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My boyfriend and i were together for almost 4 months.. and i fell in love with him.. we never really got to see each other.. and we both cheated on each other. But we were in love, so it didnt really matter. He broke up with me a few days ago.. i begged and pleaded and tried everything to get him back. I just want it all to be ok. I cried for 2 days.. and I wrote him a letter explaining all my feelings and how much fun I had with him. The letter made me feel a little better.. but I just need a way to get him off my mind.. its horrible..

please help me! i rate 5s

The best thing to do is just search for other guys. Flirt with other guys. This will help keep your mind off of him. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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well im going out with this boy my 2 friends but i like him alot alot and they want me to dump him and i dont want to dump him cuz i like him ALOT but my 2 friends want me 2 and if i dont they arent ever going to talk to me again

what should i do???

Don't listen to them! If they can't accept it, then too bad for them. They're bad friends for doing that, so it's a good thing they're going to leave. Find better friends, ones that'll accept you and your bf. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Is there any way for you to find out if you've been rated?

Well, you go to your column, and it'll say where all your info is, rated (a certain # of times) and then your average rating. Or you could go to your feedback and see if you've been rated there.
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&hearts Erin

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Pardon me for sounding emo. I really can't stand myself. I make bad choices, I am a terrible friend, and some of the things I say--that I hardly ever mean--really hurt people. Sometimes I can't even stand to look at myself in the mirror. My family doesn't seem to like me either. I don't have many friends. The only ones I have are jerks--but I don't feel like I have a right to get mad at them. It's what I deserve. I feel so guilty, but I can't think of anything that I have done wrong... But everything I do seems to be wrong, and I am always getting punished for things that I can't help. I am a terrible person.

Well, it's the new year, why not start off right? Do something nice for your friends. Buy them a gift for no reason. Be nice to your family, do your chores w/o bein' told. Things like that. It's not to hard to change. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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ok...for the last day of school, before break, i wore white pants...because they were white, i work a thong...im not a slut, so i dont let it hang out, and i usually wear a belt with my pants, but these were nice pants that i didnt need a belt for...well during lunch, i was walking up to my friend and my guy friend wanted to hug me from behind, but ended up steping on my pants adn everyone saw i was wearing a thong. he didnt pants me, but some people saw the string...i know its not bad to wear thongs, but that was a pretty embarassing situation, and i didnt want everyone knowing. tommorow i go back to school, and i dont want everyone laughing at me...what do i do?

To tell you the truth, I don't think anybody's even gonna remember that. And even if they did, it's no big deal. People see thongs hanging out of girl's pants all the time, it's nothing new. No one will think you're a slut, trust me!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Well i was on the computer and i met this guy and we talked for a while and now we are going out but i have not even seen him in person and we both know we are the one for eachother but will this work out not seeing eachother for a while??? and will it work if you talk everynite 2 eachother and stuff ????? NEED HELP FAST !!! THANX

Yes, if you think he's the one, you have to do everything you can to keep in touch. If you have his #, call him every night! And when you get your liscense, you can see him whenever you want. Send pics every now and then to keep up to date with each other. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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lately my boyfriend has been really weird...whenever i call he says hes "eating" and if he can call me back in about 15 minutes...well...its more than 15mins when he calls back its more lkie 2 hours...i said "wow you were eating all that time?" and he was like no sorry...stuff came up...and i was like okay i mean i understand and stuff...but he did it AGAIN..2 times same day...the next time he said he was gonna eat dinner and called me back in 5 hours!!!!! he called me back at 11pm at night..then he asked if he could call me back again..and never did...well he asked me to call him today around 1...so i did and he was like oh well i was just about to take a shower..can i call u when i get out? and HE STILL HASNT CALLED! its now 5 pm...we were surpose to go hangout today....he didnt even apologize for last night not calling me back....what should i do?? ive talked to him about it but i dont know...i usually go see him every wednesday night (since we dont go to the same school) and do you think i shouldnt go see him wdnesday or do what hes doing to me back to him?? HELP wut would u do???

ps were 16 and weve been together for 6 months

Definitely don't do what he's doing to you, that's only gonna make things worse. I guess it would help to know what he said when you talked to him, but maybe try again? Tell him it bothers you. If he really loves you, he'll change. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i have this one friend that i have know since 2nd grade i i really like him but the problem is i dont see him anymore beacuse he moved schools. All my friends make fun of me becasue i still like him and that he is kinda weird i still like him and really want to talk to him but even if i did i wouldnt know what to say thank you if you help me and thanks for just looking

