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I have a bff, and a really good friend. My bff and I are EXTREMELY close. My really good friend gets all mad and jealous. What should i do?

Try talking to your really good friend and telling her "Why do you get so mad when I hang out with my best friend? You know we're good friends too, it's not like I'm going to leave you out and forget about you, some days I'll hang out with her and some days I'll hang out with you, if you want we could all hang out at the same time.." Just say something like that and try to work things out. But, if she doesn't want to commit to all of you hanging out, then you're going to have to hang out with them on separate days. Hope this works, if you need anything else just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok, i was the one who asked the question about what happens after a breakup. i saw my ex tonight and he seemed really pissed. he would talk to e or my friend which is his friend too. which in turn made her mad at me. what should i do? i find myself liking him again. and not liking the guy i've liked all year. what's going on and what should i do.

Seems to me you still really like you ex boyfriend. Maybe try talking to him and telling him how you feel. I mean, you obviously don't want him mad at you. So, try talking to him and just saying something like "I'm sorry that I broke up with you, I don't want you mad at me, and when I saw you tonight, it brought so many feelings back for you, and the fact that you were pissed at me, which I understand why, it mad me really upset, because I don't want you mad at me, but I still like you and I want to know if you still like me and if there is any chance me and you could go back out.." Just say something like that and how you feel, and just appoligize to him. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i just started my new school and im the only 8th grade new student!!! everyone has already went there and i really wanna be happy! Does anyone have any suggestions? Does anyone go to that school and is in 8th grade?

Just be friendly and outgoing. Smile at everyone so they don't think you're a snob or something (you know how people assume things lol). And when you're in class, talk to the people that sit next to you. Just strike up a conversation by saying "Hi, my name is ____" I'm sure they'll be friendly. And when I was in elementary school and we got a new kid, everyone tried to get to know them and then soon that kid had TONS of friends. I'm sure that will happen to you too. Just be friendly and outgoing and smile at everyone. Hope this helps and have fun in school!! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok I am starting high school next week except i don't know how to wear my hair? what should i do? i have sholder length stait really dark brown hair thanks a mil

You can do different things to you hair. You can have it straight one day, flip it out, curl it under alittle bit, scrunch it, put it up, make spiral curls. Do different things like that to your hair. And you can always put like those clip on flower clips in your hair to make it stand out (what Paris Hilton wears). Just be creative with your hair if you have time to do it. Hope this helps and have fun in High School. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

P.S. You asked me how to do a really cute pony tail, try putting rollers in your hair or curling spirals in your hair and putting it up as a high pony tail (on the top of your head) and put like the flower clip on in your hair. Just put decoration to it. Hope this helps. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i really like my best friend but i dont know how to tell him cuz i dont want to ruin wat we alreadii have...hes like my goofy brother but ive liked him for soo long! what do i do! thanks!

You can't hide your feelings and it't not like you can't control who you like. Try talking to him and telling him how you feel. Just be like "It won't ruin our friendship, it'll always stay the same way, but I have feelings for you and I want to know how you feel about me, and if there is any chance me and you could hook up." Just say something like that and how you feel. Hope this works and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I've decided that I want to give my EX another chance.. But whenever I talk about him.. everyone in my family starts sayin that I don't need him and that he's not worth it..I haven't changed my mind on giving kevin another chance.. I just wanted to know if anyone new how i could get my family to forget about the things that kevin has did to me and how i could get my family to like him...

*~Needing help~*

Try talking to you parents and telling them "People always deserver a second chance" And has he changed? If he has just tell them how he's changed and stuff and just be like "I know he's hurt me in the pass, but that was the pass, he's changed now, and I want to give him a second chance because I really like him, and I just want you guys to also give him a second chance.." Just say something like that. And have your EX come over and let your family and you two hang out so they can see he won't hurt you again and stuff. Hope this helps! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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I have been talking to this kid Rob online for a while now and we like eachother.. and were both from the same state and... my cousins friend Jack who is also my sorta friend i have been around him alot is Robs best friend.. and thats how we started talking.. wehave never met but we want to sometime... should i meet him.. i mean i know were the same age.. and i know hes safe since hes Jacks best friend....

what do I do..


and do u think its bad that i sent him a pic of me?

