or you're not.

If you like this kid, then compare & contrast them with pros/cons of each. Whoever has more pros & less cons than the other you should go out with.

My graduation is coming up and i bought those fake manicure nails to glue over my real nails. They are kind of long and the problem is im going to an amusement park the next day. Should i keep the nails on? On the roller coasters i would be gripping the handle so would it make a difference? Also, it doesnt say it is waterproof, so when i go in the water park what should i do? Keep it on or take them off?
Thanks

It'd be more effective if you got your nails done at a real salon simply because they last longer & store bought ones tend to fall off.

You can wear your nails & go to the amusement park too, so don't worry. I've done it before.

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