Just give him a call if you have number. Email each other, write, IM, anything. Just talk to him if you like him. I guess it's easier to IM or email. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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okay..well there is this boy i like...his name is mike..an well i was talking to him online not to long ago...an we pretty much just met. he probly only saw me like 2 times..an well i told him i like him just last week an we were talkin online the other day an he said he liked me too...an yeah but he wants us to meet up somewhere...an im okay with that its just that....what should i do...i mean he only saw me about 2 times this year an we onyl talk alot online...so yeah..what should i say to him....?? HELP ME PLEASE...i rate VERY good

The easiest thing to do is just talk to him like he's your friend. Don't worry so much about how you look or what you say. Maybe go to lunch or the movies and just talk about easy things like school. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i am fat.. when i look in the mirror i look like a mini-sumowrestler.. i'm 13.. 5'1 and i weigh 110lbs.. please tell me how to lose the blubber on my abnormally huge thighs and my blubbery stomach.. it would be much appreciated! ps; i hate exercise and i'm too young to get lapo.. please give me good dieting info..

You can try different diets like Atkins, Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, or the South Beach Diet. For just regular info thought, you have to stop eating junk food and crap. Don't eat as much carbs. I know you don't want to exercise, but it does help. If you do 30 crunches a night, you'll see results in 2 weeks. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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ok say i met this guy on the internet and we wanted to met somewhere but not alone i mean with like other people. What if he says he is 14 but is really 45 or something should i bring a knife or a gun????? should i have a cell phone ready just in case he tries to do something to me????? NEED HELP FAST !!!!!!!!
OXOXOX,
DONT WANNA BE KILLED

Omg, I'm in the same situation, but I don't think we're going to meet. It's good to be scared, lol. What I would do is bring some friends, even your parents. Have a cell phone just in case. Maybe have your dad bring a bat. Lol. But you never know with people online, you're right. If you do meet and he's not 45, good luck to you!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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ok so i always like a guy and i always want a bf and then i flirt to make them like me. then i go out with them and like 2 weeks into it or so i stop liking them and want 2 break up with them and after like a month+ i finally break up with them and then i realize taht i still like themand sometimes i go back out with them and sometimes i don't. but then as soon as i don;t have a bf i want 1 again. why do i do this? and how do i stop?

It sounds like you have a huge commitment problem. But don't worry, that's normal. What you need to do is just stop for awhile. When you start liking a guy, wait awhile before you ask him out, so you know you still like him after awhile. Once you're in a relationship, the friendship is gone, and maybe you only liked him as a friend. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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ok... i have a wonderful b/f and we don't fool around or nethang which im not that kinda person to fool around like that lets say his name is "todd". Todd is a very funny person and like the attention but then sometimes he can be the sweetest guy ever. the thing is i don;t like how he flirts with all of my best friends which thats jus the way he is but i wish he didn't do that cuz when he talks to them he's like "Hey sexy" and stuff and he doesn't really say jus kiddin, ya know? what should i do?