Yea!! I think it's fine. I mean you know he's the same age as you and everything and you know he's not some like 50 year old man because he's Jacks friend. So go right ahead sweetie and meet him! You two like each other and thats so cute! And the whole picture thing, NO its fine to send him that, now he knows what you look like and when you two meet he knows who to look for. Its fine!! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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when your someone tells somebody you like them does that mean they are flattered?

Some people find it flattering that other people like them. And some really like it if someone tells them that they like that person if that person likes the other person too. It just depends on the person you're telling. Some people are rude about it and laugh about it that, that person likes them. It just really depends on who you have I guess. If you get a rude person, just ignore them, they obviously aren't you're type if they laugh at you, because thats really mean. But, if they like you in return, I'm sure they'll tell you =D If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok well....I like this guy lets say mike* and his friends name is steven. Well i like mike* and steven is always saying that hes better then mike*and that i shouldnt like him bcuz hes a player. BUt wut im realli confused about is y is steven sayin that? does he like me? bcuz i kno mike* isnt a player. Help! i rate!

I think Steven likes you because he's Mike's friend, friends wouldn't talk crap like that. I think he's just trying to make mike look bad so you can fall for him and not Mike. He's trying to make himself look good and Mike bad. So, just don't listen to Steven, I mean you know how Mike is, so you know the truth. Maybe you should try talking to Mike and telling him what Steven is saying behind his back. Just be like "Do you know what Steven is saying about you? He's saying you're a player and stuff.." Just say something like that and just tell him what Steven is saying because I mean what kind of friend is that? I hope this works. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok theres this guy that i met online ad we talked and stuff and i sorta like him and he likes me and we talk on the phone everynight now he wants to meet me do u think i should meet him

Well, have you two seen pictures of each other, I mean do you know its him and not some like 30 year old talking to you? Do have proof of him and stuff? If you do, then I don't see whats wrong with meeting up with him. Maybe bring some friends along to be on the safe side and just go to the mall and be on the safe side and stuff. Hope this helps. If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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MY AUNT married this boys DAD so I guess you could say we are cousins? But not full blood? Well its the weirdest thing because I sorta do like him, and it's just a different feeling, and I know or like can tell that he sorta likes me too, but its sorta weird so we haven't said anything to each other, but does that make us cousins? If his dad married my aunt ??/ thanks!!!

Well, you're not cousins, your just step-cousins you could say I guess. You're not blood related, so technically you could see each other. It would just be weird since you two are related, just not blood related lol. WOW I just got myself confused. So, if you want you two could go out. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok! last night my friend had a sleepover nd' there were guys and we all slept in the tent outside and i we were all like smushed together with not alot of room and this one really cute guy was layin next to me and when i went inside with *c* whos sleepover it was to change...everyone that was outside told that guy i was layin next to to do stuff with me like they even told him step by step n shit. and i didnt know that till later and then all of a suden he was up my shirt and we were layin closer and huggin and stuff. i didnt do nething with/to him tho. I really do like him but im 14 and hes 16 gunna be 17 in 6 months so idk if thats ok and should i be mad at my friends for setting that all up or not?

If I was you, I would be mad at my friends. But, you should let them know that, that really hurt you and ask them why they did that to you. And for the whole guy thing, age is just a number, it's actually not that big of a age difference between you two. But, talk to him just be like "In the tent thing, did you really mean all of it or were you just doing all that to me because my friends told you too?" Just say something like that, I hope this helps and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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OK this relates to the other questions ive asked. I'm really shy around girls and its hard for me to not studder when i talk to a girl. I get all sweaty and clammy when i have to talk to a girl i like. My mind goes blank and i cant think what to say. Got any pointers on how to fix this?

