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what are some symptoms of depression?

Symptoms of Depression:

Emotional:

Sadness throughout the day, nearly every day

Loss of interest in or enjoyment of your favorite activities

Feelings of emptiness or hopelessness

Feeling stressed, nervous, or overwhelmed

Trouble concentrating or making decisions

Feelings of worthlessness

Excessive or inappropriate feelings of guilt

Irritability or restlessness

Thoughts of death or suicide

Physical:

Fatigue or lack of energy

Sleeping too much or too little

Change in appetite or weight

Aches and pains

Headache

Back pain

Digestive problems

Dizziness



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okay so i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half months. and i feel sooo bad about it. well hes 18 and im only 15. and i got this feeling that he was getting WAY to attached. so i told him that we should stop seeing eachother. the thing is is that hes gunna be moving to cali next yr and i told him that thats why we needed to brake up becuz i didnt want a huge breakup then. but in reality i found another guy who is gorgeous and amaazing to me. does this make me a horrible person?! please help.
thanks. :]

No, it doesn't make you a horrible person. You can't control who you like. You probably just feel bad because you lied to your boyfriend about why you were breaking up with him. You should have told him the truth, and you still can.

::Jasmine::

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i heard a song but only a little clip of it on a flash game on newgrounds and in what i think is the chorus it goes "when you cry, do you close your eyes" and i dont know what it is sounds like all american rejects but i dont think it is

B Quiet - Meriwether lyrics

Artist: Meriwether
Album: Make Your Move
Year: 2005

Be quiet, the voices said from the bedroom, where I was dead, and I loved you, you never had to say. Like the movies well never make and the soundtracks well never play and I loved you, you never had to say.

So be quiet.

When you cry, do you close your eyes? Cause my heart is breaking, and you are still faking a feeling that you will never know.

Be quiet, dont make a sound with the footsteps that touch the ground which were crushing the leaves of my remorse. Like a sad song, this lullaby whispers, sleeping, and sweet goodnight, and I loved you, you never had to say.

What say you to the revolution? What it is to kiss and tell, everybody is revolutionizing the world, over my head. Everybodys imitating, for the ratings, for the sake of the human race and I cant keep up

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Hi, there's this boy who i really like ive had a crush on him since 6th grade how do i get him to like me?

You shouldn't have or want to get him to like you. What's the point of him liking you if what he likes isn't the real you? So be yourself and if he doesn't like you then it's his loss. Or you could always try flirting with him, to let him know you're interested.

http://myjellybean.com/guys/flirting/flirting.htm

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that one show on the country music tv channel, the ultimate ugly coyote search, or whatever its called, this one girl was auditioning and she had a shirt that showed her stomach off. when she was dancing her stomach kinda jiggled around and if she bent over, a roll popped out. the camera kept focusing in on her stomach and not her dancing, why?

Because her stomach drew more attention then her dancing. All you could see was her stomach, no one was paying attention to her dancing. I don't see why they have to zoom in on it though.

::Jasmine::

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Ok...I'm 16 years old and i have a boyfriend. Is it possible to just not be ready for sex at 16? A lot of my friends have had sex, and done oral sex...but i just dont feel ready for any of that...and i have no desire to do any of that. Is that normal? I feel like by 16 i should be ready (not necessarily be willing) but at least be ready, and to want, to do those things.

Thanks so much!

It doesn't depend on your age. You're ready to have sex when you feel ready. There's no official age to be ready for sex. Everybody is different and everyone has different views on the subject. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you're not ready for. When you have sex for the first time it should be special, and with someone you love.

::Jasmine::

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what are some good websites that have quizzes?

thanks

Try these website:

http://www.funquizcards.com/quiz/teen/

http://teenadvice.about.com/od/quizzes/Quizzes_Checklists.htm

http://www.gurl.com/play/quizzes/0,,623871,00.html

They all have good quizzes.

::Jasmine::

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my boyfriend and i were doing it one ngiht and i didnt know he taped it. and he showed it to all his friends they write whore on my locker and my desks and they always stare at me. i yelled at my boyfriend for it but he said i have a nice body and should show it some more. what should i do?