You need to tell him about this. Tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he says he's only joking and to trust him, then trust him. Trust and communication are everything in any relationship. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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my bedroom tends to gets really messy.There is not enough closet space for all my clothes & not enough storage space for all my belongings. my room isn't that big and i need some ideas on how i could organize my stuff. any ideas are really appreciated. thanks so much!!


~~~Chelsey~~~

What you need to do is go through everything and find out if you really want something. There are probably clothes and stuff that you don't use or like anymore. Once you get rid of a lot of things, you'll find more space. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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guys always use me and then dump me! i am sick of it, i can never have a real relatioship! they just like my looks! what should i do? its not like i give them any sometimes only

Ok, hun, what you need to do is as soon as you get into a relationship, you have to explain to the guy if he's just with you for looks, you're not gonna give him anything. Of course, he could just lie, but what you have to do, is wait awhile before you do anything. It'll ensure that he really likes you, and not just for your looks. If he pressures you to do anything, don't do it, because he's after your looks. Dump him. Good luck! And don't worry, you'll find that someone!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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I've been a quadriplegic since May 04, 2002. My spinal cord was broken at c-3 and at c-4.I've had no feeling in my limbs until August 2004, When I began to have a tingling sensation in my right foot. Since then, the tingling has become very painul at times. We have elevated my foot and tried massaging and taking pain killers but to no avail. Most recently, my hands and left foot has been giving the same tingling feeling my right foot gave me, just not as painful as my right foot. Now when my wife move my right foot or massage it, I feel the terrible tingling with sharp jolts as if my foot is being electricuted. The unexplained pain is driving me crazy! Can you explain to me, what's going on?

I'm not sure what's going on, but I definitely think should go see a doctor about this. It could be serious, I don't know. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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i was at my friends birthday party and she liked this guy and so i kind of forced him in the direction of asking her out. And i am not really sure that he wanted to. But then i have been talking to him online and a couple times on the phone and i have started to like him.I have hung out with him a couple times. Then the most recent one is when me, my friend and him just went to her room and watched a movie. I wasn't really watching the movie all that much because i was drawing but my friend said that he wasnt really watching the movie either cuz he was watching me.
Then later on in the movie he moved really close and started drawing with me and i dont know why but when he touched me it made my heart beat faster. But right after the movie was over he had to go because he was going somewhere with his girlfriend and some friends. Since then everytime i am online he isnt on and everytime i have an away message up he gets on and leaves me messages like hey or why are you always gone or come back.i don't know if he likes his girlfriend but i am too afraid to ask him. what should i do? i want to tell him that i like him but i am not sure if i should, what do you think? help me please.

When you're alone with him, casually ask him about his gf. Be like, "So how's your gf?" Act like you really care, and not because you want him. See what he says. If he says she's good and he loves her and stuff, you're just gonna have to accept it. I think he really likes you, so when/if he breaks up with her, I think he'll go to you. If he says the relationship isn't working out that great, that's a good thing. Because he'll eventually break up with her. Ok, now if they do eventually break up, what you have to do is be there for him (if he's even sad). If not, then ya. Now the hard part. Asking him out. I know a way that if he says no, you won't feel embarrassed and he won't even know you were asking him out. You go up to him while you're alone and casually say, "OMG, my friends won't stop bugging me!" When he asks you why they're bugging you, you say, "They keep saying we'd be soooo cute together and they won't stop. Idk, what do you think?" Then see what he says. If he says yes, there ya go, you have a new bf, congratulations! If he says no, say "Ya I don't either, we're better off as just friends." Sounds good, right? And if you still like him if he says no, you can't go out with him, so look for other guys, and it'll help you get over it. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My best friend has OCD... and she reminds me of it like 24/7. Whenever she leaves the house she asks like over and over if she left sumthin on and such. I keep reminding her that OCD is just that she is detailed and stuff like that (my parents are both doctors and explained it). It's driving me NUTS! help! what do I do?

Tell her that you know she's just acting and to stop. She'll probably get embarrassed and stop. If that doesn't help, ask your parents to print something out from the internet explaining what it is and show it to her. She might not get what it is, even though you keep telling her. She might truly believe that it means she keeps forgetting things and in turn, act like that. She might not even realize she's acting. Be consistant in telling her what it really is though. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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ok so you met this guy and you like fell in love with him and he liked you for awhile but he lives in a different city and you talk to him all the time and you see him occasionally but then he starts liking this other girl who is a slut and your still like in love w/ him and you cant get over him even though you have tried.and then you thought you were finally over him and then you saw him for a weekend and fell for him again and that is what happens everytime you see him. what do i do?

Tell him that you've fallen for him, and it upsets you to know that he likes another girl (don't mention she's a slut, he might get mad). See what he says, and if things don't work out, try hanging around other guys, because that'll get your mind off of him. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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Well, in my free time, i like to create routines for songs that I like. Well, I do hip rolls in a song, and my question is, why do my hips get so sore after im done doing them??? Its not the first time i have done them, I used to do them a lot, now all of a sudden they hurt a lot. Has this happened 2 any1 before or do any of you know what it is??? Much help is appreciated!

It's probably because you're always doing it. When you move a certain joint around too much, it will probably get sore. So that's probably why. Try taking a break from it and maybe apply something like a heat pack to make it feel better. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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