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My whole life has changed
17/f I use to be a pretty average studant my whole life, i made ok/descent grades, i have always been a very happy person, great personality,good kid but that was through about when i was 15, i met new friends i started drinking and doing drugs. i believe they have effected my brain ALOT. i make horrible grades, i have horrible short term memory, i am never happy anymore, i flip out on everything, and i have the attention span of a 3 year old, i cant pay attention to anything. im sure there i so much stuff i need help with but i just dont know what it is. i fight with all my friends about the stupidest things. and i use to want to go to college, but i feel like there is no way since im so dumb. what should i do? helpppp
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well i can understand your position and yes you did mess your brain up very bad. drugs friy it like kfc does their chicken. the only thing you can do is of course stop the drugs and then try to gradually win your mind back. maybe go to rehab and try to get straightened out or atleast get turtoring for school. you might be able to look up excersises on the internet to increase your mind memory and capacity....i know they have games like that. The most stupidest thing you can do is not go to college you may need to wait a little until you can get up a better physically and mentally before you go though....it is going to e tough but i have been that with myslef and family...i kow it will be hard but try and believe in yourslef and keep telling yourself you can do it. Also get people around you to support you that alwayz helps
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The only dumb decision you would be making is choosing NOT to go to college! You need it to make money. if you try to stop the drugs and stop hanging out with those people, and stop drinking then you might get better grades. i think if you really apply yourself, you can do better. i know you wanna fit in, we're human so we all do but in a sense, none of us do. think about it: the popular kids do it because they think they're cool. but the only reason the popular people will hang around you is if you have interesting gossip, and then later you're yesterday's news and they turn the gossip you used to be popular, against you. if you wanna fit in, then be yourself. i tried being myself and i have more friends than i would ever've had trying to be someone i'm not. i'm me. and people like me for that. you're almost 18, do you really wanna spend your last year at home like this? i wouldn't. think of somebody you look up to for motivation. did they ever do that? no. everytime i start to do something wrong i put myself in another position of someone i look up to and think, "would this person be doing that?" and they probably wouldn't be. now, i'm not saying you have to be so classy as to drive with your legs crossed- lol. but i think you get my main point. to help you stay off the drugs...
find new friends- in your neighborhood, classes etc. if you're not successful there, join an after-school-activity. when you're not bored-you're most likely having fun. and the only reason you'd smoke or drink is because you're bored. well... one of the only reasons, anyway. people that are busier get into less trouble in most cases. try that!
maybe go into rehab?- i have a 17 magazine that tells you the steps of rehab real people went through. it's in the may issue. maybe go buy that and check out the article.
see a counselor- i don't know how deep youre in this situation so i shouldn't be suggesting these things so quickly, huh? anyways, they can really help you get to the root of your problem and get rid of the root. when weeds grow in your yard, you quickly rip it up, without getting the root. without getting the root it can grow back again. in other words, if you don't take care of all of the problem, it can get bigger.
congratulate yourself- you're not dumb. because a dumb person wouldn't come on this website for self-help. they wouldn't know to. they wouldn't even think twice. so try to boost your self-esteem a little and give yourself a break! so many people don't even realize how smart they are to come on a website like this and ask for help.
hope i helped!
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First thing: Calm down, you're not stupid. You just got mixed up with the wrong kind of people. So find a new group of friends to hang out with and seperate yourself from your current "friends." Make an effort to get caught up in school, extra credit, maybe a tutor. Go see the school counselor, maybe she could suggest a good therapist. Once you quit with the drugs I'm sure your attention span will get better, and it will probably be easier to concentrate. Drugs have a way of screwing with your brain. That's another thing you can talk about with a counselor/therapist. Take one thing at a time and one day at a time and try not to stress out. People make mistakes.
::Jasmine::
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