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FORGIVE? FAMILY ISSUES.
SO AS a mentioned before.....
my parents are divorcing. my mom took all ehr anger out on me and YELLED at me. told me things i shouldn't nor want to know. and made it as if it was my foult. then i cried. she apoligized i did nto frogive. called me next day apoligiing... i didnt forgive. now i feel really bad i know it wasnt technicoly her foult shes under a lot of stress i know she loves me but i cant forgive her, i jus cant i dont no why! like my body wont let me. how do i forgive her? what to i say without soundign to cheesy/corney. im not like htat.
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I understand how you feel and I would find it hard to forgive her also. We expect our parents to behave better than friends and aquaintences. And we don't expect them to take things out on us that are not our fault. You still feel the pain of her words and they are not easy to forget.
You don't have to forgive her now. Take your time. Eventually you may forgive, but not forget. If she never does it again, maybe in time, you will forget also.
If this is not her normal behavior, and she is just VERY upset over the divorce, it may be understandable. But this is advice for you, it is going to get harder for her before it gets better. This is obviously going to have a big affect on your life. The next time she tries to apologize, I would say to her, Mom, I am finding it real hard right to to accept your apology, but it might help if I new how you felt when you lashed out at me, so that I can better understand what you are going through and maybe I can help."
And believe me, your understanding will be a great relief her. It is too bad that your parents are divorcing and I hope you don't get caught in the middle. I suggest that you refuse to take sides, but be a good listener.
Good luck to you
Michele
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It's honestly normal not to forgive someone even after they apologize. What your mother did was not okay & being under a lot of stress is not a valid excuse. She had no reason to say the things that she did & although she's apologizing, you cannot forgive her. And why? Because even if she didn't mean what she said, she hurt your feelings, possibly put you down & made parts of you feel dead.
Explain this to your mother. Tell her that although you would love to forgive her, you can't simply because of what she said. Being under stress is no excuse to be mean & yell at someone who has done nothing to you. You will eventually forgive your mom, but it'll take time.
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Make her understand your feelings. Tell her, you're human too and that sometimes, people make mistakes. She made a mistake and so did you. If that's what you feel. Tell her what your heart says. Mothers will understand and if you tell her your true feelings, she'll definitely understand! Just confront her and talk to her nicely. Talk to her like an adult and say how much you love her because you do, even if the fight did occur. Your mother will always be your mother :) Cause she created you. :P And, just tell her that, make her mean something to you! :] I hope my advice helps!! <3 Take care. & talk to her, let your heart guide you.
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