Just relax, take some deep breathes before you walk up to her. Be calm and relax. Pretend like its just a girl that's a friend and you're holding a conversation with her. Just walk up to her and just be like "hey whats up?" or "hey, I'm ___, whats your name?" And just go from there, I'm sure she'll hold a conversation with you too. Some girls like shy guys, I personally think its so cute and usually I'll help the guy out if he is shy, so he's more comfortable. Hope this helps and good luck hun, I know you can do it! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok heres the story. i jus started 7th grade n theres this guy n his name is lets say brian. one day we were goin to our lockers n i slammed my books against the wall b((brian)) said "Boom" then i said "boom..." then he said "BOOM!" then i said"k thats enough" he goes" ok" then lyk 30 secs l8ter he goes "boom" then i go "boom" then he goes "boom!"

the next day he was lyk im a birdy im a birdy!!! i said "boom!" n he acted lyk the bird he was actin lyk fell to the ground. whenever he says im a birdy im a birdy n sum otha gurl says BOOM he does nothin. then he says it again n i say BOom in he falls to the ground... ((jus to let ya kno we arent retarded jus stupid n bored)) Does he lyk me???

kaly

Well, guys are so confusing, so I can't just be like YEA HE LIKES YOU!!! you know? lol. But, it seems like the whole "boom" and the whole "birdy" thing is like an inside joke between you two and no one elses, and thats really cute! But, next time you see him, try holding a conversation with him and flirt with him (like giggle, smile, etc) and see how he reacts and see if he does the same towards you (if he flirts with you). If he does, tell me and I'll help you through the next thing. Good luck hun, if this didn't help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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I was wondering if it's okay for girls to shave their stomachs because somebody told me that it's one of the places you shouldn't shave. Is that true? and what are the places you shouldn't shave other than your face?

It's okay to shave your stomach. I do because I work out my stomach all the time, so I just do it every so often. It's fine to shave it, wax it, whatever you want. I've never heard anything bad about it, I've heard a couple of people who do shave there stomach.

xoxo Kourtney

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How can i make my ex like me again, they told me they loved me once and now they basically ignore me. What can i do?

Well, how did you get them the first time? Try using that stragedy or just flirt with them all the time and see how they react. Do they flirt back with you when you flirt with them? If they don't show any interest, then you might have to try to move on. Hope this works, just flirt and giggle and smile alot with them. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox. Good luck hun!

xoxo Kourtney

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Does anyone know how to get hair and fuzz out of velcrow?

AHH I hate when that happens! Try using tape, that usually does the job. Or you can use your nails or tweezers. Those work well too. Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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School has been going for about a week and things aren't exactly going very fast!
I am usually pretty populiar but now no 1 wants anything to do with me!
I dunno what to do cause i have like 5 friends out of 600!
What can i do to make it easier on me to make friends????

Don't worry about being popular, trust me its not everything! But, to make more friends, just be nice and friendly. Smile at everyone so they dont think you're a snob or mean or something. And in every one of your classes, talk to the people that sit next to you. Try holding a conversation with them and do that in every class. And the friends you have right now, have them introduce you to the people they've met and so on. Just be outgoing and nice. Hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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i am definitely not the hottest guy in the group (lil helpful info) i am very funny, great personallity, friend to all, some call me a super hero :) i am always good at giving advice...but this is 1 thing i cant figure out = /. if you have any helpful ideas they would be greatly appreciated. i am a 14/m

You don't want girls to just like you because of your looks. You seem like the sweetest guy to me. Wait for the girl that will like you for you and not just your looks. But, when you do like a girl, try flirting with her and stuff and complimenting her and see how she reacts. Like does she get flirty right back to you or does she get all shy or start blushing in front of you when you compliment her. OR you can always try talking to them and finding out if they like you. Because some girls don't always come out and say they like you, they sometimes wait for the guy to say something (depends on the girl though). So, if that is the situation. Just be like "I've tried hinting to you that I like you, but I'm not sure how you feel about me and so I was just wondering if you like me too..." Say something like that. Hope this helps and good luck hun!! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok, well i like this guy, and he says he likes me...but im not so sure. and i want to ask him whats going on and everything, but i dont want it to sound like im bitching at him. i just want to figure this out. so whats a good way of asking something like that without it sound like im being mean and bitching at him?

Just ask him nicely. Just be like "I just want to know, I'm not trying to be all bitching at you or anything, but I just want to know whats going on between us.." Just say something like that and say it all sweet and concerned and stuff. Hope this helps and good luck. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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