I would not stay with him, why would he want other guys to see you naked. He's a jackass and you should break up with him. He has no respect for you. If he really cared about you he wouldn't have done that to you, especially without telling you.

::Jasmine::

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my boyfriend had sex with another girl a week after we starting dating. we barely knew each other, but we were still in a relationship. for the next 3 months he denied that it happened and stuck to that. he made me believe that everyone else that said it was true was lying. i had trust in him. i knew it was true the whole time, but i just wanted to convince myself that it wasnt. he finally confessed to it, after 3 months of straight to my face lying, and sleeping with me.

i asked him why he chose to tell me, and he told me because he was falling in love with me and knew that i had to know. he tells me that he is willing to do anything to stay with me.

what would you do?

I would stay with him, if he was truly sorry, but just because you were only dating a week it doesn't make it okay. He should have told you first thing, right after he did it. If he does really love you and he wanted to actually tell you the truth then that's good, at least he told you. You should give him a second chance, he didn't have to tell you the truth but he did. Even though he probably knew there was a chance you wouldn't stay with him. But if what he said is true and he will do anything to be with you, then you should forgive him. I would.

::Jasmine::

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how do you request to become a featured columnist if you meet all the requirements already? or do you just have to wait for it to happen?

On your profile settings it asks if you would like to be a featured user one day. You have to either check yes or no. If you don't it will be set on no.

::Jasmine::

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do you believe "once a cheater always a cheater" ?

why or why not?

It depends on the person. After some people cheat they are truly sorry and feel so guilty for what they done, and would never ever consider doing it again. Sometimes it's just a complete and total mistake and thy know it. Some people never learn and make the same mistakes over and over again. If someone really loves you and they do cheat on you they usually feel so guilty about it, they're willing to do whatever it takes for you to trust them again and prove to you that they can be loyal. And they'll tell you, they wont wait for you to find out. Usually people who cheat multiple times or will, will try to hide it from you, keep it a secret because they have no regret. They just don't want you to know.

::Jasmine::

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18f/ Can you make a relationship work if you are not compatible. Like you view relationships completely different from one another. Can you make it work if you're really in love???

Sometimes, love is all you need. Even though I'm sure a lot of people would disagree with that. They say opposites attract, but you have to have to have something in common. Just because you don't have the same opinions or views on relationships doesn't mean you don't have the same views or opinions on other matters. If you guys really love eacho ther then you must have something in common to have made it this far in a relationship. So I think If you really love someone and you want a relationship with them, even though you don't have the same opinion on relationships you can make one work. But I'm not saying it always will. Find something you both share in common, something you two can do together. Good Luck!

::Jasmine::

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ok, so i just found out that the boy i like likes me. we danced at a dance awhile back, but we really never got to know eachother. and my friends like "ohh, tomarrow you'll see!" and i think he wants to ask me out..? im wicked nervous for a couple things.

1. i only know him some-what
2. if he does get to know me,im afriad he wont like me.
3. if he asks me out i'll probably ruin it,or be a bad girlfriend.
i'm wicked nervous,as you can see, i haven't had a boyfriend in awhile, i just dont know what to do! should i go for it? help? :D

Yes, go for it! If you want, when he asks you out you could always say you like him but you want to get to know each other better before you date, if you're not comfortable dating him now. If he does get to know you and doesn't like you anymore it's his loss, there are tons of guys in the world. You WON'T ruin anything, if you decide to go out with him then just be you. You wont be a bad girlfriend, you're just nervous. If you really like this guy and are loyal to him then you wont be a bad girlfriend. Dating isn't something you forget how to do. All you have to do is decide if he's really who you want. Good Luck!

::Jasmine::

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ok soi need help im now going out with this girl and i been waithing 4 this 4 a while but she said we need 2 go slow but how do i know how slow slow is cuz im afraid if i go 2 slow she will break up with me but iif i go 2 fast it will be the same so what do i do?

Taking it slow usually just means not jumping into a relationship too fast, or getting to know the other person before you get to serious. So just play by her rules. If she says you're going to fast then back off a bit. If she says she's ready to take the next step or hints at it then you know you can get a little more serious.

::Jasmine::

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Well i'm in pre-algebra as a 7th grader. And i'm a B average, but i did wonderfully on my Basic Skills test, do you think i can make it next year in algebra as an 8th grader?

Yes, a B average is good. If you're getting a B average then you have to understand what your doing, and you also did well on the test. You'll do fine.

::Jasmine::

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I'm calling my boyfriend and I think he might be mad at me. His phone rings once then goes to the voicemail everytime I call..is he ignoring it, or is it just turned off?

If your boyfriends phone was turned off it wouldn't ring at all. He's ignoring your calls.

::Jasmine::

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There is this girl jesse, and she is constantly flirting with my boyfriend! I am sooooo sick of it! cuase not only does she flirt with him she does it in front of me! my best friend told her to stop flirting with him and she's like, omg Amanda (that's me) need to stop being so over protective of him! then she said she's not even flirting with him! But the problem is she never stop flirting with him! she'll go up and start poking him in his sides and belly and will be all touchy on him and it just makes me uber mad! please tell me what i should do! cuase confronting her doesn't work!
Thanks,
Manders

If talking to Jesse doesn't work then you should try talking to your boyfriend. Tell him you're not trying to be over protective or obsessive, but this girl that is constantly flirting with him really bothers you. He probably doesn't realize how much it bugs you, and if he doesn't like her then he should have no problem telling her to stop. Maybe once she hears it from him and gets the hint she'll stop.

::Jasmine::

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sorry i know youre crowded with these questions every day!
but i just gotta know
13/f and he's 14/f
let's call him A. i think A likes me and i really like him a lot! i've caught him staring like 7 times over the course of a month. and i've never talked to him before. he's in 8th grade and i'm in 7th and it would just be weird. he also hangs out with another girl i thought he might like that was his age. but all the guys hang around her so idk. because even a gay guy smiles at her and jokes around with her. so i'm not sure what's up here. maybe he likes me and her? i just don't know. today when i came out of class i saw a guy drop his books and A kicked them further across the hall, it was so funny! was he trying to make me laugh or impress me? it certainly worked, if so. thanks!

Why would him kicking someones books across the hall impress you? That's mean. Anyway, you haven't really stated anything that makes me think he would like you. You haven't even talked to him, but if you're sure that he was trying to impress you and get your attention, and if he does that often then maybe he does likes you. Go up and talk to him, flirt with him, and make sure he knows you're interested in him. If he doesn't think you like him then he's not going to do anything or make a move.

::Jasmine::

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17/f I use to be a pretty average studant my whole life, i made ok/descent grades, i have always been a very happy person, great personality,good kid but that was through about when i was 15, i met new friends i started drinking and doing drugs. i believe they have effected my brain ALOT. i make horrible grades, i have horrible short term memory, i am never happy anymore, i flip out on everything, and i have the attention span of a 3 year old, i cant pay attention to anything. im sure there i so much stuff i need help with but i just dont know what it is. i fight with all my friends about the stupidest things. and i use to want to go to college, but i feel like there is no way since im so dumb. what should i do? helpppp

First thing: Calm down, you're not stupid. You just got mixed up with the wrong kind of people. So find a new group of friends to hang out with and seperate yourself from your current "friends." Make an effort to get caught up in school, extra credit, maybe a tutor. Go see the school counselor, maybe she could suggest a good therapist. Once you quit with the drugs I'm sure your attention span will get better, and it will probably be easier to concentrate. Drugs have a way of screwing with your brain. That's another thing you can talk about with a counselor/therapist. Take one thing at a time and one day at a time and try not to stress out. People make mistakes.

::Jasmine::

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there is this boy named nick he broke up with me. a mouth later he had a nother girl named abby what did i care but untill my friend came over and said you know abby he really wasn't going out with her. my friend said that he was tring to make me jealous. which was oveis.


what should i do

(i'm 17 and female) (he is 18 and male)

Maybe he regrets breaking up with you and that's why he's tying to make you jealous, to see if you still want to be with him. If he is and you do want to be with him again then make sure he knows you're interested. If you don't want to be with him then just ignore him, if he wants to waste his time trying to make you jealous, then oh well.

::Jasmine::

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